Embracing Authenticity and the Ripple Effect with Taryn Pallister

Join host Gavin McGahey in an inspiring conversation with Taryn Pallister, a movement facilitator specializing in Nia and yoga. 

In this episode, Taryn shares her insights on the power of movement to connect with oneself, find joy, and live authentically. Discover the art of noticing, letting go of judgment, and embracing the beauty of the present moment. 

Taryn's journey of self-discovery and her commitment to inspiring others to come alive and express themselves will leave you feeling motivated and ready to embrace life's possibilities.

Episode Highlights:

• Introduction to Taryn: [00:00]
  Gavin introduces Taryn, a passionate movement facilitator specializing in Nia and yoga, and sets the stage for an enlightening conversation.
• The transformative power of movement: [03:22]
  Taryn highlights the profound impact of movement on connecting with oneself, finding joy, and living authentically.
• The art of noticing: [08:45]
  The conversation explores the importance of noticing without judgment, allowing space for others to express themselves authentically and embracing their unique stories.
• Recognizing the role of judgment: [14:16]
  Taryn and Gavin discuss how judgment can hinder connection and limit possibilities, emphasizing the importance of openness and non-judgmental listening.
• Stepping away from judgment: [18:57]
  Taryn shares practical strategies for stepping away from judgment and embracing a state of noticing, allowing for authentic engagement and connection.
• Embracing authenticity: [23:38]
  Taryn emphasizes the power of authenticity and exploring one's true self, opening up to possibilities and finding expression in the world.
• The role of vibration and frequency: [28:52]
  The conversation delves into the concept of vibration and frequency, highlighting their impact on one's energy and the importance of raising one's vibration for a more positive and fulfilling life.
• The magic of the unknown: [34:09]
  Taryn and Gavin discuss the transformative potential of embracing the unknown, stepping outside of comfort zones, and finding magic and opportunities in new experiences.
• Taryn's work and offerings: [39:21]
  Taryn shares her current focus on teaching Nia and yoga classes, as well as her plans to offer retreats in the future, providing opportunities for participants to connect with their bodies and experience nurturing and transformation.
• Breathing for self and service: [44:52]
  Taryn reflects on the importance of breathing for oneself and finding alignment, enabling one to be of service to the world and offer their highest vibration.

Join Gavin and Taryn in this inspiring episode as they explore the transformative power of movement, authenticity, and the art of noticing. Discover practical strategies for embracing joy, letting go of judgment, and living a life filled with possibility and connection.

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Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):

Welcome everyone to 100 Breaths, the podcast with Gavin McGee. Open, raw and empowered conversations that can help everyday people to learn techniques to deal with the challenges of everyday life. And just like most of us out there, I am continually processing the daily challenges that life and business throws at us. So I welcome you to ride with me on this journey of discovery and personal development. Today's special guest is Taran Paler. Taran has completed the neo white, green, blue, brown, and black belt training, and also the near five stages. Training. Tara's passion is creating space for self liberation through conscious, embodiment, and authentic expression. Her own spirited journey, defined freedom, inspired her to travel around the world training in many modalities. She's also a yoga and yin yoga teacher, dancing freedom inspired teacher, kahuna body worker, remedial massage therapist, and is currently studying somatic therapy and a bachelor.
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She's also a yoga and yin yoga teacher, dancing freedom inspired teacher, kahuna body worker, remedial massage therapist, and is currently studying somatic therapy and a Bachelor of psychological science at university. She's an experienced retreat. She is an experienced retreat facilitator, running retreats locally and internationally, as well as offering classes on a weekly basis to Australia's largest and most awarded retreat location. GU Ghana. She also holds classes in Tun, Kingscliff, and the Brunswick Heads community. Nia has transformed torrent's body and her life, and she loves sharing movement as medicine. She's gifted a gut. She's gifted at guiding participants into a place of powerful connection between body, mind, emotions, and spirit. Okay, well, welcome Taran paler to 100 breaths, a podcast with Gavin McGee. Thank you for coming into the studio today. We appreciate your time. Speaker 2 (02:15):

Thank you. It's lovely to be here. Speaker 1 (02:17):

Awesome. Now, first off, how's Bodhi? Speaker 2 (02:20):

He's good. Yeah, he's fantastic actually. He's just term one and his whole world is opening up. He's starting to walk and just be so curious and into everything, and yeah, it's just a joy to watch him evolve, really come alive. Speaker 1 (02:36):

How's motherhood? Speaker 2 (02:38):

Wow, that's a big question. It's amazing. It's super duper challenging. It's heart fulfilling. It's a lot. It's Speaker 1 (02:49):

A range of emotions, isn't it? Yes. Even if you look at my situation at 60 years old, and we've got Ari coming up on two, and he's just left the building just as you were arriving, and he's in daddy, daddy, daddy mode as he's exiting the building, and that's sort of like ripping me going, daddy, daddy. Speaker 2 (03:12):

Yeah. Speaker 1 (03:12):

Yeah. But it is, it's very fulfilling at the same time as it is challenging, and I think authenticity is around, and vulnerability is about just recognizing that it is challenging and being at peace with yourself with that. I think that's a big thing that we sometimes fail to do with ourselves is just be at peace with the fact that, hey, this is an experience. This is, I've been called into this space. Bodhi called me into this space for me and for Bodhi as much as Bodhi, and that's the same with Ari. Ari called us in, not the other way around. So we've got a lot of gratitude that we can have, that we can learn off our children. It doesn't matter what point we are in life, and just recognizing where they are in life and what we can learn from them. I quite often put myself in into Ari's position. Speaker 2 (04:12):

