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Finding Love is Harder Than Ever — But More Possible Than You Think. Conversation With Relationship Coach Lennart Klipp

Katia Khomich Season 1 Episode 42

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What if the reason you haven't found the relationship you want has nothing to do with not being ready — and everything to do with the stories you've been told about what ready even means?

In this episode of She Thrives, I sit down with Lennart Klipp — psychology-based life and relationship coach, based between Amsterdam and Los Angeles, and relationship expert on the Dutch version of Married At First Sight — for a conversation I've wanted to have on this show for a long time. We talk about love. Real love. Not the Instagram version.

We get into why so many self-aware, successful women keep finding themselves in the same dynamics with different people. Why the high bar and the comfortable solitude can feel like independence but sometimes function as protection. Why the self-help industry's promise — work hard enough on yourself and you'll be free from pain — is not only unrealistic, but can quietly make you feel more broken than when you started.

Lennart brings something rare to this conversation: the belief that your patterns aren't problems to fix. They are intelligent responses to real experiences. And that is a very different place to start.

We also talk about the pendulum of self-love — why you are not meant to feel confident and open every day, and why for women, something as real as a hormonal shift can make the exact same situation feel completely different on a Tuesday than it did the week before.

This one is for the woman who has done the work, read the books, knows herself reasonably well — and still wonders why love feels harder than it should.

In this episode:

  • Why busy, successful women struggle to prioritise connection — and what's really underneath that
  • The "good enough" partner question — and why perfection is the wrong standard
  • Masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and why none of it is as simple as we're being told
  • The pendulum of self-love and why you will never permanently arrive
  • What it actually takes to meet someone worth meeting — in a world of apps and full calendars
  • Why your patterns aren't flaws — and what it looks like to gently update them

Connect with Lennart Klipp: 

Website: lennartklipp.com 

Instagram: @lennartklipp

pcoming retreat: details at lennartklipp.com