Tell Me About Your Kids
Be a fly on the wall of unfiltered 1 on 1 counseling sessions as Bonnie Harris, 30 yr. veteran of Connective Parenting, author and counselor helps parents navigate their daily challenges and weaves her compassion and empathy for parents as she builds their capability to turn their frustrations into opportunities to connect with their children.
Episodes
156 episodes
Puzzle Pieces # 17 - Thank You for Telling Us About Your Kids
Can you believe that Bonnie and Adam have created 150 episodes of “Tell Me About Your Kids” over the last 3 years?! In this episode, they reflect on the experience, as well as what they’ve both come to understand about Connective Parenting and ...
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Episode 151
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38:10
How to Hold Your Children Accountable - Without Blame
When little kids fight and hurt each other, it’s all a parent can do not to grab, yell, blame and ultimately shame the hitter. Lee and Andre are learning how to hold their 3-year-old hitter accountable without all that. Instead, Celine learns t...
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Episode 150
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50:30
Community Pieces # 9 - Growing Up Online: How to Make It Safe for Our Kids
There is nothing more urgent for parents today than what their children are or will be doing on social media. Fears run rampant and get in the way of effective communication with children. Devorah Heitner, Ph.D. author of the best seller “Scree...
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Episode 149
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40:07
Respecting Your Teen's Sexual Boundaries
Hannah grew as a person and a parent when she learned the hard way to payattention to her daughter’s experience and not compare it to her own. What 13 yearold Josie has learned to be comfortable with is all new territory for Hannah. In ...
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Episode 148
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33:20
How Can I Trust When Agreements Are Broken?
Even when connection is strong with her two boys, 14 and 6, screens pose problems for Anne. Her intentions are on track to support the boys’ self-regulation skills but when agreements are broken and sleep is lost, worries take over and tempers ...
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Episode 147
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44:11
“Nobody ever listens to me!”
When past learned behaviors pop up and derail connection with her two children, Ellie’s default is to blame herself. She feels so discouraged when they won’t do as she asks. Why can’t I get this right is what echoes in her head until s...
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Episode 146
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49:26
The Unintended Consequences of Blame and Criticism
Harry, 9, is an impulsive, Integrity kid* reacting, as kids do, to how he has come to view himself—not good enough, not as loved as his sister, a problem, bad. His parents have raised him by the common myth that ordering and criticizing a child...
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Episode 145
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46:00
Anger is the Cover Up to Feeling Rejected
Hallie and her now ex-husband adopted their first child, Kyle. Subsequently she got pregnant with her second son, Kayden, the subject of much resentment for Kyle. In this episode we dig into the many causes of Kyle’s anger as well as his “I don...
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Episode 144
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49:22
Tip #17 – The No-Blame Solution
Blame is what turns sibling fights into sibling rivalry. Rivalry brings with it pretty constant anger and resentment at least from one child toward another. But it’s hard not to blame the child who hits or deeply hurts another. The parents job ...
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Episode 143
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17:14
Tip#16 - What To Do About Sibling Rivalry
Siblings are going to fight. They are too close to each other not to. It’s tricky to allow their fights without turning them into sibling rivalry. Rivalry is the key word here. Your kids become rivals for your approval. That is unless you are a...
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Episode 142
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12:15
From the archives: Episode 66 Community Pieces #5: “Denial is the heartbeat of racism” – a conversation on how to talk to ALL kids about race
No matter what your race, do you know how to talk to your kids in a coherent, age-appropriate way about race and racism? Were you brought up ignorant about racism, thinking it was only about someone else? I talk with Emma Redden and Grace Aldri...
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Episode 141
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38:45
Our Best Parenting Tool is Our Own Healing
Camille’s early childhood trauma still asserts itself through her body language when she bites her lip. Because of the work Camille has done, her 9 year old daughter, Aria, can call her on it. But that lip still betrays Camille whenever she fee...
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Episode 140
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49:57
Does Your Child See You as the Enemy?
Katherine wants her 9 year old to be able to stand up for herself and eventually save the world with her strength of spirit. But in the meantime, she unintentionally undermines that strength by not accepting it right now. Zelda perceives her pa...
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Episode 139
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48:58
When Your Best Friend Parents Differently
What would it mean for Erica to allow her friend to find her own way thru parenting that works for her? What does she need to give up to be the loving, compassionate friend she wants to be? These are the questions that get answered as Bonnie lo...
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Episode 138
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48:47
When Your Child Believes He’s Not Enough
How do you reconnect with a child who has pushed you away because he believes he has failed you? How do answer an angry child who yells, “If yelling at you is the way I express my anger, why shouldn’t I be allowed to do that?” Ginger has long s...
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Episode 137
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49:13
Puzzle Pieces #16: Question your assumptions about sibling rivalry
We all want our kids to stop fighting. But even our best intentions usually set up the next fight because we don’t understand what the bottom line really is. If we don’t truly get why siblings fight with each other, what they are really after a...
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Episode 136
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37:29
Are You Normalizing Your Children's Fears?
All children feel afraid of things they perceive out of their control. Feeling scared, nervous, upset is all perfectly normal. Jess’ 7 year old daughter Lily is dealing with normal fears of a quiet, cautious child Jess worries is stuck in anxie...
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Episode 135
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45:56
When you’re triggered, try opening your heart
Ruthie’s 14 year old daughter makes a lot of emotional noise which leaves her mother feeling bulldozed. Whenever Olivia is emotionally charged, Ruthie is triggered to backdown and block out the oncoming chaos of her daughter leaving Olivia with...
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Episode 134
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45:40
The Fallout from a Contentious Divorce
Kristen is working hard to navigate her 50/50 parenting time, leaving her feeling unable to deal with her two children’s aggression toward her and each other. The highly structured life her 10 and 6 year olds have with their father provokes Kri...
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Episode 133
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45:32
How to Motivate Kids in the Face of Tough Emotions
Katie has put a lot of time into her positive parenting. The problem is she can be a little too positive when trying to motivate her 5-year-old. Understanding her daughter’s temperament is a must for Katie to set appropriate expectations so as ...
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Episode 132
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44:06
Community Pieces #8: Understanding Your Child's Unique Brain Development
Is your child’s behavior more than just annoying? Is it a mystery with seemingly no clues? Are you worried his development is off track? Is she having difficulty performing at the level of her peers? Do think he needs more support than you can ...
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Episode 131
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39:07
How To Raise Responsible Kids Without Punishment
Camilla is mother to four children ranging from 18 to 25. She has raised her children with a connected approach and is here to tell the results at the stage of launching into adulthood. Here’s what it means to raise kids with no punishment (tha...
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Episode 130
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40:37
“… but you can’t make them do it.”
Kate’s 2 yr. (her third child) needs to wear glasses. Ever tried to get a toddler to do what she must but what she hates? This is a problem that goes on throughout development—when you have to insure your child does something she refuses. Findi...
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Episode 129
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44:38
The Jealous Sibling
Anne is the mother of two tween boys 11 and 12. Being an Integrity kid, Brooks, the younger, is reacting to years of blame and punishments from parents who wish he was more like his brother. His defenses arise when he perceives t...
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Episode 128
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40:06
“Is that you or your gremlin talking?”
For 5 yr. old Aiko, “everything goes in really big and comes out really big”, says his mom, Janneke. Part of that ‘really big’ comes out at his 10 yr. old brother when Aiko’s jealousy rears up. Calling Noa a dummy over and over has become a hab...
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Episode 127
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42:33