Ask Dr. Julie Hanks
Each week Dr. Hanks coaches a real person through a common life challenge. Listen to Ask Dr. Julie Hanks for healing conversations that educate and empower women to prioritize their needs, revolutionize their families, and personalize their faith.
Episodes
155 episodes
Differentiation of Self: The Key to Wise Decision Making Regarding the LDS Church with Valerie Hamaker Episode
This bonus episode is for anyone who is looking to better understand their personal relationship with The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Listen as Ask Dr. Julie Hanks combines with the Latter-day Struggles podcast for a special ep...
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How do I support my 13-year-old daughter who wants to stay in the LDS Church when I have left?
In today's episode I talk with Saren and answer the question “How do I support my 13-year-old daughter who wants to stay in the LDS Church when I have left?” Saren is trying to reconcile letting her child be a part of something that she has cho...
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How do I decide on a career that I won’t later regret or wish I had taken a different path?
In this episode I meet with Kellice and answer the question “How do I decide on a career that I won’t later regret or wish I had taken a different path?” Kellice wants to choose a sustainable career to support herself and her boys, but she isn’...
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Bonus Episode: Stepping back from the LDS Church? How to do so in a Psychologically Healthy Way with Valerie Hamaker
This bonus episode of the podcast is for anyone who is wanting to step back from The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints while also protecting their mental health. Listen as fellow LDS therapist Valerie Hamaker and I share insight on im...
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How do I heal from a patriarchal marriage and let go of resentment I’m carrying towards the LDS Church?
Listen as I chat with Alyssa and answer the question “How do I heal from a patriarchal marriage and let go of resentment I’m carrying towards the LDS Church?” Alyssa and her husband reevaluated the lessons they were taught about marriage and ha...
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How do I pursue a high-powered career and still show up as the mom I want to be?
In this podcast episode I sit down with Mallory and answer the question “How do I pursue a high-powered career and still show up as the mom I want to be?” Mallory recently went back to work part-time and is feeling immense guilt. It feels like ...
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How can I better communicate to my husband that I’m not comfortable letting our child sleep at my in-laws’ house?
In this episode I talk with Diana and answer the question “How can I better communicate to my husband that I’m not comfortable letting our child sleep at my in-laws’ house?” Diana is not okay with either herself or her child sleeping there beca...
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How should I approach my daughter’s upcoming baptism when I don’t believe 8-year-olds are capable of making this choice?
In this episode, I chat with Christine and answer the question “How should I approach my daughter’s upcoming baptism when I don’t believe 8-year-olds are capable of making this choice?” Christine and her husband have several valid hesitations a...
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How can I stay engaged and active in the LDS Church as a working mom and a feminist?
In this episode I talk with Sylvia and answer the question “How can I stay engaged and active in the LDS Church as a working mom and a feminist?” Sylvia shares the story of a painful experience at Church that has left her wondering if she susta...
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How do I know if I want kids because I genuinely want them or because it’s always been expected of me?
In today’s episode, I talk with Nicole and answer the question “How do I know if I want kids because I genuinely want them or because it’s always been expected of me?” After a recent break up caused by her partner not wanting to have children, ...
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How can I talk about boundaries with my narcissistic mother-in-law who turns everything into my fault?
In today’s episode I chat with Morgan and answer the question “How can I talk about boundaries with my narcissistic mother-in-law who turns everything into my fault?” Morgan describes what interactions with her mother-in-law are typically li...
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How do I learn to trust myself when I feel a disconnect between what I learn in therapy and what I hear at Church?
In today’s episode, I talk with Kelly and answer the question “How do I learn to trust myself when I feel a disconnect between what I learn in therapy and what I hear at Church?” I know that a lot of listeners are going to relate to our discuss...
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How can I be present when grief is always reminding me of what could have been?
Listen as I talk with Jennifer and answer the question “How can I be present when grief is always reminding me of what could have been?“ Jennifer shares the story of her relationship, her husband’s cancer diagnosis, and her experience of being ...
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Bonus Episode: How to Stay Connected to the LDS Church in a Psychologically Healthy Way with Valerie Hamaker
This bonus episode of the podcast is for anyone who is wanting to stay in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints while also protecting their mental health. Listen as fellow LDS therapist Valerie Hamaker and I share insight on important...
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Has my Latter-day Saint upbringing impacted my sexuality?
In this podcast episode I talk with Mary and answer the question “Has my Latter-day Saint (LDS) upbringing impacted my sexuality?” I tell Mary that her LDS upbringing most likely has impacted her sexuality—but that is true for any person. Durin...
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What can I do to stop comparing myself to others and start fostering a growth mindset?
In this episode I talk with Sarah and answer the question, “In the classroom, what techniques can I use to stop comparing myself to others and start fostering a growth mindset?” Sarah just started attending school after a 5-year break, and she ...
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How can I help my LGBTQ+ friends who are in pain because they feel like they don’t belong in the LDS Church?
In this episode I talk with Ben Schilaty and answer the question “How can I help my LGBTQ+ friends who are in pain because they feel like they don’t belong in the LDS Church?” Ben’s question stems from his own experience of being a gay member o...
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How do I have conversations with my husband about expectations for behavior at Church and contributing at home?
In this episode, I sit down with Amanda and answer the question, “How do I talk with my husband about expectations for behavior at Church and contributing at home?” Amanda’s husband often has his phone out during Church and doesn’t like singing...
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How can I talk about modesty to my tween step-daughter without undermining the contradictory thoughts of her mother?
In this episode, I sit down with Emma and answer the question, “How can I talk about modesty to my tween step-daughter without undermining the contradictory thoughts of her mother?” Emma views modesty as a broad topic that covers how we think a...
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Should I try and save a friendship that’s ending because my family left the Church?
In this episode, I talk with Beth and answer the question, “Should I try and save a friendship that’s ending because my family left the Church?” Beth’s family has a group of friends that get together several times a year for fun trips. After th...
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Bonus: Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard Counting the Costs Pt 2.
This is part 2 of a 2-part interview with Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard. If you haven’t listened to part 1, I recommend starting there..In this special episode of the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast, we’re doing things a little diff...
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Bonus: Interview with Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard - On 'Counting the Cost' and Living Life in the Public Eye
In this special episode of the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast, we’re doing things a little different. Instead of hosting a guest and answering their questions, I am honored to be joined by two special guests who I get to interview: Jill Duggar Dil...
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How do I cope with the disappointment that motherhood is not what I expected it to be?
In this episode I meet with Molly and answer the question, “How do I cope with the disappointment that motherhood is not what I expected it to be?” Molly recently finished her graduate studies and was planning on starting a new job, but has ins...
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Bonus: Empowering children to develop their own spirituality with Valerie Hamaker
In this episode, I’m joined by Valerie Hamaker from Latter Day Struggles Podcast. We discuss the importance of open dialogue with children, the case-by-case a...
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How can I accept that I would have chosen differently in the past if I knew what I know now?
In this episode I meet with Lianne and answer the question, “How can I accept that I would have chosen differently in the past if I knew what I know now?” Lianne is getting ready to re-enter the workforce now that her youngest is in daycare, an...
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