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GLP-1s, WeightLoss, and Mom Life: The Raw Q&A

• Ali Kay • Season 2 • Episode 3

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What does it really mean to be a "selfish mom"? In this raw and candid episode, I open up about my recent Hashimoto's diagnosis and why it's become my wake-up call to prioritize my health again. After years of putting everyone else first, I'm embarking on a 30-day journey eliminating gluten, dairy, and sugar—not from a place of restriction, but with the hope of reclaiming my energy and feeling like myself again.

Many of you have noticed my recent weight changes and asked if I'm using GLP-1s. The answer is no, but I share my honest thoughts on weight loss aids and why sustainable habits matter more than quick fixes. I also tackle the uncomfortable truth that losing weight doesn't automatically make you content with your body—something I've learned firsthand after losing over 50 pounds.

The reality of life with three boys ages 11, 7, and 2 isn't always Instagram-perfect. I confess to moments of disassociation, feeling overstimulated, and sometimes sitting in my car before entering the house just to catch my breath. These aren't failures—they're necessary adaptations when you're stretched thin. The secret isn't doing it all perfectly; it's getting back in the driver's seat of your life rather than letting life happen to you.

For those struggling to find themselves amid the chaos of motherhood, I'm launching a six-week Selfish Mom Method coaching program designed to help you prioritize your mental and physical health while creating sustainable routines. Because here's what I've learned: taking care of yourself isn't selfish—it's the foundation that allows you to show up fully for everyone else.

Ready to redefine what being "selfish" really means? This conversation might be exactly what you need to hear.

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Speaker 1:

Welcome to the Selfish Mom Podcast, a podcast for you, so you don't get burnt out like a mother. I'm your host, allie Kay, and this is the Selfish Mom Podcast. Learn to prioritize your mental and physical health first, so we can thrive and not just survive. Let's take action, become our best selves together and redefine selfish as the most selfless thing we could do.

Speaker 2:

Hey guys, welcome to the Selfish Mom Podcast. I'm your host, allie Cave. It's been a minute. Let's catch up and chat a little bit. So, on this episode, I asked you guys a lot of questions on my Instagram stories. I'm going to answer those questions all the way from GLP-1s, what I do for stretch marks, what's my current routine, like all the things. And then I also want to catch you up on my whole 30 day going no gluten, no sugar, no dairy, why I'm doing it. I'm only on day two, so I want to give you, like, all the background and everything I'm doing so far, as well as talk about the six week selfish mom, as well as talk about the six week selfish mom coaching. It's a selfish mom method that is coming up and it's a six week course, so I want to talk more about that. And, of course, I want to give an update about my house, because any opportunity I get to talk about my house, I'm going to, I'm going to share it with you, so stick around. So so it's definitely been a minute since the last episode and I'm definitely guilty like, okay, I'm gonna come out with weekly episodes, and the thing is I definitely want to, and I know you moms can totally relate with the podcast.

Speaker 2:

It's a lot of scheduling. It's a lot of scheduling, it's a lot of coordinating and sometimes I'm just not inspired and I like to pride myself on authenticity and I just I can't fake it, you know. So if I'm not feeling inspired that week or I really don't have a topic that I feel passionate about, then I typically don't record. And then, as far as guests, I have all these guests you know, like in my emails we've been going back and forth probably for like years, you know, and the list continues to go on. But just the coordination of it. So if you're listening to this and you just want to coordinate my guests as something to do and you love the podcast, let me know because that would be very, very helpful.

Speaker 2:

But I asked you guys some questions and I'm going to answer them and if you haven't listened to the last episode I put out, I kind of caught you up on everything as far as my weight loss journey after baby number three and what I did the past year to lose the last of the weight, I know you guys have been asking me a lot like oh my gosh, you look a lot skinnier, are you on GLP-1s? And the answer is no. And again, if you listen to that podcast episode you'll hear all the things I did. But again it kind of had to do with getting on thyroid medicine. And then the biggest thing was I got on Welbutrin for my ADHD and it did help me lose just a little bit of weight and I was training for a full marathon. So I have gained. I feel like I'm back to like my normal body weight, whatever that is before I had Lane, so right before I got pregnant. And again my goal is to just be the best version of myself and I'm really really trying day two to build back the muscle and just feel a lot better.

