Stop Apologizing | Part 2 of 3: Taking Back Our Power

Episode Title: Stop Apologizing | Part 2 of 3: Taking Back Our Power
Release Date: September 16, 2025

Hey Love! 💖

Have you ever felt like you had to shrink yourself, downplay your emotions, or apologize for wanting what you truly deserve in love? Whew—enough of that!

In this episode of L_ve Frequency, we’re reclaiming our power and unpacking why we’ve been conditioned to apologize for the way we love, feel, and show up in relationships. Inspired by a personal revelation and the story of Ruby Falls, we’ll explore why embracing love boldly—without fear or hesitation—is the key to personal freedom.

So let’s get into it!

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why We Over-Apologize in Relationships: The hidden reasons behind constantly saying “sorry” for your emotions, needs, and boundaries.
• Reclaiming Your Power: How shifting from seeking validation to standing in self-assurance transforms your connections.
• The Ruby Falls Lesson: A powerful metaphor on persistence, self-discovery, and creating space for love without shrinking yourself.

By the end of this episode, you’ll understand why unapologetically owning your truth is the key to deeper, more authentic relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Love doesn’t require an apology—self-awareness and confidence change the game.
 • Stop filtering your emotions to make others comfortable.
 • Standing in your power attracts relationships that honor and respect you.

Resources Mentioned:

•  Learn more about Ruby Falls HERE. 

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Chapters

• 1:11 Check-In
• 1:31 Bringing awareness to the issue
• 4:44 Exploring the Why
• 5:25 Ruby Falls
• 8:46 Remembering the Why
• 10:20 Dear Love

Transcript

Nia: You are now tuning into L_ve Frequency- Where Love Grows... So let's go!

 Welcome and thank you for checking in... before you check out. I'm Nia- Spoken Soul Artist, Author, Love Advocate and I will be your host this week as we continue our series on Taking Our Power Back and so tonight we're going to stop apologizing. You hear me!

Now last week, we talked about how you were doing and we used this as a way to bring awareness to how we feel. We also talked about the L_ve Frequency Meter (The Check In Meter), which we use on this show to help us do quick check-ins- to identify your levels. If you missed it, I'll include the link in the show notes so you don't forget to get caught up. 

So before we get right, I want to make sure you're alright.  So how are you? How is your spirit today? Just take a little moment for yourself. See, it's good to know where you are, because it will help you understand where you are growing.

How am I? You know honestly I was going to apologize for missing yesterday, but I am truly thankful it happened. So I would say I'm at a four today (Level 4). What yesterday taught me is that things aren't always gonna go the way that I plan, but how I handle it will determine the outcome.

See, I like things to be perfect and timely and when they don't go as planned, I can become panicked.... umm... very anxious and when I'm in that space, I know that I lack the ability to create solutions. So- preparation was lacking and I wasn't asking myself the right questions. I wasn't making sure that I had everything that I needed before I made those really large commitments. And I think this is both literal and spiritual.

It also helped me prepare or help me see a solution so that this doesn't happen again. I was sharing with my eldest daughter, umm, the fact that I missed my deadline and I was really kind of just being compassionate with myself, but just still venting because it's good for me.

And she asks, "Do you have a schedule?" As soon as she said it I knew what she meant and I thought- brilliant! So out of this, I'm excited to announce: 

1. That I will now have a posting schedule on the website starting in October and 
2. Also starting in October, L_ve Frequency will be coming to you more often.

These weekly check-ins just aren't enough. So while I missed you all, I will not be here apologizing for yesterday because it needed to happen. And let me explain to you how all this relates to Taking Our Power Back. I'm explain how I took mine back.

Over the last few weeks. I have been between a Level 2 and a Level 3 -with love specifically. In all other aspects of my life it's been beautiful. When I say beautiful, I mean, I've been able to easily find the balance amid the storm. However with love, Honey, I have been feeling FUCKING TIRED. 

Tired of being timid in love because it's met with so much skepticism. I'm done watering down the way I express love because someone else isn't ready to receive it. And I am over people telling me they worry about me because I love openly and genuinely.

For some it seems like love has become a hustle and you have to understand the rules of the game to play. This is a space where walls are created to protect ourselves from pain from our past and I don't know if it's to keep others out or to keep ourselves in anymore.

So if you come in with authenticity and an outpouring of love it's often perceived as a weakness. 

Let me tell you this- expressing love is not a weakness. It is not an insecurity. It is not a negative attribute. Stop telling people you love hard. There is nothing hard about love. It's us that make it so damn difficult.

