Whispers of the Departed-Exploring Spirit Communication, with Melissa Peil

When the veil between our world and the next seems impenetrable, Melissa Peel, a psychic, medium, and healer, comes forth to illuminate the path. In our heartfelt discussion, Melissa distinguishes between the nuanced realms of mediumship and psychic insights, offering a beacon to those grappling with the enigmatic journey of the soul. My own transformative encounter with her reading opened doors to personal revelations, and together, we traverse the landscape of spiritual callings and the astonishing shifts that embrace us when we align with our deepest yearnings.

Venture with us into the spectral divide as we clarify the often-confused energies of ghosts and spirits. Melissa provides an understanding of why some souls find themselves anchored to our world, while others transcend with ease. I share a poignant narrative of my grandfather's departure, inviting listeners to contemplate the signs and communications they may have encountered from those who've passed. This episode is a sanctuary for anyone seeking solace and understanding amid the vast spectrum of beliefs surrounding spirit communication.

As we navigate the healing realms, we confront the shadows of generational trauma and the powerful release that can occur when these deep-seated wounds are addressed. The conversation turns to the practicalities of handling psychic abilities and the poignant moments when messages from the beyond provide unexpected comfort to the living. With Melissa Peel's profound insights, we beckon you to approach the spiritual with an open heart and mind, nurturing a sense of curiosity and wonder about the unseen currents that shape our existence.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:01

Welcome to, as I Live in Grief, a podcast that tells the truth about how hard this is. We're glad you joined us today. We know how hard it is to lose someone you love and how well-intentioned friends and family try so hard to comfort us. We created this podcast to provide you with comfort, knowledge and support. We are grief advocates, not professionals, not licensed therapists. We are you.

Speaker 2: 0:26

Hi everyone, welcome back again to another episode of as I Live in Grief. Thanks so much for joining me. Week after week, or maybe you just pop around and listen to different episodes it makes no difference because they're not really in any chronological order, but I am very, very happy that you popped in today. To listen With me today is Melissa Peel. She's no different than other guests. I adore her. She and I have had some personal interaction as well, because she is local in my community, and I can't wait, can't wait for you to hear from her. Hi, melissa, thanks for joining me today.

Speaker 3: 1:04

Thank you for having me.

Speaker 2: 1:05

Oh, it's my pleasure. Certainly I can't wait. And, listeners, you can't see this, but she has the most delightful smile on her face. She just warms you and brings you right into her personality. Melissa, would you start out, please, just by giving our listeners a little bit of your background?

Speaker 3: 1:20

Absolutely so. I am a psychic and medium and healer and basically I am a person who helps people really take themselves to the next level their soul's journey while they're here on this earth. So I basically help them get on the best track in their lives and I can help them reconnect with their past away, loved ones, and also, more recently, I've been diving into my healing gifts, which allow people to really understand what has been keeping them stuck and how to unstick themselves and, more importantly, what to do to really take themselves higher. So that is kind of the professional side of what I do. Other than that, I live in Rochester, new York, and I've not always been doing this work, but I actually have a degree in teaching and I did teach elementary school for a number of years and then got into a corporate training situation before deciding to start my business full time. So I've definitely been around and I've had some experiences doing many different things before really understanding this was my purpose, my passion and my soul's calling.

Speaker 2: 2:21

And once you come to realize what your purpose, your passion and your calling are, life is, it's entirely different. I cannot begin to describe that personally. I alluded to it many times on the podcast, but once you really feel like you have found your niche, man, everything's golden. Everything is golden. At any rate. I had the occasion to connect with Melissa at a local fundraiser and she was offering readings there. Now that was part of your mediumship.

Speaker 3: 2:54

I could do either both psychic work or mediumship work. Okay.

Speaker 2: 2:58

All right. So she was offering readings there and I didn't really have time because I was volunteering for registration so didn't really have a chance to connect. But I connected with her afterward and went over and she and I met face to face and she did a reading for me. Now she asked me what was I looking for? Did I? Was I looking for signs or communication, or was I looking for some type of you know what's in the future for me? And I said I'm just going to be open to whatever you have to tell me. And let me tell you, listeners, she has given me one of the greatest gifts I think I've ever been given. She talked to me about the present me and what I am inside and what gifts I have to offer and my strengths and maybe a little caution here or there about things to watch out for. And I came home from that and here it is, I don't know, maybe a week or so later, and I'm still going over everything she told me. And now only did she tell me I got this paper with drawings on it to remind me specifically of the things she told me, and I'm just so enthralled with it.