Speaker 2:

So I guess, before I answer the questions, I want to talk about the whole Hashimoto's thing. If you follow me on Instagram and if you listen to the podcast, I have been saying for the past like two years since I gave birth to Lane, how crappy I felt and my thyroid levels weren't the best. So I did go on medicine but they weren't like in the range of Hashimoto's or anything like. My doctor never said anything like that. And then I was on the medicine and my levels were good. So I decided that I wanted to get off the medicine and see if I can maintain my thyroid levels myself, and I guess everything that I've learned is, when you go on thyroid medicine, it can be very, very helpful. But your thyroid can also be dependent on this medicine, in the sense that your thyroid tells its body like, okay, I'm producing enough, so I don't need to make more or less, I just need to stay where I am because I have this thing that's helping me, which is the medicine. So it's kind of again what modern medicine is. It's kind of just helping with the symptoms. I feel like putting a Band-Aid on the situation where, if I were to get off the medicine, it's not going to heal my thyroid, right, it's just helping my symptoms. And so I thought, hey, I'll get off this medicine and see if I can maintain my thyroid levels. No, that's not true. My levels went crazy. And then my doctor wants to test my antibodies and my thyroid to officially diagnose me with Hashimoto's. So that's where I am and I feel like I have lived a very strict lifestyle.

Speaker 2:

Before I got pregnant with baby number three, I was living a very strict lifestyle. I was weight training. I, you best believe I would barely have gluten. You know that was like enemy number one. Gluten and dairy would not touch that, and sugar I would definitely have, you know. But I just I definitely lived more of a regimen, structured, strict lifestyle than I do now. So I feel like I just I haven't gotten myself up to going back to like this strict lifestyle, even though I know in the back of my mind like, oh my gosh, I know I probably feel so much better. And one of one of the ways that I got into living a strict lifestyle before Lane was I did the Arbonne 30 day thing, which was basically doing their protein shakes but also no gluten, no dairy, no sugar, no seed oils, and I like I lost weight and my pictures are before and after, but not only that. I felt amazing and I don't think it was because of Arbonne, I really just think it was because I was cutting out all those things. So I know that like I'm going to feel better doing this.

Speaker 2:

I just have felt so you know, just burnt out, trying to just keep up with the kids and our lifestyle. And you know, just in my mind, like being so strict on a lifestyle does not sound appealing to me. I've just really tried to create a balanced lifestyle for myself, which I felt like I was just entering like kind of balancing out, and then like bam, with this whole Hashimoto thing. I'm like crap. I really need to kick myself into gear and try to get to the core of it, because, also, I think statistically don't quote me, but from what I'm understanding um, the, the, if you've been diagnosed with Hashimoto's, you're more likely to get thyroid cancer as well. That that just scares me, you know. So I feel like this is the wake-up call, to be like, hey, we got to live this strict lifestyle again and honestly, I think just knowing that I'm going to feel better is what's motivating me. You know, rather than thinking of it from a restrictive mindset, thinking that, hey, for 30 days cutting out gluten and sugar and dairy and seed oils and alcohol, that at the end of the 30 days I'm going to see a difference in, probably, my energy, the way I sleep, you know, my physical body, my mental, which has just been, you know, all over my scattered brain, you know just ADHD symptoms peaking, like I just want to see how I feel. There's no harm doing this and I I'm doing it. So we're on day two. I just want to throw it out there.

Speaker 2:

I am documenting like everything I eat in a day on TikTok. I try to like transfer that content onto Instagram as well, but TikTok is where I just like you don't have to curate your content you can just kind of put it out there. So if you're more interested in what I'm eating, definitely go to TikTok and you'll see what I'm eating for the day. And remember I am not this like well rounded person in the kitchen. I really struggle, you know, every night asking myself what do we feed our kids for dinner? Like every night that question comes up what are we making for dinner? Like I just I'm not. That is not one of my strong suits in the kitchen, but I have definitely prepped. On Sunday I went grocery shopping. We cooked meat. I have somewhat of like an idea in my mind what lunches and breakfasts and dinners look like.

Speaker 2:

A question I'm getting a lot is is your husband doing this and are your kids doing this? My husband is not being as strict as I am. Like I am not touching sugar for 30 days. You know I am not touching gluten, but really it starts with me, right, and it starts with you, moms, like how we are like what we bring into our family, right? So I think by me doing the gluten free, the dairy free and having certain foods in the house and not buying certain foods, it's going to trickle down. So I know I've already inspired my husband because, hey, we're having salmon tonight. You know we're not ordering Chick-fil-A, so he's definitely going to be doing like a version of this and he's definitely feeling like in a funk, like he wants to feel a little better too. So he's curious. You know like I want to clean up my diet as well.