Okay. Speaker 1 (04:12):

Because I know when I do that, it takes me out of my thinking mind. Speaker 2 (04:18):

They definitely force, well, he forces me to come into the present moment and just go with the flow with that moment where he's at and having to let go of my ideas, my expectations, and just be with this human being in front of me that has certain needs and desires, and to surrender myself to that. And on what you were saying before too, about being vulnerable, I think the biggest thing I've learned, which I wish I'd done probably more in my first year of being a mom, is just reaching out for help and going, Hey, I'm not okay today. I just feel like crying. Can you come and help me? Yeah. And I think I just had expectations that I'd be super mom and moms don't do that, or Yeah, I don't know what. Speaker 1 (05:04):

And I think once we can let our guard down and just step into the space of, well, there is no right or wrong. It just is what it is. And being in that position of vulnerability and not feeling that if you called on any help that you were letting yourself down or you weren't being a super mom, you want to hold yourself in that space. Well, I am a super mom, and a super mom does ask for help. Yeah. And a super mom is being a super mom by asking for help because that little bit of help will help super mom just get reconnected to herself a little bit more. Totally, totally. So, yep. It's quite often how we frame ourselves, isn't it? Yeah. How we frame our questions and how we frame our, that own inner critic and that own internal dialogue that has the tendency, and that's where the ego comes in, where it wants to pull you down that way because it wants you thinking like that. And it wants you acting from that place of, oh, you're not a super mom and you're not this and you're not that. Whereas when you not can park that ego and go, yeah, hey, I am a super mom and a super mum, Speaker 2 (06:19):

Ask for help when she needs Speaker 1 (06:20):

It, can ask for help when she needs it. Yeah. Speaker 2 (06:23):

I never thought I'd be that person, actually. I thought I would be a little bit more in tune with myself and my needs to be able to do that. But I think there's deep layers of conditioning as well. Yes. That were wrapped up that kind of confused me, in which I'm sort of unpeeling unraveling in how to set boundaries for myself so I can be super mom and give as much to my beautiful little boy as possible whilst carving out some time and space for me to regroup, recharge, restore myself so I can be the best mum possible. But it's definitely been a unlearning and a relearning to Speaker 1 (06:59):

Establish that. Well, thank you for unpacking that because I know that's a tough gig at times. Sometimes we come down a little bit too hard on ourselves when maybe we don't Speaker 2 (07:08):

Need to. Yeah, totally. Yeah. Speaker 1 (07:10):

So thank you for sharing that. I know exactly what that feels like. Speaker 2 (07:14):

I think, yeah, a lot of parents go through that. Yeah, Speaker 1 (07:17):

Definitely. And if we can help people, some parents with even just having this conversation that we're having here today, and if there's some mums out there that are feeling that, oh, what do I do? Well just rewind this conversation a little bit and go back and say, Hey, I'm proud of myself. I'm a super mom. I didn't know what to expect. And I've had to step into each and every day for however that unpacks itself, because I don't know from one day to the next how it's going to unpack itself and just go with the learnings and the feelings from how each day unpacks itself. But don't beat yourself up about it. Step back into it. And sometimes you could look back and a little bit of reflection and possibly even have a little bit of a laugh and go, I get in some situations where I go Give yourself an upper cup, will you come on? And that can help us just bring that up, that energetic level back up and bring that wholeness of ourselves back into alignment with the who we are for what we are and what we experience. And every day is an ebb and a flow. So know how to ride the ebbs and flows. And sometimes it's good with the ebbs to just look back and have a bit of a laugh and go, oh yeah, boom, here we go. Speaker 2 (08:42):

Yeah. Yeah. Be compassionate with ourselves and have a laugh and go, okay, well next time do it differently. Yeah. That time I didn't, but that's okay. Speaker 1 (08:50):

Yeah. Because we all know the past is the past. It's gone and we can take some lessons from it, but we want to be living in the future that we're creating now in the space that we're in right now and being in that embodiment of that. So it's really cool. Now, I'm intrigued. I know the work that you do with Nia, and that's a form of the dance and teaching the connection between the body, mind, emotion and spirit through movement. And I, I'm just fascinated with that and it's extremely powerful in itself. But I'm also really curious if you could share with us some of the work that you are doing around somatic therapy and what is somatic therapy? Speaker 2 (09:31):

So somatic therapy is, it's basically a counseling technique, a therapeutic technique that works or try aim. Its aim is to get people out of their mind and into the body and access the nervous system. So it comes from the understanding that everything, all our childhood traumas, all our experiences are stored in the nervous system. And when we have an opportunity to release them or unravel, you can imagine a knot tied in to say, my top. And if I have that knot, I carry that with me. And every time something triggers my nervous system, I'm going to react and respond because I'm very tightly woven. So with somatic therapy, the idea is that we access the nervous system to have an unravel or a release or an unwind of what might be stored in the nervous system. So then that charge is released. And so you're more available, you're less defensive, you can learn new ways of being that maybe you were unconscious of before, or you were just programmed into responding in that one old way that it wasn't really working for you. Speaker 1 (10:40):

And what are some of the sort of traumas that can be held in the nervous system? Could you give us some examples of some of those? Speaker 2 (10:49):

Anything that's deeply affected or wounded you? They say that trauma is not, it can be anything that hasn't moved through the nervous system. So just say you got in trouble when you were little and you weren't allowed a big cry and you stuffed it in and you held yourself together. That could be something that is locked inside of you and affecting how you show up in everyday life as an adult. Speaker 1 (11:14):

