No Bad Emotions with Kathryn Eipl

If you’ve ever felt like you’re holding it all together on the outside while quietly falling apart on the inside, today’s conversation is for you. 

Kathryn Eipl is an emotional strategist and creator of the Neuro-Resonance Method™, and her journey from corporate burnout and breakdown to embodied healing is both raw and incredibly hopeful. 

This episode is all about nervous system regulation, emotional truth, and remembering that nothing is wrong with you—you’re just ready for a different way. So join us In Call IT in with Dar right now! 

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If you’ve ever felt like you’re holding it all together on the outside while quietly falling apart on the inside, today’s conversation is for you. 

Kathryn Eipl is an emotional strategist and creator of the Neuro-Resonance Method™, and her journey from corporate burnout and breakdown to embodied healing is both raw and incredibly hopeful. 

This episode is all about nervous system regulation, emotional truth, and remembering that nothing is wrong with you—you’re just ready for a different way. So join us In Call IT in with Dar right now! 

Speaker Dar   

Hello, Kathryn, I'm so excited to have you with us today and for the “call it in podcast.” But before we get started, could you tell us a little bit about yourself and how you got to this point?  

Speaker Kathryn

Absolutely. Thank you so much for having me on your podcast. Darla, all right, so where I started, I was actually working in entertainment as a project manager, and I had been doing that and trained to do that for the majority of my life, and it's a very high stress job, and eventually I had a breakdown. And as a result, I was realizing that that industry, that line of work, just wasn't something I was no longer passionate about it wasn't aligned with who I was becoming in that moment, and that took a very big toll on me mentally and emotionally, because, as I had said, I I practically given my whole life to that career at the time, so I didn't want to face those feelings and those emotions at first, and that led me to numb them with alcohol and smoking cannabis. And so eventually, once I had to accept it, I couldn't run away from it anymore. I left the industry, and I started to rebuild myself. I immersed myself in yoga and started taking a yoga teacher training, and then from there, that's where everything just started picking up, almost as though that was the catalyst moment, and that's where I really confronted a lot of my emotions, a lot of things from my past that I had been neglecting, and some of them I even convinced myself didn't happen. So I launched further into the energy work side. I learned and got attuned with Reiki, started doing more cognitive behavioral therapeutic exercises on myself, because I've trained in that as well. And as I was doing more of that, I had started just teaching at a local yoga studio, and was slowly starting to fade out of my entertainment work and just finishing up the last two contracts I had signed for. And as I was going through that shift, so many people would notice, just like co workers, other students that were in my yoga classes, and they would ask me what I was doing, and I would share with them like, Oh, I'm just using cognitive behavioral therapy on myself. I'm doing a lot more yoga, getting really strong in my Reiki practice, and they were interested and wanted more, or they wanted a session with me. So then that morphed into coaching, and throughout the years, my coaching has shifted and morphed as I've been working with different people. But at the core of it, it was always a notice for emotions, because we're not actually taught how to handle our emotions or how to, sometimes even name them. So if we can't name them, how can we process them and work through them? So that's really what I started, helping people learn how to do for themselves, and that's through that I created my business, which is “Eipil” healing. And that stands for every individual person is love healing as a reminder that no matter what people are going through or what their past has been, we are all doing our best. We're all seeking and striving towards love, whether that's self love, love for those around us, love of life, even. So there you have it in a nutshell. That's me, and that's what's led me here. 

Speaker Dar  

All right, that's beautiful. Thank you for being so vulnerable and personal with your story. I bet some of our listeners feel like you did right now. You. In something that they've worked really hard to do, and then found that it really wasn't the answer and had to make that big change. So I think you're a great role model for that and how you came out on the other side. So let's dive in. I know I've heard you say this is one of your favorite sayings, there are no bad emotions. Let's have you dive into that a little bit. 

Speaker Kathryn 

I love this so much. I really, truly believe that there are no bad emotions. And as I've been working with people, they come and they're like, Well, I don't really want to feel grief. I don't want to, like, dip into my anger or my sadness. I just kind of want to, like, push it down and pretend it's not there. And my first question is always okay, well, how is that going for you? How do you feel? Just pushing it down there? Have you forgotten you feel that way? They're like, No. So I truly believe that emotions are here to show us where we can grow. So if you're mad at a situation, there's a reason. It's most likely because you feel like it's keeping you from something. So let's feel that anger. What does that feel like? Does it resonate somewhere within your body as a temperature shift? Or maybe if you're visual, some people will identify emotions with certain colors and give it a texture, sometimes even a shape. And if you work through the anger, then you can move up into the next emotions you know, going up into sadness, because then you're, in a sense, mourning something that you either lost or didn't have. And through that, you can build up into acceptance, then it becomes happiness. Then you can move into joy, then you can shift up into love. So that's why I believe no emotions are bad emotions, there are emotions that are vibrating lower on the energetic scale, which is things like anger, sadness, grief, and those are what a lot of people consider to be like, the negative emotions or the bad emotions. That's really just how a lot of people in our society, in our world tend to label them. But you're not going to be able to move through them and go up that energetic scale of emotions if you can't process those lower ones. So it's like, you gotta it's almost like you're climbing the emotional ladder, which is why I like to say their compass points you in the direction to grow. So it's like, okay, give yourself permission to really feel into it. So I provide different exercises and techniques for people to really get into their emotions and create a safe space for them to embody anger. And do you know some rage exercises just as examples? 

Speaker Dar  

Thank you. Those were great examples. And let's dive even deeper into your work, maybe with a few client stories of transformation. And let's keep their names, of course, confidential, but learn from your work. 

Speaker Kathryn 

Yes, of course, there was, let’s see I want to think about who I want to share here. So there was so I tend to work with people who are either going through battling cancer or another long-term illness, and survivors of cancer, survivors or any other long term illness as well, and a lot of times when they come to me, they've, you know, there's a feeling of defeat, because you might have done everything in your life to be super healthy. There was one client who came. If she didn't have this freak running accident, they wouldn't have found out that she had pancreatic cancer, because she was a nurse practitioner. She was retired at that point, but she knew how to take care of herself. She knew how to eat well. She would run most days. And so when she had got the initial diagnosis, it was just very mind boggling as to how, how that happened, and she started to accept, you know through our time together that no one is really exempt from those illnesses, right? And you can beat yourself up as much as you want about why you have it, how like, where it possibly could have come from. But also, there's a big part of genetics that comes in that we don't, can't analyze, right? So she started to gain this acceptance for it, and she would use the sound healing sessions as visualization exercise and visualize her tumor shrinking and just shriveling up and drying out, and about a few months later, she was actually in remission for that. 

Speaker Dar   

Oh, that's a beautiful story, right?

Speaker Kathryn

I'm not. And again, I don't want to claim that I'm curing cancer here, because she was also in chemo treatment and everything as well. So, but that's just the power to show you what a mind shift can have, what effect that can have on the physical body?  yeah, so that's one. And then there's another client, who he was seeking, just wanting to build up his social network, because he was at a stage in his life where he felt just very isolated, like he was active. He goes to a gym, goes and attends yoga classes and other workout classes that he's interested in in his neighborhood. However, he just didn't feel like he had a close network of friends, like he had people he would see at the gym and, you know, would talk to and everything. And he wanted to build up some of his relationships he had within his family dynamic as well. And so we had a series of four sessions, and each time we were really peeling back the reasoning of where it was a fear of putting himself out there because they had gone through a divorce. That divorce, you know, caused a split between him and his kids, and so he was kind of afraid to be himself, because that experience had conditioned him that, like, if you are yourself, people will pull away. So that was the belief that he was carrying. So we, you know, dissected that and looked for evidence where that's actually true. And surprise, maybe not surprised, there wasn't much evidence that that was true. Instead, there was evidence that, like, he was starting to build better relationships with the people in his family that he wanted to; they were just moving a little bit slower. And so once we knew that, then it was coming up with, Okay, well, what are things that are within your control. So he found a couple of community events that he wanted to go to we would work on, really just tapping into his own authentic self, really dropping him into his heart space before he would go to those events so that he could be himself with no judgment, and he could also receive the other people there without judgment. And that caused major shifts for him. And the next time I saw him, he just, you know, I had so many. Great, great things to say, the relationships that there were two main relationships in his family that he wanted to work on, and he kind of got into a stagnant spot with those. And as he was sharing more information about it, I just asked like, are you listening to everything that they're saying? And that was a light bulb moment for him, because he's like, You know what? I've just been talking so much, I don't think I've truly been listening to what they were saying. So then he took that and put that into his life, and now he is just flourishing as a little social butterfly. It's so beautiful to see him. He's gone and seen those family members a few times since, and came back and just reported that everything went great, no arguments, no unexpected conflicts, and he's been able to meet new people rather easily without being hard or critical on himself. 

Speaker Dar 

Thank you for sharing both of those success stories, and I, I love that you picked two extremely different ones so that we could see that transformation. I also love that question, is it really true? I asked myself that quite often, is it really true, and then looked for evidence. So that's a great little technique, but I know you have another technique that you're going to actually lead us through. So let's go on to that. 