Speaker 2:

And as far as the kids, one thing I learned early on is I do not make separate meals for my kids. What I'm eating is what they're eating, so if I'm having spinach salad, they are going to have spinach salad. Now my middle son he's seven, he just turned seven. He's very, very picky and I think he also has somewhat of like a texture problem when it comes to food. Honestly, I've been thinking in the back of my mind I probably should look into food therapy for him, because it's more like a texture thing and I'm to the point like I don't want to force him to eat anything he doesn't want to eat, but I do fear he's not getting the nutrients that he needs because the kid lives off of chicken fingers, french fries he does eat steak, he we. He will eat salmon and crab, you know, but we can't go to crab dinner every night. He's gonna have to just learn how to eat certain things and I think maybe food therapy is the is the solution for that. But back to what I was trying to say is, I don't make separate meals for my kids, so if we're having steak for dinner, they have steak. If we're having chicken and broccoli, they're having chicken and broccoli on their plate. So I think that just makes it less work. And also, again, like, what you eat inspires what the rest of your family eats. So I'm really excited about this 30 day. I will keep you updated. Again, if you want to listen more and know specifically what I'm eating, go to my TikTok and Instagram. But I also, I think at the end of the 30 days, I'll probably release one of my PDFs that I do, kind of showing you the guide that I follow, that I do, kind of showing you the guide that I follow.

Speaker 2:

Real quick, I just want to say that I just bought the medical mediums book, the Clean Living. I think it's Clean Living or Detox Living, I don't know. It's the one with the watermelon on the front of the book. He has a lot of books. I'm hooked on the medical medium. If you don't know who that is, go look him up. I'm just medium. If you don't know who that is, go look him up. I'm just ever. All his perspectives and really his like biggest thing one of the biggest things he talks about, which is what I'm doing every morning, is making a heavy metal detox shake and the certain ingredients that in this shake really helps you rid of the heavy metals, and heavy metals are the root of so many issues going on. At least he believes in. A lot of us believe too, um, so I'm just really excited to start that heavy metal detox shake. Learn more about the medical medium. So if you want to know where I've been like inspired or where I'm getting my information right now I'm all about the medical medium, so definitely go check him out. He has his own podcast, instagram. So many great things.

Speaker 2:

Okay, let's get into the questions, because that's always fun. Someone says what's your opinion on weight loss aids? I currently have a gastric balloon, so you guys have been asking me a lot. Am I on GLP-1s? You know, have I done them? And the answer is no. So I am not against GLP-1s at all, like for anyone who feels like they need it and they see a doctor and they feel like they are a candidate. I think that it might be a great option for people you know. And the gastric balloon I don't know a lot about, like gastric surgeries, but I know that they're life-changing right. I don't feel like you should struggle, like if you're overweight and your quality of life is down and and your mental health and all the things like. By no means like go get that GLP-1 to give you that jumpstart.

Speaker 2:

You know, my biggest issue with them that I think just everyone needs to be mindful of is the whole building the habits. You know, if you aren't building these small habits and making these small changes, then I feel like we're always going to be dependent on these GLP-1s, right? Almost like the thyroid medicine. I know that if I'm not making a change in my lifestyle, I'm going to be dependent on this thyroid medicine and that's why I'm so motivated to do it. Also, the Welbutrin like I'm taking the Welbutrin for my ADHD symptoms, obviously because my body's not working properly, you know, I think body and mind are connected and I don't want to be dependent on the Welbutrin. I want to get off of it. Therefore, I want to heal myself. I want to get to the core of the issues and I think that's where I kind of stand with the GLP ones. You know, if you have a poor relationship with food food is like your crutch then you know, with the GLP-1, go seek food therapy or therapy to, you know, start building habits on the GLP-1, you know. So I don't think GLP-1 is just the solution. I think building habits is everything you know. Otherwise we are going to be dependent on these things. So that's where I stand with the GLP-1s. I am not against them.

