As a US soldier with almost ten years of service under my belt, I've faced the same dilemma many of us encounter: the love for my job versus the gnawing sense that it might be chaining me down. This episode is a heartfelt narrative that intertwines professional insights with personal anecdotes, aiming to arm you with the tools for self-advocacy and personal growth, both within the workplace and in the broader scope of life.
Embarking on this auditory expedition, we grapple with the intricacies of role comprehension and the nuanced dance of balancing identities across our varied life stages. From the disciplined military setting to the unpredictable civilian domain, I unfold the chapters of my own journey, focusing on adaptability, teamwork, and the art of communication as cornerstones of effective collaboration. As we traverse topics such as time management, embracing feedback, and the pursuit of personal goals, I reveal strategies that have bolstered my productivity and resilience, and how these can be applied to your own daily rhythm.
Tune in for a candid discussion on the necessity of establishing boundaries and the pursuit of a harmonious work-life balance. As your guide, I don't just share experiences but offer actionable advice, encouraging you to become the director of your life's narrative. This conversation isn't just about navigating the waters of career and personal development—it's about steering your ship with confidence and intention, ensuring you're not simply a passenger on your own journey.
Be genuine to yourself and kind to people.
As a US soldier with almost ten years of service under my belt, I've faced the same dilemma many of us encounter: the love for my job versus the gnawing sense that it might be chaining me down. This episode is a heartfelt narrative that intertwines professional insights with personal anecdotes, aiming to arm you with the tools for self-advocacy and personal growth, both within the workplace and in the broader scope of life.
Embarking on this auditory expedition, we grapple with the intricacies of role comprehension and the nuanced dance of balancing identities across our varied life stages. From the disciplined military setting to the unpredictable civilian domain, I unfold the chapters of my own journey, focusing on adaptability, teamwork, and the art of communication as cornerstones of effective collaboration. As we traverse topics such as time management, embracing feedback, and the pursuit of personal goals, I reveal strategies that have bolstered my productivity and resilience, and how these can be applied to your own daily rhythm.
Tune in for a candid discussion on the necessity of establishing boundaries and the pursuit of a harmonious work-life balance. As your guide, I don't just share experiences but offer actionable advice, encouraging you to become the director of your life's narrative. This conversation isn't just about navigating the waters of career and personal development—it's about steering your ship with confidence and intention, ensuring you're not simply a passenger on your own journey.
Be genuine to yourself and kind to people.
There we go over here playing with my little mixing board, like just use the intro. You recorded the intro to use the intro, so use the intro. Y'all probably what didn't even know y'all was getting the episode. I told y'all it was a do year. When it's kicking the episode, I'm just gonna do it. I ain't gonna be talking about episode episode, new episodes, just always think new episodes are coming, new episodes are coming. I always say, like this podcast is not really like my first job, second job, third job. It's like a hobby. You know, talking to people Don't mean I shouldn't take it more serious, like that's what brings. It's actually a perfect segue into today's episode and today we're going to talk about being your best employee, being your best employee. I done kind of hit on it before, but it's just been reoccurring. I tell you it's been reoccurring. Everybody know, or, if they don't know, or you're new to my podcast.
Speaker 1:I'm a United States soldier, been in the Army for coming up 10 years, I think. I'm at like nine, nine years, five months and stuff like that, and I'm I'll be to the time I'll be teeter-tottering, I'll be ready to get out and then sometimes I'll be, I'll be ready to stay in, like I love my job, don't get me wrong, but also get caught up on. I feel like it's holding me back. And well, I was gonna say for those who don't get me wrong, but I also get caught up on. I feel like it's holding me back. And well, I was gonna say for those who don't know, but don't, nobody know, like I don't tell nobody when I'm leaving. But I just came back from training and, of course, like you join the army, you, it's a, it's a good chance you're gonna be away from your family. Well, you're gonna be away from your family, but it's a good chance you're gonna be away from your family, for, well, you're going to be away from your family, but there's a good chance you're going to be away from your family for an extended period of time. Training, freaking, just rotations, deployments, anything. You're going to be away from your family.
Speaker 1:And this time just felt different. And the only reason this time felt different and I'll go to a lot of y'all is because I have been to this place many times before and this felt like the biggest waste of time and it's just like that's. That's what sucks, it's just like any other job, that's what's up when your time is wasted. When your time is set up there and be wasted, you're like I could have been doing something productive with with my productive, with my time. And then that's what got me to thinking about this episode. I actually want to do another one. We're going to talk about this one because we're doing this one Before we get too deep into it. You know I miss y'all, I'm just talking to y'all Before we get too deep into it.
Speaker 1:I apologize for that bleed on my first episode of 2024, the due year. The content is still good, but the bleed, I apologize. The issue was I had a cord. I had like two, three mics, right, and I unplugged the mic. But I didn't unplug the cord so I chunked it up to oh man, I should have checked it like sometimes I'll go through or not.
Speaker 1:Sometimes, me being a better employee for myself, I'll go through. I'll do a dry episode, just me talking, talking into the mic, seeing my limitations, my left and right, so how I can move, how much I can move. It is my mic up too loud? But if I need to be talking like this on a mic, it's still a register clear. So I need to be up on the mic like this, adjusting levels, like I do that, and on that particular episode I didn't. I didn't. I did not do a dry run episode, I think. No, you know what. I take that back. I did a dry run episode, but I kept forgetting to switch the mic over to the mic that I needed it to be on. So when I finally switched the mic over to where it needed to be, I didn't think about doing the whole process. I usually do.
Speaker 1:You see me looking down here. I know Facebook usually get the content first, because I record the videos on Facebook. While I'm recording the videos in my studio, I upload it to Facebook simultaneously. So when I get done with it, it facebook don't get no edit. They'll eventually get the other video, but they don't get no edit or nothing. They get the raw footage of me starting from the beginning, whatever happened, happened, me starting up or whatever. So you see me looking down, just engaging both for the audience youtube and facebook and for those of y'all who just listen to me Spotify, apple Podcasts, amazon, wherever you get your podcast at then it ain't really important for y'all. But yeah, so get back into it.
Speaker 1:Like I said, I apologize for that and get back into what I was saying with this episode. So I'm aware of training and I'm sitting there thinking like I could be doing something productive with my life. I get, I think. I think it's just to the point where I'm 28 years old. I've been doing this since I was 18. I've been doing some form of military training since I was 14 because I did ROTC and that's what told me I was gonna come into the service. And I just feel like, not even feel I know. I think within myself I've been a good employee or the service and not so good of an employee for myself and, like I say, how I got there with the training?
Speaker 1:I'm sitting there at training and I'm like you could be doing something productive, like they wasting your time, taking no time away from my family, my brother, you know, just family, family in general. I could be doing something productive. I could be shooting episodes, I could be working out, just keep thinking all this stuff right. And then I'm sitting over here like, no, you wouldn't Like, you got to and sometimes you got to be real with yourself. So I'm sitting up here like, no, you wouldn't Like, if I was at home, I'd probably be laid up, I probably would go to the gym or I'd be working, like regardless.
Speaker 1:One thing that's been constant in my life, like I say coming up on this decade, is I'm going to work, the Army is going to work, you are going to work for yourself. And I literally felt like I had a breakthrough, like this episode right now is late, it's late and once again I was just like I'm not going to skip on an opportunity to do an episode Because I already know what I have to do for the service. Like I was still supposed to be at training but they wanted me to do something back at home. They sent me home. So here I go, and not because I don't toot, not up to my horn and nothing like that, but we, we really short, like hey, people ain't going to the army like like they used to, we short, we don't have that many people to do it and every and everybody else that could do it they got other obligations. So here we go, I get the, I guess, long and short end of the stick with this opportunity to be able to come home early but back to work. Like, literally, I don't think I've been home, I don't think I've been back in Texas 72 hours. Like I literally touched down I think it was Saturday Plane, landed at 1. I didn't get home, didn't leave base until like 3.30. So, like I say, keep rolling until that point.
Speaker 1:The Army is going to work Like the Army is going to get Staff Sergeant Moore, but my other businesses, things that I want to do for myself, they don't get Victoria the same way that the Army gets. That's all more. And I'm sitting over there and, like I said, like I said, it's the do year. That's the whole theme for these episodes. It's the do year, new year, do year. Don't talk about it, just be about it. Like I say, I wish they would have left standing on business, but it's the same thing. Right, it's your, you know, do it. So, like I say, bring me back here. We sitting over here and I'm like just just just shoot an episode like, why not? Like I said, the army gonna work you, I know what I need to do for the army tomorrow, but it should not stop me from being a good employee for myself when I say I'm a good employee for the Army.
Speaker 1:Ain't nobody perfect ups and downs, but a lot of times that I've failed. I want to say, like I failed the Army. It's really like I failed myself. And I got to the point, like I said, I'm 28 years old. I got to the point where I realized, like you, the problem and I say that like if y'all watch some of my older episodes. I said, like I'm the problem.
Speaker 1:I know different little things that I need and what I need to to operate or what's gonna motivate me, and I'll say it all the time like I'm a self-motivated person. So it's not too much outside world pull, push, that's gonna get me to where I need to be. So when I lose that motivation from within it's it's really hard getting me out that space. I'm one like I'm one of my biggest motivators besides Jesus Christ. Like literally I'm one of my biggest motivators. Like it's like if you don't do it, who else gonna come do it? If you don't take care, you don't take care of your family, you don't do what you need to do, who else gonna come up here and do it? So that's kind of like my logic on it and my thought process about doing this episode.
Speaker 1:So, like I said, get into this episode being a good employee for yourself, understanding Like I could do something in the service. I could be drained. And then I come home, give my significant other my little babies, my family, like I don't give my significant other my little babies, my family, I don't give it the time that it needs. The Army not going to let you perform below standard. It might not be high at your best all the time, but it's a standard and the Army ain't going to let you perform below standard. Truthfully, on most things to get you put out, you just got one or two chances to mess up and it's back to the house.
