Your Time is Sacred- Protect and Honour it - Follow your path

If you’ve felt stretched thin by December’s pace and everyone’s expectations, this conversation is your reset button. We look at how to treat your time as sacred, why good people can still resist your growth, and what it takes to protect dreams without burning bridges. The goal isn’t to retreat from life; it’s to design it—five quiet minutes at a time.

We dive into the subtle ways we abandon our path: constant accommodating, busywork that feels productive but isn’t, and the fear of being seen trying. You’ll hear practical scripts for boundaries that land with kindness, not defensiveness, plus a simple framework for negotiating time with loved ones so it becomes a genuine win-win. We talk about selective sharing to safeguard fragile goals, how to handle emotional weather when the light fades, and why micro moments compound into momentum.

You’ll also get a guided meditation: picture a warm fireplace and a single candle that lights each time you claim space for yourself. That image becomes a practice—your choices fuel the flame, not anyone else’s verdicts. Expect grounded advice on people-pleasing, compassionate communication, and staying calm around holiday drama without abandoning your needs. By the end, you’ll have a week-long promise you can keep: carve a longer sit, breathe, and name one next step that honors your path.

If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs permission to pause, and leave a quick review to help others find it. Then tell us: what boundary will you set this week?

Chapters

• 0:00 Your Time Is Sacred
• 3:42 Why We Stray From Our Path
• 6:42 December Demands And Emotional Weather
• 10:12 Sacred Boundaries In Daily Life
• 14:42 Negotiating Time With Loved Ones
• 19:42 Meditation, Quiet, And Clarity

