Have you ever wondered how your emotions are tied to your eating habits?
Can mindful eating truly transform your relationship with food and overall well-being?
In this insightful episode of me&my health up, host Anthony Hartcher delves into the fascinating intersection of nutrition and mental health through the lens of mindful eating.
Discover how our emotional states influence our dietary choices and vice versa, and learn practical strategies for cultivating a healthier, more mindful relationship with food.
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Tune into this episode of me&my health up and start integrating mindful eating into your daily routine for a transformative impact on your overall well-being.
About me&my health up & Anthony Hartcher
me&my health up seeks to enhance and enlighten the well-being of others. Host Anthony Hartcher is the CEO of me&my health up which provides holistic health solutions using food as medicine, combined with a holistic, balanced, lifestyle approach. Anthony holds three bachelor's degrees in Complementary Medicine; Nutrition and Dietetic Medicine; and Chemical Engineering.
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Any information, advice, opinions or statements within it do not constitute medical, health care or other professional advice, and are provided for general information purposes only. All care is taken in the preparation of the information in this Podcast. [Connected Wellness Pty Ltd] operating under the brand of “me&my health up”..click here for more
Have you ever wondered how your emotions are tied to your eating habits?
Can mindful eating truly transform your relationship with food and overall well-being?
In this insightful episode of me&my health up, host Anthony Hartcher delves into the fascinating intersection of nutrition and mental health through the lens of mindful eating.
Discover how our emotional states influence our dietary choices and vice versa, and learn practical strategies for cultivating a healthier, more mindful relationship with food.
Key Topics Covered:
In This Episode:
Tune into this episode of me&my health up and start integrating mindful eating into your daily routine for a transformative impact on your overall well-being.
About me&my health up & Anthony Hartcher
me&my health up seeks to enhance and enlighten the well-being of others. Host Anthony Hartcher is the CEO of me&my health up which provides holistic health solutions using food as medicine, combined with a holistic, balanced, lifestyle approach. Anthony holds three bachelor's degrees in Complementary Medicine; Nutrition and Dietetic Medicine; and Chemical Engineering.
Podcast Disclaimer
Any information, advice, opinions or statements within it do not constitute medical, health care or other professional advice, and are provided for general information purposes only. All care is taken in the preparation of the information in this Podcast. [Connected Wellness Pty Ltd] operating under the brand of “me&my health up”..click here for more
Do you eat your emotions away? Are you someone that reaches for those comfort foods when you're feeling stressed or feeling down, not feeling great about yourself? Well, this is pretty common. it is a human response. So let me enlighten you with today's episode of me&my health up. I'm your host, a clinical nutritionist and lifestyle medicine specialist, the purpose of this podcast is to enhance and enlighten your well being. And today, we'll be covering eating your emotions, the intersection of nutrition and mental health, yes, we're going to be talking about how mental health affects your nutrition, and how your nutrition affects your mental health. So it's a two way process, and we're going to be covering that combination to the intersection of both of these areas mental health and nutrition. So let's get underway with today's episode of eating your emotions. So I can relate to this, when you're feeling a bit not so great, you generally go for that chocolate bar, that packet of biscuits, some people, it's lollies, whatever it is, it's your comfort food, ao this is a natural human response. There's nothing wrong with you, it's labeled emotional eating, and you think it's, you know, there's something wrong with you having that emotional eating problem. But in actual fact, it's just a human desire to eat when we're not fulfilled, to eat when we're stressed. So we're wanting survival, essentially, in those situations, we are in that survival, thinking about, Oh, what's my purpose in life? you know, I'm not adding any value, you know, you're getting down about yourself, you're not happy with your life. This is this sense of our my survivals at threat here, this is how you know, the human species in terms of our evolution, we're constantly seeking meaning and purpose. So when we feeling that we don't have meaning and purpose, and we're depurposing, then it's a natural response to be in that survival mode. And what's happening is our blood glucose and oxygen is going to the limbic system. And this area of the brain is the emotional center. And this area is actually running you when you're going to that cupboard for those packet of biscuits, that chocolate bar, or whatever it is that drives that comfort, or you never feel satisfied, like you keep eating, and you still feel like you need more yet, you actually I had a client said to me the other day, I actually eat to the point that I could vomit, and I still keep eating. And it's because of this feedback loop of feeling unfulfilled and looking extrinsically for that fulfillment, and in the process being mindless. And so nothing's helping, nothing's remedying the situation, and you need more and more of it. It's a bit like an addiction, and this is where our addiction center is also in this area to the nucleus accumbens. And this is in that sort of limbic center area of the brain. And it drives that needing more and more and more, because if we're feeling unfulfilled, we don't feel we're adding value. And we are purpose and meaning seeking creatures on this earth, we're always