Speaker 2: 4:03

I have to say, listeners, you hear me say on many, many episodes, I'm a skeptic. That's one of the reasons I bring the guess. I do because not only am I looking for insight, education, awareness, but I also want to offer it to those of you who may already believe and accept and understand and support this treatment, this modality, if you will. Well, I have to say I'm a believer now. I think that there's so much out there that can be garnered just from us being present and allowing. Someone with the gift like Melissa has to understand and interpret those signs, those pieces of you that, if you have an open mind, can help you so much. I truly understand now how this form of communication, or modality again, can be healing, and I never got that piece before, I never understood how it was healing. So enough about me. Melissa, would you first clarify for our listeners that maybe aren't as knowledgeable as some what is the difference between medium and psychic?

Speaker 3: 5:13

So a medium is somebody who has the ability to connect with passed away loved ones on the other side and, essentially, the person who's passed on.

Speaker 3: 5:22

They just simply change forms and essentially they are becoming now an energy that does not stay housed in a body, but the energy definitely exists. I have the ability as a medium to be able to perceive all these outside energies that have not been destroyed, they have not gone away, but rather I can perceive them, interpret them and deliver messages to the loved ones that are basically grieving from the lost. And you know, just to kind of put a little side note on that, it's all reading energy and that's a special gift not everybody has, but we all are tuned to energy. I'll get into that a little bit more later, but that's kind of what a medium is. And then a psychic is somebody who can perceive the energy that is circling around, someone which really allows me to be able to look into their past, into their present or even take a look at their future to kind of understand what kinds of things have they been through, what are some of the blockages that they experience and, more importantly, how to get through that to put themselves on the best track.

Speaker 2: 6:20

Okay, so to correlate that with my experience then you were using your gift as a psychic when you met with me and helped me with the present Kathy. This is who I am and even a little bit about who I might become, things like that. Okay, so that helps me a lot. Now one of the very common things that people who are grieving either say or want they want a connection with whoever they lost. They want it badly, they want a message, they want a sign. Are there ways other than consulting with a medium for that to happen?

Speaker 2: 6:58

Maybe a difference between a sign and a message. Maybe it's a good question.

Speaker 3: 7:03

Signs I would just define more, to be like okay, there was an object that was in one spot and now, all of a sudden, it's different, and then a different place, or all of a sudden we'll have a feeling that someone's standing behind us from five feet away, but no one's actually standing in the doorway. Those are the energy type things that a person can actually feel and perceive. That are signs. Okay, messages, therefore, are more like, you know, actual delivering words that somebody in spirit does not have the voice to be able to communicate.

Speaker 2: 7:33

Okay, all right, I'm getting this, I'm getting this drilled down and I'm getting very excited about it. So I like how you connected the sign with energy, like something moved or maybe the lights flashed on and off for no reason at all, things like that. That's probably a very common one. Is seeing cardinals in your backyard necessarily a sign?

Speaker 3: 7:54

It can be, it can be the way that I would decipher between hey, this is just nature happening and an actual sign is oftentimes, let's say, a person is going through something difficult in their life and they've been really thinking about their loved one in spirit and they say to that person you know, in their head or maybe out loud, they're sending energy.

Speaker 3: 8:13

By the way, they're saying to that person in spirit like I really wish I could hear a female, I really wish that you would give me some kind of confirmation that you're with me, or let me know that you're here. And if, all of a sudden, the red cardinals outside the window and they're making all kinds of chirping noises or knocking on the window with their beak or something like this to grab the person's attention around the same time that they just put that request out there, that is oftentimes what I would consider. A sign Cardinal out in nature might just be like hey, it likes that tree out there and we happen to see it often. So we do have to be somewhat observant. But I find nine times out of ten, when it's a sign that's out there, it's going to strike a person in a way that makes it feel a little bit strange. Or look at that. That kind of weird. I wonder if they just heard me.

