A Dream Life with Lorraine Pursell

What if the quiet nudge inside you—the one whispering there’s more—isn’t wishful thinking… but wisdom? 

Today on Call IT in With Dar, you’re going to meet a woman who knows, firsthand, what it means to rise from survival into self-expression. My guest, Lorraine Pursell, shares her powerful journey from an abusive marriage and deep depression to a thriving life of modeling, counseling, and helping women all over the world live what she calls their Great Big Life. 

After more than 30 years as a women’s counselor and coach, Lorraine is passionate about helping women stop living the life others expect of them—and finally say yes to the life that’s been calling their name. In this conversation, we talk about how dreams don’t arrive with a roadmap, but they do arrive with clues. Lorraine breaks down how identifying what you truly desire, taking small aligned steps, and trusting your intuition can create real, lasting change—at any age. 

She also shares some of her beautiful tools, including her powerful “Column of Light” exercise, and tells inspiring stories of women who’ve shifted careers, reclaimed their bodies, reversed age-related issues, and finally stopped postponing joy. 

And because Lorraine believes dreams need nourishment, not pressure, she’s offering listeners a free 30-day Dream Life Guide with her most powerful affirmations and a visualization to help you quiet imposter syndrome and step forward with clarity and confidence. 

If you’ve ever thought, “Is this all there is?”—or felt that pull toward something more meaningful—this episode is for you. 

Let’s call it in… your dreams, your truth, your Great Big Life with “Call It in With Dar”! 

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Transcript

What if the quiet nudge inside you—the one whispering there’s more—isn’t wishful thinking… but wisdom? 

Today on Call IT in With Dar, you’re going to meet a woman who knows, firsthand, what it means to rise from survival into self-expression. My guest, Lorraine Pursell, shares her powerful journey from an abusive marriage and deep depression to a thriving life of modeling, counseling, and helping women all over the world live what she calls their Great Big Life. 

After more than 30 years as a women’s counselor and coach, Lorraine is passionate about helping women stop living the life others expect of them—and finally say yes to the life that’s been calling their name. In this conversation, we talk about how dreams don’t arrive with a roadmap, but they do arrive with clues. Lorraine breaks down how identifying what you truly desire, taking small aligned steps, and trusting your intuition can create real, lasting change—at any age. 

She also shares some of her beautiful tools, including her powerful “Column of Light” exercise, and tells inspiring stories of women who’ve shifted careers, reclaimed their bodies, reversed age-related issues, and finally stopped postponing joy. 

And because Lorraine believes dreams need nourishment, not pressure, she’s offering listeners a free 30-day Dream Life Guide with her most powerful affirmations and a visualization to help you quiet imposter syndrome and step forward with clarity and confidence. 

If you’ve ever thought, “Is this all there is?”—or felt that pull toward something more meaningful—this episode is for you. 

Let’s call it in… your dreams, your truth, your Great Big Life with “Call It in With Dar”! 

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Speaker Dar 

Welcome in, Lorraine, I'm so excited to have you here on “Call It in with Dar” and before we jump up into the exciting topic of dream living, dream life, tell us a little bit about yourself and how you got to this stage. 

Speaker Lorraine 

Thank you, Darla. I really appreciate being here. Well, it all started for me when I was in my early 30s, and I realized in a shocking moment that I was actually in an emotionally abusive marriage of nine years, and that if I didn't leave, my son would either become an abuser or marry an abuser. He was four at the time, so I knew that I had to leave for his sake, but I was terrified because I had no marketable skills. I was not allowed to go to school. I was not allowed within the marriage, I was not allowed to pursue my entrepreneurial desires, and so that gives you a little bit of an indication of what I was tolerating. And so, but I knew I had to leave, and so I did, and I was afraid I was going to be under a bridge. I was afraid I was going to be homeless because I had nothing except house cleaning skills to market myself with and earn money. But I did go back to school, and I began my career to get my degrees, and in the process of that, I was discovered by a modeling agency, and I struck off on this great big life that I just never dreamed of. Well, I did dream in my 40s, actually, I'm sorry, when I was in my teens, I dreamed about being a model, but I thought there was no chance. But it just serendipitously happened, and I got to travel all over, be in New York, do runway for Saks Fifth Avenue, and a lot of great things happened, and I just said, I will never again pack it in for somebody else. I will never again make myself small at somebody else's whim. So that began the seed of my journey. And then when I got my masters in marriage, family and child counseling and went on, I just said, you know, I really want to help other women discover their great big life, their dream life, and because 90% of the deathbed regrets Darla are that I didn't live my ideal life, but rather the one that others expected of me, and that was so easily me that could have been me all the way to the end had I stayed with this man out of fear, and so I help women break out of that, whether they stay married or not, that's not the point. How do they function and live their total fulfillment within a marriage? Or if it seems better to not be there, how do they transition that? But the whole thing comes back to their personal fulfillment in living their dream life. 

