121 Mothers Day Edition

This episode is dedicated to all you lovely mothers out there doing your best... don't ever forget you have what it takes to live an Empowered life.

Proverbs 31:25-26, 28: "She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue... Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her".

Contact me: info@yemeempowerment.com

**New book** Exceptional Not Expected Volume 2

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Exceptional-Not-Expected-ordinary-womans/dp/1999859057/ref=sr_1_1?crid=21AKXTBB1NJML&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.07-myM6rFsnyyBWMPxcwlPMEGLZ7gvZSI-jEOqFs1ks.-WSPURBJS6x2ILe87ShTRnrK5ntj8kBLi4Wp4S_rnzw&dib_tag=se&keywords=yvonne+ellis+exceptional+not+expected+volume+2&qid=1766931675&sprefix=exceptional+not+expected+%2Caps%2C87&sr=8-1

Exceptional Not Expected Volume 1
https://www.amazon.co.uk/s?k=exceptional+not+expected+yvonne+ellis&crid=2ENW9S50R76YS&sprefix=exceptional+not+expected+yvonn%2Caps%2C116&ref=nb_sb_noss

Please send me an inspirational or motivational quote: info@yemeempowerment.com

Order a signed copy of my book Exceptional not Expected: info@yemeempowerment.com

Follow me on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/yeme_empowerment/?hl=en

Facebook YEME Empowerment
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063752671539

TikTok YEME Empowerment
https://www.tiktok.com/@yeme_empowerment22?lang=en

Do you need a courageous action plan to pursue your goals and dreams? Check out the courage course NOW for £57.00!
https://theempoweredlife-ad5c.thinkific.com/courses/the-courage-course

Want to know what it is like to step out of the comfort zone of life into the unknown? Read my story http://www.yemeempowerment.com/store/

Checkout my personal story Daughter Arise
https://www.amazon.co.uk/DAUGHTER-ARISE-Journey-Devastation-Restoration-ebook/dp/B0891XYZ95/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2SPNZPZU10MRN&keywords=daughter+arise+yvonne+ellis&qid=1664136536&sprefix=%2Caps%2C60&sr=8-1

Subscribe to the Living The Empowered Life Newsletter
http://www.yemeempowerment.com/

Want to work with an empowerment life coach to achieve your goals? get in touch
http://www.yemeempowerment.com/empowerment-coaching/

Checkout Living The Empowered Life YouTube Channel
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLolhI1TqexgbzQ_2PmuYWw

#personaldevelopment #encouragement #christianmotivation #inspiration #selfhelp #motivation  #podcastforwomen #over40

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Welcome to Living for Empowered Life podcast where we discuss all things empowering, encouraging and inspiring. My name is Yvonne Ellis. I'm an empowerment speaker, author, coach, trainer and founder of Uni Empowerment, a company that facilitates the empowerment of people. I help people to make positive life change, live in their purpose and develop into their best version of self. I share stories, interviews, spiritual encouragement and actionable tips to empower, encourage and inspire you to live the life you want. So if you want to live the empowered life, join me each week on my podcast so we can take the journey together.

unknown 0:49

Hello, Empowered Lifers.