seeking that meaning and purpose to everything in our lives. So in this episode, we're going to be talking more about meaning and purpose. And that because that's really important to getting you out of that survival area of the brain, to getting you into the thrival area, the brain, which is the prefrontal cortex. So this is our evolved part of the brain. And this is where we can govern our emotions. This is where we're very centered, poised, we have this is also known as the gratitude center, the love center, the center of love and gratitude, how fantastic. We're more objective in our thinking, where when we're in the prefrontal cortex, and we can control our emotions, we have foresight in the prefrontal cortex, whereas in the emotional center, we live by hindsight, it's that trial and error if that didn't work. Whereas in the prefrontal cortex, we can look ahead and plan and we can live a life by design as opposed to a life by default, which is when we're in the Olympic center. So a lot of what we're going to be discussing today is how to get you out of this Olympic center, this emotional center and get you up in that prefrontal cortex. That way you know that you're on mission. You're totally fulfilled, you're adding value, and you don't need to look extrinsically for that fulfillment, it's coming from within it's that feeling of joy these are transcend all emotions are lower. Emotions are the ones that are driven by the polarise views of the world, our subjective views of the world, it's that polarised view like that subjective bias towards the positive. So thinking, if that made me happy, that's what I need more of. And this is the desire center that's running you. Whereas joy comes from within, it's an intrinsic driver from within knowing that we're on purpose, we're on mission and it gives us confirmation. Yes, you are living a fulfilled life. And that's when we're in the prefrontal cortex. But the more we're desiring something, the more like we desire, happiness, and just positive emotions, the more in that addictive center, and we've been with essentially being run by the external environment, the external environment is running us. If all these things line up, then I'm happy, but trying to get all those things to line up or out of your control. You can only control how you perceive things, your decisions and your actions. So it's just that sort of once in a blue moon, everything lines up and you feel great, but that's not the only thing you can control on a regular basis is how you perceive things. And so we're going to talk about managing your perceptions so that you can calm your emotions and not be run by your emotions, your emotions are running you when you're emotionally eating. So how do you get fulfilled? How do you feel like you're on purpose and so that you don't require these extrinsic areas of motivation to get that sort of dopamine hit, to feel that connection to feel that booster serotonin, that mood enhanced us that stabiliser? So how can we do this naturally, we need to be living a life of purpose and fulfillment to do this. And so what's really important and also, I was reading in this news plus of the Apple news today, they had an article about Bronnie, ware and brawny where as a psychologist who she interviewed all these people that are on the deathbeds essentially about to die. And she was asking them questions as to what do they feel? Did they live a fulfilling life and those that didn't live a fulfilling life? She asked why, you know, and they said, because I was trying to please others. I was trying to live a life that others wanted me to live. And I was trying to live in their shadows, and they weren't being themselves. And essentially, what she's coming to in the conclusion is that to live authenticity, to live with the authenticity, to live authentic, and how do you live authentic, it's by living by what's most important to you. And it's very much what I'm aligned to. And it's where I've found the most joy from within. And I'm not seeking these addictive behaviors externally, such as emotional eating, you know, eating those comfort foods, I don't need them, yes, I can choose to have them. But I'm not driven that I must have it. I'm not being run by emotional center, to say that I've got to have that. I need it. It's a must. And I just bust open that cupboard and rip open that packet of biscuits. For me, it's a choice. I can choose. I'm in control. And it's because I've really started to live a life aligned to what's most important to me. And I've started to delegate those things that are low priority, such as editing this podcast, which I've discussed on a previous podcast, such as doing social media, I don't enjoy those things. I enjoy enlightening, and empowering the well being of others. And that's my mission statement. And when I'm doing that, I'm on purpose. And so doing this podcast is purposeful for me. I don't need anyone to remind me to do this podcast. As you can see that I can talk for ages and keep talking, keep talking about a particular subject. It's because I've got so much to share on this subject. I'm always educating myself in this area. Always, when I have a spare moment. I'm educating myself in this area. And there's a lot for you, you know, listeners in terms of coming next year is on quantum healing. I'm really digging deep into quantum physics, and how we can apply quantum physics quantum healing into our everyday lives. So you will be enlightened with some brilliant guests. There is a, I guess, a prelude to this with an episode with Nathan Siles that's coming up. That's shortly we'll be dropping probably before this episode. I need to get my order. Right. But yeah, so you might have listened to us. But it's the using lighters medicine, essentially, is what Nathan's talking about. And I'm going to be interviewing experts like Nathan in this area of quantum healing. And so you're going to get this insight around quantum physics and how you can apply it to your everyday life to enhance your well being. So in terms of getting back to emotions