Speaker 1:But what I've learned with myself and I think this was getting me so irritated with the service is you work and you work and you work and you work and you do and you do and you be the best employee, the best soldier that you can and you kind of get the same results. You kind of get the same results. Like you're working for other people, you're working for other people to get accolades and you, sitting up there, upset it suck, but that's part of what comes with the territory. I ain't saying don't speak up for yourself, because I had to learn it too. Like in a service, you have to. You have to speak up for yourself. You have to be like nah, like I on some part, like I did it, or what I'm getting out of the deal, or okay, I know I did good, I know you need me like I need you, or really I don't even need you. You need me more than I need you something. What comes with this like this is not just you learn that, okay, I'm performing way above standard, so you can't just give me, oh, this is your job, this is your paycheck. Ah, nah, because I could do a whole lot less and I'm still gonna get paid.
Speaker 1:But with that being said, like I said, that's just a little background about why I thought about doing this episode while I'm bringing this episode to y'all. So we gonna get into it. Peak your, peak your performance, be your best employee. So this episode, like I say, we're just gonna be unlocking being the best employee for yourself, and I don't know who all this resonates with. Like I say, I can only speak for myself that I definitely know that I want to be my best employee. So when I'm being my best employee for somebody else, it's irritating.
Speaker 1:It's like if I put the same effort that I put into performing for the service into my podcast, like I say marriage, anything you do, you're going to get the same results. You're going to get better results. I won't say that because you don't always like the results. I don't always like the results. I give it to Sarah. But I keep saying I feel, I think, I know, I'm starting to understand as I grow into I don't want to say an adult, but 20s is your 20s.
Speaker 1:There's a mature and adult that you get into it, what you put out of it and a lot of stuff you learn or hear growing up. You repeat it but you don't really understand it. And I'm starting to really understand it. Like you get what you put out of it. Like life, you literally get what you put out of it. Like life, you literally get what you put out of it, regardless of when you start, how many roadblocks come in between. Like it's gonna be life, you're gonna get into it, what you put out of it. So, understanding your role this is gonna be the first segment for this, for this podcast, for this podcast episode is understanding your role. So it's important to understand the role that you play in your life. When I say like, be your biggest employee, be your, I'm sorry, be your best employee, biggest employee, whatever you got to understand the role that you play, like for my podcast.
Speaker 1:I edit my podcast. I really say I produce my podcast but know my wife, my producer, but I do lights, camera, action, like from start to finish, uh, outlines, freaking, writing up, like I say, if you don't I'll create a title, my podcast. I think all my podcasts are dope and each podcast is better than the next by some form shape of um, some form shape of fashion. But you learn, you learn so even like the outlines, creating the outlines, not just going off of my head or or just talking or just sitting up in front of a camera just like I'm having a conversation with y'all, but but it's more structured and I didn't start that until I don't think I started outlining episodes until maybe, I'd say maybe five, six episodes ago, and I think that's giving me a little bit too much credit. But I started outlining podcasts and they kind of keep you on track, on focus, like you don't necessarily forget what you're talking about or what you're trying to say, or having an outline just help you if you do forget and you wrap up an episode isn't. I ain't gonna say there's no worse feeling, but it sucks when you're like I have more to talk about and you ain't talk about it, you weren't able to get it out outlining your podcast, just have outline it helps.
Speaker 1:So I understand I kind of like downplay the role that I have for my podcast because I do so much with it. I literally do so much with it and I I just say for myself I act like if I don't do it, it's still gonna get done, like I just like I just got this team and I think it's great for the confidence, but the team is me myself and I like I say I incorporate my spouse into a lot of stuff. I try to get her on to doing things but at the same time, like it's my vision so I don't necessarily get upset when she don't catch on is the way that I want to and, like I say it, it's literally my baby, my birthday, birthdad, my situation, my family getting sick, me wanting to have a legacy outside of the service. So it's literally me. So, like I say, being aware of this training, I definitely started to understand like you play a bigger role. And I ain't just saying like in life, I'm just saying podcast because I understand what it correlated into life. Like you play a bigger role than than what you give yourself credit for and you slacking like you're slacking. Like you're not employee of the month and you're not employee of the month, year day like you. You tripping, so just getting my head back into the game about that.
Speaker 1:Like I am always said, I, I said it, what was it? Plot twist, plot twist. I always say this is one of my favorite episodes, but you are the director of your own movie. You hire, fire and do whatever accordingly, and sometimes you got to hire and fire yourself because you forget. I think that's the biggest thing.
Speaker 1:Like I say all the time when I first started my podcast, I echo it throughout my episodes we know we just don't do. That's why it's called overthinking understanding, because we sometimes we just sit by ourselves or we get around people or we get so caught up in life like you forget. Like I said, I don't want to even say forget you. You just you, literally. You literally overthink, you, overthinking it. It's like no, you the star player, you know the qualities that you got. You the freaking best employee. You know the qualities that you got. How about you execute it.
Speaker 1:And when I say overthink and understand it podcast, because a lot of stuff, we know a lot of stuff in the world. These podcasts, motivational speakers, what have you? Inspirational books, they, it's people telling you the same thing we already know in a different way and it just you show what they say like you go blind to it, you go deaf to it because you hear it one way all the time. So soon as somebody come with the same message, just brought in a different way, we back on fire with it. We yes, that's, that's what I'll talk about, that's that's it. Like this person, and we ride this wave until we come deaf to it again. You got to stay on that. You got to stay on there like you work for yourself, you are very valuable, your business, whatever you do, and even going to go work for somebody else.
Speaker 1:I said all the time like everybody's not a boss. It was pushed for the longest you gotta be a boss, everybody boss. That is that in the third everybody not a boss. Some people, some people don't need to be bosses. Like some people not the best employees for themselves or for the company. So it's like some people don't need to be sitting up there. I'm a boss, I'm a boss, I'm a boss. No, no, no, ain't, no, I ain't going to say that no, some people just don't need to be boss. Learn how to be a good employee. That's everything Like if you skip from being an employee to a boss, you ain't going to be a good boss anyway.
Speaker 1:And some people you barely get up, want to go do your job, want to go work for them. People to collect the paycheck. How you think you're going to do it if there's no overhead? Sometimes, like I said, sometimes it's good you got insurance, people, money, the money ain't all that. But think about if you was to lose that job you just quit that job tomorrow, how you going to make your first dollar. And if you got that idea, then hey, maybe you got your idea how you going to get your first dollar and you make that $1. Go to $2, $4, $6, so on and so forth. More power to you.
Speaker 1:But just understand that even when you go to clock in for a job, you're still working for yourself because you've got to go pay your bills. That job is going to pay you and that job employs you. You are their employee, but also your employee. So you've got to work, you've got to do what you need to do and anything that comes after that working out, cooking, being who you need to be in a relationship. All of that ties into understanding your role and understanding the importance of your job description. Whatever you've got to put for yourself, I'm this, I'm that mom or daddy freaking top 100, whatever you've got to put to understand the job description that you're talking about.
Speaker 1:Moving on identifying the key responsibilities and performance expectations. I think this, right here, is always I ain't going to say been hard for me because responsibility part I think that I've got it Because, like I say, I've been in the service since 18. And don't get me wrong when I first started out, you still needed some help, still called back for some people, but for the most part, I left home and I took care of myself Like I learned. Even if the lessons came from the house, I implemented them while I was gone. When I came into the service, it was no, your mama couldn't help you, your daddy couldn't help you, your granny couldn't help you. It's what you got. And then all I had was all I had was responsibilities that only I could fulfill Get up, go to work, freaking pass and PT doing the job that I was supposed to do and it wasn't nobody else. Go come do that for me. That was my responsibility.
Speaker 1:I feel like where I've been falling short at is performance expectations because, like I say, and this is going to be tied into the service, because, like I said, I'm a soldier, I've been doing this almost decade, like it's, it's a big part of my life. It's not the only part of my life, thank you, holy father, but it's a big part of my life. And in the service you got expectations, you got height and weight, you got pt tests, you got job performances, you got evaluations. You have expectations and what I have learned, just like I say, reflecting from this last training I came off of, I don't really have an expectation for myself. Like they come and they go, I think that the Army, like you, could not feel the expectation and not want to do an expectation, but you know the expectation is there, like regardless, if it's in your face.
Speaker 1:You know you have an ACFT coming up. You know you have a height and weight, like it's the armor, you know it's coming. You know that if you don't get up and go to work in the morning, somebody will come looking for you and for myself, like I say performing for myself and being the best employee for myself, the expectations for myself, I just feel like it be lacking, like I haven't. It's like I said I did, but I don't keep that bar, like the bar moved, and I think that's dangerous when it comes to us working for ourselves Because, like I said, a job you either come here, you do what you're supposed to do or you fired. And your day-to-day life when you're showing up trying to be the best employee for yourself if? And your day-to-day life when you're showing up trying to be the best employee for yourself, if you don't necessarily do your job, you're like who else can do it? Who's going to fire me? Like it's you, like it's me. So if I don't do it, then it's okay, but that's truthfully, in my opinion, not the case. I feel like that's when we start losing ourselves and then you become a person that you don't recognize like really truthfully, like you'd be, like you set these expectations but then you allow your expectations to waver. You know what I'm saying like don't get real, real and well doing. You allow your expectations to waver and you don't sit up there and show up for yourself. You don't sit up there and show up for yourself and do what you need to do for yourself and then you become a person like I.
Speaker 1:I look at old pictures and I'm like man. I back then I didn't think I had abs. Back then I didn't think like I still sucked at running, but I was passing running. But I was like pass, fail, pass whatever. Like I suck at it, practice more whatever we hear like. But that, just to be said, I'm like man. I always tell myself I'm gonna get back to this shape because if you did it once, you could do it again. Like I can achieve this body.