So this can be going right back to what age does, can trauma be held from or Speaker 2 (11:19):

From since we're babies really? Yeah. Since we're in the embryo, when we're embryos in the womb, yeah. We hold everything in our nervous system in our body, Speaker 1 (11:29):

And that really shows us just what this body is, doesn't it? What the structure of what we are carrying around with us every day is like Yes. And the power of it. So yeah, I can only imagine. And hopefully for our listeners, just picture that, just what that conversation, we've just had to think out of all of the things that have happened through your life, everything is being stored in your cellular system and being held within your nervous system. So it tells you what type of computer we're carrying around with ourselves. Yes. Doesn't, it would have to be one of the most powerful computers in the world to be able to retain all of that, but not only retain it at certain points if you're doing the work, being able to actually call on it Speaker 2 (12:24):

And then understand it. Speaker 1 (12:26):

Yeah, understand it and even pull it out and move it on. Speaker 2 (12:30):

Yeah. Speaker 1 (12:31):

And as you're aware, I've recently become certified as a breath master, and a lot of the work that we're doing in the Breath master Breath master field is around somatic transformational change. And that's all about tapping into the subconscious mind and pulling this out and saying, well, it's time to move it on. And when we can be vulnerable enough to allowing ourselves to go there, that's when we can really shift some stuff and just bring about some rapid change. Speaker 2 (13:05):

And on that note, often in a session if someone presents with a certain feeling in their life, and then we'll take them into themselves and into their body first, we ground people and have them very somatically centered and make sure they're in a good space. And from that, often a memory can surface or something that reveals where the issue initially came from. So it's quite fascinating how that connection of the past and the present and how that is inside of us, if we can tap into the unconscious and the subconscious Speaker 1 (13:46):

Pretty powerful stuff. So how did you get into that type of work? Somatic therapy? Speaker 2 (13:50):

The body is my thing. It's my passion. It's been my healing what I love and get out of bed for. So I've worked with the body for many years with Nia and with yoga, and then at a point in my life I thought, oh, I want to go back to university and I want to do a psychology degree. So I've been chipping away at that, and I found that it fulfilled me on one level, but what they were teaching at psychol in psychology was quite outdated. A lot of C B T, cognitive behavior therapy, a lot of mine stuff, which has its place, but I just felt that wasn't going to take me or my clients to the depth that I wanted to go to. So then I started to look around and explore different techniques, and I've also received a lot of different therapies along the way in my journeys. And somatic therapy called me to take people in a deeper, deeper into themselves and to get to roots of the issues. Speaker 1 (14:53):

Yeah. I just love what you just said, that somatic therapy called me. Yeah. Because we have periods in our life where we do feel called and that maybe there's some listeners out there that might not have experienced that yet. But I know for myself that I've found my calling into this world of wellness after having almost a lifetime in the collision repair industry, and just my own transformations over the last probably decade have been quite profound. And this has led me here talking to you through 100 breaths. So yeah, that was fascinating. So it is about a calling and it's about a feeling. And on those feelings, can you share with us a time in your life when you felt really inspired? Speaker 2 (15:48):

That's a big question. One of the most potent times in my life was probably when I went traveling at 19 and I went for three months in a university break. I went over to the United States to work in a scary resort in a place called Lake Tahoe. And I was meant to come back after the three months, and I had a calling. And at the end of the three months, some of my friends were going to Peru. And I felt that pool to go, and I had a little battle. I had to work through my stuff at that point to go, okay, do I follow the path and go back to university or do I go to Peru? And the pool for Peru was so strong, and I followed that calling and it opened up my life as it does when we follow our callings.
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And I would say that whole chapter of my life, I ended up staying away a year, and then I ended up actually living in Lake Tahoe for five years. All up. Completely changed my philosophy of living, let's say. I felt like I was quite closed in. I grew up in Sydney, and I did what I was told. I was a great student, and I was just following the path. And when I went traveling, it opened me up to, life can be amazing. There is so much magic. There is so much possibility working, just being in the flow and just opening myself really to who I was and to what I was feeling and sensing and opening to the magic of life. So that has inspired who I am today, where I have been and lived, and what I do as for my career right now, Speaker 1 (17:37):

Travel. Yeah, I remember that travel. I did my first trip at around about 19. Did you do that trip on your own? Yes. Back then. Yeah. Yeah. Well, I did my first one at 19 as well. I jumped on a plane and moved to New Zealand for 12 months now at that time. And look, I'll let this become common knowledge, but I was actually chasing a chicky baze at Speaker 2 (17:57):

Time. That's a good motivation. So that was a good motivation. Get you out of your home country. I didn't Speaker 1 (18:02):

Go over there to play football or rugby or anything else, but now we won't share that experience of what happened during that 12 months. But it was a fascinating time for me. And just back to you and your journey, what did you notice about yourself during that period of going to Lake Tahoe and then feeling this calling to shoot off to Peru? Speaker 2 (18:24):

That I was much happier that there was a lightness in my being and in my heart and in my whole energy that I didn't have before. I felt like I was quite closed in almost quite serious, and I just wasn't open. So yeah, I definitely became lighter and more expanded. Speaker 1 (18:48):

