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To help people who help people, the organization needs to be healthy and have practices in place that consider the trauma of those they serve. Lauren Spigelmyer and Jessica Doering have helped thousands of people who help people all over the world. Each week they'll explore tools, insights, and stories to help you lead and live with more clarity, calm, and connection. If you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
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How to Get Kids to Cooperate Without Power Struggles
Today Lauren is looking at what drives power struggles with kids and how we can respond in ways that build cooperation rather than conflict. Whether you're a parent, teacher, or work with children in any capacity, the strategies shared here offer a helpful shift away from control-based approaches and toward connection-driven responses.
Lauren unpacks why so many common discipline tactics fall short and offers practical tools like giving voice and choice, using visual supports, and planning ahead for tricky moments. Through personal examples and clear, actionable insights, she reminds us that change takes time, but it’s absolutely possible—and worth it—for stronger relationships and calmer environments.
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- Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)
- Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in Crisis
- What are the Five Ives?
Podcast:
- What Happens When Consequences Backfire
- Helping Children Catch your Calm with Nervous System Regulation
- Chaos to Connection
- Part 2: Behavior isn't the Problem
- Part 1: Behavior isn't the Problem
- Hive- The Last Stage of the Five Ives
- Thrive- The Fourth Stage of the Five Ives
- Strive- The Third Stage of the Five Ives
- Revive- The Second Stage of the Five Ives
- Survive- The First Stage of the Five Ives
- What are the Five Ives?
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