Speaker 2: 8:59

Okay, that's also helpful. Now I'm also going to say that for someone like myself, if I get up in the morning and I go in the kitchen to get a cup of coffee and I look out the back window and I see a cardinal, I'm just, I'm just delighted, I'm pleased by that, because to me, a cardinal which also happened to be my mother's very favorite bird I always look at that as a sign. So for me personally, whether it really is or not at that precise moment doesn't really matter. It still brings me comfort and peace. But if someone is specifically trying to distinguish between signs and coincidences, what you explained is very, very helpful. And remember that energy component, because I think that's critical. I really do. Okay. So if someone specifically then would really like to either send a message to or receive a message from a loved one who has died, a medium really is the best opportunity to do so. Would that be correct?

Speaker 3: 9:56

Yeah, there's very little opportunity for things to be lost in translation. Okay, somebody who's really gifted and skilled in this kind of area knows exactly how their signs and symbols work with the spirit world and are able to communicate this in an effective way.

Speaker 2: 10:11

Okay, Can we go into this a little bit more and suppose someone just really wants to. Maybe it was a very traumatic end of life situation and someone just wants to let them know that they're sorry for something they did, said or didn't do or didn't say and this is really, really holding them back from moving forward on their grief journey. So they want to reach out to a medium. How do you find one and how do you find one that's reputable? We all know, we're all very familiar with the scams and the hacks that can be in society. Do you have any tips for people to find one that's good or right for?

Speaker 3: 10:49

them? Here's a question. I mean I would really start off with a recommendation, first and foremost. Okay, Because honestly, I've seen those signs where they're neon signs in the window that say psychic readings.

Speaker 3: 11:02

Sure, Whatever cheap amount of money, I've never been to one. I don't want to be to one. But you know, truthfully, I think it has to do kind of like with an energetic web. If we're starting, you know, from scratch, that's probably a good way. Ask around, see if anybody knows of anybody. There is actually a book that I was part of a few years ago and it was about the 50 top psychics in the US, I believe Really, and there was a woman named Jennifer Diamond who decided to put this together exactly for people who need a resource of many mediums that are gifted and talented, and each of us that contributed to the book were able to kind of describe a little bit about ourselves and we did give practice readings to Jennifer and other people to validate that we were legitimate. So that's a good resource that you know a person would be able to find as well.

Speaker 2: 11:49

All right.

Speaker 3: 11:50

But other than that, you know, doing searching on the internet to see if there's anybody local, there's a great website called Yelpcom Y-E-L-Pcom, and it's not just for restaurants and things like that, but I know myself, I'm on there. There's Google reviews. Just really trying to understand other people's experiences would be really helpful, because so many people have different experiences, even though it's the same sort of umbrella of work.

Speaker 2: 12:15

Okay, that's very good, very helpful. Do you think, if possible, it would be best to do a face-to-face reading or a Zoom one.

Speaker 3: 12:24

So it really does not matter and I know that probably sounds strange to people who are new to this, but again we're going to come back to the energy component of things. Energy can be felt from anywhere and it's definitely can be transferred. So earlier you had mentioned that when you came, you came with an open mind, which was fantastic. I also want to add in that coming with an open heart is another really good deal, Because when your heart is open, imagine, you know, it's like this barrier that would have been there of skepticism Now all of a sudden goes down and that allows me to be able to jump into your heart so much easier and it doesn't matter where you are. I don't need to see you, I don't need to touch you. All I need to know is that the connection is, you know, open and available for me to come right on in and that allows for the nice transfer of energy and, you know, a dialogue to be able to be helpful for the person.

Speaker 2: 13:14

Okay, Very interesting. Are there any initial questions like screening type questions? Someone might ask a potential medium.

Speaker 3: 13:24

I mean, sometimes people will call up and just ask you know what is the general process that I go through, so they have an understanding of what to expect. So I'm happy to explain that if you'd like me to. Other things that people might ask is you know, are these going to be things that you can find on the internet? And the answer is no. It was really interesting.

Speaker 3: 13:41

There was one woman very special to me now but the first reading we ever had. She was very skeptical of the same stuff and I assured her. I said I take the first couple minutes to just get connected into the person's energy who I'm reading, and this is a person that was on the phone, so she couldn't even see what I was doing. And I took those few minutes and named very various things, kind of jumping all over the map, and she was really pleasantly surprised. She said I'm amazed. She said these are some of the thoughts that I've been going through, but I haven't told anybody about this yet and I said well, there we go.