Speaker 1:And I'm sitting here like I'm not happy, something dragging, it's just like a nagging person. And I look in the mirror and I'll be like who are you like? Who is this person like? This is not Victoria, this is not, this is not Victoria. Like who is this? And that's what I mean by you sitting up there letting your expectations move up and down. You like it's me.
Speaker 1:So, regardless, I'm not gonna wake up and be somebody else, I'm just gonna be me. That should be more motivation because, truthfully, it's not. You might wake up and be some, be somebody totally different, and it ain't no worse feeling than waking up, looking in the mirror or looking back or looking at pictures and you like who is this person? Like this, who is this person? And I know, for me, like the biggest thing is my weight, and it's not so much I go up and down with it. I'd be like you look good, like no, you don't whatever. I don't like the way this outfit look, I don't like the way that picture came out just normal stuff, but that's like one of the biggest things and I'm like you could control that too easy.
Speaker 1:And what I hate, though? The voices in my head like you can't eat like you want to that way. Go catch up, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like when you don't do what you need to, it's like those people win. It's like dumb people win. Like I told her, she's always she being hell in plates. I told her, and it's like you can, you just also need to work out like it's true, you can't eat exactly how you want to and achieve the body or just the peak picnic, the peak fitness that you want, but you could be pretty damn close. It's not. I can't eat this every day, but it don't mean I gotta take it out my diet all the way completely.
Speaker 1:But, like I say, I think, for my myself, speaking personally, responsibility, key responsibilities, like I get it. I got a family to provide for. I got bills that need to be paid. I got a life that I'm trying to achieve. I don't never want my kids, I don't think I want my kids to bear the spell army, I don't want them to step foot. I don't even want to buy them fatigues for the clothes. I don't touch none of it. I understand that I want building a family and I want different. I want my spouse to be able to get and have and sustain whatever the hell that they want. And I get it.
Speaker 1:Like I say well, my responsibility is I get it, but my expectations, my expectations, I be moving them up and down. Performance expectations, like that's doing. Like I say do your whatever. Like my performance expectations aren't like ah, if you get up today and you do, okay, then I'm good with that, and it's like no, no, and don't get me wrong, like I said, check out some of them, older episodes, if this is your first time checking in, locking in with Overthink and Understand the Podcast and all the episodes. Like I get it. Sometimes you're 100%, but that day is okay.
Speaker 1:I'm saying when you know you could get more, like I could be okay for the service, I might get two, three people ask me if I'm okay. I might get zero people ask me if I'm okay, I still got to do my job. No ifs and buts about it. I still got to do my job and bust about it, I still got to do my job. If I show up to an ACFT and I'm not necessarily calling myself feeling my best, I still got to. If I don't say take it. Or even if I say can I take it at a later date? And they say no, you can't take it at a later date, and they say no, you can't take it at a later date, I got to take it and that's what I mean. Like you know, working for other people sometimes, like you don't have that leeway to have a bad day, and that's a good and bad thing.
Speaker 1:Like I say, like sometimes the service definitely work you and I definitely feel like man, I need a break. Like this is crazy and I'm just they not getting, they're not getting the person that they are expecting today. Hold on, y'all sorry about that. We back make sure that facebook camera don't go dead. But we back um. But yeah, definitely I'll be like they're not gonna get the person that, they just have something more today.
Speaker 1:But for my life, like I say, performance expectations in my life I'll I'll wake up and be like, ah, victoria, you're not gonna get the victoria you need, you ain't gonna get the victoria that they need to be gay today. I just kind of go with the flow and it's like why Set expectations and stick to those expectations? Like you know what you want. You know your responsibility. My performance output needs to match that. My performance expectations need to match that. So let's go to the last part. For this first segment, let me see Phone unlocked up. Let's see how clarity leads to better performance. I think that's kind of what I kind of already bled into, that Definitely having a clear vision of why. Like, why are you doing this? Why are you doing this? Like how clarity leads to better performance. Like I say, hindsight 2020 is the same thing. It's like you done been here, you know better, and it's the same thing.
Speaker 1:People say all the time Like, if you don't do it, who else going to come do it If you don't sit there and take care of yourself for yourself, take care of your family. Be the change. Be this person. Take care of your responsibilities. Who else going to come do it? Who else going to come pay my mortgage? Ain't nobody coming to pay my mortgage. If I don't pay my mortgage. Ain't nobody going to come up here and be like, hey, I see you not doing so. Good, I'm going to pay your mortgage. It's not happening. It's not happening, not happening at all. Ain't nobody coming up here, even behind my house. Ain't nobody coming up here saying, hey, I'm giving you a down payment, it's your responsibility. It was my and my spouse's responsibility to get that down payment, but we did. But, yeah, get that down payment money, get the money we need for certain things. Ain't nobody come to do it.
Speaker 1:And keeping I think it's important for anybody. I would just say keeping clarity, like performance, like you got your expectations, and keeping clarity for you can have the performance or the outcome that you want, cause it's like what am I doing? Like you can sit there and be like I'm not going to get a credit card. I'm not going to get a credit card, and it's just an example that popped up in my head. Like you can sit up there and be like I'm not going to get a credit card and I'll get a credit card and you get lifestyle getting to you and you get a credit card. And then you run that credit card up and at this point that I'm trying to make you lose the clarity of why you didn't want a credit card at first.
Speaker 1:Now you in debt, now you owe people. It's not no catching up when you have debt and truthfully, it's how you feel. I forgot that guy's name, but he's like 10 times the debt. All this and that it's whatever you feel. But I don't think for me. I believe I don't like having debt, I don't like owing people and it's hard to be up when you owe people, when you have debt. I hope that was a good example. I don't know, it just came off the quickness, but you got to have clarity of like, why, why? Everybody say I guess there's why. Why like, why am I doing this? Really understanding your why brings clarity. You sitting there and thinking like, why am I doing this, this podcast, what I want outside of my podcast?
Speaker 1:I think the biggest part that I do have clarity on and I say that I kind of market myself on I have so many, I have so much of my own merch I done, invested in pillows, stickers, shirts, freaking necklaces and, if you, nine times out of ten, if you see me, I got my own type of clothes on and I stay looking for vendors so I can put it on shorts and hats and whatever. Like I got hats, I got whatever beanies, freaking Christmas gear, whatever People see me first. Oh, I like your shirt. Oh, yeah, check out my podcast. It's not even like thank you for liking my shirt, check out my podcast. Oh, you got a podcast. I ain't know you got a podcast. Yeah, this is my logo.
Speaker 1:Or I tell people, yeah, I got a podcast. And then they'll say, like that's that logo you'll be wearing. You'll be, oh, that's, that's what you'll be wearing, because I have so much of my own gear. So I feel like I would say marketing wise. Not, I ain't go to school for it, I ain't good at it that.
Speaker 1:But as far as like marketing with certain things, I make sure that I put my brand everywhere and I got clarity on the performance. I want to wear my brand, I want people to be able to recognize my brand. But, with that being said, I draw people to my brand and that's where I blare it, that's where I get kind of bleary at, where I don't have clarity on like you're drawing people to your podcast but being the job that I do, the MOS that I do, me serving, they say freedom ain't free. I'm not producing the episodes like I need to. So even if people come check them out, they're like she ain't did an episode in months and I'm not saying excuse me, I'm not saying that some people still gonna rock with me.
Speaker 1:Some people still rock with me and I appreciate it. Some people still rock with me. Some people still rock with me and I appreciate it. Some people still rock with me. Some people check out all the old episodes, my older episodes I say it all the time have more views, more plays than some of my newer episodes, and I'm just saying that.
Speaker 1:To say, like you, clarity, we're going to leave it at that. Clarity, finding clarity, understanding your reason why, understanding your reason why, understand that. To say, like you, clarity, I said we're gonna leave it at that. Clarity, finding clarity, understanding your, your reason why, understanding your reason why, and finding clarity, clarity, or you could perform better, but that's it like it's. It's just like if you don't do this, you're gonna get this. Sometimes. There's all the clarity you need. If you don't pay your bills, you're done. You don't pay your bills, you're're out on the street and it don't need to be no more clarity than that. Your performance is going to dictate the reaction or the outcome that you can get.
Speaker 1:So let's move on to segment two for this podcast. I don't know why I just want to take the lock off. I'm not going to be shooting the episode. I said I was going to start printing it, but here we go. Okay. So second segment developing skills and competencies. This is a big one. I'm probably going to come at this segment backwards.
Speaker 1:The reason I say competencies like the Army is big on it. The Army is big on it and some people and this is all about being your best employee sometimes we are not competent for ourselves, and what I mean by that is, like I say, we get so caught up working for other people doing what? Being like the Army literally tells you what your competencies are. They tell you your attributes lead, lead, develops, achieves and they tell you your competencies, you know, be no doer, all this crap and you work towards that because you know what they are. And in my personal life. It's like what are my competencies? Like I'm sitting here doing the outline for this episode, like I said, it's going to be heavily tied into the service, because this, this episode, was literally birthed from training. Like I said, I did this for so long, like it's just interchangeable right now.
Speaker 1:But just thinking about it, like what are my competencies for my day to day life, what are my strengths and weaknesses? And that's one thing. That that's one thing. That, thinking about this episode and being in that training, I actually tried to find more clarity, because I'm like I'm sitting up here and I'm like I'm a lot of people go to in the service.
Speaker 1:I'm a hard worker and I feel like that's the opposite of what I do in my personal life. Not always I'm a hard worker and I feel like that's the opposite of what I do in my personal life, not always I'm speaking about now. I think at one point in time I was a great employee for myself and it just came a point in time where I was no longer a great employee for myself, and that's what I'm talking about. I'm saying now it's kind of being more of like okay, what are you good at? What are you good at for the service? X, y and z. What are you not being good at? Or what are you not doing or what is what is the same thing? This is your strengths, your weaknesses that you're able to I guess they're able to exploit in a service that you're not exploiting in your personal life. And then I literally sit back there thinking like I'm a hard worker, but why you ain't working? It's really it Like I just working for the service.