SPEAKER_00 0:51

Welcome to episode 121 of Living the Empowered Life Podcast. I am your host, Yvonne, and on this podcast I like to share things that are empowering, encouraging, and inspiring. How are you doing today? I want to welcome you. If you are a new listener here, I hope you find this podcast to be something of value to you and to my continued listeners as always. Thank you for your support. I really appreciate it. I hope you enjoy the episode. Whether you're a new or an old, or I shouldn't say old, whether you're a new or a consistent listener of this podcast, I hope you enjoy it. If you haven't subscribed or hit the follow button on any platform that you're listening to this podcast on, please do so. You'll find this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify Podcasts, also when I upload the episodes onto the Living the Empowered Life YouTube channel, and also as well on the Yumi Empowerment website. If you click on podcast, you'll find episodes there as well. So I just want to say to you guys I appreciate you and thank you for listening in. And today, guys, as of recording this episode of the podcast, it is Mother's Day over here in the UK. It is Mother's Day. I know from country to country the day of Mother's Day does vary, but over here it is Mother's Day, and today I have been working. I have been working very hard. My life is currently very busy at the moment, but I have been enjoying time out to do little things that I like, like going and taking myself to breakfast at my nice fancy spot in Pimlico. I posted a picture on Friday, first picture in a long time, really, of me doing something, of me having my smoked salmon and scrambled eggs. Also, as well, I went to the Bat City Art Fair last Friday. I really enjoyed it. I really enjoyed seeing new artists showcasing their work. Obviously, I had a nice little glass of Posecco by the bar and just took in, you know, the scene and everything. I'm looking forward to going to the one later on in the year. So I have been doing little things, and last night I went for a burger with my family. We really enjoyed being able to just have that time together. We ended up going to a place called Byron's Burger in South Kensington, and yeah, it was alright, but it wasn't the greatest. But you know, we got to get out of the house and spend time together, which was really nice. And we have other things coming up as a family, and I've got some solo trips coming up, so I am taking little breaks. But today I had a project to finish, so I had to work. But it's Mother's Day today, and I did get some lovely flowers off my daughter Jada, who is now 19, and you know, a beautiful card she gave me as well, which was really, really nice. And yeah, it's just been a really kind of at-home day today. I hope if you are a mother, that you have had a lovely Mother's Day. I hope that you've been able to spend time with your family, with your children, and that you've been able to make you know new memories and reminisce on some old ones, maybe. But I hope that it's been a nice, peaceful Sunday for you all. So, in the spirit of Mother's Day today, I dedicate this episode to all you mothers out there who are listening in to my podcast. This is the Mother's Day edition of the podcast, episode 121, and I want to share with you how motherhood prepares you for living the empowered life. I want to share three things with you that I've kind of picked out from my experience of being a mother that I'm sure other mothers will be able to resonate with. But before I do that, I want to share with you a quick quote about mothers. So this quote is by Sharon Janes and she says, Successful mothers are not the ones who have never struggled, they are the ones who have never given up despite the struggles. So the next quote is by a lady called Kelly Clarkson. Some of you maybe remember her, I think from American Idol years ago. I know she had a chat show over in the US as well. She says, Becoming a mother has made me next level confident. I've never felt more empowered. Okay, so yeah, a lot of women feel like that. And that's a lovely quote by Kelly. And Rosie Pope says in this quote, if you're a mum, you're a superhero. Period. That's by Rosie Pope. So, guys, that was some quotes there just about motherhood, and I wanted to, as I said, dedicate this episode to mothers today because I just feel like you know it's time to do that, and you know, really bring to the forefront for all you mothers all the great skills and transferable skills I should say that can prepare you for living the empowered life. So, the first thing I want to share with you is responding to change. That's one of the things that I've realized motherhood has helped me to do and prepared me for all that I'm doing now. You know, to be a mother and to respond to change is a very difficult thing to do, especially when you don't have family support, when you don't have the things that you need. You know, in my situation, especially with my firstborn daughter, I had to do a lot of things myself, I had to adapt to a lot of changes without any support, without even being in a good place. But by the grace of God, I was able to do it, and it was very difficult to do, and I learned a lot about myself having to make so many different different changes, but in the end it helped to develop my character. And you know, having a baby does bring all kinds of changes, it brings changes to family dynamics, work changes. Maybe you know, now you've had a baby or your children, you know, are in school, you've had to change your hours. It also brings financial changes, you know. I