and living a life of fulfillment, it's doing the things that you are intrinsic and motivated to do and these are the things that you'll spontaneously do without anyone reminding you and having to reward you to do them. Like I said, I don't need any reminder to do this podcast, I don't need extrinsic motivation, such as payment to do this podcast. In actual fact, it cost me to produce this podcast, it's coming at a cost to me, it's an investment for me. So certainly, there's no monetary incentive for me with this podcast. But it drives my mission statement, which is to enhance and enlighten the well being of others. And so that's where I get the fulfillment is by educating and enlightening you. So what is it that you love doing? Is it that you love your physical appearance, like you value your physical appearance, and so you don't need to be reminded to wash your face to clean your teeth to do your exercise, to eat good foods, because you're driven to look physically great all the time, that's really important to you. Or it could be that you're really into fashion. And so to look great in clothes, is really important to you. So you spend your money on fashion. I've just recently brought a new microphone, and your microphone handle thing or a wing or something that an arm and arm that will get the microphone closer to my mouth. And so I'm constantly investing in this podcast because it helps me fulfill my mission. So where are you investing your money spending your money? What are you spending your time doing that no one needs to remind you to do these things such as for me, it's education, on health, but it's specific education on health. I don't educate myself in other areas other than really health, and that that's a very encompassing areas, a very broad area. So there's lots to cover. But where are you seeking education? Is it that you want healthy children, a successful family, so you're constantly educating yourself, in your family, getting education around your family, you're constantly spending your money on your family? Well, that's a high value. And that's where you'll see success, that's where you'll get feedback is that you're on course, and you feel that fulfillment from within, because you start to see the signals, or the KPIs, you start to hit your KPIs in that area. And you'll set objectives in these areas, you'll be very organised and disciplined in these areas. Just like I'm organised and discipline with my podcast, I do a recording every week without fail. And I've been doing that for over three years now. So you can see how it very much aligns to my values. If it didn't align to my values, I would have dropped off, because I certainly not getting paid to do it. It's costing me money. So again, it's because I'm fulfilling my mission and doing it this is a great way for me to fulfill my mission. So what is it that you can do on a daily basis that brings you fulfillment? Understand that there's a hierarchy of these things that you value. So also value my family? And so I'm always investing time, how can I spend time with family and, for example, I value health and my family. So I do karate with my kids. And I tick two boxes at once. So it's fantastic! I was once the my kids soccer coach. So they were doing sport, they were doing something healthy. And I was getting involved rather than just watch them, I was actually getting involved in helping out with that association through being a soccer coach. And so there's so many ways in which you can integrate your values, and so that you're living out your values every day, moment by moment, essentially. And if you're doing a job, that you can't see how it serves you, and what's most important to you, then ask yourself the question, how is your job helping you fulfill what's most important to you? And we're seeing this through the pandemic, that people have lost sight of why they started that job. And we all sign up to jobs that align to our purpose aligned to what's important to us. But we lose sight of that over time when we focus on the negatives associated with the work. And our human brain is wired to focus on the negative and to distort the negatives, that's a survival mechanism. We also do that around the positives too at times. But we're more wired towards the negatives because the negatives are associated with pain and Predator. And so if we don't get away from the predator, we're not alive. So we're always going to have a stronger association or connection to the negatives and be more driven away from pain than towards pleasure. Because for example, what gives us pleasure it is when we get pray, but we can go days without getting pray. So you probably follow why we're wired the way we are and people think, you know, I tend to stack up Negative I tend to think more negatively, we're wired that way. It's nothing wrong with you, we're all wired that way. But if you can get out of that part of your brain and start living by priority, and live by purpose, that's when we got our executive function turned on. That's the prefrontal cortex. And that's where we have governance over that desire center, that emotional center that drives us towards emotional eating. So I really want you to reflect on what's really important to you and not compare yourself to others in terms of everyone's going to achieve success in the area that's of high value to them. So I often get, you know, cues that I'm on track in these areas that are valuable to me, such as my health such as education, me doing this podcast, I get cues in terms of, you know, I get feedback around my listeners, my listeners, give me feedback, I get reviews, I get more listeners and all those sorts of things. There might metrics around, yes. am I adding value? Or am I not adding value? If I'm not adding value, then how can I add more value in this area, because I'm not going to stop doing this. It's and that's why I ask the listeners as to what you'd like me to talk about. Because I'm here to add value for you. I can talk about a lot of things around health and well being. And I have