Speaker 1:I always say like I hate that. I don't think nobody. You want to do something else, do it. But don't give your job, your kids, your spouse, whatever, 100% and then you give you 20%. Don't burn yourself out and then give you what's left over. Recharge, rebuild up and get into it. Recharge, rebuild up, get into it. Whatever you need to do to plug in to get yourself that same 100% before you can still keep your strengths and work on your weaknesses for your personal life. Do that. So I'm like that was one of my biggest things. Like you ain't really hardworking at your podcast.
Speaker 1:Like I said, I was telling Facebook early while I'm getting it set up. It's like I've been had this podcast four years Four years, I think I'm 26, 27 episodes in and I just had such hunger for it. And don't get me wrong, like starting anything from the ground up. If it's not something I won't say that people not interested in it's what people don't know. Like overthinking, understanding podcast, I could love it. I could think about it all day. Uh, shout out to lady london like she always say validation is for parking, not people. I could like I'm the number one podcaster. I'm listening, I listen to it in the car, listen to it while I work out. But I'm trying to push it. I'm like my supporters. I'm trying to get supporters and and people to consume it. It's not like I could get up here and I say one of my first videos to get a crazy amount of views on Facebook.
Speaker 1:I showed people how to. I was actually showing my girl at a time how to break down a lobster, how to kill it, break it down, pop the shells and stuff off, and that went crazy. People love it. People love food. Makeup the shelves and stuff off, and that went crazy. People love it. People love food, makeup, building, you know, do uh. What is it? Di, diy, cars, painting different stuff like that, building bracelet clothes people love stuff like that. That's not uh, hair, like I could go on. If you could, I could start tomorrow her page, makeup page, different technique, do whatever and you're not necessarily trying to put something new on somebody. And I think that was one of the biggest things.
Speaker 1:I think that was a weakness that was exploited when I started my podcast is that people aren't really messing with it or I'm feeling like people are messing with it and I ain't never been a person to push nothing. I'm like man, it's for me and truthfully, yes and no like it's for me and truthfully, yes and no Like it's for me. But I also started it because I know that I got a voice, got a story, got a perspective that'll help a lot of people. That'll help a lot of people that somebody else not talking it the way that I'm talking it. So, over thinking and understanding, like the podcast, I'm doing it Like people ain't talking about this People, this people like getting this.
Speaker 1:So I think that was a weakness that was exploited and I'm in and something that held back my podcast because it's like I ain't trying to push it. But I'm learning now like, yes, you are like you trying to push it. It's just like if I'm doing something for the service, like doing the mission mission, I had soldiers quit. I don't want to drive no more. Yes, you do Like I don't want to drive no more. I'm not saying like, oh okay, you ain't got to drive no more.
Speaker 1:I'm like, yeah, you're going to drive. Like we're going to switch this up. I'm going to make sure that this mission for the Army don't stop. And it's like, why do I even care if it fail? Do whatever people go. If it do good, somebody else will get the credit. If it do bad, you're going to get blamed. Vice versa. But in the moment 2020, whatever, you ain't thinking about that I'm just like we got to keep this mission going because, like I say, 10 years in the game, I've been trained. You tell me to do this. Get this from point A to point B. I'm going to get it from point A to point B. So now I have to play is middle person with all these temperaments and attitudes and making sure that these people's mission is successful.
Speaker 1:But then, when I come home, I'm like, man, go work out. And I'm like, no, go in the garage, go hit the heavy bag, go do your push-ups before you go to sleep, like I say, tying it back in. I ain't been the best employee for myself. I'm capable of it. I have this strength that works inside of the service, but outside of the service I'm not applying it the way that I need to Like my weaknesses, I'm working out and I'm giving the service so much of my strength that I'm coming home and it's just exploring the weaknesses Like man. Why are you messing with that podcast? People ain't even messing with it like that. When there's like there's further from the truth to see that, like I say, south America, africa, asia, like I get hits and plays and stuff everywhere and you just like, but that's what's going to keep me getting in that bed, that's what's going to keep me sitting on the couch eating or drinking or sitting up and talking to my spouse when it's like, no, get your tail in that lap, get to work, get busy. So I think, for those that forgot with me, I guess, speaking on my experience, it was assessing your strengths and weaknesses. As I say, I, just as I'm thinking about this, this episode, and thinking about what I want to speak about this episode and training, I'm sitting over here like you know what is your strengths, what is your weaknesses, what are you not doing at home or for your business or for yourself, being the best employee for yourself, that you do for the service.
Speaker 1:Moving on to the second part of that Value, it says value, the consistency of learning and skill development. That, right there, I definitely think I value that. I definitely think that ties into, like accessing my strength. I love learning something new. I love being able, like I said, editing and learning music, overlay, cutting up stuff. It's just like I'm not paying nobody to do it, so I'm going to learn how to do it, but at the same time it's getting lazy.
Speaker 1:It's not, I want to say, the weakness is peeking through. It's me not necessarily developing, because like you could learn something and you could learn something in a day, it don't mean you're going to be good at it. That just means like something can be taught to you and it can be taught to you, but you ain't necessarily learn it. You got to develop on it. Or even if you grasp it and you don't do nothing else with it, you're not developing that skill. It's just sitting there. And that is, like I say, tying into both parts of that segment.
Speaker 1:Um, developing skills and competencies, is it kind of like hurt it kind of like hurt you. I think that's one of like my weaknesses is I'll get to, I'll get to places. I've learned so many things and I want to develop it because in my mind, like jack of all trades, master or none, and some of the stuff is just like riding a bike, like I'm. I'm decent at it if I, if I learned it and I got it, I'm decent at it, I get it. But that hurts when you sitting over here and I say once again, tying it back to the service, you rely on your training.
Speaker 1:So even when you're sleepy, you're tired, you don't know your, your left, from your right up, from down, your training kicks in whatever you train, however you train, and what you train don't it's gonna kick in. Whatever you train, however you train, and what you trained on is gonna kick in. If you train correctly, you could do it with your eyes closed as far as whatever you, whatever you got going on for the service uh, people shooting, uh like me, setting up equipment, rent, setting up a field feeding site of feeding soldiers, doing whatever like. So I don't, I don't have to be fully there to be there to execute the job correctly. I'm just used to it. I'm used to do this, do this, do that and, in the product, go nine times out of ten be the same. So, like I said, developing my skills.
Speaker 1:I think that's another thing that I just got to get back into, even just I'll be so quick to when I first started. I'm up, I'm editing, I'm looking how to edit, watching people edit that, I'm coming back and doing it, even where, like I say, I let my intro play, just even learning how to work the mixing board in the little sound system and, hey, hold it down five seconds. It's gonna be record what you need to. Um, you know, press it again when you're done. You gotta record it. And I recorded that intro a long time ago but I use it every other time and it's like develop it, switch it up, do something with it, understanding, lighting everything. I do what. What cast a shadow, not cast a shadow, what's gonna give you an echo? What's gonna give you clear like I, I learned this stuff and is and not using it. So you're not developing that skill. I don't say that skill necessarily go away, but it's just like a dull knife. You either sharpen it, it's still gonna be a knife, but it's not gonna be as effective. So, uh, that's ending up segment two.
Speaker 1:Like I say, segment two was developing skills and competencies. Segment one was understanding your role. It says understanding your role and the importance of your job or your job description, and then we're moving on to hold on. Did I skip one for segment two, the importance of adaptability in the workplace. Like I said, there's one more segment in there. There's a gap, but still going into segment three, but this ended up with segment two, the importance of adaptability in the workplace. That's just normal.
Speaker 1:I think that once again, it's perfect because it's going into strengths and weaknesses. Some people are not good at adapting. Some people are great at it. I don't think I give myself enough credit cut for adapting because a lot of stuff I definitely don't be feeling but I adapt to it. But I could definitely say my weakness is I can't keep that mask off for long like I can adapt to it, and then I could be like this is what it is. Put your brave face on, you know, play well with others. And then it just clicked back in and I do not play well with others and I'm in my mind like this is some BS. I don't want to do it. I'm more than confident and capable of not needing you to complete X, y and Z at the moment, but, like I said, I had to learn. You might be able to complete X, y, y and z at the moment, but, like I said, I had to learn. You might be able to complete x, y and z at the moment, but, you know, moving on, you might need that person and that's actually what taught me to start putting the mask on, start learning how to play and adaptability.
Speaker 1:Same thing, workplace. Same thing. We're talking about being the best employee for yourself. It's the same thing when I say you, you got a job. Like I said, I'm doing this, I'm doing my army thing, you got a job. And you coming home and you not you acting like, oh, if I didn't have a job, I'll be doing so much better. My podcast will be taking off, my fitness will be off, when it's just like you gotta adapt. You have a job, so adapt to having a job. And that's just me talking to me If it resonates with you work. But it's just me talking to me Like you have a job, so adapt to having a job and get your podcast episode shot and get your workout in and, don't get me wrong, like I love working out, keep your diet on track. Whatever that you're liking, it's not always cookie cutter. You know what you like and fix it, and that's the same thing. You, your workplace, wherever your workplace move from, it's not just we're not just talking about your corporate office or your whatever wherever you job at, we talk about inside your house, your apartment, your car, wherever you work at. You got to adapt. It's important to adapt in your workplace. I'm at the house, but once I get in my studio, it's in my workplace. I'm not thinking about nothing else, but I'm in my studio and that's literally how I look at it. I'm in the studio trying to go to work. So let's move on Segment three building strong work relationships. This one here is definitely important.
