18. Expectations, Leadership & Healing with Tim "Chachi" Pachasa

How much time have you spent reflecting on a single word?

Tim Pachasa—aka “Chachi”—has spent 13 years on one: expectations.

Expectations shape how we communicate, how we lead, and how we navigate healing from PTSD and moral injury. I don’t think anyone has unpacked this concept more than Chachi. 

He has spent 20+ years in leadership positions in the military, runs his own leadership consultancy, serves as Executive Director at HunterSeven Foundation, and is currently pursuing a Doctorate in Business Administration with a concentration in Organizational Leadership.

This one gets more philosophical than usual, and you can tell we could nerd out about words for a long time. But it stays useful and practical too, I promise. 

Along the way, we get into:

• The language of expectations and how words frame reality
• Implications for leadership, fatherhood, and healing from PTSD & Moral Injury
• Why calling in an airstrike is the perfect microcosm of human communication (and why you should teach your toddler how to do it)
• Tim’s work with the HunterSeven Foundation and their critical mission

Tim sums it all up with a line I’ve already stolen and used repeatedly:
 “Control the controllables, and let go of the let-go-ables.”

 Easy… right?

Find more at:

HunterSeven Foundation — https://hunterseven.org/

HunterSeven Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/huntersevenfoundation/

CAPE Lead (Chachi's leadership company) — https://www.capelead.com/

Chachi's YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@capeleadleadership9036

Chahi's Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/chachipachasa/

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The contents of this episode are for educational & entertainment purposes only and are not medical, legal, or mental-health advice. All views expressed by Tim Pachasa are his alone and do not reflect the official stance of the Hunter Seven Foundation. We do not diagnose, treat, or guarantee outcomes. We do not condone or promote illegal activity, including use of illegal substances. Laws vary by location—know and follow yours, especially regarding controlled substances. Consult a qualified healthcare professional before making changes. If you’re in crisis or an emergency, contact local emergency services or a support hotline. In the United States or Canada, dial 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). For psychedelic support, contact the Fireside Project at 623-473-7433 or https://firesideproject.org/hotline

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