Speaker 2:

Honestly, when I was doing the 70 pound weight loss journey with my second son and or after I had my second son, then I got pregnant again and I just lost, you know, over 50 pounds. Glp ones weren't a thing, like they weren't really a thing until last year. It took me two and a half years to lose the weight the third time. But you know the beginning of my weight loss journey where I lost, like the most weight, even the weight loss journey before the 70 pound weight loss journey before GLP ones weren't, you know, weren't a thing and honestly, if they were, I, I don't know, I don't think I would do anything differently. You know, I'm kind of looking at it hindsight because, you know, having so many plateaus through the weight loss journey and going through so many struggles and finding out what worked and what didn't work, like that's that's made me who I am today and where I am today and as far as like my lifestyle too. So I don't, I don't think I would do GLP-1s if they were available at that time either. I I I think there's something to the struggle, but again, that's my personal take. I am not against GLP-1s. Go live your life. I truly believe that there is a reason why we have modern medicine. Which did you start to change first, eating habits or exercise. So this is a really good one, I think.

Speaker 2:

For me, my bare minimum, that kind of propelled me into the weight loss journey, lifestyle or fitness journey. Let's call it a fitness journey because it wasn't just like a weight loss journey, let's just say like fitness journey. What propelled me both times, you know, and even after Lucas, was finding a connection with movement. So that was just walking, five minutes of walking outside. I walked right away after my C-section, walking the babies in a stroller and one of the kids riding their bikes going outside, like that was my sanity, and I made that connection with movement really early on. You know, movement for my mental health, I always felt better after moving my body. So I would say that was my first step and my journey was connecting with movement. Now, as I connected with movement, my movement evolved. You know, I started doing maybe longer workouts. My walking turned into jogging and then, as far as food, that has been something that continues to evolve, because the biggest misconception of a weight loss journey is people think that once they lost the weight, they're going to cross the finish line, and that's not what it's about.

Speaker 2:

It's creating a sustainable lifestyle that works for you and you might plateau and you might not connect with things that you connected with in the beginning, meaning like things that worked for you in the beginning might not work for you now. And that's like me, even to this day. Yes, I lost the weight, but now I'm starting a whole new journey when it comes to nutrition, with keeping the gluten out, the dairy, no sugar. You know I'm doing something completely different when it comes to nutrition and what I'm eating. So I feel like that the nutrition is something that's going to constantly evolve and, again, it's not going to be this extreme thing where all of a sudden you wake up one day and you're like, okay, I'm not going to do this and I'm not going to do that, especially if you've just haven't even done anything.

Speaker 2:

You know it starts really small and I think that's where also it's making the connection with foods. I've learned right now sugar makes me feel like crap. Diet Coke, as much as it's so good, I do not feel good after I drink it. You know I'm making those connections, just like early on I've made connections with food. I think the biggest thing with nutrition was also like pulling back a little bit, meaning you know I would wake up and I would put creamer in my coffee, I would go to Starbucks and get those frappuccinos and the java chips and all the things, and that was pulled back to, maybe doing that like once a week or when I was home, maybe just like one thing, like one pump of creamer, you know, like slowly pulling back. Also portions it's, you know, looking at your portion. So I think it's just becoming mindful and understanding connections between things, how certain things make you feel, and then evolving that with time, so it does not happen overnight. It is a journey, just like it's a journey with me, with my lifestyle. Now I am going very strict, but again like I'm just not waking up and doing this Like this has been an evolution. You know for years that I've gotten to this point, so you definitely have to start small.

Speaker 2:

Another question is just lost 50 pounds after last baby, never satisfied with weight or body, when and how to feel content? I feel you People think that once they lose the weight or once they get their body back or whatever, they might think that all of a sudden they're going to be content and everything's just going to fall in place. And again, that is a misconception. With weight loss, losing the weight does not equal happiness and it does not equal being content. I will tell you this from firsthand. I've lost weight. You know, both times I've done major weight loss journeys and I feel like I pick myself apart more now, like after losing the weight, than I did while I had the weight on. You know I'm constantly looking at my body and seeing imperfections. You know I'm constantly just not content and and I'm aware of that and I'm working towards it, but I so that's where I'm saying like it starts by doing the inner work.

Speaker 2:

Now you know what, what does make you happy? Maybe like redefining what your happiness is. But losing weight isn't happiness. If that makes sense, that happiness and that peace comes from within. And also learning to accept your body is something that you know. It can be hard to do, but I think it's something that's necessary. And again, it doesn't just like fall in place and happen after you lose weight. So I just want to put that out there. I'm struggling with it too, totally struggling with it, and I feel like, as long as you're aware and you're intentional of like your, your thinking, then you're putting in the work towards it. But learning how to love and accept yourself at every phase is a work in progress. It's hard, it's difficult. So I just want to give that motivation. You know it's. It's not like it's just at the end. You know, once you lose this weight, like you can start with that. You can start working on that now.