Speaker 3: 14:12

Her heart was open, she allowed me to come in and basically I'm connecting in the beginning of my sessions with a person's spirit guide, which is sort of like a guardian angel if people are familiar with that term when there's a person on the other side who's been assigned to us, guide us through the various life lessons that we're here to learn. And usually this spirit guide is the one that provides me with information about the person that I'm reading and it just establishes a nice connection of trust and allows us to get in Right. So those are usually the first questions that people want to know about and you know, sometimes they'll ask if you know they need to bring any objects or any pictures of the person that they're trying to connect with on the other side, and for me it's helpful, but it's definitely not necessary or required.

Speaker 2: 14:55

Okay, all right. Yeah, some people won't bring things like that.

Speaker 2: 14:58

I'm sure to test you because they don't want to give things away. I know longer. I no longer subscribe to that tactic. I really don't. I had such a powerful connection with you personally that, yeah, I just you know it's. You're either going to believe or you're not going to believe. You're either going to accept it or you're not going to accept it. It's totally up to you. But if you can have that open mind and that open heart, there is a whole world of wonder I can't describe it any other way that's available to you if you connect with your medium. You mentioned the term spirit. Now I hear and I've talked about this before there are two terms ghost and spirit. I have heard and I want you to correct me. I have heard that ghosts are people that have died but have not been able to transition to the other side, and I'm not sure what the other side is and the spirits are those that have died and have successfully transitioned. Can you help me better understand this?

Speaker 3: 15:57

Yeah, you're on the right track with that for sure, and from what I understand about it myself doing this work, a ghost generally is somebody who, yeah, has transitioned into the spirit world but has unfinished business here on this earth.

Speaker 3: 16:09

I like that so you might hear about, you know unsolved mysteries in this hotel that's haunted in the lady in white, every single Tuesday at 12 midnight comes out. That would be a ghost, because this person is stuck on maybe the trauma of how they died, or they have something that they were looking for and never got to find something like this, whereas a spirit is the soul of a person, who, you know, the spirit, the energy, leaves the physical body and starts their transition onto the other side, which I just, you know people can call it many different things. You know, I often call it heaven, just because that's where people feel the most peace and that kind of thing, and that's where they go through a process looking at their life in review, meeting up with family and friends, with free deceased them, and just it's a really beautiful experience to heal their soul, to fully come, you know, into a full circle sort of situation. So, yeah, there's a lot more peacefulness that a spirit will experience, whereas a ghost might be stuck.

Speaker 2: 17:07

Okay. Is there any way we can find out whether our departed loved one is a ghost or spirit?

Speaker 3: 17:12

So in my experience, yes, it's an interesting thing. I'll just share briefly my grandfather. When he passed back in 2005, he was 91 years old and wanted to live, to be 100 and, to be totally honest, it was it's kind of funny to say this out loud but back then I did not know if I believed in the higher power, and I knew. The day that my grandfather officially was announced that he was gone, I suddenly just had a knowing. I was like well, there's obviously something bigger at play here and other rights. He would have chosen to stay. So he was 100, there was no question. But because he had such a will to stay, he did not want to die and that also meant that he did not want anybody in his house going through his stuff, moving things around.

Speaker 3: 17:55

And we will say that there was a ghost of him for some time. The lights would flicker, things that we did move. He would move back. The next day we would show back up at the house and all of a sudden things were back to where they were. There was one time that my mother and aunt they always met at the house and went in together because they were both kind of freaked out by it. Little did they know that his spirit, his energy was in the house and it just felt creepy because he was like what are you doing here? Yeah, but yeah, there was one time that of the belt of a vacuum. They could not find to replace it in his vacuum. And this is a man who had three of everything everyone. Next thing, you know, the next day, they show up and sitting in the middle of the living room, brand new in a box, is that bathroom belt?

Speaker 2: 18:40

Oh my goodness.

Speaker 3: 18:41

So there's things like that that happened. Now these are visits, but the ghosty part definitely comes, because there were also things that were sort of scary that would happen. And when we actually got around to selling his house, the new owners were sitting in the living room one day and all of a sudden something flew across the room, from the mantle of the fireplace to the other side of the room. They were like what in the world just happened? And there was another instance. I guess they were trying to do some painting, and my grandfather's soul must not have liked the colors that they chose, oh dear as they were. I guess they were mixing up the paint with a little paint stick. They stuck the paint stick on top and we're going to come back to it. When they came back, all of a sudden, it's like the paint stick was back in the thing.

