Why 99% of People Never Get In Shape

Most people will never get what they want. Not because the goal is too hard, but because they are not willing to become the person required to reach it. This episode breaks down why the real gap between you and your goals is not a list of steps. It is an identity shift. Do the opposite of the 99% who quit at the first sign of discomfort, and start doing the work that actually changes who you are.

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Yo yo guys, what's going on? It's your boy GB, man. I appreciate you guys for rocking with me another week on becoming the vision where we talk about becoming the person that you need to be in order to have the life that you so desire, man. I'll jump right into it today. How do you succeed at anything in life? You do the opposite of 99% of people. That's a wild statement, man, but it's so true. Because I look around, man, and I just get discouraged. Not discouraged, I get sad for people just in life. Because I I I look around and I see people just not trying worth a damn at much of anything. Um if we're looking at fitness, let's just start there, right? If we look at fitness, um I brought this up to my group call yesterday. I said, if you walk into a store and you saw a hundred people, how many would be out of shape? You know, and generally that number is probably between 85 and 90%, probably more than that. But the truth is that if you walked up to these 85, 90 plus plus people and you said, hey, would you like to have a better body? Would you like to have more energy? Would you like to have more confidence? Would you like to have more vitality? Every single one of them would say yes. And it's not because they're not achieving it because they don't know generally what to do. Because everybody listening to this podcast knows that you should probably work out and you should probably eat less than you're eating right now, but you don't do it. And if you if you look at most people, they know the steps generally, but they just won't do the steps. And I believe that most people don't succeed at things because anything worth fucking while while, like how do you say it? Anything worth having, we're gonna go with that, is gonna be difficult to obtain. It's gonna be difficult. And what I was sharing with my group yesterday is that you should fucking embrace the fact that it's gonna be difficult and you should lean in because pressure is a privilege. And you should lean in because this is where almost everybody fucking quits all the time. They quit on themselves because the thing that they're trying to do is hard. They want it to be easy, and this is why, like, I understand the practicality of GLP ones, I understand what they do for um diabetics, but the fact that it's transitioned into like mainstream and everybody's taking this shot and they're just looking for an easy pill, most people don't change their eating habits. Most people don't start working out. You just take the fucking pill and then eat the same shit. And then when you come off the the shot or the pill, oh I gained all the weight back. Well, why the fuck do you think you gain all the weight back? Because you didn't actually develop or change. I shared this yesterday in the group that it's never the goal. The goal isn't the hard thing that is like makes it hard to get the thing that you want, it's the development, it's the gap between who you are and who you have to be to get it. Because if it were just about the steps, everybody would have the steps. Everybody has Chat GPT in their pocket. You have all the information that you could ever want on the fucking planet Earth, but you don't do it, and it's because you are not yet that person. You're the type of person that you say you want to be lean, you say you want to be strong, you say you want to have more confidence, you say you want to have more energy, and you're still the person snacking late at night, going to bed late, skipping the gym because you're quote, tired, or you're too busy, or you're gonna start on Monday, you're gonna start after this vacation, or you're gonna start like, and it's it's wild to me, and I don't really spend a lot of time trying to convince people to change their life. I really only like helping people that understand that they have a problem and they actually want to do some shit about it, right? Um, I was talking to uh a prospect the other day, and she was like, Well, Greg, you know, we're we're talking face to face, and she's like, Greg, you know, it feels like you're discouraging me. Like you're you're telling me not to do this. And I'm like, No, I'm not telling you not to do this program, but I'm very much trying to figure out are you actually the type of person that's gonna stick with this program? Right? Because when people talk to me, I can I've had so many conversations that I understand generally when somebody is not going to follow through with the shit that they're saying, like they're telling me to my face, and I'm like, this person is not going to do any of it. And is because a lot of people will not be when it comes, let's back up a little bit. When it comes to doing hard shit in order to obtain the thing, right? Like I said, just do the opposite of 99% of people, which is the hard road. Most people won't do that. Part of that hard road is having a really, really raw fucking conversation with yourself and being truthful and saying, you know what, like I'm not where the fuck I want to be, whether this is financially, whether this is physically, whether this is in your health, I mean not in your health or your relationships, right? I am not where the fuck I want to be. And you gotta understand that that gap is you are not there because you are not yet that dude. You are not yet that girl. That is why you are not there. The hard conversation that you have to have with yourself is I have been slacking, I have been doing shit that I should not be doing that is pushing me further away from my goal. Um, abdication of responsibility is something that I share either with prospects that are trying to pawn it off on a spouse. Like, so when I say, Hey, like, would you like