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Reflections on Radicalization: Could It Happen to My Child?

Cindy Hovington, Ph.D. Season 9 Episode 5

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When we hear the word radicalization, we often think, "That could never happen to my family." But what if radicalization begins with something much more human—a need to belong, to feel understood, or to make sense of emotional pain?

In this episode, I sit down with men's coach and former counterterrorism professional James Stamatelos to explore why some young people become vulnerable to extremist ideas, how social media can amplify that vulnerability, and what parents can do to build stronger protective relationships with their children.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • What radicalization really is.
  • Why belonging and emotional pain matter.
  • How social media can influence young people.
  • Why curiosity is often more powerful than confrontation.
  • How connection can help protect our children.

Reflection Question:
If my child encountered harmful ideas online, would they feel safe enough to talk to me about them?


Book James mentioned:  How Minds Change: The Surprising Science of Belief, Opinion, and Persuasion (Amazon Canada)


Resources:

Violence Prevention Network

Diverting Hate

Life After Hate


Connect with James or learn more from him:

James J. Stamatelos is a professional coach and Certified Level 3 Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner who specializes in helping men overcome what he calls “anxious insecurity”—the persistent feeling of being chronically “not enough” despite external success.

Before transitioning into coaching, James worked in high-pressure environments as an intelligence analyst for the Region 13 Counter-Terrorism Task Force Fusion Center and as a specialist for the City of Pittsburgh Office of Emergency Management & Homeland Security. His background gives him a unique perspective on stress, identity, and psychological resilience.


The Radicalization of Men (The Psychology of Feeling ‘Not Enough’) on the EZ Conversations Podcast


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