Speaker 1: 19:27

Oh, my goodness.

Speaker 3: 19:28

No, you're not doing this right, you know. So they noticed some different things that were happening that kind of freaked them out because they have no affiliation to him.

Speaker 2: 19:35

Right.

Speaker 3: 19:36

So this is somebody who was sort of held back. I don't want to say that he was stuck per se. He wasn't showing up every night, at midnight, but he really was not looking to pass on.

Speaker 2: 19:46

Oh my goodness, that's such an interesting story, but kind of freaky if you happen to be a member of the family, for sure. Okay, so that straightens out ghosts and spirits. Okay Now, you mentioned before you wanted to elaborate more on energy, so why don't you go ahead and go where you wanted to go about that?

Speaker 3: 20:05

Yeah. So there's a couple of different things I'd like to talk about with that. First and foremost, most people think to themselves okay, I can't read energy, how can one person do this and nobody else can? And I actually just have a little bit of a rebuttal to that that energy actually can be read by all of us and that's been something coming up for me recently. It's like we're more in tune than we realize. A good example is when we're getting ready to leave a family gathering or a party and all of a sudden we just kind of sit there and go okay, well, it's time for me to go now, and we just naturally feel the ending coming or that our time has come to an end by being at that particular event and we kind of start to gather ourselves and we just feel like it's natural to get up and go. And one way that energy just is around us, we just know time to go, like visiting with a friend. We just both tend to get our coats on at the same time and get up and go. So there is energy that we all are in every single day, but we just may not think about it like that. The second part about the energy piece is wanting to kind of address people who are surviving in a grief state. How can they still connect with their loved ones? First of all, because energy is not created or nor destroyed. It's still very much around us.

Speaker 3: 21:16

I like to think about life as like a spider web. So, for example, I am the spider in the middle of the web. Anybody that I know or meet is like an insect that flies onto my spider web. That spider I'm sorry, the insect when they come onto the web it kind of makes a little bit of a vibration, almost yes, yes, a vibration that'll grab the attention of the spider to say, hey, I'm over here. So it's easy when somebody's living, we can just pick up the phone, call them. The vibration to that part of the spider web roof, they can call us, and that kind of thing. When all of a sudden they pass, now, all of a sudden the energy changes. Of course the body is no longer, but the energy still remains.

Speaker 3: 21:56

And I like to think about when an insect flies onto a spider web and they die, what happens?

Speaker 3: 22:02

The carcass remains, and the carcass is like energy, it's still on the web. So me as the spider, I can still wiggle or vibrate that part of the spider web by thinking or talking to them, just feeling memories about them, that kind of thing, and it sends a vibrational wave to that part of the spider web where that carcass, the dead energy. Well, the dead carcass is, but the energy of the soul is still there and the person in spirit will receive the thoughts and feelings that I'm feeling and, when they are able, they can jiggle that part of the spider web back, sending a sign or a symbol back to me letting me know that they're still there. So that could be the electronics going haywire or some object moving, feeling them behind me, things like that. All right, so yeah, there's, if. Energy is definitely all around us. It's just a matter of being in tune with it and knowing that we do actually have more power to connect with our loved ones than we realize.

Speaker 2: 22:57

So this gets more and more fascinating the more I listen to you. It really does. So it's entirely possible then if someone came to you and said I have some things I would like to say to my late husband and they could tell you those things, and then you could communicate those to the spirit hover, late husband, Are there ever problems connecting with that person or that spirit?

Speaker 3: 23:20

Every once in a great while I can count on two hands. The number of times that I've been not been able to really pull through somebody from the other side.

Speaker 2: 23:27

And what causes that?

Speaker 3: 23:28

It can be a number of things. Number one it could be the soul on the other side is just not fully transitioned in a space to feel comfortable yet to know how to use wiggling the spider web to communicate to myself or their loved ones, so they might still be very confused and ungrounded. I find that that might happen if it's like days after somebody passes or anything.

Speaker 3: 23:50

But every once in a while, depending on the soul and the journey that they're on, they may not be in a space yet to really communicate. That can be one thing.