had listeners, I've had Scott from New Zealand's given me fantastic feedback as to content he'd like me to either find an expert in which I have, and I've delivered on that content. And so if you've got any feedback, please reach out to me, I would love to fulfill your needs around health and well being, because that gives you a sense of fulfillment, because you're listening to this podcast, because health is a high value to you. I only attract people that have health as a high value. Otherwise, they'll be listening to another podcast, for example, if they're more intriguing in thrillers or comedy, they'll be listening to those podcasts because they're higher value to them. So you're listening to this podcast? Because it's of high value to you? Or how else can I add more value to you? So reach out to me, let me know who would you like me to interview next year, I'll put it on the list of people to reach out to so living by purpose will lift you out of that emotional center. So what can happen is in the evening, people start to do purpose themselves, they start to attract bored. And by thinking just watch TV got nothing else to do? Well, what I want you to start thinking rather than watch TV and feel unfulfilled and sort of flick around the channels can't find anything that's going to spark your interest. Rather than do that and waste your time scroll who's read social media, ask yourself, What does fulfill you? And how can you do that. So if you're empowered in the area of family, like so that's a high value to you, that is an intrinsic motivation. Well, maybe get a book on how to raise a healthy happy family or something like that, or maybe follow our podcast around family health. And so start listening to that, in the evening, start writing notes, start doing things that are fulfilling for you in the evening. And you won't feel this need to eat when we're bored. Our survival mechanism is switched on. Because we're unfulfilled. We're lacking purpose and meaning. And so what we do is, we get into that survival center, that survival center is looking for that in the environment. And it looks externally for that fulfillment. So you can avoid this mechanism switching on by doing something that's fulfilling to you in the evening. The other tip that I've learned, which you'll learn more about next year, when I start to get more into quantum healing, is the effect blue lights having on us in the evening. So blue light, is telling the body that it's the middle of the day and middle of summer. So this is our artificial lighting. This is the environmentally friendly lighting that's doing this, that's obviously consumes low energy gives a huge amount of brightness. But to our photoreceptors in our eyes, it's telling the body, our body clock, the pineal glands are super cosmetic nucleolus, the SEM that it's the middle of the day, and it's in the evening. And so what is our body's seeking in the middle of day it's seeking food in the middle of the day. You think about it. That's how we're wired. We seek food in the middle of the day, we sleep at night, nocturnal creatures sleep during the day and seek food at night. So you see the bats come out at night. We're not a bath, okay? So what we want to do is minimise the lighting to something that's fulfilling to us, such as you want to use lighting, that's not that white blue light. It's not that fluorescent lighting, you can actually buy these infrared lighting that's more red that gives more red, even the old traditional lamp that's not environmentally friendly, but look in terms of impact on the environment, a little bit of light coming from a lamp for you to read for an hour, is that going to have a major impact, I think you can have a bigger impact on the environment through other ways. So seat means that which you reduce your lighting. So candle light in the evening is fantastic, because that doesn't affect our melatonin production. It's softer lights, it's longer wavelength light to our eyes. And that is singling to our body that it's the end of day to do end to day things, which is to turn down digestion, to turn up melatonin to turn down cortisol middle the day our cortisol is pumping. And this is why people think I in the evening I need to stay up to I can't get the sleep before 10pm. It's because you're under blue lights, you're looking at screens against screen. So for example, I've brought these blue light filtering glasses, I could probably get away with not wearing it now, or probably not because it's the morning, so there's not much blue light in the morning. It's mainly around that middle of the day, early afternoon. Later morning, much later morning. I'm recording this early morning or not too early. Certainly not when the blue lights peaking. So it probably makes sense to filter out the blue light, I still get the natural light through the sides. But I'm not getting just the blue lights into the photoreceptors and telling the body start pumping that cortisol, start boosting it up start seeking food. So minimise your lighting that's where I'm going with this down your lighting, dammit. I'm fortunate that I have a lot of windows that bring in a lot of moonlight. And so I can pretty much have all the lights or the artificial lights off and just the moonlight. And that's telling my photoreceptors and my pineal gland, that it's nighttime, there's more darkness than light, hence, make melatonin make melatonin. And that melatonin is making me drowsy and sleepy. So start getting into this practice in the evening is winding down really important. So in order for you not to get stuck in that survival center, it's important to get a good night's sleep. And this is where I'm leading to in the evening. So out evening can often unravel us cause us to stay up late. The next day, we are then in survival mode, we're trying to keep operating, we're trying to keep functioning, but our body's really tired. And it's pumping out cortisol in order to keep you awake. And then you feel these peaks and troughs because we have this imbalance around insulin, you know it's