Expanded because we can get quite sort of steered down a path or feel like we're on the M one and all we're doing is just following this dotted line to wherever it goes to. But when we have that feeling of expansion and that feeling of being called to do something, it comes down to a bit of intuition as well. And that feeling. And for me, I've learned over the years that if I go on my intuition, I've got to trust my intuition. When I've gone against my intuition, it's normally kicked me in the backside pretty hard. Totally. Yeah. So for our listeners out there, your intuition, which you will always feel in the body before you actually feel it in your mind, is when you feel it in your body. That's your body talking to you and giving you some signals on how that's rumbling for you. So be guided by that and then allow the thinking mind to come into play after that. But quite often, 95% of the time, when you go against that gut feeling and that intuition, it'll come back and kick you Speaker 2 (20:00):

A hundred percent. I have experienced that and it, it's not pleasant. Speaker 1 (20:04):

Definitely not pleasant. Now they say for a person to make a massive transformational shift from who they are, that it usually takes a major event or an accident or a certain situation to trigger a realization that their current reality is no longer serving them. Would you agree with that? Speaker 2 (20:24):

In my experience, I haven't had major things happen, but it's probably when I have a transformation has come on, it's probably when I've felt really unhappy and stuck and realized that things weren't working for me. And then I've had to really, well, for me, my tools, I pull in a lot of prayer. I do a lot of dance, a lot of movement, a lot of yoga, lots of slow walks in nature to then really open up to healing and to what might be the next path. So in a way, yes, when I feel just the opposite of joy and life force, that instigates me and motivates me to make some changes and to open up and ask for help. Speaker 1 (21:12):

And could you recall a period in your life when you felt like that? Would you like to share one of those Speaker 2 (21:19):

Periods with, I can recall last week, I was in a bit of a funk in myself, and I had to use those tools that I just spoke about, and instantly I felt things shift. I felt magic come in. I felt grace and opportunities come to me to help me, and I felt a shift in my energy. Yeah. Speaker 1 (21:39):

Yeah. I love what you've just said that because you've, you recognized what was taking place and like when, and it's, it's probably, I'm just trying to explain this to our listeners as best as I can explain it from my own awarenesses around myself, is being able to recognize basically when you have your shadow beside you, and it's just there looking at you, sort of having this conversation with you about what's going on, but then you can sort of acknowledge it to say, yep, okay, this is where I am. This is where I feel I would need to be, and this is, these is what I need to do to shift myself through this state at this moment. My own experiences when I've been down and out for the longest periods is when I've allowed that thinking mind to hold me there. And so if we can share with people some tools and tips and techniques on how to just move through these states quickly and effectively to come back to who they truly love being, how they authentically want to show up, that's the whole purpose of our 100 breaths journey, Speaker 2 (22:55):

Right? Yeah.
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Well, for me, I tune in straight away to the stuff that I know is going to bring out the real tyrant and the stuff that I love to do that helps me connect and feel my essence. And that's movement that's near, as I said, walks in nature yoga. And for me, a powerful tool is offering up just to whatever you believe in and asking for help. And just in my life, so many times I've felt that my prayers have been answered, and it's beyond me. It's beyond my mind. It's beyond the this. I cannot solve the problem on my own Speaker 1 (23:36):

And trying not to get stuck in problem solving mode as well. Speaker 2 (23:41):

Yeah. Speaker 1 (23:43):

Because that can be pretty, when sometimes when we get stuck in problem solving mode, what we're doing is we're holding ourselves back from what's available to us because we think we have the answers, as opposed to just allowing space for things to unpack themselves as they unpack themselves. Speaker 2 (24:11):

For Speaker 1 (24:11):

Sure. And that might be a little bit challenging for people to sort of accept. But yeah, it is. It's just a matter of just letting go sometimes Speaker 2 (24:19):

Letting go of control, Speaker 1 (24:20):

Letting go of control and just allowing things to be. And I do that through my breathing of a morning and, and also little bits of meditation. I talk to guys, some guys about meditation, and they look at me quite strange. And now being a 60 yard year old, you can relate to that because if you look back through the decades of generational shifts and what gets passed on, meditation wasn't at the top of the list for a lot of men. Speaker 2 (24:51):

No, certainly not in this culture too. No. Speaker 1 (24:54):

Yeah. Not in this culture as well. But I don't talk to them as if it's deep form of sit with your legs crossed and meditate this way. I try and share with them through the breathing and through conversation more than anything, the different types of conversations that we can listen to that can allow us to go get out of our thinking mind to come back to a place of presence and, and then when we're in that place of presence, which can be brought about through our breath work, that's when we can go into states that can allow flow and can allow creativity and can allow calmness and can allow you to just be B. And for me, shifting and moving through states comes from when I find presence and just being in that place of stillness. Speaker 2 (25:50):

Yeah. Yeah. It sounds like it's really helped you in your life path. Speaker 1 (25:54):

Oh, absolutely. It's quite amazing. And whatever we can share with our listeners to help them find something for them, whether it's through near and the work that you do and yoga. Yeah. Now, I've never been big on yoga. I've got a funny arm here. And if I tried to do some of those yoga moves that you girls do, and men as well, I'm not a hope in hell. So I know that yoga's not going to be one of my go-tos. Yeah. But for a lot of people, yoga is a go-to because it brings about those states of stillness and presence Speaker 2 (26:25):

That mind body centering Speaker 1 (26:26):

Mind, body centering. Yeah. Did you ever judge yourself and question your own ability to achieve a desired outcome? Speaker 2 (26:35):

Definitely. Yeah. Definitely. Speaker 1 (26:38):