to move forward or what would you like to do? Oh, yeah, you know, I gotta, you know, I gotta talk to my wife, you know, because she controls the bills, and you know, I gotta see what she says. Oh, okay, okay, yeah. Oh, I gotta talk to my husband, um, you know, because like I gotta see what he says, or you know, my kids' schedule or whatever people throw in to take responsibility off of themselves for making the decision in that point. Now, guys, this is not a knock on talking to your spouse. I've been married for a long ass time. So when I talk to my wife, it's if I'm talking to anybody about joining something, buying something, I've already spoken to her. I've already said, hey, babe, like this is what I was thinking about. This is, I think this will help us in business, or I helped us in fitness, or help us in mindset, whatever it may be, or help us in our marriage, whatever it may be. And so when we go to speak to the person, we have already decided that we're going to do it, and we're already decided that we're going to invest in it financially. We just need to figure out, okay, what are the ins and outs of the program or whatever it is that we're doing or the vehicle or whatever it may be, right? And the reason that we do that is because we do not abdicate responsibility to anybody outside of ourselves. If you blame any, like if you blame your lack of progress on anybody else other than yourself, that is abdication of responsibility. And it is not fucking fair to the person that you're doing it to. For all my fellows that are listening to this, if you have to go, oh, then let I gotta talk to my wife to see, you know, like if we can actually fit this in, and it's like the reason she probably doesn't want you to fucking sign up for another fitness program is because you have quit so many fucking times. You have started, you have paid money, and you haven't followed through with your fucking word. And that is why she doesn't trust you, and that's why she doesn't want you to invest in yourself. And the same thing for the the the the wives, right? And this is just a really raw conversation because you have to have hard conversations to do the opposite of 99% of people because most people will coddle themselves and make excuses, abdicate responsibility, and never get anywhere, and then wonder why. They're like, Why am I stuck in the same place? Why am I not moving forward? What is wrong? And it's because you keep making the same fucking decisions, and you have to. The hard part is being really raw with yourself, and the only person that is going to save you is you. That is a hard conversation to have. And then you've got to understand, guys, that most of you don't really want an easy path in the first place. Because if if I gave you a pill that made you rich, that made you super in shape, that made all your relationships amazing, and you never had to develop, you would go fucking crazy because there is you've removed the point, right? Like you removed the thing that drives us as humans, and you know, because they've even you know done studies that have shown, and you guys know, that people that are born into extreme wealth typically struggle, or if you hit um success really, really early in life, it's really hard. You we hear about these people going through deep depressions, they anxiety, drugs, um, just all kind of shit, doing wild shit in life just to feel alive. And the reason that I'm sharing this is because you should embrace. I know you've heard you should embrace the journey, it's about the journey, but it truly is about the journey, it is about progressing and making yourself worthy of the thing that you are pursuing. That is the that is the thing, that is what you should be chasing your whole life, like the development. Because I'll I'll tell you guys like once you obtain the thing that you want, whether it's the car, whether it's the body, whether it's the money, there because there is no real number, there is no car that's gonna satisfy everything that you would ever want. You'll be happy with it for a little bit, but it's always on to the next thing. And so the thing that I try to help people understand is that the reward is the journey, but the journey is hard because it is character development. The only reason you don't have what you want is because it is fucking hard to obtain, and if you just quit doing the shit that has made you fail, right? The same thing that has made 99% of people fail, quit doing that. If you're the type of person that always gives a reason on why you're not succeeding, especially in fitness, well, it's because I'm studying for my master's, oh, it's because I need to pray about it, or it's because I need to talk to my spouse or my schedule or anything of that nature, do the opposite, and I promise you'll succeed. The opposite is start fucking now, right? And this isn't anything. If you're wanting to get a new career and you want to make more money and you want to be $20,000, $30,000, $40,000 a month, and you've been stuck at this low number and you can't figure out, it is a character development problem. You are not yet that person, and you've got to develop into the person to then obtain the thing that you want. That's why I call the show Becoming the Vision. It is about becoming the person that you need to be in order to have the things that you want. And that is the game, that is the joy. And you should embrace hard because honestly, guys, none of us really want an easy life in the first place. Now we I it's not saying that I always love when shit is hard, because that would be like dumb of me. I'm not some guru that's like you just gotta right, but I also understand that it is what shapes us, it is what makes the journey worth fucking while worth obtaining because I keep messing that up. Um, but anyway, guys, like I love you guys a life. Remind yourself that you can do hard shit. You can do hard shit. You should embrace the fact that you're built for it. Progress yourself into who you need to be, because that is the only way that you're going to get the things that you want, is developing into the person. Love you guys a life. Until next week. Peace.