Speaker 2:

So someone just said not new here, but how did you get so skinny recently? What's the secret? You always look so good. So I just want to remind you guys and I posted this on Instagram I am 5'1", I am very, I'm just a naturally petite person. I weighed 97 pounds my entire life. You know, I that number sounds absurd but I'm I'm short, I'm a shorty and I'm just petite. So I feel like when I do lose like five pounds, it looks drastic or it makes a difference, just like if I gain five pounds, it makes a difference.

Speaker 2:

And so the past year, you know, I've definitely still been gradually trying to lose weight, but I think it was back in December when I did go on the Wellbutrin and I lost, you know, I think it was like five pounds in one month. That can kind of seem drastic, I feel like on my body type. So that's what you're seeing. And I feel like also with weight loss. It's funny because I lost 50 pounds, you know, in the beginning and no one was like, wow, you lost 50 pounds or you lost a lot of weight, like it's never. It's not until like the final, like 10, 15 pounds, that people notice and they're like, oh, you've lost weight. You know, and I've been losing weight for two and a half years, slowly but steady and plateauing, but I think because of December. It was probably the most weight I've lost in a short amount of time, and and again, that was because of wellbutrin, thyroid medicine, training for a marathon.

Speaker 2:

You, I don't want to say that was my healthiest point, I really don't, because with Wellbutrin it it kind of like. Kind of like I can't talk today. With Wellbutrin I didn't have an appetite, you know I would have to be like, oh yeah, I need to eat today. So, and then, on top of running the miles for the marathon and not consuming the proper, you know nutrition, that I'm not proud of that. I wish I did it another way. I just didn't know what the well future. But I feel like I've gained back the weight where I'm, back to where I was pre December. So, again, like I feel like you're seeing a mix of things, but I think five pounds on, like a petite person can be like oh wow, you lost weight, but in reality it's been two and a half years of gradually losing weight.

Speaker 2:

Did you have three C-sections and which recovery was easiest? I'm due with my third C-section in August and nervous. So if you go back, I do have a couple episodes about C-sections and I did give my birth story for baby Lane and my C-section. Um, my first C-section was an emergency C-section, so that was intense. The recovery was probably the same with the second. There was nothing that stood out that was really bad or hard. I think it's. Let me rewind it's definitely hard having a C-section and taking care of a newborn, but I'm saying nothing like out of the normal of being intense or really painful. Afterwards I definitely did all the pain medicines for about like a week or two after I had the C-sections. That's my little secret staying on top of the pain meds. I definitely took those and walking, walking was everything I will say.

Speaker 2:

I had a different experience with my third C-section, just because I had so much scar tissue from previous C-sections. So that C-section alone was very intense. It was over an hour long and usually C-sections are like like they get the baby out and that's, they sew you up and that's it, like we were in there for over an hour, very intense. The recovery, I would say, was a little more intense too. But I did the same where I took the medicine and I walked. You know, even when I got home from the hospital I walked for a couple minutes outside. We went on stroller walks, so I wasn't like walking on the treadmill, but walking outside for two, three minutes like as much as you can do and gradually doing more each day is everything because you know, like with C-sections, if you sit, still the more stiff you is everything because you know, like with c-sections, if you sit, still the the more stiff you are and that's like the worst feeling.

Speaker 2:

Do you have any advice for mamas who hold on to 30 pounds, breastfeeding, no matter what? I just want to make it clear your body can hold fat when you breastfeed. So many many people tell me oh, you're going to lose all this weight breastfeeding. No, when I was breastfeeding, I held on to weight and I was doing. You know, I was working out, I wasn't cutting calories, but I was eating, you know, nutrient dense foods and whole foods and making the shakes and getting my protein in, and my body just held onto this weight. As soon as I stopped breastfeeding, my body immediately responded and I didn't change anything that I was doing prior. So I think, with that being said, we have to just accept that some of us hold onto the weight. Is it worth it for our babies? Yes, is it frustrating? 100%. But I just want to tell you, as someone at the end of the tunnel, like the light at the end of the tunnel, your body will respond. Just right now, holding on to that fat or the weight is what your body needs to produce that milk for your baby and you're doing something amazing for your baby. And looking back, it will be such a short period of time, even though you know it's like, oh my gosh, it's like never ending. Am I ever going to lose this weight? Yes, you will.