Speaker 1:The first part of this segment collaborations and teamwork. Why they matter. Teamwork make the dream work. It sounds so cliche, but it is true. It is true. It is true. Like I, I could say that that the the group of soldiers that I have right now. I really like my team. I wouldn't want to trade my little team for no other team. That's around me and it's just like the song One is the loneliest number that could be If you only got one person doing one thing. When that one person goes down and did that one thing, whatever thing that they did goes down with them.
Speaker 1:Having a team is allowing people to be able to bring different strengths, weaknesses, like I said, competencies, freaking skills, all that. It's not just like this. One person has to be great at this one thing. And that's the biggest part that I've learned about dealing with soldiers because they're people dealing with people. Dealing with soldiers or whatever You've got to understand learning how to play until their strengths and their weaknesses and and making a team work.
Speaker 1:I don't want everybody to be able to do the same thing. I don't want everybody like someone more, like if everybody likes someone more, get irritated, frustrated up here, fussing and doing whatever. Or, like I said, don't play well with others. It's good that I have soldiers that play well with others. You play well with others, so I'm gonna send you over there to go play with them and it's gonna help us out. It's gonna benefit the team.
Speaker 1:So I I feel like that goes without saying, like teamwork is so important and it's the same thing inside of the household or whatever you have going on, even with you yourself, as I mean myself and I'm like you yourself it's a team, it's a team effort. It's not just you working by yourself, like something has to give and sometimes, like people really do start from the bottom and like I say, check out some old episodes. You might not have the crew that you want, but it's somebody that are willing to help, it's somebody there that you can add to your team. That's why I be big on. I was looking for a co-host. I got a co-host now my best friend. But just I understand the importance of team, I understand the importance of bouncing ideas or even just being able to conversate or bring, like I say, just develop skills, like I don't want to be the dead horse too much, like that's literally teamwork literally makes the dream work. Like you could be the spear. You could be like the spear tip whatever. So you could everyone's trying to say you could spearhead something, be the tip of it or whatever, but it's still a team behind you that's going to elevate you that much more, A team behind you that will help you that much more.
Speaker 1:Effective communication strategies. Effective communication strategies. I still want to say I'm the best communicator. I would say that I communicate. I took a communication class in college and I definitely think one of the biggest takeaways I have from that class is understanding people's communication styles and understanding the listening Like, if you can understand and listen, even let's say like, because everybody they don't have nothing to do with going to college Everybody does not understand or think the same way that you think. So that was one of the biggest things I had to learn. I'm sitting over here and I'm in my mind I'm speaking just as clear as day. This is the issue, this is a problem, and it's not computing to the other person the same way. So now I'm frustrated. That kills all effective, all effective communication.
Speaker 1:So the strategy that I learned, um and I and I will give credit to my past, my past is learning that you got to ask people are you, is this a good time to talk to you about this? Are you capable of holding this conversation and also understanding and learning to read the room Like? You know what? It ain't a good time for this, don't get me wrong. Like, sometimes it bothers you, it builds up. You need to get this conversation off your chest and some people are just not confrontational. They don't want to communicate. They're not very what's the word that I'm looking for. They're not like very straightforward, confrontational people. So that conversation you might be holding on to that conversation forever because that person just don't want to talk.
Speaker 1:Then that's the part where I say, like I said early in the show service, you got to speak up for yourself, like whenever you get. Then that's the part where I say, like I said earlier in the show service, you got to speak up for yourself, like whenever you get. Then that's when you get the opportunity. I'm gonna give you all of this because I know we could have had a more effective communication, but I know that you avoiding it, you're not the type to have no conversation to talk about it. So here we are. This is what I wanted to say and I I kind of been like that. I just had to learn that sometimes I wasn't taking the correct approach at first, like I wasn't giving a person the opportunity. I labeled them as non-confrontation, didn't want to have the conversation in order to make myself feel better, to just here come to the extreme of here I'm putting it all out here when it could have been dealt with in a different way. So I had to learn, I had to pick and choose and understand the battles. Like I say, perfect example, effective communication, like strategy, like they say, right.
Speaker 1:So this training, I'm a culinary professional and we have these things called KP's kitchen police. They supposed to coming and basically the sanitary. It's basically like a detail. We use them for what we need them for, but the reason that they were, I can say the primary use for them washing dishes, taking out trash, wiping tables, doing things like that. I'm in this training. It's a 14-day training for the segment that I'm at, because the training is usually 30 days or whatever. I was there for 40 this time, but whatever, don't get off track. It's usually like a 30-day training and then you go into this specific section and it's only for 14 days.
Speaker 1:We was out there 15 days and the moment that I started producing meals, I need KPs to come clean the dishes, you know. So I'm telling people hey, I need KPs. I'm telling people fire sergeants. For those who don't know it, I call everything a supervisor in the city, but I feel like that's the best way to get it for the civilian world, because it's literally just supervisor on supervisor, supervisor, army, just a big ass bureaucracy. But, um, yeah, to get back on track. I'm telling everybody hey, I need kps, can I get kps? Can you send kps? I'm letting my leadership know I need kps and it's just like I won't say it's falling on deaf ears.
Speaker 1:But it wasn't made to necessarily be important because some stuff you just do in the service, even though every training you go on, if we cook, we need kp. It's not gonna not be a thing. But every time it's time to get k's. People want to eat but they don't want to wash the dishes. So, boom, we're nine days into the training.
Speaker 1:My supervisors first on whatever. They didn't care about stupid stuff. We heard y'all selling snacks. People are not getting supplements. Mind you, ain't nobody selling snacks. Second of all, I'm like where the money? At? Where the money we getting at Whatever right and then supplements. We wasn't getting them. Like the way, the way that the class one was handled it just was wasn't good for this rotation, so we wasn't getting the supplements that people were asking for.
Speaker 1:They come to me with that, I take it to my soldiers. My soldiers like whatever crap you they bring you, you always bring us. Why are we still cooking? We don't have kps. We still gotta remind them to get kps, whatever. And I'm sitting up here like you know what. You're right, because, like I didn't, I don't talk about it. I've been asking for, like I say, we're nine days into a 14 day training. But really, like I said, we did 15, 16 days, but we're nine days into it. I have more days behind me than I do ahead of me and it's still the same issue. So, in order to I won't say effectively communicate, but to get it where people would listen, we cooked the food, I set the line up and I said we were not open. We were not open, so people can eat until we get KP's. Guess what.
Speaker 1:It was, this whole big thing, big thing, and it got blew up. It got blew out of proportion because, at the end of the day, anybody could have volunteered to go wash them dishes. Anybody could have said I'm going to be KP, I'm going to wash them dishes. The statement had to be made because people wouldn't do it. Oh, you gotta let me know, you gotta tell me that moment on every I have, god, tell me we could have handled that better. I'm not. This is victoria, that's on. More whatever spirit for itself. I'm not finna, freaking. Keep telling you. I need something that you know I need it. When we pull up to these places I don't gotta tell you you need security, gas, water and that you need to come eat. You go, come, do that. I need these dishes. Watch, I'm not gonna keep tell like this is that's not me, I'm not finna. Keep telling you that I need this done.
Speaker 1:I have effectively communicated to the best of my ability. My soldiers done effectively communicate to the best our ability. Now we, my soldiers done effectively communicate to the best of our ability. Now we have to make a statement. I didn't have no issue. I had no issue getting KP.
Speaker 1:From that moment on they said we could have handled it better. No, because me handling it better caused me to go. I think we were washing dishes. I had KP maybe two or three times. People like no, I knew you would have told me if you need kp. I need kp every time I produce a meal. So now you won't forget that. Now I got people asking me did you get your kp?
Speaker 1:So sometimes I don't say effective communication don't work, but sometimes you can effectively communicate and it's important. You different strategies, but I do think making a stance is a part of effective communication because you get it, not a person get it whatever. Whatever I gotta do for you to register and your head quit freaking, playing with me, then that's what's gonna happen. But, um, like, I hope that. I hope that made sense, but that literally just happened.
Speaker 1:Like I said, this training was full of fun, effective communication, where we at now Cultivating trust and respect amongst colleagues. I think that's a big thing. I think the Army is be big on trust and respect, but they don't necessarily apply it the best way, and that's one thing that I try to stick with. Like, no matter how many times I get burnt in the army, no matter how many times that uh people do you wrong or you feel like you're disrespected, I try my hardest to be respectful. I try my hardest to to be trustworthy. Like and build trust. Like if, if you need me, I'm gonna be there. Like people. Like people know you might got to call me two, three times. That's the biggest thing.
Speaker 1:Like, oh, I see you on your phone all the time, this, that and that. I tell people all the time If I'm around people. The phone is like my people blocker, but I hate it. It's like an anxiety that the Army has given me Because it's want your phone to be ringing what you know is gonna ring. Like you don't want to still be attached to the service, like I'm trying to decompress, but my cell phone is hooked up to the service. It's literally hooked up to the service. So, with it being hooked up to the service, it it's like ah, crap, like, ah, what's going on? Like they just had this, they had this. It's this feeling of just this 24-hour access to you and you do not get a chance to breathe. So a lot of time my phone going, do not disturb or vibrate or whatever. You got to call me a couple times or sometimes, like I'm not picking, I'm not picking the freak up, like it's like you don't need nothing, it could wait and what I'm?
Speaker 1:I'm saying that. I'm saying that to over yet trust and respect. I'm saying that to say, like with my soldiers, when I'm there, I'm there, you need me. I'm showing up. If it's a battle that I'm on board with even if I'm not necessarily on board with if it's something that's bothering you and it's something that needs to be handled, you feel like it needs to be handled, I'm there, a thousand percent. I'm going to bat for you but, like I say, cultivating trust, I would say like trust is earned.
Speaker 1:Trust is definitely earned and I think respect is given, like trust is something that's earned. Like I'm not just coming to trust in you and like trust is something that's that's that's earned. Like I'm not just coming to trust in you and even if I do, like I say it all the time, like I trust people to be themselves. I'm not trusting you to be nothing but what you have presented me to be. I'm not gonna put more trust in you than need it and then be upset when you let me down. No, that's not me.