surging, it's pumping everything away into cells, then you feel no energy. Because there's nothing though our cells become resistant to the insulin because it's always around, and then the cells not getting there. And so this whole cycle feeds upon itself. So really important that you in the evening, you do something that's fulfilling, that's number one that I've shared, and you dim the lights, you minimise the lighting. And if you need to be on screens, use these blue light blocking filtering glasses, so use them by a pair, go to Amazon, there's some really good, obviously get the ones that are endorsed and rated and properly, you know that they've been approved by certain regular to regulatory bodies. So make sure you get good ones that are actually filtering out the blue light and do something that's fulfilling and meaningful to you. So you can dim the lights and listen to a podcast, you don't need to be watching screens. So again, there's so many ways in which we can do something fulfilling. And if you like doing comedy, listening to comedy, don't have to listen to my podcasts. If you prefer comedy, that's a high value that listen to comedy. That's what I want you to do. That's what's going to fulfill you in the evening. And you won't look for that extrinsic fulfillment in this in the form of food. So that's one area that I've discussed around purpose and meaning and having that in the evening, because that's where I find my clients get really unstuck. It's because in the evening, they generate boredom, they think, Ah, this is what I do. This is what I've always done is sit in front of the TV and watch stuff that I don't really want to watch, that's unfulfilling and so therefore, the body goes into the survival center goes to the cupboard automatically rips into those biscuits, and then you consume copious amounts of calories in the evening. And then you feel bad about yourself. And so you eat more in order to pick yourself up. And so it's this vicious cycle. So what else can we do? I mentioned that the earlier the episode is what gets us in that survival center is the way we perceive life, the way we interact with the world around us and how we interpret our perceptions of what we're getting in terms of sensory information. And so we filter this through our thalamus, our thalamus filters, this, this thalamus this filter is formed through our experiences through life. And so depending on who you know who raised you, whether it was parents, grandparents, it was guardians they've had an influence on you. And so they've shared their views on the, of the world on to you. And so you break the taking, and particularly under the age of seven, we just absorb everything. So this is generally where things sort of go a bit haywire for young people where they may get distorted views of reality is in those early years of life, those first seven years, because we just take everything in as a sponge, we're not, we don't have the ability to analyse it. to critique it, we're just absorbing everything. And this is why we learn languages so well, because we're not analysing it. We're not sort of thinking, Oh, this is confusing to this. And this, we just take it in, we just absorb it because our brains in low wave frequencies. And this is the other thing that can be helpful is obviously slowing down your brain in the evening. By slowing down our brain, we get to these more relaxing state of consciousness. And so this is where children are under the age of seven. They're more in that alpha, alpha state, alpha theta state, which is low frequency waves. It's where we are more susceptible to what's coming in. So this is what hypnosis does to us, right? It gets us in, it slows our brainwaves down, we get into a state of trance. And it's where more subjective or not subjective, but we have this more vulnerable or susceptible to just whatever they say is what we Yeah, so this way, we need to be careful in the evening, if our brainwaves slowing down, and we can't analyse the information coming in properly, and see the pros and cons to it, then it can be very suggestive to us, it can actually, and this is what the advertisers seek to do, to actually get into your subconscious awareness to get through this the conscious mind. And this is what hypnosis does. It gets into that subconscious mind. And this is why it's effective, in a way because it can help get ideas into you. So you know, into the subconscious, and our subconscious, it runs our autonomic nervous system. So again, having a conscious awareness is helpful when we want to assess things and analyse things. But in some times when we've been told the wrong thing, it can be an easy way to unravel that thing that hasn't been helpful for us. And this is why hypnotherapy works is effective because it slows our brainwaves down and we're more seduced, I think it is is the word I'm looking for. Because we're in a trance state children are in that trance state in the first seven years. So where am I going with this? In the evening, our brains can be operating at a really high frequency. And we were seeking to calm our brainwaves down. Because when we have lots of files open, we feel all over the place, we feel scattered. And that's where we're in our beta waves in the beta state. And that's greater than 33 hertz, 33 cycles per second. So we are very active, our brain is very active, it's, you know, just wired very, has switched on and off, and we want to calm down. And sometimes we go to the alcohol. And this, again, is calming the nervous system down. But we can find more better ways constructive ways to calm the nervous system by doing something that's fulfilling to us. It calms the nervous system. So I'm in a more calm state when I'm doing this, because it's fulfilling to me, I'm not getting agitated thinking, I can't wait for this to be over. I'm looking for the finishing line. In actual fact, I lose track of time. And I have to keep an eye on the clock because I'm thinking oh, I don't know if you want to listen to me ramble on for so long. So I actually sometimes cut