You have heard me repeatedly rabbit on with this mantra haven't you? What you do not understand, you have no hope of influencing; no hope of changing or even embark upon the change process - (and change is a process from A to Z).
Why? Because the stuff you don't understand, lives in the unconscious. It works away below the "Mission Impossible" infra red light and no loud alarm is triggering to bring it to your attention.
What you must, must, must, must do, is move the stuff from the unseen; from the un-understood; from the invisible; from the unconscious, into the conscious; therefore above the "Mission Impossible" infra red light, so the alarm is triggered.
Why? Because what you can now see; can now better understand; you get a chance now to affect; to influence; to change.
Problem! Change is a process. Just because you can see it; you can better understand it, does not mean you can change it IMMEDIATELY. What you must recognise, however, is that change has begun; because you can now see the problem. It can never be the same again, even if it is not yet changed.
You have now embarked on the stages of change. Change has begun. Be patient and build consistently - one brick upon another - one at a time - consistently. Then you will reach your destiny - that of sobriety.
One such hiddenness is that of understanding your Negative Core Beliefs, which are fundamental drivers influencing and shaping how you are doing life; thus beckoning self soothing behaviours that cause you to turn to sex, porn, love addiction acting out activities. Get it?
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Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure webcam.
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Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy | Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Guilt | Traumatic Bonding | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Love Addiction Patterns | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity |