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Sexual Intelligence: More science stuff (4)

January 05, 2024 Gary McFarlane Episode 56
Sexual Intelligence: More science stuff (4)
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The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Podcast
Sexual Intelligence: More science stuff (4)
Jan 05, 2024 Episode 56
Gary McFarlane

Got to admit, this science stuff is interesting - if it is true!

There are three areas in the male brain that is over twice the size of the female brain:
1) The area that contributes to men having a roving eye and scanning the terrain for females; 2) A part of the hypothalamus (which is the seat of human sexuality); 3) The amygdala (which is the brain’s command and control area). All three react to testosterone - which is much higher in males than in females. There is a process which binds all these sex hormones together. Woman have 13 times more of that bonding hormone than men. That creates a high mismatch concerning sex drive processes between males and females. 

Males tend to over perceive a woman's sexual interest, when in fact she is just being nice. Males are more likely to interpret such signals/activities as sexual interest. Females tend to under perceive men's sexual interest. When males become aroused, they change (in an ethical way) as to (negative) things they would not usually do. When aroused, they do things that normally they would not do when unaroused. Males can be a wholly different person aroused to when unaroused.

The neurochemicals in a male's semen affects a woman psychologically, in a positive way. The endorphins, serotonin, prolactin and FSH are beneficial for bonding if the female is in a relationship where she wants to bond for long term partnership/marriage and maybe a later pregnancy. The problem is that this process is still at work in relationships that are transient - even when bonding is not a desire!(All credit to Joe Malone PhD, CFE, LWMC, CPT, The Sexual Integrity Scientist, https://www.drjoemalone.com/, Author: Battles of the Sexes, Founder: Sex IQ, https://www.sexiq.org/)

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Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure webcam.

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Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy | Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | 

Show Notes

Got to admit, this science stuff is interesting - if it is true!

There are three areas in the male brain that is over twice the size of the female brain:
1) The area that contributes to men having a roving eye and scanning the terrain for females; 2) A part of the hypothalamus (which is the seat of human sexuality); 3) The amygdala (which is the brain’s command and control area). All three react to testosterone - which is much higher in males than in females. There is a process which binds all these sex hormones together. Woman have 13 times more of that bonding hormone than men. That creates a high mismatch concerning sex drive processes between males and females. 

Males tend to over perceive a woman's sexual interest, when in fact she is just being nice. Males are more likely to interpret such signals/activities as sexual interest. Females tend to under perceive men's sexual interest. When males become aroused, they change (in an ethical way) as to (negative) things they would not usually do. When aroused, they do things that normally they would not do when unaroused. Males can be a wholly different person aroused to when unaroused.

The neurochemicals in a male's semen affects a woman psychologically, in a positive way. The endorphins, serotonin, prolactin and FSH are beneficial for bonding if the female is in a relationship where she wants to bond for long term partnership/marriage and maybe a later pregnancy. The problem is that this process is still at work in relationships that are transient - even when bonding is not a desire!(All credit to Joe Malone PhD, CFE, LWMC, CPT, The Sexual Integrity Scientist, https://www.drjoemalone.com/, Author: Battles of the Sexes, Founder: Sex IQ, https://www.sexiq.org/)

Presented by The Kairos Centre - Bringing colour back to life - without shame. Get the help you need: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp
The Kairos Centre created one of the world's first comprehensive Online Webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction video-on-demand Recovery Programme; where you discover the real, authentic you. Please visit our website to learn more about this course and our services at www.kairos-centre.com or email info@kairos-centre.com

Now launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure webcam.

Support Our Show
 Linktree - https://linktr.ee/garymcfarlane

Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy | Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy |