Pain to Power with Becca Briggs

Have you ever looked back at a painful chapter of your life and realized… it was actually the beginning of something wonderful perhaps your awakening? 

Today’s episode is all about turning life’s hardest moments into personal power. I’m joined by spiritual life coach Becca Briggs from Astoria, Oregon, who shares her courageous journey from surviving a toxic relationship to helping others heal deep emotional wounds and reclaim their lives. We talk about how childhood patterns quietly shape our adult relationships, why unhealed pain lives in the body, and how awareness — not avoidance — becomes the gateway to real transformation. 

Becca shares powerful client breakthroughs, a simple body-scan practice to reconnect with stored emotions, and how creative tools like art journaling can help transform struggle into growth, compassion, and self-trust. Because pain isn’t something to compare or hide… it can become the very force that leads us back to love. 

Let’s dive into Pain to Power….Call IT in With Dar! 

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Transcript

Have you ever looked back at a painful chapter of your life and realized… it was actually the beginning of something wonderful perhaps your awakening? Today’s episode is all about turning life’s hardest moments into personal power. I’m joined by spiritual life coach Becca Briggs from Astoria, Oregon, who shares her courageous journey from surviving a toxic relationship to helping others heal deep emotional wounds and reclaim their lives. We talk about how childhood patterns quietly shape our adult relationships, why unhealed pain lives in the body, and how awareness — not avoidance — becomes the gateway to real transformation. Becca shares powerful client breakthroughs, a simple body-scan practice to reconnect with stored emotions, and how creative tools like art journaling can help transform struggle into growth, compassion, and self-trust. Because pain isn’t something to compare or hide… it can become the very force that leads us back to love. Let’s dive into Pain to Power….Call IT in With Dar! 

Speaker Dar 

Welcome in. Becca, I'm so excited about our conversation today about pain and power, but before we dive in, how about telling our audience a little bit about yourself and how you came to this point. 

Speaker Becca  

Yeah, hello. Thank you for having me. My name is Becca, and I'm a spiritual life coach based out of Astoria, Oregon, and I would say that as much as I've always been interested in personal growth, my real journey to get here started a little over 10 years ago, when I left toxic abusive relationship and kind of my healing through that relationship and childhood traumas and led me into the path of being able to coach and help other people in their lives as well. 

Speaker Dar  

Thank you. A spiritual life coach, let's deal now with pain and power. I'll have you just dive in. 

Speaker Becca  

So what drew me to this topic of wanting to share is in my experiences within myself and with working with other people. Often the challenges that we go through in life are usually repeated patterns of stuff that we learned from or experienced as children. And sometimes we get so used to these patterns and these experiences that we don't even see them. And so being able to address the wounds that are there do the work to help heal them, honor the space of our inner and, you know, inner child selves, inner teenager selves that felt those original wounds and use the pain and hurt that we've gone through as a tool to help better ourselves and better others. How do we turn something that was once really hard or really bad into something that's good and healing and beneficial? Because I believe wholeheartedly that our struggles and our challenges aren't there to harm us. They're there to help shape our perspectives into something that can be of good use. 

Speaker Dar 

Yes, I love that shift. I actually call it flipping the script. I have a name for it. Would you dive into addressing the wounds and what some of these repeated patterns are like so people can identify them within themselves? 

Speaker Becca 

Yeah, absolutely. And you know that they all take on different forms, depending on what our experiences have been, but it can be anything from, you know, if, if you were taught from a young age that it's not safe to share your opinion, we can, you know, shy ourselves down and not speak our truths, or have not have good boundaries with people, let people take advantage of us, or find ourselves in toxic, abusive relationships, let's say, with my own experience there, you know, or if you know, growing up in in environments where you couldn't trust or rely on the authority figures to protect you, often manifest into having quote, unquote control issues where we kind of control the environments and relationships that we're in with people, or, you know, take charge, to control the narrative of how people talk about us, or how people perceive us, and putting on masks and and a facade of who we are so that people can't see who we are deep down, because that's vulnerable and doesn't feel safe. You know, patterns, the also that I've seen recently are overworking and over committing to things, either as a way to keep busy, to not have to, you know, sit with ourselves and face any kind of disconnect or discontent that we feel in ourselves or as a way to try to prove ourselves and prove our worthiness through what we do and give to others. Those are a couple examples. 

Speaker Dar  

Yes, those are great ones, not speaking our truth, having boundary issues, perhaps always going from one toxic relationship to another or feeling we have to control every situation or take charge, the wearing of masks, the overworking, the keeping busy, pretty much the stuff or ignore or overcompensate. Right? I'd say, great points. So let's dive into some of your client transformations. Of course, we'll keep their names confidential, but it will give our listeners some examples of what can happen and how things can be improved. 

Speaker Becca 

Yeah, so I've worked with a lot of creative people. I'll say Not that that's a requirement to work with me, but I tend to draw on a lot of artists and creatives and very deep, sensitive people that often, you know, will find themselves either putting a lot of work and effort into projects thatfeel like they are trying to think of how to word this. There's a lot of pressure to show up and show up in a way that people will like and accept. And so if there's parts of themselves that they don't like or accept, we'll say I had one client who was just very stuck between going through a lot of hardships in her personal life and then trying to show up as an artist and a creative and it almost in a performative way of well, how can I show up in the way that people want me to show up, but I'm also behind the scenes going through, you know, this challenge and family issues and health issues and a breakup and toxic friendships, and how do I honor both? And through our work together, we're able to work through a lot of those wounds that showed up, and we're able to kind of help with the structure and logistics of creative work, to help her combine them. And now the art that she's producing is deeper than what it was before. It's about the hardships and challenges and pain that she's gone through in a way that is more uplifting and encouraging to people, instead of avoiding the problems and, you know, creating about things that are all just good and happy and and feel nice. Let's talk about something real. And then I have another client who I helped navigate through leaving an abusive relationship as well. And how, you know you're in this relationship for years, and it takes its toll on you, and, you know, redefines what you think of yourself. And so how, how do we, where do we go from here, kind of thing? And having gone through that myself, it was very close to my heart to help support her with that of you know, how do we figure out, who are you? What do you want? How do you get there and learn how to be confident in yourself and show up as your most empowered version despite what these past few years have been. And how do you redefine what this person told you through all those years, and you know, new beliefs about yourself that were formed through that relationship that aren't necessarily true. They were just spoken to you so many times you perceived it as true. And I have another client that has struggled a lot with boundaries and communication and feeling like she has to give and be of support, to feel worthy to the people in her life, and so learning how to be kind. You don't have to be nice all the time. You don't have to show up in a certain way for people to think a B or C about you, it's you know about showing up with integrity and honesty and kindness. And sometimes kindness is telling people no, sometimes kindness is showing up authentically, even if it's messy. And what does that look like? What does that feel like? And how do we change the patterns that you know, even though you were giving and helping so many people, it was depleting you and causing you harm. And as much as sometimes it feels good to be a martyr, and I'll say, like with the, you know, with pain and challenges and problems in our lives, you know our I think our society as a whole is very set up to encourage people to feel sorry for themselves and feel a victim and feel like there's nothing I can do, so I'll just give to other entities to feel validated and good about myself. But we can't. We can't show up. Fully in our strength and power if we're depleted, and so being able to shift from that, that martyr victim mindset of a woe is me. I've gone through so many hard things and bad things, and this person's taking advantage, but I I'm going to be the better person and give to them, or, you know, I'm going to continue to show up in the situation that I hate or that drains me and depletes me, but because I want to be viewed as as a good person in doing so, and how do we shift that to what would my most empowered version do? What would the strongest, most loving version of myself, despite what anybody else thought or felt about it, what? How would they show up?  

Speaker Dar 

Beautiful transition from the pain, the martyrdom, victim and victim mentality to the power of, how would my best self show up? That's a beautiful lesson to be learned. 