And what was happening for you when you do that? When you go into judgment mode? How did you recognize that you were judging yourself? And how do you actually pull yourself through that judgment Speaker 2 (26:51):

With sematic awareness? So when I'm in judgment of myself, I can feel my energy field contract immediately. Let's face it. When we're not nice to ourselves, it shrinks our energy. I can feel a change in my voice. There's almost like a desperateness. It's just a total shift to my energy field is when I'm in judgment. And what I do with that is just noticing that and mindfulness and change my thought processes. Maybe I want to dig a little deeper at some points to see where that's coming from. And Speaker 1 (27:30):

Yeah. Yeah, that noticing is a big part, isn't it? Like I used to be in this world of judgment where everything around everything was a judgment, and judgments are only based on my own conditions and conditioning and beliefs. So when now that I've mastered the art of noticing, so I can just let go of just relinquish judgment, it's just great to the point of just, it's, to me, it's a word. So I can just notice all things that are happening around me and allow those things to be whatever they are, and allow the other person to show up for whoever they are because they're showing up based on their conditioning and their beliefs and their experiences in life. So when I can go into noticing mode, I can then allow myself to engage with them totally more authentically by allowing them to be in their story without, it's not my role to convert them and their story, it's my role to just notice how their story unfolded for them Speaker 2 (28:36):

And just be with Speaker 1 (28:37):

Them. And just be with them. Yeah. Speaker 2 (28:38):

Basically, I think judgment kills the connection. And it's like you suddenly shut down and you label people the situation, you put it in a certain box, and then in that box, it's quite tight and uncomfortable, and there's not really much joy in that box or possibility or freedom. Speaker 1 (28:55):

It closes things down, doesn't it, Speaker 2 (28:57):

Ourselves. And we want to feel joy and open and light and possibility, Speaker 1 (29:02):

And we want to look for opportunities as well if we can, if there's something that we could offer to that might help that person in some way, shape, or form, or if I listen with a bit more intent, and if I listen as if that person, what they're going to tell me can make a difference in my life, it can change the way the conversation goes from the very first word. Speaker 2 (29:22):

Definitely. Speaker 1 (29:24):

So how do we step away from that judgment and then we move into what we call in rise and shine mode every day. So what inspires you to rise and shine each day apart from Bodhi? Speaker 2 (29:39):

I feel probably just feeling good, a love loving life, loving adventure, loving, finding a connection to myself and expressing myself. And I think that is truly what makes me keep going every day. It's just finding more of an expression of myself in the world. Speaker 1 (30:03):

And that's through authenticity, isn't it? Just being as authentic as you can be Speaker 2 (30:09):

Through just exploring who I am and opening up and opening up to the possibility of the day and where it might take me, and letting go of that judgment of, oh, this is a Monday, but hey, so much is possible. I don't know where this day is going to go. Yeah. Speaker 1 (30:28):

Yeah. It's pretty cool. Pretty much the fourth principle of the art of noticing for myself is always look for ways to feel good, even when you're not feeling that good. Yes. And that's something that I just slip into that mode when I'm not feeling that great. Yesterday I took myself off and did my own breath work journey for an hour and a half, went down the riverfront, and I did a really, really deep breath work journey yesterday, which was releasing the five primary trauma imprints. And it was deep, but after I came out of it, nearly two hours down the track, I instantly had shifted some stuff, and that just bought, that was that whole shock of the nervous system going in, opening it up and shifting stuff around and going, you've had your time. You've been parked long enough time for you to go and find a new car park somewhere else. Yeah, I've moved on. Yeah, great. And just that recognition of that. But yeah, Speaker 2 (31:38):

I Speaker 1 (31:38):

So, yeah. Yeah, that's when you sort of have periods where some days you rise and shine, but it feels like you want to lay down and give in. So I was like, yesterday I thought, oh, I need to do a bit of work on myself today. I've got a couple of things here I just need unpacking. Yeah. What's it going to take? Speaker 2 (31:56):

Yeah. I actually felt the same yesterday. I felt feeling pretty funky and I wasn't feeling in alignment. So I asked my partner to take our son Bodie, and I just did some yoga on the grass underneath the trees connected with the earth. The sky connected with my breath and my body, and I felt myself come back into my heart, and I was a better human being for myself and for my family. It was powerful. Speaker 1 (32:20):

It, it's the recognition of that, and that's what we want to be able to, for people to be able to connect with recognizing yourself and be okay with the fact that sometimes you're not okay. Definitely. Or you don't feel okay within definitely all of this bullshit that gets pushed around by these, you see people that they're in this amazing state 24 hours a day, seven days a week for all their life. That's bs. Yeah. I can tell you now, because when the cameras are off and when things aren't in front of 'em, there's a lot of stuff that they got locked away and haven't unpacked, but that stuff that they really should deal with, but they don't possibly don't know how to. Yeah. So when you can recognize in yourself that I'm not feeling that great today, what have I got happening internally and how do I feel can, what can I do to make myself feel better than I'm feeling? Speaker 2 (33:17):

Yes. Speaker 1 (33:19):

And say, okay, I'll go and do a breath work. Like you said, I'll go and do some yoga. I'll go and connect to the earth. Yeah. I'll go and I'll find my space to come connect myself back to my heart, and then that radiates energy out to my family and shines the light a little bit brighter again. Yeah. Speaker 2 (33:37):