Speaker 2:

Another thing is you can start eating healthy while breastfeeding, like you can go gluten-free while breastfeeding. You can cut out dairy, you know, you can cut out sugar. I think the biggest thing with nursing is not cutting calories, you know. But if you want to start making a lifestyle change, you can absolutely do that breastfeeding. Talk to your doctor. Again, I'm not a doctor, but I think just the thinking is don't cut calories, but, like, cutting sugar out while you're nursing is probably a good thing because your body will function better. You know what I'm saying. You know, giving your body whole foods and nutrient dense foods will probably help your body produce milk, you know, because your body will function better. That's my thinking. Talk to your doctor. But again, I think the biggest thing is not to cut calories while nursing. And, yes, your body will respond At least it responded to me. But it's so wild.

Speaker 2:

I do comparison photos, like as soon as I stopped pumping, you know, and I let my milk dry up my body, it was the biggest change in a month like progress photos that I saw and the scale going down, but mostly like photos like my stomach went down, my uterus, I think, and like my water weight. You saw it on my face and kind of like I was holding a little bit of water that went away and again it's. I didn't do anything different from those two photos that were a couple weeks apart, except stop pumping. So it's definitely a thing, okay, another question How's life with three kids? Well, I love it, but also sometimes I want to cry. I will be fully honest Three kids, and maybe it's three boys, is a lot.

Speaker 2:

Sometimes it is a lot, I feel like, with three kids. My kids are 11, 7, and 2. My two-year-old's almost three, so he's like an older two. But Lane, my youngest, is very needy. He is a Velcro child, he I wore him in a carrier for over the first year, you know, and that's just been a theme that's carried on, that, you know. Like he's like Mom, hold me, hold me, you know. So I feel like a lot goes to Lane. You know he's the baby Lucas, my oldest, is 11. Like, he just finished fifth grade. There's a lot that he's going through too, because there's a lot of homework, there's a lot of new things, like we're doing all the new things as parents with him and I definitely feel the guilt with my middle, you know, and I'm a middle child.

Speaker 2:

This comes from my middle, like, from just being a middle child. I feel like Ford, definitely, you know, we just, he just can live, like he's doing awesome. No, we don't give him attention, but you, you get what I'm saying. I feel like out of the three kids and although we don't give him attention, but you get what I'm saying, I feel like out of the three kids, you know he's doing life and doing great, and I think we're also like, oh, we've done this before, you know. So it's hard because I feel like I guess what I'm trying to say is I feel like there is a lot of mom guilt, you know, and I think I just have to like, stop and be intentional and understand what kid needs me at what moment and stuff, and just really try to be present. One thing I mean this is like a really raw and open thing.

Speaker 2:

I disassociate a lot with three kids in a house and I have caught myself doing it and it's scary how good I am. Like we can be in the family room and I can either be on the phone I could be folding laundry I can be on my computer, I could be reading a book I could just be sitting there and like the boys could be fighting and like tearing up the house and like chasing each other and I don't even hear it. Like I can completely disassociate myself and also like as an introvert. It's just I think maybe that's my defense mechanism, but I am overstimulated. I am definitely overstimulated as a mother of three, so I've learned I need to have moments to myself. When I go to the bathroom I shut the door and I lock it. I have no guilt about that. Some days I go for walks by myself. I sit in my car, in my driveway before I go into the house sometimes. Sometimes I lie to my husband and I say, hey, I got to go do this. And sometimes I'll go get a coffee and sit in the parking lot, like sometimes it's that's just what I need. So I definitely feel overstimulated. There's definitely amazing moments. You know, I love, I love the boys so much. I love being a mom of three. I can't imagine it, but I would be lying to you if I didn't say that it is hard and I struggle. So that is, that is the real truth, you know, and I think for me, I just always need to reset and and set my intentions and my goals for my kids. Otherwise, it's really easy to just let life happen to you rather than being in control. And that can definitely happen with kids, like with schoolwork and activities and in bedtime and what they eat. You know, kind of just being like whatever and just going with the flow, Like I feel like I've done that too Just kind of just whatever. It is what it is. This is the easier way. We're just going to do this, whereas now I'm like, especially the past couple of weeks, I'm like I need to get back in the driver's seat, be intentional, be in control even though it's hard, you know and really take life by the balls, rather than life just happened to me, especially when it comes to the kids. So it's a lot.