Speaker 1:But um, as far as respect, respect is given. I just respect is given. I just think respect is given. I say it all the time, like you don't have to respect me but you will not disrespect me. So it's like respect is given, like respect all.
Speaker 1:They say give and get saved. Respect none, Respect all, and that's just that's really true. Like I feel it so, as far as that same thing being true, like I feel it so, as far as that same thing, uh, being your best employee, you gotta be able to build that trust back in yourself. Like I can work for myself, whatever look and, like I say, I say working out whatever you want to do, high b, but usually our parents losing weight, even dressing, like dressing the type of clothes you wear, or having the confidence or trusting yourself to style and do your own hair. You have to understand, look, I'm my biggest and best employee and you just got to get it. Build and trust, like I say, it's in the changing between work and your life.
Speaker 1:So your colleagues, it's not your family, your significant other, your spouse, your children, that's one of the hugest parts that I have made it where my soldiers can trust me, old and new, like I call them. I tell them, tim, my soldier's coming, but it's the opposite for my spouse. It's like the army takes so much of your time. I'm like I'm going to be there, I'm going to be there, and then you don't get to be there. And it's like I'm going to come through for you, I'm going to do this for you, like I got you, you don't get to do it. Or hey, my little sister needs something. I'm like, yeah, I'll come get you, I'll do it, and you do not get to do it. It breaks down the respect that your family have for you. Remember, you're keeping it on the same line. You are your best and most valuable employee, so it goes hand in hand. Like your colleagues, your family members, like we in this, together, teamwork building all that same thing. So what was that? That was segment three building strong work relationships.
Speaker 1:We're moving on the segment for time management and productivity Productivity Strategies for prioritizing and time blocking. That's important. I kind of talked about time blocking. Like when I get home, do not disturb, vibrate, like I say sometimes I just will not pick up the phone and you learn like some stuff was important, they needed you. But if they really need, some stuff was important, they needed you. But if they really need you, they'll get a hold of you. Half of that crap, do not be important and get somebody else to do it. Like stop calling my phone. It really irked my nerves. I hate it. Like stop calling my freaking phone. Like, definitely, time blocking is important.
Speaker 1:Another thing just starting the day early, starting the blocking is important. Um, another thing just starting the day early, starting the day earlier, that's another thing that I was thinking about. While I'm gone doing this training, I'm sleeping in a truck, sleeping in a cot, whatever. Getting maybe three to excuse me getting maybe three to four hours of sleep. But when I get home I'm trying to get out of sleep, get up and start the day. The army don't care if you just went to bed, I kid you, not In this training because lack of people doing what they need to do.
Speaker 1:We get up 4 o'clock in the morning, push out breakfast loaded up, ready to roll out, and they're talking about passing out SI, all this crap. Mind you, we went the day before to do it. Anybody, that's food service industry, food service job, whatever. You know, our days are long, they start early and they end late. So everybody else, they just started rolling. Mind you, my team when I say my team culinary specialists, we were the first people to show up to this training, and showing up to this training we was people coming up on two, three days being there, five days being there. We're coming up on a week and a half and we've been cooking and producing meals since we got there In some form or fashion, whether it's dealing with rations, doing whatever. We've been working.
Speaker 1:And these people like, hey, come get weapons. When it's time to come get the weapons. They ain't even got to the weapons that we need yet it's late, I kid you not. So we tried to do it the day before when everybody else was doing it. Right, they big Y'all need to drive, that's all Y'all need. And it's funny because, like the commander I got now, he loves him. Like you need to get the shit together, and that's literally what I think about this damn man all the time. Like you need to get your shit together, you need, like, what the? What the hell? Like? Just like the army don't give a care. If you knew you ain't been doing it that long. You in that position, you feel the shoes, whatever. Just saying that to say, show up to get the weapons. Of course weapons are not ready to be passed out. We've been up all day. We leave. The next day come, we're not getting. No, I don't know. I don't have no point to where we're going.
Speaker 1:This one, this one this is another reason why I say like I was happy that my phone started working down there, because this was another thing. Like people do not give information, they have the access to get information. You got to look for them. I called my commander, talking to him. He's like oh yeah, I think your soldiers uh might be, uh, bsn. This happens here, blah, blah. I said, okay, let me call him, I'll let you know, sir, ain't nobody said where we meeting up at, where we're going? I don't know, freaking, whatever right. This man called back. I called him the. The guy like, oh yeah, the commander busy commander told me call him back. So what I'm doing? We don't know where the heck we going.
Speaker 1:We did not bed down to 2 30 that night. We finally get to where we need to go. We did not bed down until 2.30. And they said we need to be back up at 5. And I'm like what the fuck? Like what is wrong with y'all people? But, like I say, army don't get cracked by no time blocking.
Speaker 1:When it's time for training, time is blocked off to for them to have, and that's one thing that when I get back to garrison I'm back here. Now I don't want to try to let happen like this is you need me? I'm available for this. You'll be available 24, 7, y'all. Not available to miss me with the bullshit. Sorry, miss me with the bs. I'm not doing it, I'm available from here to here. You need some. Give it one of the soldiers like I ain't got time for it. And the same thing is prioritizing, like I learned to prioritize. Of course, I need to do it better. Like I said, I have not been the best star employee for myself at the moment, but how can I put it? How can I put it?
Speaker 1:The army makes everything a priority and then when you come home, it's like nothing. I'll be like man, I get episode shot like I'm gonna do it. I get to the gym, I meal prep that out, I'll go cut that grass. But in the army, everything you need to get this done, you getting crop done, crop done, crop done, just to be done, just to add more stuff. So you really ain't never done, man. Everything is not a priority. So freaking strategies for time blocking and prioritization, everything not a priority, like, think about what needs to get done within the next two hours, what needs to get done within the next six hours, what needs to get done within the next two hours, what needs to get done within the next six hours, what needs to be done within the next 24 hours, and the prioritizing to take care of itself. But if you sit there and be like I need to go to the gym, I need to meal prep, I need to freaking, cut the grass, like everything will be on your list at once. Everything is a priority. When you do it like that. When you do it like that, literally everything is a is a priority. You like, oh man, um, I, I ain't gonna be able to get all this done, but it really take care of itself.
Speaker 1:I prefer to work out in the morning because so much stuff happened throughout the day. So working out starts your day. I'm just saying for myself best for me to be the best employee for myself. If working out starts your day. Work out, work out, work out, work out in the morning. Ain't nobody bothering you? Half of the people that they. That gets on my last freaking nerves. They not up with me, are they not up doing this? So leave you. Good to be left alone. Time blocking same thing, same thing. It takes care of itself. I'm working out. You ain't taking calls. I'm listening to the Bible. I'm listening to my freaking music. I'm listening to my book. Leave me alone. Call, come through. If it don't come through, two, sometimes three times, I'm not picking up. It's not that important. Somebody else could do it. This is time for me. I ain't sad. You do what work for you.
Speaker 1:Overcome a procrastination. This is a big part. This is a big part, man. I tell y'all, tom, my brothers know my father is one. My father is one of the biggest procrastinators that I know, second to myself, but I mean for, yeah, he first and only second to me. But whatever, um, overcoming procrastination is the do you? It's one of the things I just do it. Procrastination literally sits there and say that you have time.
Speaker 1:And one thing that I have learned about procrastination just throughout my journey and life period whenever you start something, whatever roadblocks are preset for you to stumble on or you need to get through, to build through, to get to the end of your destination, it's going to be there. So, whether you start when you're supposed to or whether you start late, that roadblock will be there. And what I have learned to just help me overcome procrastination you know it's going to be roadblocks, so it's best to start early. And I can say an example like college, I'm waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting. College and boom, it was an issue. I forgot what the issue was. It was an issue. I forgot what the issue. It was an issue with something and it caused that issue was and in my mind, that issue was already going to be there. It's teaching patience, teaching you to not procrastinate.
Speaker 1:Whatever lesson I was supposed to learn from that roadblock. The roadblock is going to be there because that lesson is for you. Like what's for you is for you. That roadblock is for you. You was going to come to it anyway, but if you would have started getting ready for school earlier, the roadblock would have been there and you still would have been able to start the class when you needed to. Um, but when I started I procrastinated, procrastinated.
Speaker 1:Then, hey, you get on the bike. You're like, yeah, I'm finna, do it. And you think, just because you're going cold and ready to go, that the roadblock's supposed to move, like, hey, hell, if I'm ready now. Like, clear the path, sometimes, yes, sometimes no. Sometimes your path clear, sometimes your path, sometimes your path is clear, there's no roadblock, and sometimes your path is clear but it's a roadblock. Like it's clear for you to run straight into that roadblock because you need it. Like you need that roadblock, and you go run into that roadblock because you need it. Like you need that roadblock, you go run into that roadblock because you need it.
Speaker 1:So, procrastinating, I'm telling you like the one thing, just do it Like literally, don't think about it, it's some stuff. If you know that you procrastinate, write it down, prioritize time, block it out and be like I'm going to just do it. And once you start doing it it becomes like you don't want to not do stuff. Like it's like you sit there and procrastinate and that part goes into being an employee for yourself. You can procrastinate for the ACFT and know that you need to do X, y and Z to get the result that you want. If you don't do X, y and Z, you fail Some people. You won't procrastinate no more because you don't ever want to feel that defeat again. Same thing. So best tip for procrastination like, just don't do it, overcoming it, just do it.
Speaker 1:Procrastination, literally thinking about doing it everything. I understand it, we ain't gonna make it hard. Just do it like get up there and do it. I want to start this. I want to start that do your research. If research slow you down, research while you're moving, research where you gotta go and actually go talk to somebody. Like hey, hey, I want to do this. This person do this. I'm going to go out there and talk to them. That's the best advice I could give you.