Speaker Dar 

Absolutely and thank you for sharing your vulnerable story. That statement of never again making myself small. I think women can really resonate with that. So let's dive in a little bit to talk about getting to the dream life and how you help your clients. 

Speaker Lorraine 

Well, the first thing is, I try to get them to admit their desires, and there a lot of times women just plain don't know what they want. They don't know what their desires are, because as women, we have not been taught or brought up to cultivate that. We've been taught to only support other people's desires, especially males. And so that begins the journey of little, tiny steps. Like, what do I feel like doing right now? Is it a cup of tea? Is it sitting down and putting up my feet? Up? Is it because I'd like to take a walk? What is it I would like to eat? This certain thing just started to cultivate in tiny baby steps. What is it that I desire all the way to going back to when they were little girls. I believe when we were little girls, we had the seed of our dream. And if you wanted to be a ballerina when you were little, but you're 65 now, you're probably not going to become a ballerina, although you could take ballet classes. There's nothing stopping that. But what is the essence of that desire that you had? Did you have a desire to be seen? Did you have a desire to be witnessed? Did you have a desire to be physically adept? So we approach ways to have this total fulfillment. Moment, because they are doing the essence and the vibration of their dream, and it could wind up to actually be their dream. But the point is, they're not going out, meaning leaving this planet, leaving a half-lived life, or a life lived vicariously through their family, which is another thing that I really find with women, another thing we've been very enculturated in. And so it's, what was that dream? What was that initial dream? How can we give you fulfillment every single day? How can you approach the standard for every single day for the rest of your life, and identify where you are making yourself small. I still make myself small. Sometimes I catch myself still doing it. It's just so enculturated in us as women, 

Speaker Dar  

absolutely and I love how you talk about the essence or the vibration of that, and the fact that many of us are living a half-lived life, and you're there to kind of guide women into wholeness. Would you give a few clients stories for us keeping the clients names confidential, of course, just to give us examples of the kind of transformation that can occur. 

Speaker Lorraine  

Yeah, I have one client in the United States who was in radio for 30 years and got really tired of the early morning hours and reporting the news and being around all the negativity, and she really wanted to start performing music, and so we slowly transitioned her out of radio into a stable place where she could start performing. And now she's performing several times a week for money and collecting instruments and bringing joy to so many people's lives, and she has production, music production companies in two states. I have another woman in London who I work with, and she is in her 70s, and was filled with body aches and pains because she'd had a very hard life, and we have helped her resurrect her dreams, which was to be like a spokesperson. She's a truth teller. And so through this, it's caused her to look again at the religion that she was brought up in and still keep her relationship with her God, but not follow the dogma of the church, and she sometimes, when I'm on the call with her Darla, she will look back at me and I'm I swear I'm looking at a baby's face, because all the lines and all the stress in her body that has been there for her lifetime just disappears, like her whole face just reverse ages. That's the other thing that happens with my clients. They reverse age. They actually reverse age. Their illnesses reverse because there's no more friction holding it back, the friction that was holding them back. Do you know how much energy it takes to hold ourselves back from our power? It takes like wild horses. It's a lot. And so when we remove those things that we've allowed in our lives to just become normal, when we remove that friction, our whole body starts to reverse age. We take that drag off of our bodies. So I've seen that many times, many times, several times a week where women actually reverse age right in front of my eyes. 

Speaker Dar 

I love both of those examples. Thanks so much for sharing them. So let's move on to an activity that you have in store for us today, a small first step that our audience can participate in. 