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 1:50

Hello dear listeners and welcome to this special recording of Awaken Conscious Conversations Podcast. And my inspiration for tonight's show is your time is sacred. Protect and honour it. Follow your path. It's so easy for us to not follow our paths. With so many demands, but so many people and in so many ways. If we have any dreams or aspirations, it's so easy to not do them. We will find a million one excuses sometimes. Or maybe we're the kind of person that is just so accommodating, we put everyone else's needs before ourselves. Or we might be that we we value our social life above achieving our goals, or maybe we just don't even know where to start. And maybe at the stage of your life where you kind of know a lot of things, you've walked your path, but things still aren't quite gelling for you. So that's why I'm here to help you, whatever stage your path is. And if I've if you're at a different stage and I've not mentioned it, there's still value in tonight's show. So we're gonna look why, why, why we don't always follow our path and how to kind of get through that. So we as I as time of recording this, it is December. Think one day it is cold, the next day it is a bit warmer. Slow feeling to our mornings early is feeling more difficult as it's still dark. We want to just stay in our quilt covers, or if you're somewhere where the sun is more, you may want to get up earlier. So, how to make that space for what you truly want, even when those people who love us don't fully understand and try not to judge them, it's not their fault, it's just sometimes when we're close to people, they can't always see certain sides of us, and in many ways it's not their job to do it. You don't need their reassurance, you really don't. It's normal as well at this time of year to feel slightly emotional with the less amount of light. If that is where you're listening to the show from, you might have loads of light, anyway. So December is like a month of craziness, and we just feel like we're kind of being we're just like paint on a brush being splattered against a wall. It's everyone, it feels like everyone and everything seems to want a part of us. So, as I was saying in the previous episode, it's really important about getting those parts of time, those pockets of time that are really sacred and that are gonna honor us. And forget what everyone else expects of us. We can do all this busy stuff, but we must, we must, for the sovereignty of our soul, dear listeners, find time to do what is important for us. And what is your project that you wish to do? Is this something that you have a heart's desire to do? And if it's not more stuff that you want to add in, what is it that you want to take out so that you get those moments of times to be quiet and with your by yourself? People right don't understand things that are unfamiliar to them and unfamiliar parts of yourself, and no matter how much people love us, they can feel more comfortable if we don't succeed, because it then makes them look good, even if they wouldn't see this on a surface level, and also it you're gonna kind of take them a bit out of their comfort zone when you start to try and do different things, and it's more like a habit that they see you in a certain way rather than they're trying to be restrictive. I'm talking generally, like obviously, I don't know the old ones, so I can't speak for every loved one in the world. I'm kind of sharing this as a kind of general view of what may be going on, and we do you know what people can dump so much of their emotional weight onto us again without kind of fully always knowing some maybe they do, but a lot of the time it's they don't really understand. And I know the generation I grew up, we kind of as women we we were taught to be like pleasing and agreeable and not to rock the boat and to sacrifice our well-being for the general well-being of others, and you know what? I think it's time to drop that, really drop it, regardless of um who you are, just drop it. So, how can you, dear listener, in a life that is brimming up there, seems where you don't feel like you've got the support perhaps that you need, and that people don't always honor or understand you fully, even if they love you. So, you can do a few things, you can set like boundaries that feel sacred in a sense to your well-being, so you can tell loved ones, and they may not like it first, but you you're gonna take 10 minutes for yourself now. You do not want to be disturbed, and you want to do something that is accommodating for yourself. So, maybe like your family watching TV, you can go up into your room and find a way to write out your dreams and aspirations, set some sacred boundaries, like I said, and replace trying to explain why you do it by just saying, actually, I'm taking this hour for myself, I'm taking this 10 minutes for myself, I'm taking this five minutes for myself, and try and stop okay. We need to be dutiful sometimes, don't get me wrong, but can you put yourself before these kind of fake duties that we're we're brainwashed in many ways to to feel that we have to live up to? Of course, we're dutiful towards our families, our friends, our loved ones, and they are to us, but there's a you know what it's about finding balance, and life is like one big negotiation, which can be split into kind of several ways. So you can be the over-accommodating negotiator where you will just try and keep the peace no matter what, and you please everyone else. Then you can be the other way where you just prioritize yourself without a care for anyone else, or you can be like a prioritizer where you you just don't you just bury your head in the sand like an ostrich and you don't try and negotiate life in the way that's right for anyone. The balance is to negotiate from a place of wisdom where you feel, dear listener, that you have negotiated the time. But not saying that you um when I use the word negotiation, I'm not saying that you have to beg for the time, but it's like negotiating the time with loved ones where it's a win-win for both of you, which is a very delicate line to walk, but it isn't achievable if you start setting those sacred boundaries, but then you allow other ones to set their sacred boundaries as well of where and how they want to spend their time. So, in this month of December, as we prepare for the deep, dark winter's night of the longest night of the year, we listen to our inner self via meditation, and I am struggling sometimes to fit the meditation in when it's a very early morning start. I will always sit down and do some, but I really feel like I want to do like a really long, deep quality meditation, and I