the episode a bit short to where I'd like it to go. But rather than me keep rambling on in the evening, we can slow our brainwaves through getting into something that is purpose for or meaning to us or of high value to us. When we're doing things of low value. To us. It gets us into that emotional center. Because we're feeling lack of meaning lack of purpose, we feel bored, and we start to start questioning our existence. And we go into survival mode. So we want to stay in thrival mode where we know our purpose and meaning and we're doing things that are fulfilling to us. So other ways in which we can calm our brain without the alcohol without the food is through breathing. So connecting with breath. So doing some breath work in the evening. Again, you can do this with the lights, dim the lights, as low as they can be. You can listen to some nice calming music, calming music, what's calming music for you and do your breathing. Focus on your breathing or do some form of meditation can do a body scan. There's so many ways in which you can connect connect mind and body and feel at one as opposed to split. And so I'm going to get into this split because that's where I was Only before around our perceptions. So we perceive the world. That's where else that's where I got lost. That's where I went on the tangent is with children, the way they perceive the world and the way we are talking about the thalamus. And that's a filtering, and so there's so many factors that have influenced these filters. And that's the way we perceive the world is through these this filtering process. However, it's not the reality, it's been filtered through that process. And so in order for us to understand the reality, we've got to ask ourselves questions. And when we ask ourselves questions, we find more neural associations and higher level linkages, and we can get out we can transcend our mind out of that survival state. So it's not hasn't got a subjective bias. How do you know you've got a subjective bias is when you feel those lower level emotions, such as you feel sadness, you're upset, you're frustrated, you're irritable, you're angry, these are all Lower, lower level emotions, or you're feeling ecstatic, jubilant. And so again, jubilant ecstatic, over a happy, or these sorts of things there because we see more upside than downside. And then the lower, I mean, the other emotions, which mean these are both, really, they're not transcend all emotions, these are very subjective emotions, where we're seeing one side and not seeing the other side. And these other emotions, such as the ones that make us a bit sad, the ones we call negative emotions, angry, frustrated, irritable, impatient, all these things is because we see more downside than upside. So what we need to do is balance our perception, what are we unconscious of, so when we're seeing more sadness with, we're conscious of the negative, but unconscious of the positive. So what we need to bring to our conscious awareness. So we have complete awareness, we have full awareness is start looking for the positive. Okay, so if something's got you down, what is it that's got you down, be very specific as to what has got you down? What are you judging, and don't label it because if you label it's too general, it's this specific thing about what someone's done to you. Or you might have done it to someone else, and feel shame about what you've done. So it might be an action that you're judging yourself for. Or you might be judging someone else for what they've done to you to get very clear as to what it is. So that then you can ask yourself, what is the benefit to me, and what I value and in all areas of life, and you start looking for those benefits. So if someone stopped, like if someone started to talk me down, like I started, and again, the reason why they talked me down is because I'm getting an inauthentic, I'm getting too proud. And that's not me, when I'm authentic, I'm not proud, or I'm not shameful. I'm right in the middle, I'm very censored. And so if I'm starting to brag about something, and someone starting to talk negative about what I'm talking positive about, and then I can perceive that someone as being non supportive, and they're not, you know, they're not supportive of me. And, and I can start to see that it's just negative. But then if I ask myself, what are they? How are they helping me, where they're starting to get me to be more of who I am to start to get me to the center of being authentic, they're starting to help me see something that I'm not seeing, they're bringing that to my conscious awareness. So they're telling me what's missing, or how I could do better, they're challenging me. And that challenging of me, is ultimately what helps me grow as a person, it's going to help me grow. So if I'm bragging about my podcast, and they're saying, or you only get 30 listeners per episode or something, that's nothing compared to Huberman he gets a million or whatever, then they're challenging me. They're actually, you know, I could perceive that then is putting me down and not supporting me and, and given me a pat on my back. Yes, it's good to have a balance of support and challenge. But when you have too much support and not enough challenge, we don't grow, we get content, we get complacent. And we start to deep purpose. Whereas that person by challenging me saying, well, you should aspire to have a million followers per episode or million listens per episode, then they're actually lifting me up. And that's, that's how it's serving me. They're challenging me. They're putting the challenge down. How can I improve every episode? How can I improve my podcast? How do I better get it out to more people? Now I start thinking of these things, ways in which I can grow the podcast. Rather than seeing them as putting me down and saying that I'm nothing compared to Huberman. I could then see awe inspiring me to improve the podcast and make it better. Again, I'm not Andrew Huberman, and then I'll never will be and I don't want to be but how can I do better in terms of