Author Recap: Create Agile, Inclusive Work Culture, Confidence, and Resilience

Ever had a boss that drove you a little… bonkers?

🔑 Top Takeaways

• Quit taking it personally (Q-TIP)
• Know your worth
• Behavior isn’t identity
• Confidence is your secret weapon
• Happiness is a choice

We encourage you to listen to the full episode and as always, we hope the time you spend with us will help remove the stigma of anxiety and mental health in the workplace and your personal life.

Transcript

Adrian, have you ever had a bad boss? Of course, we've all had bad bosses. I'm curious as to what your takeaways are. Yeah, because you and I are thinking of the same bad boss who I don't even know which one of these, he sort of fit many of these archetypes. But yeah, I love the firefighter. Just kind of always he jumped in there because I hear this a lot. I said I was dealing with it just recently with a boss that we're trying to coach and help. Everything's 9-1-1. It's like we're 9-9-9 in the UK. Everything's an emergency. I'm going to put meetings in the morning or the evening because I know you'll have to be there. Well, not everything is an emergency. I love that idea. We keep tripping over the same rock, fix it, dig the rock up. Yeah, I do love the titles of his guys, the Amnesiac, you know, the boss, no matter how much you prep them, no matter how much information you give them, it's like, so are you sure you sent that to, what was the subject headline? You know, what do you mean I already have that report? I would have seen that, you know. And of course, the idea of that boss is, look, I'm just so busy. I'm just so important that you need to follow up with me. I did love the emergency broadcaster guy too, which was always great. My biggest takeaway though was the Q-tip. Interestingly enough, quit taking it personally. You know, it reminds me of the old Saturday Night Live routine, you know, they'd interview the executive and it's him, right? It's not me, it's him, right? It's not me, it's him. And you realize that it really isn't you, it really is them. No, and I love that too, I underline that as well. Now it's easier said than done sometimes, and you know, but, and he's exactly right, because he's been in these situations for, you know, 20 years at Microsoft. You go into a meeting, you're presenting all your stuff, you think you're brilliant, and then somebody says, why are we doing this? This is stupid. And they start picking apart your work that you've been working on for three months, put taking it personally, your paychecks still go through, it's not about you. Now, if you're in a constant chronic situation where that's happening to you all the time, that's where you're tripping over the same rock. But for the most part, we do have to realize, I still have worth, my work has worth, but they pay the paychecks. This is what Marshall Goldsmith, our mentor, tells us, right, is look, the person who makes a decision makes a decision. You gotta get over it and you gotta move on and it's hard sometimes. Yeah. Last one for me is, he said something my dad used to say all the time. He goes, happiness is a choice. You don't choose to be happy. Control what you can control and if it really gets bad Run to something positive. I love that. I mean don't walk run. You know the Run to something positive. That's really good. Yeah used to be happy. You know you know I There's something positive in our lives Jester, and I'm wondering if you could figure out who it might be you know It's so funny it always comes back to the same person and i think if he worked in my life with my life even be worth living of course we're talking about the infamous go ahead adrian brent kline operative and i think there is a magic yeah i think this is a lot of jobs is fine amazing guess and keeps us on track and all of you listen then if you like the podcast share it please we'd love you to visit thecultureworks.com for some free resources to help you and your team culture thrive. And we love speaking to audiences literally all over the world, right? Virtually, in person, hybrid on topics of culture, teamwork, resilience. Give us a call, we'd love to talk to you about your event and please pick up a copy of the book, Anxiety at Work, one for you, one for a friend. Really some great tips in there and it is so interesting, Adrian, you know, you and I go speak and we say, what would you like us to speak about culture and gratitude and so on. Anxiety is always there, help us with that. It's really high on our list. So give us a call, we'd love to speak at your event. Yeah, I've never been a place where they say, you know, we're pretty good with anxiety. That one's pretty good. We're actually too calm here. There's nothing going on. Yeah, exactly. Hey, thanks everybody. It's just so great to be with you and big thanks to Eric Charon. Until next time everybody, we wish you the best of mental health.