Returning to Us
To help people who help people, the organization needs to be healthy and have practices in place that consider the trauma of those they serve. Lauren Spigelmyer and Jessica Doering have helped thousands of people who help people all over the world. Each week they'll explore tools, insights, and stories to help you lead and live with more clarity, calm, and connection. If you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
Returning to Us
Part 1: Regulation in the Real World
In this episode, Lauren explores what it really means to regulate in the midst of everyday chaos. Building on the Five Ives framework she and her partner developed, she explains why common strategies like breathwork or meditation often fall flat when we are overwhelmed and in survival mode. Regulation, she reminds us, is not about staying calm all the time. It is about noticing when we are dysregulated and learning how to recover quickly and effectively.
Lauren shares practical, real world tools that do not require extra time, just a shift in intention. From humming in the car to squeezing your toes while standing in line, she offers simple ways to pair regulation with routines you already have. Whether you are barely making it to lunch or trying to prevent burnout, this episode offers accessible, meaningful strategies that meet you right where you are.
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Other related resources from Five Ives:
Blog Post:
- Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)
- Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in Crisis
- What are the Five Ives?
Podcast:
- How to Get Kids to Cooperate without Power Struggles
- What Happens When Consequences Backfire
- Helping Children Catch your Calm with Nervous System Regulation
- Chaos to Connection
- Part 2: Behavior isn't the Problem
- Part 1: Behavior isn't the Problem
- Hive- The Last Stage of the Five Ives
- Thrive- The Fourth Stage of the Five Ives
- Strive- The Third Stage of the Five Ives
- Revive- The Second Stage of the Five Ives
- Survive- The First Stage of the Five Ives
- What are the Five Ives?
Our Online Programs:
- Behavior Breakthrough
- Policing Under Pressure
- Board Governance Training
- University of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
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- Five Ives Website website
- The Behavior Hub blog
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