who I am and what I want to do and achieve around my podcast, how can I improve it? And that's how they're challenging me. That's the bit benefit of them putting me down. And so that's what you want to look at. And it's the same as something you might be shameful for. So if you're shameful for yelling at your children, well then start to look at the benefits of how it benefits your children by yelling at them, there is a benefit of yelling, it's not just all negative. Again, that's just put upon us from an early age or from someone, some outright authority that we looked up to, or at one stage, they've said that that's bad. And I remember having a lot of these conversations with the Indian population was that they really struggled with speaking up speaking out. And you know, and again, it's sort of well, if you don't speak up and speak out, how are you ever going to get your needs met? How are you going to grow and develop if you're not actually articulating what you want? Or what your needs are? And how can people help you say, how can you grow and add value to the human race if you're not being heard? So again, if I'm feeling bad about yelling at my kids, what's the benefit? Is me yelling at them? Have I woken them up to like, I remember, someone shared with me, one of my clients shared that they felt bad for yelling at their children. And I said, well, it serves a purpose. So for example, are you going to speak softly to them? When they're about to step out in front of a car? Are you going to speak softly to them when they're about to hurt themselves? So speaking up and speaking loud, serves a purpose, because people hear you, okay? So, again, it's not all bad. It's just the label. And so there is a benefit in yelling or speaking up or speaking loudly so that people understand that it's important, it's an important thing for them to be aware of, I'm making emphasis on certain words, by speaking up, turning the volume up. Again, stop balancing your perceptions around how you're seeing things and ask yourself, What are you unconscious? If if you're just conscious of the positives? What is the downside, okay, how is it not helping you, and you'll start to get a balanced perception of it. And therefore, you won't then have this subconscious desire to seek more of it, because you have an imbalanced perception. So if you see something, and this is what happens with drug addiction, this is what happens with alcohol addiction, is there's a perception of more upside than downside. And so they as we are creatures that seek survival as a primary on and there's necessity. And so it's, you know, in terms of Maslow's basic human needs, as you can see, they're all survival down at the bottom of the pyramid. And then you get into more the transcendent, transcendent ones as you go up the pyramid. But you've got to have that basic needs met in order to transcend. And generally today, a lot of us have our basic needs met, but we're stuck in that survival mode, we're stuck there. And it's because we have imbalanced perceptions about things. And we're not seeing a balanced perception of it. When we balanced our perceptions, we balanced our emotions, we have a more objective view of it, we can make a better, more informed decision. We are more mindful, we are complete, we have complete awareness as opposed to incomplete awareness. Incomplete awareness, drives that desire towards something, or that instinct away from something. It's because we have incomplete awareness, it's missing information. We want to complete our awareness by seeking information and ask ourselves, what are we not conscious of? What is it that we are missing, and we want to bring that unconscious awareness to our conscious mind so that we're fully aware we have an objective view and, and complete awareness, completely mindful of it. And we see reality we see reality as opposed to an illusion, when we just see this distorted view, this subjective view or something, it's an illusion, we can only see reality when we see we have that complete awareness and not missing information. So again, if you're feeling emotional, start asking yourself what emotion are you feeling? Are you feeling sadness? Therefore, you're perceiving more negatives than positives? Start asking yourself the question, How is it serving you and what you value most and in all areas of life, and that will help you transcend your emotions. It will help balance your perceptions, calm those lower level emotions, stop them from running you, and you will run you you will be the master of your destiny so that balancing your perceptions that's really helpful. That's really, really helpful, particularly in the evening, because in the evening, we start to unwind, we start to process our day, and then these things pop up that we got emotional about, and we had incomplete awareness at the time. So as part of the wind down process, what you want to do is anything that you can't say thank you for in your day you want to apply this exercise to, to the point that you can say thank you, I now have a complete awareness of what's happened. And I have an objective view on it, I can see how it served me, I can also see how it's not serve me, but I have a balanced perspective of it. And so therefore, I can see how it's on the way for me fulfilling what's most important to me, as opposed to in the way or how it's really helping me become a better person. And this is what emotional intelligence ultimately is, is being able to transcend those lower level of motions and not allowing the lower level of motions to run you. So that's really important in terms of eating your emotions. So what I want you to think of, if you feel emotional, and you've got a desire to eat, do some breathing, start coming down those fast wavelengths that are just going crazy. And you can't make any sense of anything. Because your wavelengths are just operating 33 and above hertz, and you need to slow them down to start accessing that subconscious and bring that to your conscious awareness. Again, if we don't slow down our wavelength