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The Reconnect Marriage Podcast
Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer thoughtful and engaging conversations that promote insight and awareness into how couples can cultivate and experience marriage as a transformative and healing relationship. With focus on topics such as story, attachment, conflict, shame, trauma and play, Steve and Lisa offer listeners hope and help in navigating the hopeful path toward connection in marriage!
Episodes
77 episodes
The Avoidance of Conflict
We often try to avoid conflict because it usually doesn't go well. So, what's the point of working through conflict? To create understanding and connection.Listen in As Dr. Steve Call and Lisa Call offer insight through a practical exam...
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Season 4
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Episode 77
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27:59
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3 Core Issues for Couples
There are 3 common and core issues couples experience sometime in their marriage:1) feeling stuck2) loneliness3) contemptListen in as Dr. Steve Call and his wife, Lisa Call, engage in a conversation that helps listeners beco...
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Season 3
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Episode 76
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25:06
The Resistance in Remembering the Past
There is often some resistance, perhaps caution, to remembering our past. Naturally, remembering the past, particularly experiences in our family of origin, is painful. Yet, many of our everyday moments in marriage reflect the past and can be d...
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Season 3
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Episode 75
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25:26
The Grip of Envy
Envy is a common feeling and experience in marriage! Yet, for many of us, envy can imply there is something wrong or that we ought not to feel it. In marriage, envy shows up often, and it can create disruption and disconnection, and we aren't a...
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Season 3
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Episode 74
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24:36
Lingering in the Discomfort
Lingering in the discomfort can feel uncomfortable. We often rush or hurry to solve or fix what our spouse may be feeling or experiencing. Yet, we often need our spouse to linger - to stay present and be with us. Listen in as Dr. S...
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Season 3
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Episode 73
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28:28
Fear of Abandonment
A common fear we each have is the fear of abandonment. It's the core fear from the moment we are born. It's common for us to experience this fear when we experienced an emotionally unavailable parent. Sometimes, this fear can become activated i...
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Season 3
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Episode 72
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27:20
The Need for Containment
Containment is the relational engagement with our partner or spouse, particularly in times of distress or need. Containment is a movement toward and the capacity to hold what the other might be feeling or thinking. Listen in ...
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Season 2
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Episode 71
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25:35
Navigating Differences
The struggles and tensions in marriage are often connected to differences. We can have different thoughts, beliefs, ideas, needs, and these differences can lead to a sense of disconnection rather than connection. Listen in as Dr. S...
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Season 2
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Episode 70
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24:08
Reflection vs Reaction
Often in a marriage relationship, we have reactions to one another when our spouse's thought, idea, feeling, or belief is different or unexpected. We simply have reactions rather than reflections. Listen in as Dr. Steve and L...
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Season 2
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Episode 69
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24:52
The Need for Attunement
Attunement is vital and essential in a marriage relationship. Attunement can be defined as "bringing into harmony." But for many of us, attunement wasn't a consistent experience in our family of origin. As a result, the lack of att...
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Season 2
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Episode 68
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25:26
Lack of Access...
When we don't have access to our spouse's attention or focus, we can sometimes feel distress in our bodies. And, of course. It's such a natural and common relational experience in marriage. Yet, it can be a difficult tension in a marriage. ...
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Season 2
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Episode 67
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23:19
Loyalty is Fierce
Each of us develops particular loyalties that protect us. Loyalties are often a strategy to relationally cope both in our early story and in our marriage. Yet our loyalties can inhibit connection and/or perpetuate disconnection. &nb...
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Season 2
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Episode 66
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23:49
Being Kind to Sadness
One of our four primary emotions is sadness. Sadness, unfortunately, is often met with judgment, whether from ourselves or our spouse/partner. And sometimes, when sadness is felt, it is met by an attempt to talk the other out of what they feel....
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Season 2
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Episode 65
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20:36
Contempt is a Disruptive Force
Contempt can be a disruptive and divisive force in marriage. It often reveals itself in the form of judgment and usually implies that one's thoughts, ideas, beliefs, and feelings are minimized. Contempt can become an embedded pattern for many c...
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Season 2
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Episode 64
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24:31
Making Sense of Trauma - Part 2
Sometimes the emotional reactivity we have with our spouse is connected to the remembering of trauma which can cause significant distress. And when our body remembers the trauma/loss/heartache of what we have endured, we crave a presence from o...
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Season 2
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Episode 63
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28:34
Making Sense of Trauma - Part 1
Trauma is part of each couple's story. Meaning, each individual brings a story of trauma into marriage and for many couples, there is trauma within their marriage. We may not be aware that our emotional responses to our spouse are often connect...
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Season 2
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Episode 62
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27:44
I Want To but I Don't Know How To
Sometimes we can't be what our spouse needs. Sometimes we don't know what to say or how to respond to our spouse's needs. And often, we don't know how to react or what to say. And sometimes, in not knowing, we may communicate that what our spou...
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Season 2
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Episode 61
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21:15
The Goal of Conflict
Conflict can certainly be difficult for most couples. Conflict is common and familiar and can be a stuck point that can perpetuate disconnection. In conflict, many couples are reenacting their family of origin experiences, and avoiding conflict...
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Season 2
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Episode 60
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25:45
The Impact of Internal Scripts
Internal scripts are part of how we navigate the relational world of marriage. Internal scripts are what we say to ourselves regarding an event and experience and often can create a sense of disconnect relationally. Sometimes, we aren't aware o...
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Season 2
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Episode 59
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23:19
Being Seen and Being Known
Each of us desires to be known and seen by our spouse. Sometimes we develop strategies and ways of being known and seen by our spouse and strategies and coping responses when we experience being unseen and unknown. Often this strugg...
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Season 2
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Episode 58
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21:56
Our Body Remembers
Our body remembers events and experiences from the past, especially experiences in our family of origin. And sometimes our emotional responses to our spouse can be related to something being remembered in our story. Our body gives us clue...
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Season 2
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Episode 57
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25:08
Can You Turn the Emergency Brake On?
How we respond to our spouse's need, desire, request, and hope plays such a significant role in what happens next. Yet a common experience in marriage is one of dismissal and even judgment. Often, we believe we can respond to our spouse'...
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Season 2
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Episode 56
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22:41
Awareness is the Key...
Awareness offers the key to understanding difficult moments in our marriage. Awareness can help us make sense of what's happening in moments of tension, hurt, and disappointment and awareness can lead to repair.Listen in as Dr. Steve an...
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Season 2
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Episode 55
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23:58
Intentional Curiosity...
Intentional curiosity can be such a connective tissue for couples in moments and experiences of disconnection. Often when we feel frustrated or irritated with our spouse's behavior, we turn away or we become more bothered and/or more irritated....
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Season 2
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Episode 54
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23:19
Withdraw - A Common Relational Response
Withdrawing from our spouse is common in marriage and sometimes it can be difficult to navigate well. Sometimes one withdraws as a way to cope with the helplessness one feels when feeling overwhelmed, yet the withdraw can cause significan...
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Season 2
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Episode 53
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29:34