Motivating YOU to find your motivation!

What if embracing selfishness could be the most selfless thing you do? Join me, Ali Kay, on the Selfish Mom Podcast, as I reveal how small, consistent actions have sustained my motivation and self-care for over a decade. Learn about the transformative 5-5-5 exercise formula that keeps both body and mind in check, even on those dreaded funk days. Together, we redefine self-care by celebrating small wins and embracing the power of community. You'll discover how sharing personal achievements with loved ones can bring unexpected support, fueling your journey of self-improvement.

Looking for a blend of personal growth and adventure? I'm thrilled to announce an exclusive travel opportunity to Mykonos, where I'll be guiding a select group on a journey of community and personal freedom. With monthly Zoom chats to build camaraderie before our trip, this experience promises a perfect mix of group activities and private exploration. Plus, stay tuned for my upcoming YouTube series chronicling my move to a farm—a story of new beginnings and building dreams from the ground up. Let's celebrate progress and make self-care the cornerstone of our lives, one small step at a time.

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Motivation and Consistency for Self-Care

Speaker 1 0:00

Welcome to the Selfish Mom Podcast , a podcast for you , so you don't get burnt out like a mother . I'm your host , allie Kay , and this is the Selfish Mom Podcast . Learn to prioritize your mental and physical health first , so we can thrive and not just survive . Let's take action , become our best selves together and redefine selfish as the most selfless thing we could do together , and redefine selfish as the most selfless thing we could do .

Speaker 2 0:26

Welcome to the Selfish Mom Podcast . I am your host , allie Kay , and on this episode let's talk all things motivation how do you stay motivated , how to start getting motivated , how to stay motivated . I am going to share some of my tips , like five , five , five and how to just start get yourself out of the funk and keep pushing forward . So stick around . On this episode it has been really like the question that I get all the time is how do I stay motivated ? So I wanted to bring an episode for you that is somewhat of a quickie , you know , really quick , like refresher , share some of my motivation or at least like how I stay motivated , how I get myself out of the funk days and how to , how I kind of like switch that mindset so that you can finish 2024 off with a bang and kind of propel you into 2025 . Because , whether you realize it or not , like 2025 is knocking at our door . That is really scary to think . I honestly feel like 2024 just started . But sometimes that's how life feels Like . It feels like life . Just , we just kind of flow with life and that's not kind of what we want to do . We want to be intentional and grab life by its balls and take a hold of it , right ? So that's what I hope to bring today and inspire you . So I want to talk about motivation . How do I stay motivated ? That is like the number one question I get asked all the time , and I probably have about four episodes just on motivation alone , If you want to listen back on those where I kind of elaborate basically what I'm going to tell you now . So what I truly believe in and you guys will hear me talk about this all the time , especially on my content on Instagram . I think this is like the core of everything that I believe in that has helped me the past 10 years through pregnancies , postpartum periods , through losing 70 pounds , gaining all the weight , losing another 50 pounds , like I've . I've been on this journey for 10 years and I've been able to kind of maneuver myself to keep pushing forward through it all , even when I've had a lot of setbacks . And that's what consistency is right . It's not perfection , it's about committing to the bare minimum action .

Speaker 2 3:33

So , going back to the question of how do I stay motivated , it's committing to the bare minimum action . Small actions drive motivation . Now , what are these small actions ? So , these are small actions that you can do every single day that bring you closer to your goals . And everyone's small actions are different and look different for everyone . So you can't compare someone's bare minimum to your bare minimum , because everyone's bare minimum looks completely different and you probably have like bare minimums in each category of your life .

Speaker 2 4:12

So going to like just hit on funk days , when I get in my funk days and I am in that mindset where I don't want to do anything and I'm laying in bed and you know , everything just feels very overwhelming . What am I going to do ? Today ? My to-do list is like a million pages long and I don't even know where to start . Like my laundry's piled up , my house is messy this happens more than it should , but it's like what do I ? Where do I even start ?

Speaker 2 4:42

And this is where the bare minimum action comes into play . It's about doing the smallest little action that you can do in that moment and that smallest action will drive more action . So when you have like a super messy house and you don't even know where to begin , I always say , like maybe just start with making your bed , and that small action of making your bed might motivate you more to do a little more action like unload the dishwasher . That dishwasher being unloaded that you just did might motivate you a little more to get the vacuum out . And so , before you know it , you're not thinking of like this whole picture , like the whole messy house . You're just focusing on these little small actions that will kind of motivate you to do more .