Speaker 3: 23:57

Just the person who I'm sitting with who wants to hear the messages, can be so deep in their grief that it really is not the right timing to really connect in with whatever the messages are, and every once in a great while sure, it could be me as well having an off day, not being fully in my flow, so there could be a variety of different things that could connect with that. But whatever that happens, you know, whenever that does take place, I always am very honest and clear about this. Isn't feeling like it's in a flow for me, and sometimes I might just see nothing, no images, it might just appear as a blackness, and then, of course, we would potentially decide give it a try at a different point, or if this person decides they would like to go with a different medium, that's fine too, okay.

Speaker 2: 24:39

All right. I imagine that's quite disappointing when that happens. But again, you know, especially with energy, I mean, there's nothing. I don't know of any 100% guarantee of anything in life in general. So it's best to be understanding that should happen and your nature to be very honest and straightforward about it is very helpful as well, instead of trying to disguise it or just point the blame elsewhere. That's also helpful. Now you also mentioned that you're now kind of gearing yourself a little more toward healing. Can you talk a little more about the healing aspect of your skill?

Speaker 3: 25:14

Absolutely so. We're going to kind of think back to the spider web idea here. Each of us is a spider on our web and I like to think about all the different parts of our web is, you know, one spoke might be about love, one might be about our purpose, one might be our relationships and so forth, and all of those different spokes of the spider web must connect to make us who we are. My ability is such that I'm able to sort of pull myself back, actually be able to see the spider web from a distance of somebody's life and I can see where there's holes in their soul, creating a disturbance of energy flowing, creating blockages or stuck points and that kind of thing, and I have the ability to then dive deep into it using the my psychic skills. Understand, you know what is going on, what might the root cause be of this disturbance? And I'm a big believer that if we can get right into the root cause, I want to gently pull it out rather than going in and really massively taking it out, because that could be very jolting to anybody. But finding out, you know kind of from where we are to where the root stems from, then we can figure out. What do we need to do to remove this and what are we going to do to replace? And it's put something positive in its place and I have the ability to then, with my hands, move the energy and I rebalance a person's chakras, which are their energy centers, make sure that they're flowing, to make sure that, you know, their whole entire energy body is back in balance and in flow.

Speaker 3: 26:39

What I've been finding as well is basically, people will store a lot of things inside their body, whether it's trapped, emotions or feelings that might not be fully expressed, and with my, you know, ability to see what's kind of creating the disturbance, I'm able to understand. Okay, what is it that needs to happen here to unblock whatever physical ailments might be stuck? So, for example, somebody might be having hit the pain and we can go in psychically to take a look at. You know what's the cause of this? Where does it stem from? What emotions are there? And then, with moving the energy and helping to rebalance and things, sometimes it will actually start to move some of the energy so that either the pain starts to shift, maybe it'll start to go away. It's all just kind of dependent upon, you know, the work that we do and how willing and ready is the recipient to make some shifts and changes?

Speaker 2: 27:29

And what type of things might someone need to do to help repair something, if you found an emotion or something that was disturbed, or something like that? What types of treatment, what things like homework, I guess, is what I'm saying what type of things might you have them do? Just an example or two.

Speaker 3: 27:49

I love that you use the term homework. I honestly give my clients a lot of homework to do. The reason behind that is because working with me just once is not necessarily always going to do a facility. It's a process, and I like to kind of do this nice little building upon session after session. It's like, okay, once we've discovered this, now you might need to shift your patterns in how you react to something and that change in action creates a different reaction. And so once we kind of go back into okay, how are those reactions going for you? Now let's take a look at what else is being caused in the disturbance and we kind of go from there. So, yeah, people have the ability to change their own thought patterns and their habits and their ways. Sometimes books might be recommended.

Speaker 3: 28:39

I find actually, this work that I do really beautifully dovetails with therapy and counseling, because oftentimes people will be in a counseling situation for a very long time and they might not be understanding like what next? Where do I go from here? I put a lot of work in, but now what? And I think a lot of us can relate to that. We want to know where things headed. I have the gift to be able to say, okay, well, given where you've been and where you really want to go, there are some steps to start taking. And if they are still in a therapy session, maybe people need just a little bit of a refocus on, instead of talking, venting every week to therapist. What if you go in and say this is my plan or, I'm sorry, this is my goal? Can you help me come up with the plan? And the therapist can hold an accountable every week, but without having the insight from a further perspective pulled back.