Speaker 1:Navigating tools and techniques for enhanced efficiency. Same thing, the best thing I can say for that chat GPT, when I'm looking to outline an episode, when I'm looking to to outline an episode, when I'm looking to, um, like I say, outline an episode, do anything. Got a sort like that chat gpt, I could put that rough draft in there. Chat gpt, go, spit it out, do what I need to. Not give it not no free promo, nothing. Like I literally use it.
Speaker 1:Um, the things that I use to pen buzzsprout to, is it buzzsprout? I think it's buzzsprout, buzzspeed, buzzsprout, whatever, my luck. Um platform that I use to distribute my podcast. I pay a little bit extra for them to spit out titles. Um, spit out the transcript. That's why sometimes you look at the transcript, it'd be like I didn't say that or whatever. Like help with the mastering. Like it can't if it's too loud, if it's too low, if it's too whatever, it's gonna fix it nine times out of ten. Um, but yeah, like definitely leveraging tools. Whatever gonna help you be successful, whatever gonna help you be the best employee for yourself. Do it.
Speaker 1:Uh, the lights like it seems so simple, the production seems so simple, but I got over three, four lights in here. I got professional grade lights. I got over I think. I got five, six microphones, three of them, four of them. I could see right now like, uh, so many laptops and different little pieces of equipment like use it to work for yourself. So many different stands, and what am I trying to say? Like tripods and stuff Like it. Get real, you have stuff that you'll. It'll be so simple, like, literally, I'm shooting an episode on the futon and I love it. It's a simple background. But to make simple, people don't understand how to make simple look simple. You know sometimes it ain't simple, but yeah, for that, ledger, leveraging tools, um, yeah, just whatever.
Speaker 1:Whatever you use this, I think it's all about doing research, same thing, freaking. Even coming down to the merch, I got somebody new, new print, my merch, because I wanted on shorts and anything and everything I want my logo on. So to get that done, you got to tools, techniques to enhance efficiency. I want my podcast and my branding to be bigger. I'm going to get a platform that's able to make that happen. So that was segment four time management and productivity. Segment three was building strong workplace relationships. Segment two was developing skills and competencies. Segment one understanding your role. Okay, moving into segment five, Coming up on one of the last segments, second to last segment self-improvement and growth mindset embracing feedback and constructive criticism.
Speaker 1:Excuse me, I ain't gonna lie. I um, I feel like this is stepping a little bit behind the curtain, but I don't know if I said it before. I learned. So how can I put it? I feel like this real vulnerable, but I'm gonna just say it fuck it, right, um, yeah, whatever.
Speaker 1:So one thing that I learned people do not necessarily tell people that they like stuff that they need to hear, because they don't want to hurt their feelings, mess up their relationship, this, that and the third. One thing that I learned just being myself Like a lot of people take the stuff that I do she a asshole, she a bitch, this, that and the third, and it can be farther from the truth Like, don't get me wrong. Like I'm thorough, I done some crazy shit. God, only God could judge me with crazy stuff. Only God could judge me. Whatever, forgiveness is forgiveness.
Speaker 1:But I just learned that, me being myself, and I guess, like rubbing people wrong, they tell you about yourself and don't get me wrong. Like some people just say stuff to try to hurt you, break you down or they feel like you up here and they try, you know, knock the air out your balloon. But a lot of stuff that I used to better myself that was actually true about myself, stuff that I even noticed about myself. It came, it was birthed from people call themselves like telling me about myself because they didn't like me. So it wasn't. No, um, uh, they don't want to hurt my feelings, they don't. They don't want to hurt my feelings. They don't want to hurt my feelings or do anything like that. They just would like tell me.
Speaker 1:And there's a lot of stuff like that's what people don't understand, like, especially when I'll just say it, like, especially when I be feeling like people hate it. It's so much stuff I'm not good at and it's so much stuff that people like that I do that I do effortlessly, that I don't even realize that I'm doing effortlessly, effortlessly like I just being myself. People like they like it or it's. You can't teach people that it's that and the third. But it's a lot of stuff that I do bad and it's a lot of stuff that that I had to get feedback and understand.
Speaker 1:Constructive criticism like, um, one thing that I hate, like people could criticize people, but it's not constructive and I'll be like what's the point of we doing, what we doing like and some people really can't take, especially and the people that I learned that really can't take, especially in the service like they're good, like they get put on the pedestal and they good. And nine times out of ten in the service you like they're good, like they get put on the pedestal and they're good. And nine times out of ten in the service you'll catch a person only staying in the realm of their comfortability. So when they get put into a position that they don't do all the time or like unless, like I say, teaching. Like teaching is something that is not easy and nine times out of ten in the service you have to teach. You ain't got nobody else to come in and teach it. Like we do so many different jobs and you got somebody else coming in. You're trying to have somebody else like teach, teach what you um have going on, and this is hard and that's going to be some of the biggest parts where you get feedback, because it's one thing with me understanding, it's a different. It's another thing trying to get somebody else to understand. And I'm just saying that, saying all that to say, like, um, embracing feedback and constructive criticism, like that's one thing that I love to do and this.
Speaker 1:And I got to a point where I craved the feedback and the criticism so much that I I kind of I like I don't want to say was a bigger asshole, but I didn't. I got to a point where I didn't care about clearing it up, like, oh, she just an asshole, she just done a third and I'm like, really I'm not. Or there are people think this about me and you and like I'll show them a different side. Like no, I'm really. I'm really not. Like I am who I I am for a reason, or how I am for a reason, or this is just me, but I'm really not what you think I am.
Speaker 1:I did like I wanted this so much. That was a big thing when I started my podcast. Like people I got I wanted the feedback so much the negative. I kind of went searching for the negative feedback when the people was telling me like man, you're so good, like you're good and just learning that the people who tell me good, it's not necessarily like, oh, they don't want to hurt your feelings, they understand it's something new and you're gonna work through the kinks, like a lot of stuff that I was asking for feedback on just me listening to my episodes of me listening to my shows, it like I learned to get better at it, and that's and a lot of people I like I say I won't say a lot of people, I can speak for myself me sitting up here always wanting this feedback and constructive criticism. And feedback is what propelled me so far in a lot of aspects of my life.
Speaker 1:When I didn't get it with my podcast, I was thinking like dang, like people ain't messing with it, why they ain't got this feedback. And then, when I did get the feedback, I kind of felt some type of way and that was coming from a part of like you ain't did it. So then it was like why you ask for the feedback then if you're gonna get butt hurt about it? But it was true, it was just like all right, you ain't do it. And that's why I say all the time like you'll see, people who ain't really never did nothing have like so much to say.
Speaker 1:And then the people who did it, it takes a lot to do. So I don't want to make it simple, like I say it's to do you. It didn't take a whole lot to do but to sit behind the camera, talk to yourself. Or, like I say, I'm talking to people, I'm talking to the supporters, I'm talking to my podcast listeners, but when you you're in that studio, you're talking to a camera, or you know if you got a guest, you're doing this, that and the third, or just you battling with keeping yourself on track, you're inside your head. Whatever may be the case, it's there, like it's literally there and with it being there, hold on what? Sorry about that y'all, but literally, with it being there, it's like I don't know. I don't know Kind of lost the track, but what I was saying like, um, I don't know, constructive criticism and embracing it, feedback is there.
Speaker 1:Um, talking to people, um is something like don't don't go hunting for it, like it'll come and sometimes like you could give yours, definitely embracing it. Just take it like you got to be able to weed out the good and the bad, like everybody, not a hater, everybody not trying to see you not make it or see you not make it far. Like listen, like that's why it's constructive. If it don't help you build and then just turn down like somebody sit there, it's kind of like what the army say you don't do not bring a person a problem without a solution, not saying that that's not a civilian tactic. I don don't know, I just heard it in the service. So I say that's what the Army say Don't sit there and bring a person a problem and not have a solution. So if you come up there and be like I don't like the way you dress, but you don't offer like, hey, you could look at this for inspiration, or if you wear this brand, it might suit you better than just that's just criticism. It's not constructive, it's just feedback. It's not helpful feedback, but definitely embracing it it makes you, it makes you better. I could just speak for myself, like I cling to it for a long time, like it makes you better and sometimes, like I say I can speak from experience going to chase down feedback and constructive criticism It'll hurt sometimes. It'll hurt you when you can really just sit there and do your own feedback, sit through your episodes, edit it and dissect it. Your life, your workouts, your routine, your daily routine, especially you trying to do something better. Just sit through there, write down, jot down what you do and you can make it better.
Speaker 1:What we got the role of resilience in career development. Man, resilience, resiliency. Be the tennis ball. That's how the army do it. Be a tennis ball. Be a freaking plastic bottle don't mind how many times you bend it, freaking, extend it. Do whatever long as you cutting, slicing you, you can blow, put air back into it and it's gonna go back to the way it was. It might be a little wrinkle but it's gonna go back to the way it was. But resiliency and you've got to be resilient Career development you're going to fail. Like I said, that roadblock, that hard situation, that death in the family, that accident, whatever meant for you to be, you to build your resilience is not there. And this is just me.
Speaker 1:I think that this is a very I learned to have this outlook from being a christian and learning that, like some people, be like man, the devil testing you, the devil busy, because you got all these things going on. And I never forget pastor ricky rush uh, regardless how you feel about him, he was one of the he's, he's a masterful right and he did an episode on it was on Alonzo like if the devil not messing with you, then you ain't doing nothing for the Holy Father, there's no reason to bother you, there's no reason to give you trials and tribulations because you ain't doing nothing for the Holy Father. You ain't got nothing going on. I'm not going to sit there and mess with nobody. That ain't got doing, that's not doing nothing. And I only say that to say as far as like resilience, when hard testing stuff come, I look forward to it.