Speaker Kathryn 

Yeah, so this is just going to be a simple round of breath work, because a lot of times when we let our emotions rise and we start to drop into that moment of whether it's anger, maybe panic, even anxiety or stress, it's we all know what happens. We feel our body starting to get hot, maybe our skin gets flush, we might even start shaking, and that's our body has shifted from the parasympathetic system into the sympathetic system, and that is our fight or flight. So our body is signaling to us that we're not safe. We need to do something, and that's when people tend to react rather than respond. And when you're working with emotions, they're very delicate. So instead of responding, because that can add fuel to the fire, right? We don't want to do that. We want to start to let the fire slowly fizzle down. We're going to do some simple rounds of breath work to really help activate the parasympathetic nervous system. So we're going to take a few deep breaths in and out on our exhales, we're going to exhale for longer than what we inhale. So wherever you are in your space, if you can sit up nice and straight, try to have a straight back, if you want to lean up against the chair you're sitting in or against a wall to help support you. You could even do this laying down, if you have that luxury at the moment, and if you're able to, you can close your eyes. If you're listening to this while driving, please keep your eyes open. But if you're at your desk at home, you close your eyes. Just take a big clearing breath out, emptying out the lungs,  and slowly breathe in for five counts, 12345,  hold it for 41234, exhale for 812345678, inhale for 54321,  hold for 4321, exhale for 8765431 last round, inhale, five. 4321, hold for 4321, exhale for 87654321, you can sit there in that feeling for as long as you'd like. Just take a big breath in no counts and slowly let it go,  emptying your lungs completely before taking your next breath. Can gradually blink, open your eyes if you close them and take a moment to assess how you feel. Do you notice a shift just with those three changes of breath? 

And so I share this because no matter where we are, what we're doing in our day, breath is the only tool that we're always going to have as long as we're living and breathing. Breath is our biggest tool. And some people, I think I know I used to for sure before I got into my holistic wellness journey, I definitely underrated the breath. I didn't give it as much power as I do now. So I want to I share this with you, because I want you to recognize the next time you are starting to feel overwhelmed and becoming, you know, scared, anxious, or maybe even mad, just find a space for yourself where you can take just a minute or two minutes to really focus on finding that slow breath. So what we did was we breathed in for five breaths, we held it for four and we exhaled for eight. Anytime that you exhale longer than you inhale, it helps speed up the process of dropping you into your parasympathetic nervous system. So I hope you find that helpful, and if you have any questions or want to share your insights, feel free to contact me. Thank you. 

Speaker Dar  

That was a great reminder of the power of breath, and I know if we're just really conscious or really present, we can notice that we do hold our breath. I mean, just a simple thing, like getting up from a chair. Almost everyone holds their breath when they do it, but the people who become aware and start breathing, they feel it feels so much better. Makes such a big shift. So I'm glad you shared that with us. Thank you. I know you're also going to share that you have a free gift for our audience, so let's move into that now. 

Speaker Kathryn 

Yes, thank you so much for reminding me. So I would like to give everyone listening to this a free neuro resident strategy session. So that is where we're going to lay out a road map. So we'll start with where you're at today. If there are any patterns, whether they're thought patterns or behavioral things, like using that example of my client who wanted to become more social because he felt like he was in a hermit phase. So if there are things like that that you want to shift, or even the other client where she was looking at something in a negative way and beating herself up about it, and shifted her mindset into acceptance, and also empowered herself to move through that. We'll start with where you are in the present day, and then where it is that you envision yourself. What is your goal, and from there, we'll lay out the roadmap of how to get from point A to point B. So you can go to my website and sign up for my email list, and then you'll get an email with all the details. On how to claim the neuro resonance strategy, and you just are able to sign up and book with me online with the code welcome in all caps. And I'll also share the direct link with Darla so you can put it in the show notes if you'd like 

Speaker Dar 

….exactly it will be available in the show notes for sure. Now, before we wrap up today, is there something else that you're being called to share with the audience? 

Speaker Kathryn  

I love that question. Thank you for asking that what is coming through is a lot of times we build up a story in our head, or we're afraid to have a conversation with somebody or confront someone about something, because we have built up how we think they're going to respond in our head. So instead of feeding your story, I want to ask you to start picking it apart. Ask yourself, Where is there evidence that this person is going to respond this way, what is the evidence that they will respond differently than what I think they will and give yourself the space to release attachment to either one of those things? Because when we come at it as ourselves being authentic with our hearts, we're often treated to something very different than what our head has created for us. 

Speaker Dar  

I Oh, I got truth bumps on that one girl, I'm so glad you shared that. Oh, what a great message. Thank you so much for being with the “ call it in podcast” today. We sure appreciate it. 

Speaker Kathryn 

Thank you so much for having me on this podcast. I appreciate this opportunity, and I'm happy to connect with you, with anyone listening, and answer any further questions you guys may have. My website is Eipl healing.com. E, i, P, L, healing, and you can find me on social media, Instagram, LinkedIn, Tiktok, Facebook, all under “Eipl, healing!” 

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