Yeah. In Neo, that's like the first principle of the neo white belt is about choosing the sensation of universal joy, which we also call life force. So number one, you've got to choose to feel better unless you want to stay feeling like crap, to take sovereignty and take responsibility for your wellbeing, and then to tune in by a sensation. Okay, what am I sensing? What's really going on? And then to follow life force to follow. What do you need? What's going to lift you upright now? What's going to help you open up to more life force moving through your system? So it's a powerful tool to go, I'm going to take responsibility for this, and I'm going to take some action and I'm going to invite, enjoy, Speaker 1 (34:24):

Invite, enjoy. Yeah. Yeah. Love it. I'm going to ask you a couple of quick questions. Now. You can answer these just for what they are. Introvert or extrovert. Speaker 2 (34:38):

Extrovert, Speaker 1 (34:38):

Extrovert, pessimist or optimist. Speaker 2 (34:41):

Optimist, Speaker 1 (34:42):

Believer of Speaker 2 (34:44):

Magic, Speaker 1 (34:46):

Lover of Speaker 2 (34:49):

Life. Speaker 1 (34:51):

Beautiful. What comes to mind for you when you think of consciousness Speaker 2 (34:56):

Awareness? Speaker 1 (34:59):

Now, this is an interesting one, David R. Hawkins created the map of consciousness, and are you aware of the map of consciousness and Right, that's a really interesting one. The map of consciousness rates a scale from 20 up to 1000. And I would invite for you to just have a look at that map of consciousness at some point in your future, because on that S scale of one 20 to 1000, it goes through different stages of basically 1000 being enlightenment. And enlightenment is the state of a Buddha. Who else would be Mother Teresa? People of that sort of stature, thick na chan that passed away last year, sad guru. These types of people that are just, you just think, oh, man, how do you get there? What would that be like? And there's all different levels on this scale. And I find at the moment, I'm sitting around about, well, I believe around about probably the 600 mark, which is just, it's bordering on that pure love and alignment and moving towards that higher states of the map of consciousness scale. And then occasionally I'll drop down a little bit, but I try to apply the 80 20 principle of staying in the top end of that scale more than the bottom end of that scale. So when you get a chance, I'd invite you to have a look at that map of consciousness because it's sort of comes into place with vibrational energy and frequency. And when we talk about vibrational energy and frequency, what's your understanding of these and what role they play in a person's life? Speaker 2 (36:57):

I feel that they, that's everything. Our vibration and our frequency. I know when I'm in alignment with my heart and with my higher self and I'm open, my life flows and I attract support and beauty. And when I am closed and funky and in the human dance, as we were talking about earlier, we're not always going to feel fantastic. And sometimes our stuff is in our face. That definitely affects my attraction. So yeah, I'm a big believer in doing our work to clear out the clutter and bring ourselves our vibration up. And Nia Somatic Therapy can instigate that and support that so we can resonate in the highest vibration that we possibly can in that moment. Speaker 1 (37:55):

And if we can share with our listeners as well, everything is energy. Yeah. Everything is energy. Nothing that's not, doesn't comprise of energy. So if we can have a awareness. Yeah, sorry. Yeah. Speaker 2 (38:10):

Thoughts become things Speaker 1 (38:11):

As thoughts becomes things. And if you keep thinking of things that are disempowering to you, that's exactly what you're attracting into your life, more of those things. So it doesn't matter if the thought is a good thing or a bad thing, that's what you are attracting into your world. And so the recognition of how do I want to be thinking? I don't want to be thinking positive, empowered thoughts around learning the love light and seeing the lesson in everything and raising my vibrational awareness, or do I want to be stuck in the other side of the coin, which is only going to attract more of that. I had an experience with someone this morning, I was having a conversation and they were sharing some things with me, and I said, go back and just share that with me again, but listen to what you're sharing with me, because what you're sharing with me is why you are where you are now. Speaker 2 (39:18):

Yeah. Speaker 1 (39:20):

And in the early part of that conversation, they were having a little bit of trouble connecting the dots, and I said, because they're the thoughts, and that's the energy, and that's the message that you're putting into the universe. And the universe goes off and gets you more of that. So when you can reframe and learn to reframe and then launch your rockets of desire based on what you would truly love to call into your life and be with those feelings, live in the feelings of that you've already got that. That's what can actually come back to you synchronistically. Not by coincidence, it'll come back to you synchronistically, because you've put it out there in what you would like to have come back to you. Speaker 2 (40:06):

And I love looking at my life as a reflection of what I believe as well. That concept kind of changed my reality when I think, Louise, I got it from Louise Hay many years ago. My life is just a reflection of what I believe of I'm worthy of, or what I believe life is worthy of. So that really took me into a journey of like, okay, what do I really believe? Because I can see what's in front of me right now, and it's not really what I want. So to kind of go and dig out the weeds and to then be able to open up to other possibilities as well. Speaker 1 (40:49):

Yeah. I love that. Dig out the weeds and let the flower bloom, because that flower is going to attract so much to it, isn't it? Yeah. When it blooms, if we just think of it like a sunflower, just think of your life like a sunflower. If you feel in the energy of a sunflower, you would be amazed what you are going to attract into your life. Because so many things get drawn into a sunflower. They, as soon as a person sees a sunflower, what do they think? What do they feel? Well, instantly they just feel happy. Speaker 2 (41:25):

Yeah. Joy, radiance, Speaker 1 (41:27):

Joy, radiance, vibrancy. It lifts their spirit. Life. Life, yeah. It's almost force in its own. Speaker 2 (41:34):

And you can see that in people when they are connected to their core, to their essence, and they're doing what they love, that they radiate, they shine, they have beautiful energy to offer. Speaker 1 (41:46):

