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Welcome to The Get Your Energy Back Podcast, where we dive deep into topics that can help you boost your energy levels and live a more vibrant life. I’m your host, Shelby Hansen. As a life coach, invisible illness warrior, and kidney transplant recipient, I’ve navigated the waters of chronic fatigue for nearly a decade and can help you feel more energized and alive than ever before!This show explores how different nervous system states can impact your life and how you can harness this knowledge to improve your well-being.Do you feel like you're constantly stuck in fight or flight mode, overwhelmed by stress and anxiety? Are you feeling constantly drained and exhausted, struggling to get through the day? Or maybe you find yourself feeling stuck, lacking motivation and struggling to take action towards your goals. This podcast is here to help you understand the different nervous system states and how they affect you on a daily basis.Join me as I discuss strategies to regulate your nervous system, manage stress and anxiety, and cultivate a sense of calm and ease in your life. Whether you're looking to overcome limiting beliefs, improve your relationships, gain a better understanding of the factors that affect your energy levels, or simply find more joy and fulfillment in your life, The Get Your Energy Back Podcast is the perfect place to start. So sit back, relax, and join me on this journey toward a more energized, balanced, and fulfilling life.

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148. The Secret Rulebook That’s Draining Your Energy

June 09, 2025 • Shelby Hansen

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Ever find yourself thinking, “They should know better” or *“I shouldn’t still be dealing with this”?
That’s not just frustration — that’s your manual talking.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the invisible rulebooks we carry for other people and ourselves — and how those silent expectations are draining your energy, stressing your body, and keeping you stuck in survival mode.

You’ll learn:

What a manual is (and how to spot one)
How your nervous system reacts when others don’t follow your rules
Why your self-manual is often the most exhausting of all
What to do instead to feel free, grounded, and like yourself again

If you’ve ever thought:

“Why am I so tired all the time?”
“I shouldn’t need this much rest.”
“Why can’t they just understand what I need?”

This episode will feel like a deep exhale.

Mentioned in this episode:

→ My free Fatigue Recovery Call – We’ll get to the root of your exhaustion and create a path forward so your body can finally rest and heal. Click here to book yours.

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