Speaker 2 5:27

And the same is true going to staying motivated with putting in the work towards your mental and physical health . Like some days I don't want to work out whatsoever . So I have a bare minimum action plan , the five , five , five that I just have myself do . And sometimes that bare minimum action of the 555 is good enough for me where I'm like all right , that's all I have in me , or sometimes that motivates me to do even more . So let me share the 555 with you . The 555 is a formula that I have come up with to kind of define my bare minimum action when it comes to moving my body . So I truly believe when I move my body it helps me feel better mentally , physically , all the things . That's like the foundation to everything for me is like moving my body for my mental health .

Speaker 2 6:21

And there are definitely days I am not motivated , but what I have committed to is the bare minimum action , and my bare minimum action is that 5-5-5 when it comes to moving my body . So what the 5-5-5 is is I pick five different workout moves . So my basis of the 5-5-5 is exercise jumping jacks , squats , crunches , high knees and pushups . Sorry , I had like a brain fart right there . I'm like , yeah , that's what I'm talking about Five exercises . And what you do is you ? So you pick five exercises , like I just gave that example , you do five reps of them , so just five times , and you repeat that five times . So five exercises , five reps , five rounds , that's the five , five , five . And something so basic like that that you continuously commit to every single day will gradually motivate you to do more action or build upon that bare minimum action . That's the entire goal , is like building upon your bare minimum action , because that bare minimum action will become a habit , like a habit of moving your body consistently . And again , consistency does not mean perfection . It means just doing something each day that will bring you closer to your goals , and the days that you do fall off track , or the weeks or the months you getting back on track to keep pushing forward . That's what consistency means .

Speaker 2 7:57

Another way I stay motivated other than the bare minimum action is a mindset . It's a mindset of dropping the all or nothing thinking . So what is the all or nothing thinking ? The all or nothing thinking is something that we are all victim of , and it's where we think everything has to be extreme or perfect or we just resort to doing nothing . So think of like a new year's resolution is the perfect example . January 1st , we're going to go strong , we're going to start running a mile a day , we're going to eat , you know , healthy , we're not going to have any sugar , and we're going to do that 24 , seven . And you know , the day before we're going to binge and we're going to have all the drinks and party and all that . And then tomorrow we're just going to start this extreme new lifestyle . Well , I know you've probably tried this . I've definitely have tried this .

Speaker 2 8:54

What typically happens is we're like on the grind . Monday and Tuesday we're doing it , and then by Wednesday we're like this sucks , I think I want a cookie . We probably have a bite of cookie . And then by Thursday we're like eh , whatever the weekend's here , we'll just try again on Monday . Right , that's that all or nothing , where it's either extreme and perfect or it's like nothing . We just resort to nothing and we'll try again later .

Speaker 2 9:18

So the bare minimum action helps us to kind of get out of that mindset and get into this different mindset where the bare minimum is good enough . You know , something is 100% better than nothing . So it's doing something and allowing yourself to be okay with doing something with okay with doing the bare minimum action . And again , everyone's bare minimum action is different . So maybe the five , five , five is is a little too much for you . Five exercises might be a little too much , and that's okay . So maybe your bare minimum action , when it comes to putting in the work for your mental and physical health , might be one minute of journaling in the morning , one glass of water and five squats . That's something that you do every single day , no matter if you've had the worst day , the best day , um , you know a crisis situation . You can still commit to your bare minimum action . You can do it consistently and once that bare minimum action becomes a habit , it feels like second nature . Then you build upon that bare minimum action . That's where you add in , you know , another workout move , another healthy habit , like , maybe , eating protein in the morning , like being intentional about integrating protein in the morning and then keep evolving upon that bare minimum action .

Speaker 2 10:43

The problem that we all have that is just something in our society is that we all want instant gratification . We want to lose that weight right away , we want to see changes right away , we want to be running 20 miles out the gate right away . And that's not the way it works . You have to put in the work and unfortunately , well , you can look at it two ways . You can say to yourself unfortunately , this sucks , it all takes time . Or you can kind of fall in love with the process , fall in love with the journey of taking it day by day and putting in the work each day to get better . That's the process , that's the journey , that's the journey , that's the most rewarding thing .

