We will say that Sex/Porn/Love Addiction is set up in one of three ways - Opportunity, Attachment issues and/or Trauma. Trauma is not necessarily limited to big events that happen in a war zone.
It is also the impact on a seven years old, whose Game Console is taken by a friend and when they knock on the friends door to get it back, a parent slams the door saying "It isn't yours; I bought it for my child". The child runs home crying, but there is not a parent who fights their corner.
Self-soothing from even low key trauma events and occurrences, can lead to compulsive self-soothing behaviours from a young age. Over time, the brain comes across and gravitates to more intense patterns of behaviours, such as Sex/Porn/Love compulsivity activities.
Treat and process trauma first, before embarking on a Recovery Programme or 12 steps group; otherwise the unresolved and unprocessed trauma will bite you in the bum again, at a later date when the perfect storm appears.
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Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure webcam.
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