Speaker 2:

Lane will be going to preschool full time, I think, in August. Right now he kind of goes. He'll go for a week. He won't go for a week. He. He goes until 12. He's definitely to the point where he he wants activities, he wants to see friends. So I don't feel guilty about that. Starting in August he'll probably stay full time there, meaning from like nine to three. About that starting in August he'll probably stay full time there, meaning from like nine to three. He'll nap there because also now he dropped his nap, which if you've had a child drop their nap, it is, it is a lot. It's like, oh my gosh. So he's dropped his nap at home, but at school he can nap again. So I think that's going to be a good thing.

Speaker 2:

We're in summer, so summer is just a whole animal in itself. But my biggest theme is getting back into structure and routine. I think that's like life-changing. So as far as the house, y'all we have closed on our loan I'm so excited we're moving forward with the house. Um, they were actually putting the footers in last week and they decided that they needed an engineer to check off on some things because our property slopes. So because it slopes the elevation, like where they're going to actually start the house it's really really high, which means that it needs like 12 blocks. I don't know Like I pretend, like I understand, but long story short, it's the property slope, so just it's going to be really, really high and so they needed a engineer to sign off on that.

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But my brother-in-law and my dad brought up a really great point is, because the property slopes so much and we have to build up the house, that we actually have the space to do a basement, which is like my dream. I love basements. My grandma's house had a great basement, like I picture, a movie theater room, you know, a gym, like a playroom, which is awesome. Because our house, you know, we cut our house back in square footage, which again, like I don't have an office, I don't have a gym, we don't have a guest house or a guest room, you know, in the main house, so to have a basement would be unreal. So we're meeting with an engineer and the draftsman, I think, this week to see how to move forward with that. So it's setting us back a little bit, but I think, like in the long run, oh my gosh, I'm so excited and guys, we got an RV moving in an RV on the property part-time, so we're going to move in half with my parents and then the other half will be on the RV on the property, which is wild. So I'm really excited about this, but again in a week or two sorry, not a week and like a month check back with me.

Speaker 2:

I don't know if I'll be something that I've never done before that I'm like really, really excited to do. And what it is is basically I'm going to teach a selfish mom course how to be a selfish mom, but way deeper than that mom, but way deeper than that, and I'm going to teach it in a way like a college course, if you may. So you will actually have a platform that you go on to which has all your classwork. Every week we will have a different theme. We will meet for an hour every week. Yes, there will be recordings, but really encouraged to go on the call for an hour. You'll also have check-ins with me. To go on the call for an hour, you'll also have check-ins with me and then you'll have like work to do for that week that you come on the call and we discuss and I teach the lesson and at the end of the six weeks you will have that shift in the mindset of how to prioritize your mental and physical health first so you don't get burnt out.

Speaker 2:

How to create structure and routine, how to start that lifestyle where movement and in relationship with food is a priority and something that is like a healthier relationship. So a lot of things at the end of the six weeks on top of you just following through with something that you set out to do. So I think it will be almost like an uncomfortable situation, definitely doing those hour like classes, but I don't say that to be discouraging. I mean uncomfortable, where you're going to grow and evolve because it's probably something you've never done before. But again, this six week selfish mom method is an investment in you and it's also connecting with the community as well. So if you are someone who basically has had enough, you know you need some type of change. Let this be your answer and try it. And again, really, at the end of the day, it's like intense accountability. You know, every week we meet, you have check-ins with me, I'm with you every step of the way. You also have like group access where I'm present on and talk to you. So it's just if you really need that really deep accountability and you're ready to put in the work. That is the six week selfish mom method.

Speaker 2:

All right, guys, this has been another episode of the selfish mom podcast. I am almost to a hundred episodes and I really want to get there. So I want to do more podcasts. I really want to book more guests. So, again, if you want to help me book people and coordinate it, let me know. I would love that.

Speaker 2:

If you want to follow my 30 day no gluten, no sugar, no dairy journey, follow me on TikTok and Instagram. I will be posting what I eat in a day, every single day, but at the end of the 30 days I will definitely link a PDF that you can follow. If you're looking for a 14 day core reset, core small movements that I did after C-section, as well as some food ideas, I do have a PDF on there. If you go to my Instagram page and you click my stand store link, all my PDFs are there. My Amazon shop is there. The link to the podcast you're already here but links to my merch, the Selfish Mom merch. All the things are on that stand store link. On Instagram and TikTok. I will catch you next time. Bye.