Speaker 1:Like I said, like I learned that this mean I'm ready for it, or this is making me better. So I don't look at it just like a regular test like you, don't. You like in life we'll look at a test like this suck, devil, busy, or whatever you believe in. The universe is against me. I'm cursed. Is that in the third?
Speaker 1:But if your teacher give you, if your teacher gives you a test is to gauge, is to assess where you at. That's why, uh, what is it now like? A lot of times they call them assessments. I'm trying to assess where you at. Some trials and tribulations be the same thing like I'm assessing where you're at. Or I know that you're able to get here like some tests. You got to take that test to pass on to the next grade, so I know that you're able to pass this test. So I'm giving it to you like this is in order to get to this next chapter in your life, you got to pass this test and that is the best example that I could have for like the role of resilience and career development.
Speaker 1:Like stuff gonna happen at your workplace, your job, your life, you, the best employee for yourself. At the like you fell a PT test or ACLT, hiding weight, whatever. Shake back don't mean you keep failing or doing whatever. Understand that, be resilient, bounce back and understand that whatever you did to get there, fix it before you won't be there no more. But if you're not resilient, you're oh the devil, busy. This is all that's been going on. What was me? You know I hate it. Life is just life and whatever. Then you're going to sit there and have this victim mentality and be stuck in the same spot when we at Settling oh, setting personal and professional goals I talk about this a lot uh, is it go hand to hand? Just go go into the last and final segment? Uh, the workplace balance. That's the next segment, but it kind of going to it with setting the personal and professional goals.
Speaker 1:I think you need both and you need both Like I want to be this place in my career, just like I say with school. Like having college in the service gets you promoted to the next rank, but it does and it doesn't Like it looks good when it's time to get promoted to the next rank, but you have stipulations on getting promoted in the service anyway. So you can be the best as you can be. Your, your performances could be great, but if you don't have time and service time and grade and it's a certain time that you have to sit at a rank, all that stuff you're doing means nothing. The civilian world is. I know it could be the same way. Like you can have this degree, you can get your foot in the door higher, but you still may not be where you want because of lack of experience. So I just think hand-to-hand it works. Like do stuff. I like the fact that I have a degree working on finishing up my bachelor's and but I have associates, it's, it's. It works hand-to-hand. It looks good in the military and if I decide to get out of the military, I have something to fall back on. I'm not just stellar being like this stellar athlete at PT and getting out of service and they're like what you gonna do with that? Like they don't care you running a 14, unless that's what your job you're going into doing, like they paying you to run a 14, do whatever and it's great. But now I'm talking to that attendant. It's like, okay, that's great what you got. Oh, I have 1,000 awards on my chest that don't mean nothing out here to us. Like, what does that translate to to make you suitable for this job that you're applying for? So, yeah, I can say that Set professional goals, like Set professional and personal goals and sometimes they help for them to coincide.
Speaker 1:They help for them to learn with each other, run parallel, like they do not have to cross, but they can run with each other and y'all get into the same destination. But the goals could be separate and just for setting those goals, write them down. Same thing write them down Like they teach in college and in the service. The SMART goal what is it? Specific, measurable, time-oriented, like. Just look up SMART goals and it's great. It's not just a goal. Now, it's just like I want to run faster. Now you say, okay, what's just like I want to run faster. Now you say, okay, what's specific? I want to run faster. Um, how, like? How am I going to do it? What time limit am I going to get myself to be able to run faster? And it helps you. So look up smart goals. Look on smart goals when you, when it's time for you to set your professional and personal goals.
Speaker 1:Last and final segment of this episode maintaining work-life balance. The importance of setting boundaries, strategies for stress management, achieving balance for suitable performance, suitable and sustainable performance. I like that, ending this podcast episode strong, uh, those. This is a good segment. Maintaining work-life balance. Tell you the truth, I know it's important. I don't know how to do it. I feel like this episode would not be birthed if I understood setting profession I'm not about to go back to goals If I understood setting the work-life balance. And don't get me wrong, what's so funny? This is actually a part that's on a counseling statement, evaluation for the Army or whatever. That's the best I could do it, but whatever, my monthly counseling statement for my soldiers, that is actually a key component. That's on the new form work and life balance, and I think that's what.
Speaker 1:I think the army purposely takes it away because the army is going to work the dog crap out of you and that's not going anywhere. But that does not mean that you should not work. You do. I think you should work the dog crap out of you, depending on what your goals are, depending on what you need to do. But I ain't going to let the Army continue to dog me and then I just sit over here and play with myself. I don't have it in me to work just as hard for myself and the Army just dogging the crap out of me.
Speaker 1:But truthfully, really, like I say boundary, I pay for my phone bill, I pick it up, answer when I want to, um, and sometimes like, don't get me wrong, like sometimes I really do not hear it, but I put it on, do not disturb, I put it on solid. Like give me a chance to be my family, give me a chance to, to, to gather my thoughts, because the army would take so much out of you, like the training I just came from. They took our phones. They took our phones for like two weeks and hey, it was worth it. Like people don't have access to you.
Speaker 1:And when people like cell phones, literally, like I say, get an army, get your job, get people, they feel like they got this 24 hour access to you and it's like no, like I have two, have two phones. Well, I got a bunch of phones but I have two main phones, right. And when this phone was messing up, um, my commander like which is like another supervisor, high supervisor, right, whatever. He's like, oh, I called your other phone. I'm like I don't even have that phone with me but just for you could feel like you got one phone and if I don't, if you don't pick that phone call up, if I don't, if you don't pick that phone call up, saying like my commander, if he don't pick that phone call up, texting him calling, I gotta call around to get with him. I don't have it, just like it.
Speaker 1:Just, I just didn't like the way it felt. I'm like I'm not going, you're not gonna have access to both of my phones anymore because it's just like for you to and like I get it. You don't pick up here. I got this number and when he got that other number it was out of need for him to have it. Everybody does not have both of my numbers because everybody do not have the need to have my, my other numbers. It's like that's why you have a personal phone. You got a work phone and it's just like ah, you can have the work phone, personal phone draws back and there's nothing that says I can't do that. You do not have this unlimited access to me.
Speaker 1:And, like I said, yes, do the Army control you 24-7? For the most part, yes, they do, but you have to learn to set boundaries. And, like I said, truthfully, I really can't say I have a thousand strategies to give y'all to do that, because I'm not, I've never been too good at it. I have a thousand strategies to give y'all to do that, because I'm not, I've never been too good at it, I've never been too good at setting boundaries. I always come to this point of a breaking point or a boiling over point and then a boundary. The boundary is birthed out of the explosion. It's like, you know, like a barricade, like you blow some gravel up to I'm sorry, you blow a mountain or some concrete up to make a boundary to protect something else. That's kind of how a lot of my boundaries are birthed. It's like, boom, something happened and it finally just collapses and now I have a boundary set up and it's not. It didn't have to be that way. But yeah, I ain't even going to act like I'm going to hold y'all and take up a thousand time on that I'd be lying. Somebody comment and give me some. I think it's important to set it Y'all.
Speaker 1:Give me some strategies on setting boundaries, strategies for stress management. Like I say same thing Cut their phone off sometimes. Block out crap that don't matter. Block out people that don't matter. Block out people that don't matter. Stress management in the time. Calming down.
Speaker 1:I know the counting backwards method, putting stuff into perspective, helped me a lot. Putting things into perspective Like I'm pissed off, I'm mad, but it's like for what? Think about it. These people have been acting like this forever. You have been in the army for a freaking decade. It has been like this forever. What the heck are you upset about? And it's just like calming down, bringing into the clarity, bringing in into perspective, overthinking understanding. Like, okay, you already into perspective. Overthinking understanding. Like okay, you already. What is you hot for? Like you're here, I'm overthinking for whatever reason. Go back to your Hawkeye ego perspective. Look at the big picture, bring your understanding back around. That usually comes down. What's the last one before we can wrap this episode up? What's the last one before we can wrap this episode up? What's the last one?
Speaker 1:Achieving balance for sustainable and suitable performance. Like I say, I think balance is. In order to have balance, something always has to be shifted. It can't nothing can be set because it won't balance. Like balance has to have the ability to move up and down in order to balance. So, with me saying that, I think working balance has to always be reworked and that's why it's one of the hardest things to find. Like, if you're standing up on two legs and then you go to one leg, you might not be able to stand with this arm fully extended the whole time, or you might have to engage your core a little bit more. Do whatever, like balance is one of those things that has to be found and adjusted in order to be kept. And, like I said, that I did. You know what I owe y'all a whole episode. I'm gonna look up some of the just those from that last segment just look up setting boundaries, finding out strategies and and I owe y'all a whole episode on that but with that, we're gonna do a recap of all of the segments bringing this episode to a close.
Speaker 1:This episode is Peaking your Performance Be your Best Employee and the segments that we had on here Understanding your Role, developing Skills and Competencies, building Strong Work Relationships, time Management and Productivity, self-improvement and Growth. Mindset Ooh, I don't even know how I skipped over that, but mindset I always say that I'm a mindset speaker. It's the way you look at it. People make jokes about it like it's a mindset thing, but it really is Mindset. Excuse me, it really is Mindset. It could be the difference between you building a bridge and you jumping off one. It's how you're looking at life.
Speaker 1:But number six maintaining work and life balance. Like I said, that's something that a lot of us balance is hard. I will not. Like I said, I owe y'all a whole episode on that, so just got a whole episode on that. So just um, yeah, but um, that means episode to a wrap. I hope y'all enjoyed it. Like I say, I know y'all don't be knowing when y'all go get new episodes, but just always remember I am gonna be. It's the do year I. I am going to be producing these episodes, so always remember it's a new episode coming. You think I ain't working? I'm working. If you think I ain't working, I'm working, I'm doing it. But I really hope y'all enjoyed this episode. I enjoyed this episode. I enjoyed talking to y'all.
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