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To help people who help people, the organization needs to be healthy and have practices in place that consider the trauma of those they serve. Lauren Spigelmyer and Jessica Doering have helped thousands of people who help people all over the world. Each week they'll explore tools, insights, and stories to help you lead and live with more clarity, calm, and connection. If you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
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Helping Children Catch your Calm with Nervous System Co-Regulation
In this episode, Lauren explores the importance of adult emotional regulation when navigating children’s challenging behaviors. She emphasizes that outbursts aren’t personal—they’re rooted in a dysregulated nervous system. By staying calm and composed, adults can create a sense of safety that allows children to begin co-regulating. Lauren shares practical strategies like pausing before responding, reframing the moment, and using grounding techniques to manage your own emotional state. She reminds us that regulation doesn’t mean you aren’t frustrated—it means choosing not to let that frustration lead.
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Blog Post:
- Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)
- Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in Crisis
- What are the Five Ives?
Podcast:
- Chaos to Connection
- Part 2: Behavior isn't the Problem
- Part 1: Behavior isn't the Problem
- Hive- The Last Stage of the Five Ives
- Thrive- The Fourth Stage of the Five Ives
- Strive- The Third Stage of the Five Ives
- Revive- The Second Stage of the Five Ives
- Survive- The First Stage of the Five Ives
- What are the Five Ives?
- A Five Category Regulation Framework - Five Ives!
- Using Our 5-Category Regulation Framework in the Workplace
- Impacting Organizational Culture: Explaining the First 2 Ps
- Impacting Organization Culture: Explaining the Second 2 Ps
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- Behavior Breakthrough
- Policing Under Pressure
- Board Governance Training
- University of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
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