Speaker 2 11:31

When I started my first journey after losing weight you know the 70 pounds and that really propelled me into , like , this whole new fitness journey that I fell in love with I had to realize that there was no finish line , like , yes , I lost the 70 pounds , but then I realized I wanted to get stronger and I also wanted to start running longer distances . You know , there was always a new goal that I was going after and and so , like I said , with weight loss or anything , it's not about like crossing this finish line . You might lose 50 pounds and that might be your goal number on the scale , but it's not like you can just like lose that weight , cross the finish line and then resort back to your old habits right . It's about creating and building a new , sustainable lifestyle that works for you and , I think , getting into that mindset of just taking it day by day rather than being like , oh , once I get here , then I'm just gonna , you know , chill and go back to my old ways . It's . It's falling in love with the process . It's falling in love with the work and it's also celebrating your small wins , like if you reached your bare minimum for that day

Embrace Self-Celebration and Progress

Speaker 2 12:53

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Speaker 2 12:53

Celebrate yourself like . Post it on social media . Some people , that's not their thing . Tell a friend about it , you know . Tell your significant other about it , tell your kids about it . Let me tell you the biggest cheerleaders . You will be surprised how hyped up your kids will be for you . I love telling my kids about like guys , guess what ? I squatted a new weight today . My 10 year old son will be like wow , mom , that's really awesome . And then the next week he'll ask me about it . And sometimes I hadn't , like , squatted that week or I hadn't really lifted weights , and I'll be like , yeah , you know what I ? I didn't do any weights today . Thanks for asking me about it . You know , like that kind of keeps my accountability going because I've told someone about it . You know my kids and they're asking me hey , how's it going ? And that's , that's really awesome too .

Speaker 2 13:40

There's , there's nothing wrong with celebrating your small wins . So celebrate yourself . Get in the mindset that something is better than nothing and give yourself grace for doing the bare minimum . The bare minimum is good enough , because it's better than resorting to doing absolutely nothing . And remember , if something's easy like if you can get something easy then what we like to say is it's sleazy , like great things require work , putting in that work . So it's about falling in love with that work , falling in love with the process . Understand that it's a journey . There is no finish line and the greatest gift you can give to yourself is putting in the work each and every day to become your best self , mentally and physically , and that's this exciting journey that we're all on . So I hope this hyped you up just a little bit . Get you in that right mindset that 2024 is coming to an end , but we want to finish 2024 off strong . We want to get ahead of the holidays . We want to welcome 2025 with a bang , and the way you do that is you set your intentions , come up with a bare minimum action plan that you can commit to every single day , no matter what type of day you're having , and stick with that bare minimum , evolve on that bare minimum and watch yourself create this sustainable lifestyle that works for you , and don't forget to celebrate your small wins .

Speaker 2 15:04

So that has been another episode of the Selfish Mom podcast . We have a whole new season coming up . I know it's been a long time waiting , but we're getting organized . We're going to release a whole new season with all new guests . And if you have not done so , please go to theselfishmomcoachingcom . Get yourself on the list . My new app online coaching with meal plans , custom workout plans , habit trackers , workouts that you can follow , video workouts with me , chat with me all the things is coming out Black Friday that weekend . So get yourself on the list so that you can receive emails about that .

Speaker 2 15:45

And if you are somebody who has never given yourself anything like , if you are someone who doesn't really , you know , do things for yourself . Then I just wanna put in your mind I have a trip coming up to Mykonos , greece . It is an all planned Greece trip to Mykonos Six days . We have an amazing itinerary . It is for anyone and everyone who just wants to have a great group experience , travel , explore Mykonos and get away , do something for yourself . And what is going to happen is the trip is the end of May and you can sign up now . There are only seven spots left for the early bird special , which is over $300 off , and the great thing is that you can pay over time for this trip . So there's still , you know , six , seven months out , so there's plenty of time to plan , kind of set your budget .

Group Travel Opportunity With Personal Freedom

Speaker 2 16:44

If this is something that you want to do , I will be happy to answer any questions , but I will be your host on this trip .

Speaker 2 16:51

It will be a small group , probably between like 15 , 20 people the most . I'll be doing zoom chats , like monthly , with everyone who's going on the trip , so we're all kind of comfortable with each other . But even though we're traveling as a group and we have the itinerary together , there'll still be time , like downtime , that you can go explore on your own , or maybe you and a friend are coming on this trip . You guys can go do your own thing . So it's a great kind of like balanced trip , a way to get out to Mykonos , explore it with some great people , but also , if you want that time alone or with a friend that you're bringing , you can have it as well . So more information on that . You guys know where to find me on Instagram , tiktok , and pretty soon I will also be releasing the monthly YouTube series about me moving to my farm and building my house . So stay tuned for that and I will catch you next time .