remember one of the biggest changes I saw, especially with my second daughter, is when it came to financial changes, how much I had to pay for nursery fees and other things that came along, you know, with being a mother. And to be able to respond to change without it causing chaos in your life does take some skill, and that skill can help you to live an empowered life. Because to live an empowered life, you have to embrace change. Change can come in different ways at different times, and when you do have those changes, it's important that you don't, you know, panic or go into like crazy mode. You have to be able to move along with it. When I stepped out and did all the things that I'm doing now, you know, I imagined it to be a certain way, but I realized along the way that there were lots of changes that happened, and that kind of plan that I drew out for my vision for where I'd been one, five, ten years time completely changed. But being a mother prepared me for that. I honestly believe that because with being a mother, you have to adapt to so many different things. So that is one thing that motherhood will help you with, and that is responding to change when you live an empowered life. The second thing motherhood prepares you for to live an empowered life is resilience. How many of you mothers listening out there have had to deal with hard and difficult and challenging situations, and you've just had to find a way through it, whether it has been financial situations, maybe going through financial hardship, maybe it has been, you know, having to take one or two children to different schools or nurseries. It could be so many different things, you know. Maybe it's personal challenges, maybe it's being you've had to battle some inner challenges, maybe depression or not feeling great, but you still have to turn up and be a mother and be present for your children. That takes real resilience to be able to do that. A lot of people don't understand what it means to feel like you don't want to do something, but because you have other people depending on you, you just get on and you do it. And I'm particularly talking when I say other people, I'm talking about people who are not mothers, you know, and I know everybody has their own different challenges that brings about resilience for them, but particularly for mothers, when you have children and you have, you know, these little ones kind of depend on you for everything, you have to find a way through. You know, when I was young, when I was a single mother at 17, I had to become quite resilient because I came out of the care system, I didn't have really any family around me, I didn't have a lot of money. When I was 16, I had a little job in the solicitor's office, you know, as a kind of admin assistant. And then after that, you know, unfortunately things happened. And then I had to leave that job. And during the course of all this time, on just on the back end of me coming out of care, I ended up pregnant, and being a single mother was really, really hard. I'm not gonna lie, it's one it was one of the hardest experiences of my life. There were times when you know I had to go into benefit, and that was like one of the only few times I've ever had to go onto it, but it was really an eye-opening experience. There were times when I didn't have enough money for food, and you know, I had to struggle through. You know, sometimes me and my daughter used to have to eat the same food for a few days in a row, and used to have to be foods like mashed potato and spaghetti or you know, other foods like that that would last long, wheat abix and things like this, you know, I had to make the money stretch. But it helps me to become resilient, and I never feel ashamed of telling anybody that there was a time in my life where I didn't have enough money. I didn't, you know, and it's a common story for a lot of young people who come out of care anyway. But to come out of care as a mother without support was definitely a very hard experience. But it helped to build me into the woman I am today. Those experiences of motherhood. It helped me to carry on, even though with that challenge of not having enough money, I was suffering from depression and all other things as well. You know, I just learned to carry on and push through. And it was very difficult. There were days where I really, really struggled, but I really felt that you know I had to be a positive role model for my daughter at the time and you know, make sure that she had what she needs. And a lot of mothers are like that. A lot of mothers are resilient because of their circumstances, they don't feel like turning up, they don't feel like being a mother, they don't feel at times that they they want to carry on, but they do because they do it for the benefit of their children, for the love of their children. And resilience is something that you will need to live an empowered life. You have to be resilient because you know you're going out into the unpredictable, you're going out into a place where you've not been before, you're going outside of your comfort zone. And that not only takes courage, it takes resilience. And those experiences that you have when you step out to live an empowered life will not only give you confidence, it will make you resilient and it will help you to keep pushing on for the things that you want. So remember that when it comes to your experiences of being a mother, and when you think that you haven't got anything out of it, obviously you've got the love of your children out of it and stuff, but I mean anything out of it that can help you to, you