have noticed that with loved ones, sometimes they don't always understand that you need that space to be quiet just for yourself. Maybe because I've been so accommodating my whole life that I don't always put my boundaries down to anyone, and I'm not singling out any of my loved ones at all because they're all amazing, but I just realized sometimes I don't always put that boundary down, and that is important to do because if we don't put boundaries down to people, it's not their fault, they don't understand what is important to you and why it is important for you to have this sacredness of the moment. Remember, remind them, and not from a set place of like hard judgment, like I said, but from that place of wisdom where it's a win-win situation for both of you. You know, we grow in those moments where we can find that quietness and clarity, and yeah, it just feels such a battle sometimes in this in this world to kind of find that. But your time is sacred, protect and honor it, and follow your path. That is essential. If not, you'll get to the end of your life and you just think, What did I do? and it's not about becoming rich, famous, you know, it's about finding those moments where you feel that you're really connected with life and joy. In many ways, December is like a it can give you like a bit more of a permission slip because you know, I don't know, everyone goes mad for this Christmas stuff, and you know what? I just think at the root of all these holidays, do you think it was meant to be this way where we kind of skint ourselves financially to share gifts with loved ones where I'm sure we must all get it wrong for each other so many times? All the stuff that kind of stops us from following our path. And we have those wonderful days with our family, and that's great, but the time either side, I think it's perfectly acceptable for you to say, actually, I want some space to myself now. Because you know what? People in general will always find a way to kind of pull you into their kind of drama. You know, I do it, we all do it, where we kind of feel so engaged in our own life that we sometimes forget to pause and think, well, actually, you know what? This is my life. I need to kind of sort out myself and not put it on to everybody else. Of course, we share, but can you spot times when maybe you feel like loved ones of your your loved ones need space from you and how they kind of need that for their own path as well? You know, and this is this is a bit of a hard thing to to share, but it it has got some truth, and again, it's not aimed at anyone specifically, but it'd be curious of the the idea that people who love us often because they're so close to us can project their own sense of limitation, their own sense of not knowing, their inability to change, and their fears. It's just because it's not what they're used to seeing. And often their doubts is about their comfort zone and they're responding to their own habits. Carrying the light of of having to live up to other people's expectations isn't an impossible task and one that we should not have to live up to, where we're so self-sacrificing that our path becomes forgotten or frequent not as frequently visited as it should be. So, having shared all this, here's a bit of joy in the moment. Just let go that loved ones will fully understand our path. It's fine if they don't, as long as you get time to do the things that you want to do as well. Set the sacred boundaries, replace explaining with I'm taking this time. And remember, our micro moments add up to bigger moments which add up to us finding our life that we want. So, December this December, trying to find those times for meditations. If you're like myself, you're catching bits here and there, that's fine, but let's all make a promise to ourselves in this next week to sit down for a really nice meditation session, one where we just simply listen to our breath in a quiet and fully kind of receptive way, so we just sit nice and quietly because remember that it's during these moments of quietness that we learn to trust ourselves and find times to be more grounded, like I always say, out in nature, if that's possible. When loved ones wind us up because we're going to be around loved ones, try and respond to them in a place of less defensiveness. I know it's not always easy. Try and keep calm and neutral, perhaps change the subject, share selectively. I always think when you've got a dream, just don't share everything about it until you're ready, and then share it with people you trust. Understand that people's lack of faith, people's lack of support, or people's lack of ability to see you as you are is not a verdict, it's just their perspective in the same way that they may feel that that about you in some ways. Choose compassion. As promised, here is your meditation inspired by today's show. Top tips for the meditation is either sit nice and cross-legged on the floor with a nice straight back, always nice to sit on a block or a cushion, or if that's not available for you. You sit in a chair with the back nice and straight. The important thing is you're not slouching. And if you're doing something that requires little concentration, all you need to do is just pause this and you can reconvene the meditation at a time that is good for you. If you're doing the meditation, let's begin. So with your eyes closed, you imagine that you are sat in a safe distance from a beautiful festive fireplace, the crackle of wood, the smell of pine, and candles lit with full of possibility. You have one unlit candle in the centre of this mantelpiece, and you wish to light it with your dreams. Now, this candle has a special ability that it will light and allow your dreams to flow if you do one of two things. You slowly start to just sit there and you imagine in your imagination, so it's a double imagination here, that the candle is being lit by every every time that you mentally set the boundary, you make space for yourself, and you sit quietly in meditation. This candle cannot be blown out by the winds of other people's verdicts or their aspirations or their choices that they think that you should have. Your aspirations instead will light this candle. Perhaps you can stop to imagine in your mind's eye that this candle has lit. It flickers beautifully in the light, and it is growing from your ability to be your true self. For do not abandon your dreams, but find ways to be who you really are. Remember, a dream can be anything big or small, it can be a dream just to find time to have for yourself. Do not abandon yourself, dear one, but listen from a place deep within. And you do this by sitting quietly. So let's just sit quietly for another couple of minutes.