Speaker 3: 29:34

The way I can sometimes they find people get stuck. So yeah, I can give homework in a lot of different ways. It just very organically happens to be honest.

Speaker 2: 29:43

That's fascinating. The healing part is fascinating, so I'm going to have to comprehend that a little bit more and maybe we can do another podcast specifically on the healing aspect, because I think there's a lot more.

Speaker 3: 29:56

May I say something else?

Speaker 3: 29:57

about the healing part that comes in with that too. It's not only on a somatic physical release that these things are happening, but I've also been working with family, generational trauma and karmic ties. Those are some big fancy terms. So if we think about if we've ever seen people who might have women in their family who are scared of giving birth, or maybe they've had miscarriage after miscarriage or something like this, we might actually be able to look back at their family line and say, okay, what was their mother's experience like, what were their grandmother's experiences like? And the generations that came before them? Energy again is transferred like a waterfall from generation to generation and when we are born, just out of the gate, we actually inherit seven generations trauma that came seven generations before us.

Speaker 2: 30:49

What.

Speaker 3: 30:50

And I'm thinking about the miscarriage side and dad's side. And in my own personal life you know I'm thinking about, you know exactly what I just said like the miscarriages, giving birth, things like this, and I learned that on both sides of my family that was a common issue and it made no sense that I was seven years old to my mother, I don't want to have a baby, oh my goodness, to come out of my body like this, oh my gosh. And even into adulthood that has been a real fear for me. So these are just examples. I mean other things that can be past long generation to generation might be domestic violence, abuse. It can be, you know, like I said, fears, it can be. Someone has a child very early in life, in their teens. That even is a generational sort of pattern that we look at. There's many different types of things that people might say why does this keep happening to me? And it can be connected to their family, generational trauma.

Speaker 3: 31:51

And then we talk about karmic ties. Karma We've heard that term before, but that basically essentially means what is the agreement or what are the struggles that my soul has had with another person and it links us or ties us together, and not always is it great stuff. Sometimes it can be really hard things. You know, somebody needs to learn about self love, for example, and they might attract a partner who is so deep in Not loving themselves and maybe that person has been struggling in that too. These two people can be connected with their energy of karma and One person might be an awful person to the really nice person who's trying to heal and grow forward. But the karma karmic ties that keep them stuck is hey, I'm gonna be a jerk and I'm gonna keep pushing and pushing until you actually walk away. So I get to see these different types of things that create those disturbances and one spider web and really move and shift through the energy and again give homework my goodness.

Speaker 2: 32:54

We definitely have to have you back again, melissa, and talk more about these other aspects, I have what I call a toddler question. It may sound like a very simplistic question, but inquiring minds want to know with everything that you have as an ability or a skill, how do you, can you turn it on and turn it off? I mean, do you get any time for your own peace of mind?

Speaker 3: 33:18

I love that question. I Do, I do. I get to turn it on and turn it off, and I had to learn that lesson kind of the hard way early on in my my career with this. But it's as simple for me as imagining a porch light turn on when I'm really trying to connect with the spirit world and then when I'm finished I turn off the porch light. And I want to compare it to Halloween. Most of us in the United States celebrate Halloween and when it's starting to become dark out at night we turn on a porch light, which is an unbroken symbol to say hey, children, you're out in the dark, but if you see this bright light, hey, you can come here, I'll give you some candy.

Speaker 3: 33:53

The same thing with somebody who has a gift like this. We call ourselves light workers because we're spreading light into the darker parts of somebody's life, when they might be in the unknown. So when I turn my porch light on, any person in the spirit world goes okay, she's got her porch light on, I know I can communicate with her. And then when I'm finished, I do turn off the porch light, which is the unspoken rule. I'd trick or treaters don't come to my door anymore. I'm done. I do not want to be spoken or you're spoken to or woken up. At 2 am I need my sleep as well.

Speaker 2: 34:27

And does it ever happen then? I guess this isn't Another toddler question. Does it ever happen, whether there's such an imperative or urgent message that comes to you, whether you're not ready for it or not?