So I'm running through these thoughts over and over in my mind, and I'm becoming frustrated; kind of deflated. So I had asked myself- why?! Why am I letting this really shake me in this way? Now you have to understand L_ve Frequency isn’t just some clever idea I created because I really wanted a podcast. 

Nah! This is who I am! So if my views on love are faltering how the hell can I have a podcast about it? What does that mean for my views on life? 

So- okay Nia, you're at a Level 2. You feel like you're giving up on love? I felt like I was embracing being single; embracing this cold world and then the most amazing thing happened...

I spent the weekend in Chattanooga, Tennessee with someone I lovingly refer to as my Twin Flame. Now, on this trip we visited Ruby Falls, which if you've never been, it is a beautiful waterfall cascading from the inside of a mountain. Now this may not sound coo to a whole bunch of folks, but to me- I love nature. I love visiting things like this.

However, I wasn't expecting the story behind the name. 

So there is this man, Leo Lambert. He follows his love, Ruby from Indiana to Tennessee... to Chattanooga to build a life. Now, caving was a hobby of his and Leo heard that this cave had an entrance... ummm... where you can go inside the cave and it was beautiful, but it was blocked off for construction purposes. They were creating a railway tunnel. So Leo decided if I can't get in from the side I’ll drill from the top. And they started to build an elevator shaft going down so that people can see it. Now, midway through... 

First, let me tell you- I just love this about Mr. Lambert. He didn't let the obstacle stop him on two occasions. His woman was leaving and he said, “Oh no, I'm following her.” And two, he couldn't get into the side of the mountain, which logically makes the most sense. He said, if I can't go in from the side. 

I'm going to create a path where there was none. I'm going to create my own path. 

So as they were making their way down the shaft; midway through a cold gust of air... right now Leo's curious. So he thinks- if there's air coming here then there’s space. Where's it coming from? So he starts digging. It took this man 17 hours, y'all. He didn’t know where he was going. He didn't know why. This wasn't the original destination, but something pulled him…

And honestly- 17 hours in a small space where there's no room to stand for hours. How many y'all would have walked away? My thought is- 20 minutes in… okay, I can see where we're going. Uh… guys... I think we need to go get more people, some lights, snacks, maybe... do some stretching. I wasn't ready and then let's go back. No...no... 17 hours!!

And he came upon Ruby Falls- a 145-foot waterfall, located 260 feet inside of Lookout Mountain; 1,140 feet underground. This waterfall flows into a landing pool that drains into the Tennessee River. If you get a moment please visit our social media pages. I'm going to share a video of Leo's passageway. So you can really see how small it was to understand the magnitude of this man's passion.

He said the same thing that was pulling him back from going deeper and deeper into that cave was the same thing that kept him going- his Ruby!! On the second trip, he took her and he named the falls after her. 

Love moves mountains and it has the ability to show us who we are.

I mean, think about it- there are not many things that we put this much energy into consistently. Leo and the story of Ruby Falls helped me remember why I started this podcast in the first place. See love did that- love created Ruby Falls. Love created an opportunity where others would have only seen defeat. 

I stood near that waterfall. I allowed the mist to absorb in my skin in appreciation for this opportunity. The opportunity to be for others what I needed when I thought I was alone. When I thought that how I loved needed an apology. I'm no longer apologizing because someone else isn't where I am. I will no longer alter my vision because someone can't see.

Shine your love light regardless, because we are necessary and there is nothing to apologize for. If you are genuinely moving with awareness (the first step) and exploring the why without apology (the second step)- you don't need to build walls, Baby, you start creating a standard for yourself. What would happen if you stopped apologizing and started believing.

How close you are to your Ruby Falls?

Dear Love, don't you dare give up on love. That's like giving up on yourself and deep down you don't really want to, but I need you to understand this has nothing to do with your current relationship, your ex, your family. I'm talking about you. Don't give up on how big and beautiful your love is. 

Don't turn off your love light because you're afraid of its shine. Explore it, learn it…

I promise you, you will fall in love with it, because it's your truth. How? How do you do that? You can start by stop apologizing. Not everyone is meant to understand your love. The question is, do you understand your love? Do you understand when it's time to move on in love. And I'll ask you again- how close are you to your Ruby Falls or are you standing in your own way?

Nia: Hey family, I know we got a little deep tonight, but you know what- it was necessary. So we're going to keep this conversation flowing, going, and growing by sharing this podcast with somebody who was right on the cusp of creating their own Ruby Falls!

And if y'all are out there as social media land- go ahead and follow us. We're on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. I will leave all those links in the show notes. Thank you for checking in. 

I can't wait to see you next time. I love you.

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