162. Prince or Frog? Who to Look for When It's Time to Date

I want to give a huge shout out to Dr. Doug Weiss and his training for Christian teen girls called "Princes Take Longer than Frogs." Dr. Weiss is a psychologist and the founder of Heart to Heart Counseling Center. Much of the information I am sharing with you, I learned from him. 

This week, we are going to talk about dating. 

• Some of you have started dating and it's okay with your parents.
• Some of you have started dating and are hiding it from your parents...which I totally don't recommend! Listen to your parents, they love you!
• Some of you want to date, but you're waiting for someone to tell you they like you. 
• Some of you are waiting to date until it's okay with your parents or until you are ready to get married (which I totally recommend!)

Frogs or Princes? Who to look for when you do start dating?

There are two types of guys in the world: frogs and princes. A prince takes longer to mature than a frog does. The younger you start to date, the more likely you will end up with a frog. You want to wait long enough for God to develop a man who is good enough for you! 

What a Frog Looks Like:

1. Frogs are motivated by fear. They will tell you things like, “You won’t do _____ because you don’t love me.” 
2. Frogs have secret sins. 86% of guys by the time they turn 20 are addicted to porn. What he is doing sexually in secret will hurt you. 
3. Frogs are liars. They will tell you what you want to hear to win you. 

What a Prince Looks Like?

1. Princes hate fear. They may have fears, but they are challenged by them. 
2. They have strong relationships with either their Christian dad or with an adult male role model who loves God and is helping them learn what it means to be a strong man of God.
3. They have strong Christian guy friends who are helping them to grow in their walk with God.
4. Princes want to protect your relationship with God and your purity.
5. Princes have a clear sense of who God created them to be. 
6. Princes will speak God's Word over you and will encourage you. They aren’t just going to tell you what you want to hear to win you. 

Be Careful not to attract frogs by believing lies about yourself!

1. Lie: I’m not good enough. I’m worthless. I’m damaged. I’m broken. This is not what God says about you! 
2.  Lie: I need a man to make me feel validated. You don’t need a man to validate you. God already says you are valuable, you are beautiful, you are amazing, and you are loved! 
3. Lie: He said he loves me, therefore, he must love me. Ladies, guys who are frogs will just throw around those words because they know that if they do, they can get you to do anything they want you to do.

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