Lavender Marriages

This week, Marko and Steve dive into the fascinating and often misunderstood world of lavender marriages — relationships historically formed to conceal someone’s sexuality in order to protect careers, reputations, family expectations, or personal safety. From Old Hollywood to everyday life decades ago, lavender marriages were often less about romance and more about survival in a society that left little room for LGBTQ+ people to live openly.

The guys unpack why these arrangements became so prevalent, the emotional complexity behind them, and whether they were always as transactional as people assume. Were some built on genuine friendship, companionship, or even love in a different form? And now that LGBTQ+ acceptance is far more visible in today’s culture, do lavender marriages still exist — just under different labels or pressures?

To wrap things up, the guys  tackle the week's Listener Sh!tuation, offering their thoughts and guidance on a real life dilemma from the audience.

-

Articles:

1. Psychology Today | The Return of Lavender Marriages

Support Ruben Tomas:

• Follow Him | @ruben_tomas
• Vote for Him | Johnny Depp presents The People’s Artist