Speaker Lorraine 

Yeah, well, I'd love to share what I call the column of light, and we begin by putting our hands on our chest and on our gut, and just beginning to close our eyes and just feel embodied. Feel your hands on those parts of your body and just see like you have a white light stream coming out of the center of your hands, and that's going into those parts of your body. And just see that as nourishing you. And then imagine that you're standing in a column of light. This column of light is coming from above, and it's flooding you, and you can tell when you're going ahead of your intuition or what you're supposed to be doing and traveling in your own strength, which isn't recommended. That's more the masculine energy. I train women to be in the feminine energy, and then once they learn what they're supposed to do. You. By guidance, by their inner guidance, then they use the masculine as the guardrails to make sure that they keep their commitment. But don't just take off in your own strength that's going to be damaging to your body. So you're standing here with your hand on your heart and on your gut, and you're in this column of light that's just streaming down on you, kind of like a light ray. And you can tell with every activity, if you're leaning forward out of the column of light, or if you're leaning back out of the column of light, if you're leaning forward, you're going ahead in your own energy, not recommended. If you're leaning back, you're reticent. And you know that source God, all it is is asking you to do something, but you're hesitant, and maybe it's not the right time yet, and you wait until it's the right time. But where it's the ideal sweet spot is when all of your body is in this column of light. You can tell them that you're all aligned. All pieces of you are ready to go so there aren't pieces of you sticking out, and that's when you can tell when your intuition is fully lined up and you're supposed to take a totally aligned action. So I call this the column of light. So let's just practice this for a moment. So take a breath and just feel it. Feel the relaxation flood your body. And maybe there is a dream that you have, something that you've desired to share, to express, but you might be afraid, and so that might be you leaning back out of the column of light. So just bring yourself back into the column of light, or maybe you're leaning forward thinking, Oh, I've gotta do this. I've gotta do this. I've gotta do this. I've gotta do this. That's going a little bit in your own strength. So you're gonna pull yourself back. You're gonna get all inside the column of light, and from this place of total peace and fulfillment, you're going to move from here and maybe ask your inner guidance, what is my very next step? What is my very, very next step? And when you get your answer, you commit to doing that. And that's when the masculine comes in to make sure. You put it on your calendar, you write on a card on your desk that you're going to do this within the week, or you're going to do this within the day. So just feel and breathe. You're totally in this column of light where there's no striving, there's no forcing and pushing. You're relaxed, you're in the hands of God, you're totally cared for. 

You're totally at peace and an utter fulfillment. Because as we progress in steps toward our dream, we are actually in our dream. So just practice the feeling of that wish fulfilled and enjoy how this feels. And this is the work that I bring my women into, this utter fulfillment, this utter peace, because they are taking the right next steps in their dream life, not holding themselves back and not letting anybody else hold them back, but with every step they Take, every hour they are in their column of light. 

Speaker Dar  

beautiful, oh, I love that it seems so simple, and then when you get into it, it has such depth. 

Speaker Lorraine 

Thank you. Thank you. 

Speaker Dar 

Thanks. I'm sure many of our listeners now want to know what is the next step with you, and I know that you've got a free gift for them, so I'm going to turn it over to you to explain what this is. 

Speaker Lorraine  

Well, thank you. My free gift is my 30-day dream life guide, and that is this beautiful printable PDF with my five. Most powerful affirmations on it, you can see it's full color, it's gorgeous. You can print it out and put it all over your house to remind yourself of these five affirmations. These are the five affirmations that were the most powerful for me as I was coming out of darkness into my full power, and also the five that I have helped my clients with all over the world, and you can print it out and put it all over the house and remind yourself of these five affirmations. It also includes a visualization called the imposter syndrome cure. So you listen to that for 30 days, you say these affirmations for 30 days, you will definitely be in a different place. And you can get that at Lorraine purcell.com forward slash dream life. Lorraine purcell.com forward slash dream life. 

Speaker Dar 

Terrific, and we will be putting that link into the show notes so you can also get it there. So before we conclude, is there anything else you're being called to share? 

Speaker Lorraine 

Yes, I would love to share what I forgot to share in the very beginning, I've been doing this work for 30 years, and I've helped 1000s of women around the world set loose into their dreams. And I've just been so privileged to do so absolutely. 

Speaker Dar 

And I feel so privileged to have you here. Have had you go through this great information about dream life? There's so many, so many women out there that are living like you said, a half-lived life. So thank you, Lorraine. I'm so grateful for having you with us today. 

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