Yeah. So there's something out there for everyone. Just, yeah, pretend you're a sunflower. Just pretend you're a sunflower and watch everyone just look at you going, look at that beautiful sunflower over there. Speaker 2 (41:56):

A lovely. Yeah. And if you're not there, know that. That's possible too. You can Exactly right. And you can feel that good. Yeah. Speaker 1 (42:02):

Yeah. Feel, yeah, that's exactly what Terence said is whenever it's not there, always look for ways to that sunflower to just stand up a little bit straighter. Speaker 2 (42:13):

Yes. Because we all Speaker 1 (42:14):

Stand up a little bit Speaker 2 (42:15):

Straighter. Go through challenging times. Yeah. Speaker 1 (42:17):

Yeah. Might need a little bit of water some days, or a lot of water. Or a lot of water. Some days you need a lot of water. Speaker 2 (42:22):

Oh, like you said before, maybe you just stay in bed for that day or Speaker 1 (42:25):

Maybe stay in bed, but recognize that that's just how you feel. And just be okay with that. Yeah. So here's what I'd like to ask you. If I was to ask you to notice something as opposed to judging it, would you, I interpret the difference between the two. Speaker 2 (42:48):

Noticing for me would just be receiving information. Judging would be labeling that information. Speaker 1 (42:57):

And that's a huge distinction, isn't there? Speaker 2 (43:00):

Definitely. Yeah. Yeah. Speaker 1 (43:01):

And that's the message that we want to take to the world through our 100 breaths community is know, live in a world of noticing, because the noticing will can just provide you freedom and peace. So relinquish the judging and live in a world of noticing, because there's huge distinctions between the both of them. So what ripple effect would you like to be known for in your community? Speaker 2 (43:31):

Inspiring people. Yeah. I feel in my journey as a human being from coming from a place of not really feeling connected to myself or in self-love or self-expression, to taking quite a winding road to find and to share and do what I love. I love to inspire people to kind of wake up and go, Hey, there's more Like be yourself. Follow yourself, express yourself. Come alive. Just connect. That's what I love to bring to people. So to help them heal, to help them find that beautiful space inside and that beautiful frequency of living that I know is possible. Speaker 1 (44:17):

Yeah. That's amazing. Thank you for sharing that with us. And you've pretty much answered this question in your last question because I was just going to ask you, what would you like to share with our listeners about your work and how it makes you feel? And you pretty much nailed that just in how you answered that last question, is just that connection and making them feel good in themselves and worthy and energetic and vibrant and Speaker 2 (44:43):

Yeah. My work makes me feel amazing. Yeah. I love what I do. It's like I'm not even working, really. I mean, I'm still getting with somatic therapy, that's still a process that I'm learning too, because I'm still learning. So I'm not completely, I'm still learning. So there's a bit more work involved there. But with Nia too, and the essence of Nia or yoga, I just love coming into the teaching space, and it makes me more accountable to coming into my body and then opening up to what wants to come through me. And the essence of moving my body and expressing my energy. I just feel fantastic. Doesn't mean any matter how many hours I haven't slept or how many times I've breastfed through the night when I do Nia, and particularly when I teach Nia, I just feel that life force moving through me. It's so healing. Speaker 1 (45:39):

Here's on the spot. Question for you. When was the time that you were doing one of your, say a retreat or something where you just felt, can you recall a time when you just felt that life can't get any peaceful or beautiful than this? Speaker 2 (46:02):

Yeah, definitely. I've taught five retreats in Bali, and they just, well, we stopped when Covid happened. Really. And I haven't gone back to it. Probably next year we'll go back. But definitely there's times when I was walking through Bali or getting a massage after delivering a class and just thinking, I love my life. I really love my life. But that's also been a mantra of mine that I've affirmed to myself a lot over the years, is I love my life. I love what I do. And even when I started teaching there, and I had one student, two students, three students, that's what I used to, that what guided me, really. Speaker 1 (46:37):

Yeah. And that part about just like you said, one student, I started with one student and then two students. And it's holding in your mind and holding in the feeling in your body of whether that's one student or whether that's a thousand students, that's a ripple effect. So if you can have that ripple effect on that one person, that can have a ripple effect on one person. And I think, I don't know. Well, I dunno what it feels like for you, but that's what it beautiful. It feels like for me to own this. Speaker 2 (47:18):

Yeah. It just makes the world a better place. And we all want to live in a happy world, right? Yeah. Speaker 1 (47:23):

And then if we all form these collective ripple effects, well, this year I've felt a major shift in universal energy this year. A shift of wellness, a shift of, of people stepping into a bit more of the unknown in themselves. Not quite sure how I can else, I can explain it, but that's just what I've felt. And so if people are stepping into that, it means they're opening up to saying, well, there are different ways to approach life, and there are different ways to be and to feel and to get connected, to inspire me into creating my own ripple effect in life and in the world for that matter. Speaker 2 (48:14):

And for me, in the unknown, that's where the magic happens. Speaker 1 (48:19):

That's where the magic happens in the unknown. Speaker 2 (48:22):

If you have the courage to go there, Speaker 1 (48:24):

If you have the courage to go there. And that courage is a big word, isn't it? Speaker 2 (48:28):

Got to let go. Yeah. Speaker 1 (48:30):

And it's like I had to have some courage to start a podcast. Speaker 2 (48:34):

Yeah, I bet you did. Yeah. Yeah. Speaker 1 (48:36):