through some breathing, it's very hard to then get access to that subconsciousness, we need to actually slow that wave legs down in order to bring that to our conscious awareness. So calm yourself down through some breathing, or something that calms you down, whatever it is listening to some music, having an Epsom salt bath, whatever calms you down, do that. And then you'll be start to be able to process your day completely, in a sense, not only give gratitude for the things that tended to blow in your direction, tended to support you. But you can give thanks to the things that you thought were a hinderance. But you now see the hidden order in it, because you can see both sides of the events, as opposed to judging and labeling it and only having that subjective awareness of it. So that is a really helpful exercise to do in the evening is this processing exercise of your day to really help balance your emotions, because otherwise that emotion will be stored as baggage and will pop up when anything reminds you of that event in the future. And you don't want that because it then starts sending that feeling into the body. And then you start feeling that feeling in the body, you feel terrible, then you start thinking terrible things. And it's a vicious cycle. In order to break that cycle, we need to balance our perceptions of that moment that you perceived as being more negative than positive. And then you actually have a complete awareness around it. And there's no missing information, you see both sides to it. You can see how it served you and how it was that you saw it as a hinderance at the time. But now you see the ultimate objective view of it, that you can now see that it's ultimately helped you become a better person. So that is really important in terms of eating your emotions is balancing your perception living by priority. Really important, I mentioned and I spoke a lot about that living by priority, balancing your perceptions, neutralising, or calming your emotions, and then really transcending your thinking and seeing things as on the way as opposed to in the way as hinderances you see them as fuel as opposed to baggage. So that's it for this episode on eating your emotions, I just want to finish with adding something around nutrition. So I think the thing also that can also send someone unstuck and again, this is your bonus part of this episode, I've just become aware of the time that I've been speaking for quite some time. But I just wanted to add this nutritional part in. So this is a bonus section, so what can happen is if we stopped ourselves all day, then we're actually going to get signals from our body, that we don't have complete nourishment, we don't have enough fuel on board. And again, they can their biological signals to say that we haven't eaten enough protein, we haven't got enough nourishment. And the body feels that there's something missing in terms of that biological nourishment. And so again, by starving yourself all day, and then loading your calories in the evening can create this cycle that you're never satisfied because you eat so quickly because you're starving. You actually don't get the hunger signals to say you've had enough and you keep eating. So what I see with my clients is those that have been running hard all day and forgot to eat or haven't eat much, then all they're eating is backloaded at the end of the day they sculpt their food down don't allow the time for it to register in the brain that therefore they scoff more food down and then they're stuffed and then that affects their sleep and then that affects the next day. As I mentioned, you'll be then running on your adrenals and your adrenals will be running you and you'll be emotionally eating the next day and studies show that you consume more calories He's after us a sleep deficit. So what I suggest you do in relation to this, is make sure you have breakfast, make sure you start your day well, and then finish your day well, so eat big in the morning, eat light at night, because you can eat light at night if you've nourished your body during the day. And that's when we need the calories. That's when we need the nourishment at night, we want to rest our digestive system, that's when we want the fast is at night. And we want it to be a good fast, we don't want to have a big pig out. And then we're digesting our food when we're supposed to be resting our body and the body's supposed to recuperating, regenerating, we don't want it to be digesting because that's limiting the amount of recuperation and deep sleep deep restorative sleep that we're going to get that night and then we're going to wake up tired. And then we're going to seek emotional foods to keep us going such as sugar and fat, highly calorific foods. So eat light at night and the only way you can do that is by eating your most of your calories during the day when you need it most you need the fuel during the day. So that's where I'm going to finish on in terms of nutrition. That's a little bonus. And I appreciate you being a fantastic listener. As I say I'd love you to give me feedback as to who you'd like me to interview next year, I'm starting to look at my program for the podcast next year of who I want. I'm I'm certainly going to be covering more quantum healing. And you're going to get huge amount of benefits through Quantum healing. And what else would you like to hear? What else would you like me to speak more of or deeper into what else you want me to get deeper into? Or who or what expert do I bring on? Who would you like on the show? Let me know I'd really like to help meet your health needs. I know it's a high value of yours. So that's it. Thank you for your ears. Thank you for tuning into me and my health that if you found this value, please share it with others. I am on a mission to enhance enlighten the well being of others. The more you share this, the more I achieve my mission, that's my KPIs to get it out to more ears or tell me how I can better do this to get more ears. 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