Speaker 3: 34:39

Yes, very rarely at this point, but yes, and the reason that I can say that I am Comfortable, I guess, with going there even though I'm not really Porch light on, I've made an agreement with my spirit guides, who are my guides and angels, making sure that, you know, it's everything's for the highest and best for me as well as for other people. So I can think of an example a few years back I was out, you know, with friends of friends, people I did not know at all, and this woman, her fiance, apparently had died months before that and I did not know this. But I just noticed her engagement ring was sparkling all over the place and I said that's a really pretty ring and it was getting my attention and immediately she started to cry and I thought, oh boy, what did I say? And eventually you know what that conversation started to open.

Speaker 3: 35:26

I started to feel a presence with me, started to see some images and I only let my guides do that to me if it's somehow gonna be received by the stranger, okay, and I just, you know, started the conversation very lightly, asking her if she was even understanding about what a medium was.

Speaker 3: 35:45

I joked around and said have you ever heard of Long Island medium and anything but that? I mean I don't have the right personality but to give someone that's unfamiliar with this kind of an idea. And so once I understood she really was open to receive messages, I proceeded and it was a really healing thing, even though this is out in public and I really wasn't there to work.

Speaker 2: 36:05

Oh, that's wonderful. That's wonderful. Wow. Time has flown by. It truly has so. Rest assured, listeners, that Melissa's gonna be back, because I can't just say thank you, goodbye. She's got to come back, you know, at least once more. But who knows, she could be a regular guest as we start to wind down, melissa, I have a tradition, if you will, of turning the microphone over to my guests so they can speak directly to the listeners Without those topic questions and other interruptions from me. So this is your turn, the microphone is yours.

Speaker 3: 36:39

So, yeah, I would like to just you know thank everybody for listening and coming with an open heart and mind for sure, if you're interested to learn more about a little bit more about my story and my background spoken appointment, I do offer many different types of sessions, so anywhere from 30 minutes all the way up to 90 minutes, based upon whatever somebody feels like they would really like to dive into. I'm happy to work with them. As a special for being, you know, hearing about me on this podcast, I'm offering a $10 off special if anybody would like to book and using the code 10 off number 10. My website is mystical awakenings Com, and when you access my website, mystical awakening, there's a button that says book now and go from there, and I really like sure I've, you know, worked on my website. I'm gonna be updating it sometime soon, but I have a resources page on there as well. That gives people little insight if you're seeing repeating numbers or if you're always wondering what is an aura color Signify. You have different things like this, and I also have some resources on there of other people who complement the work that I do.

Speaker 3: 37:42

Really well, I am working locally in Rochester, new York, if anybody is interested in seeing me in person. That would always be wonderful, but, as I mentioned before, it does not have to be in person. I work over the phone, skype, facetime, zoom or what that. So pretty much any webcam session would be wonderful to do together.

Speaker 3: 38:01

If it's possible to do webcam, I just find that it really enhances the experience because, similar to what Kathy and I did together, I like to draw pictures of the visions that I see and I take notes as we go along. That usually just provides like an extra enhancement the situation of what we're talking about, and it's a nice little record of Reminding ourselves. Where did we go during our session. I do record the session and I also you know that out for a person to download. I do get a lot of positive feedback on that as well, because so much comes up during our time together it's like nearly impossible to remember all of that. Having a recording helps us go back and hear it differently in three weeks, three months, three years later, and so I really appreciate offering that to people as well.

Speaker 2: 38:43

Well. Again, melissa, thank you so much. I do want to say to the listeners out there, and for many and probably the majority of listeners, you would need to set up a webcam, zoom or Skype or something like that, because you're probably not sitting here in Rochester, new York, where we are. But I want to at this point give my personal recommendation and referral for you. If you are at all curious about working with a medium or psychic, if you have been Wanting so much to either send a message to or receive a message from the person or people you have lost.

Speaker 2: 39:24

I'm giving my personal recommendation for Melissa I. She is clear, she's candid, she is detailed, she is willing to explain things you don't understand. If she uses a term or a phrase, she's the real deal, folks. So if you're at all curious, reach out to Melissa and take a chance. I know you won't be disappointed. On that note, I do have to wrap up. I want to remind everybody again to take care of themselves while you're grieving. That is probably the single most important thing we can all do to keep ourselves moving in the right direction. And Until the next episode and it'll be another good guest I assure you until then, stay healthy, stay well, be safe as we all continue to live in grief.

Speaker 1: 40:17

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