We had to start with one listener. Yes. I think that one list. And it was me, I think when I recorded my first podcast, I put it on repeat so I could boost the numbers. Speaker 2 (48:54):

Fantastic. Speaker 1 (48:55):

And now look at the rate of growth. We're just powering along. Speaker 2 (48:58):

Yeah. Yeah. It's Speaker 1 (49:00):

Beautiful. Hey, if you could go back and give your 18 year old self one piece of advice, what would it be? Speaker 2 (49:09):

Probably don't take yourself too seriously. Speaker 1 (49:12):

Yeah. Yeah. Just step into it. Step into life. Allow the days to unpack. Allow it to feel how you want to feel. But just allow things to unpack as they need to unpack. Learn your lessons along the way. Acknowledge them. Learn from your mistakes. Get back on. I've been knocked off the horse quite a lot and jump back up again. Yeah, Speaker 2 (49:37):

That's a great, I probably take that back. That's a beautiful thing that I would've loved to have known too. It doesn't really matter. There's always an opportunity around the corner. Yeah. If something doesn't work, that's fine. Go in a different direction. Open up. There'll be another direction Speaker 1 (49:55):

That's recognizing that it goes. Cause doors open and close all through your life. So you go, well, that door's closed and it's closed because it just needed to close. Yeah. Okay. The next door hasn't opened yet, but I'm, oh, it'll open when it's ready to present itself. Trust in the trust, and when it's ready to present itself, it'll be there. It'll be okay. Yeah. In the meantime, I'll just do what I'm doing. I Speaker 2 (50:20):

Think a big part of it is just, is trust. Yeah. Just trusting one. Another mantra of mine is I trust that the best is coming to me. So it's really trusting. If the door's closed, it's not working. Something bad is coming. Speaker 1 (50:31):

Yeah. Very good. So what are you doing currently in your life and how can our listeners contact you and what would be something of yours that you'd like to offer to them so that they can connect with you and your work and what you do? Speaker 2 (50:49):

Sure. I'm currently being a mom, and I'm also teaching two to three classes a week of Nia right now. So I teach in Kings Cliff, and I teach in Chuan and Brunswick Heads. And I have a website where you can find me in connect into my classes. It's www.tynpaler.com. So I'm sharing the joy of movement right now. That's basically enough of what I can handle whilst giving as much energy to my son and to motherhood as I have right now. Yeah. Speaker 1 (51:23):

Well, that's beautiful. And there you have it. Connect with Taran at her website and we'll make sure that we put the information up and maybe get yourself along to one of these near movement events. Is that what we Speaker 2 (51:36):

Call them? Movement class. A Speaker 1 (51:38):

Movement class, yeah. Maybe I should try one of Speaker 2 (51:40):

Those. Think you should. Speaker 1 (51:42):

My partner Melissa goes to quite often, but normally when Melissa goes to the dancers, she'll take Ari with her quite often. But there's some days where I'll take Ari and she'll go off and do a Saturday class. Yeah. But maybe I should try one of those. It might be a little bit easier on me than the yoga seems my left shoulder's a little bit gone. Speaker 2 (52:01):

Yeah, yeah. Learn, teach you how to listen, move and listen to your body at the same time and just come with your art of noticing. Speaker 1 (52:09):

Yeah. I come with my art of noticing what's happening in a near movement for myself. Speaker 2 (52:15):

And one more thing I forgot that I am offering is I will be stepping back into retreats, and next year we're aiming to go to Bali again to offer, connect to your body, connect to your Joy retreat. Speaker 1 (52:25):

Oh, wow. That's pretty cool. And what type of modalities do they offer in those retreats? Speaker 2 (52:30):

I teach Nia, I teach yoga, we do meditation. Lots of mindfulness, lots of pampering, lots of nurturing. Speaker 1 (52:39):

Sounds like something I could do with Speaker 2 (52:41):

Oh yeah, we could all do with it. It's amazing. A Speaker 1 (52:44):

Bit of pampering, it's medicine, a bit of nurturing. And I think with the knee, for me, I get on my bike and I ride my bike, and then I get this little birdie whispering in my ear going, have you stretched yet? Have you stretched yet? Speaker 2 (52:57):

Well, it's good to have been in a group setting too, where it makes you do the stuff that you might be a bit difficult to do by yourself. Speaker 1 (53:04):

Yeah, totally. Taran, thank you for coming into the studio. I've really enjoyed this conversation. Yeah. Hope you so much as well. I Speaker 2 (53:11):

Have. Speaker 1 (53:11):

Yeah. It's taken a little bit of your time away from Bodhi and Speaker 2 (53:15):

Yeah, I'm sure he's waiting for me now. He's Speaker 1 (53:17):

Waiting for you now to get home. Mommy, get home, please. Yeah. So I always finish off our part or our podcast with a question, and that is Taran paler. Who are you breathing for today? And why? Speaker 2 (53:34):

I mean, the first thought is Bodie, but actually as before that, I thought myself, I'm breathing for myself to open and be of service. How can I be of service to the planet? So the more I breathe for me and come into alignment for me, the more I have to offer the world? Speaker 1 (53:56):

Beautifully said, the more I come into alignment for me, the more I have to offer the world. So that is a profound statement to close out our podcast today. And once again, I thank you. I've really thoroughly enjoyed the conversation, and we wish you all the best on your future and your retreats and with your near movement. And we will share the love of Taren Paler and what she's shared with us today. And that will wind up this episode of 100 Breaths, the podcast with Gavin Mcgain.