know, go towards the life that you want. Remember that you have resilience. And the last thing I want to share with you, what motherhood can help you with to live an empowered life, is that you learn what truly matters. Now, many of you might not believe it, but when I was younger, I used to have a very bad temper when I was in care. I was always getting restrained, I was always getting into fights, I was always, you know, getting restrained by staff because I was always hitting staff and things like that. And I'm not proud of how I used to be then. I used to have a lot of anger because of my trauma issues, but towards the end, when I found out that I was pregnant with my firstborn daughter, you know, I really started to understand what truly matters. And at the time, what truly mattered to me was protecting my daughter and being a good influence for my daughter. Because remember, I was in the care system at the time, and my behavior, if I would have continued on with that, that would have given social services an excuse to say, you know, my behaviour would be of concern because I had, you know, I was having a baby. So when I found out I was having my baby, I just changed my behaviour. It just became just a natural thing that I did. You know, I became all focused on, you know, what truly mattered was which was you know looking after my daughter, being able to give birth to my daughter and having my daughter with me. And you know, all that happened, you know. I was able to give birth to my beautiful daughter. I didn't have social services involvement in her life, and that is one of the things I think being a mother helps you to understand for life in general, what truly matters. Your children truly matters to you, and then you transfer that out into living an empowered life, and that's one of the things I think motherhood brings. It brings that thing of, well, you know, when your children are young and small and stuff, you think this is what truly matters to me, my children, their well-being, being there for them, loving them, caring for them. And then you transfer that out as they get older to the things that matter to you, the things that truly matter to you, what you want. When you recognize what truly matters to you, you know, all the other stuff, the noise, all the other things that you might have got caught up with in, caught up in, don't matter anymore. You know, your pro your priorities become clearer, and that is what motherhood brings. Giving birth to two beautiful children helped to refine my focus about what was important in life. And through your personal journey, when you go through it, your goals will become clearer, your vision will become more refined, and you will really hone that down to what truly matters to you. So, for those of you who may be looking down on your motherhood, even though you are doing an incredible job of bringing up children in this crazy world, when you're looking down on yourself, I want you to remember these things that I've told you today. And I want you to take some time out this week to think about what other things you feel are transferable from your experiences of being a mother. And I would love to hear from you in the comments when I drop this episode notification, what other things you realized. Motherhood brings to the surface skills, talents, and strengths that I believe that you probably didn't think you even had. I think if you were to sit down this week and just to think about that, you know, maybe your experiences before being a mother and the things that you've learned since being a mother, I think you'll find at least two or three or four things, you know, that motherhood has brought out in you that can be transferred over to your experience of living an empowered life. So if you're thinking, I don't know, I have what it takes to live an empowered life, I would suggest that you just do that little exercise. Because really, you have what it takes. All you need now is courage and belief and confidence to go after what you want. So, guys, the Bible scripture I want to leave you with today comes from the book of Proverbs, chapter 31, 25 to 26. It says, She is clothed with strength and dignity, she can laugh at the days to come, she speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue. Her children arise and call her blessed, her husband also he praises her. My children always called me blessed. You know, they always said they were blessed to have me as their mother. They've always said that, and you know, my husband has always called me blessed, and I feel even though at times I feel I hadn't or haven't done a good job or felt inadequate, I always held on and always will hold on to those words. And I want you to hold on to those words today. You are blessed, you have your children who love you. You are you are an amazing woman, you are clothed in strength, and you know, I just want to encourage you with that. And as I finish this episode, I want to wish you a happy Mother's Day again, and I pray that you'll enjoy the rest of your day. If you do want to connect with me, please see my social media, you mean empowerment, live in the empowered life, YouTube channel. All the links to everything I do is in the show notes. Please also do check out my books. All links are in the show notes below. Please do check out also as well, exceptional, not expected, volume one and two, and you know, I'm sure you'll find encouragement and you know ideas on how to live an empowered life from those books and to be exceptional and not expected. So, guys, thank you for listening in until the next episode. Take care.