Speaker Becca  

It's one of my favorite questions to ask myself. One of my favorite questions to ask myself is, what would my most empowered self do, or my best self? And sometimes it's the thing that's not going to be the most comfortable or most easy, but it's the best thing that you can do for yourself? 

Speaker Dar 

Yes, I love that you said that. I say, What would my super woman do? I love that. I know the next thing we're going to do is an activity for our audience. Let's get them thinking about this topic. 

Speaker Becca  

So one of my favorite techniques that I like to do, both for myself and for my clients, is what's known as a body scan exercise. And this is just a starting point, I'll say, to kind of bring awareness to any emotions or pains or discomforts that we might be avoiding. And once we bring it to the surface, then we can kind of figure out how we want to navigate it, but you don't know what you don't know. So how we do this exercise is I invite everyone to just kind of sit back in a comfortable position. If you're able to close your eyes and just take a few deep breaths in and out, and as you're breathing in and out, just start to notice if there's any points in the body that you feel a tightness, tension, discomfort, pain notice anywhere it might even be a subtlety. And when you notice these points, these positions of tightness or tense, pain discomfort, just breathe into those spaces, breathing slow and deep and focus on the spot now that has the most discomfort to it, and just ask that point in your body, what emotion is coming forward or what learning is coming forward that you need to be aware of Now, allow it to come to the surface, no judgment, no action, just awareness. And you can repeat this with various parts if you notice a tightness or tension anywhere in your body, then you can do this at any time, but just to bring the awareness of any any pain that's being stored emotional, physical or mental that's being stored in the body and as kind of a finishing bonus to it, I like to then, once you have the awareness of what pain is there or what message wants to come forward, is then sending love to that place. Sending love. Love, healing compassion, and then being able to give yourself 

whatever that need is that's coming up that wants to be tended to. And 

Speaker Dar  

beautiful, just that simple shift. Thank you so much. Becca, let's move on to talking about what else you have for our audience, the great 10-point prompt gift. 

Speaker Becca  

Yeah, so I just came up with this recently, actually, so it's if you visit my website, Becca briggs.com and go to my resources page, I have a 10 art journaling prompts for personal growth and healing, and it's a resource I made as a fun, creative kind of light way To start, if you're completely new to the personal growth journey, or just want to revisit some of the basics, if you've been going through the growth journey, and sometimes we can get swept away in it. So coming back to basics, of a few different prompts that we can do to start seeing where we are in our lives, where maybe we've been holding ourselves back or been prioritizing things that we don't want to anymore, doing some kind of shadow work or parts integration to kind of bring healing to the more difficult parts of ourselves. I'll say it's a very fun resource. And I'm excited to share it with anyone who wants to take a creative take on personal growth. Great. 

Speaker Dar  

And we'll have that information for all of you on the show notes page, so that you don't have to memorize right now. Where to find it. It will be on the show notes page. So Becca, before we go, I'd love it if you have something more that you're being called to share with our audience. I'd love it if you just kind of tuned in and let us know. 

Speaker Becca  

Yeah, the message that's been coming forward a lot that I've been wanting to share, and when we discussed having this episode, and the topic, it just felt perfect, is that the pain and struggles and traumas that we go through is not a contest. It's not a challenge of who has the most hardships, or who has it worse, or who's gone through the worst traumas and experiences. We've all experienced hardships. We've all experienced difficult times. We all have wounds and pains, and we can use it as a tool for staying a victim in those hardships, or we can use it as a tool to spread more good and growth and love and compassion to others. It's our choice of how we use it, and you understand that the pain that we've gone through helps shape our experiences, helps shape our perception, and helps give us the knowledge and resources to then be able to help others. And I think once we tune into that energy, that we can actually help heal the world on a deeper level, and collectively come together with love and compassion to do good. 

Speaker Dar   

Thank you. Beautiful insight, especially with all that's going on in the world right now, that pain and trauma is not a contest, and I know for one, I do not want to be part of that contest. I want to be part of the change. Thank you so much. 

Speaker Becca 

Thank you for having me. Bye. 

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