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The Truth About Sex with Small Penises: 4 Women Weigh In
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Ever wondered why the locker room talk isn't just for the guys? Grab a drink and your curiosity as Annette Bendetti, Liberty, Deanna aka Ruby, and Kate get real about one of the most hush-hush topics in the bedroom: small penises. We're tossing out the measuring tapes and diving headfirst into what actually makes for toe-curling pleasure. Through personal tales and a dash of science-backed fact, we're putting size myths to bed and shining a light on the confidence, connection, and techniques that truly matter.
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Small Penis and Sexual Experiences Discussion
Speaker 1Hi , this is Annette Vinedetti , your hostess for a locker room talk and shots , the podcast that likes to think of itself as the queer NPR of raunchy women's sex talk . You are about to sit in on the kind of conversations women have on their girls' nights out or behind closed doors , while enjoying delicious drinks and dishing about sex , think fun , honest and feminist as fuck , and always with the goal of fighting the patriarchy . One orgasm at a time . Welcome to the locker room . Today's locker room talk and shots topic is the truth about sex with small penises .
Speaker 1Long time listeners have probably already heard our podcast episode on Monster Cox , where we talk about dick size with the focus on larger penises and our experiences with them .
Speaker 1Well , I have gotten a lot of questions from people of all genders , but particularly people with penises , about small penises , what constitutes a small penis , what sexes like , how women and people with volvas really feel about sex with people who have small penises . And I listen to the questions you have and well , now I've got a bunch of women , people with volvas and experience with small penises here to talk about what it's like to fuck a small penis , what we think about them , what our experiences have been and we're also going to make sure that by the end of this podcast , you know what a small penis is , what an average penis is and what everything over the average is . All of my guests are returning guests and we're going to go around the virtual table and share kind of who everybody is , what the other episodes they've been on are , and just so that you can re-familiarize yourself and then , of course , go back and listen to the episodes that they've appeared on .
Speaker 3So I'm going to start with Liberty . Hello , hi , I'm Liberty . I've been returning guests . I've been on a few episodes . I think most recently I was on by Babes and Does Body Count Matter ? That was a fun one and , yeah , I'm excited to be here .
Speaker 1And famously she was on Housewives to Hoes with me . It's a beloved podcast on our journey from being a housewife to being a hoe .
Speaker 3Oh yes .
Speaker 1That's my favorite . I also have Deanna aka Ruby here , hello .
Speaker 2Deanna aka Ruby . I don't know exactly everyone that I've been on , but some of my faves we did the one on Mists by Women . That one was very informative for me as a by woman . The spanking one was a lot of fun and if you want to go back to the classic era of locker room talking shots , water sports I do talk about my Olympic silver medal in water sports . So go in those archives and take a listen .
Speaker 1Yes , Kate . Kate is also a returning guest . Kate , can you introduce yourself ?
Speaker 4Hello , Kate and I've been on a few of the podcasts . The most recent one was the threesome's podcast and that was a lot of fun .
Speaker 1Yeah , I mean threesome's . How could it not be fun ? All right , yeah . So you are going to want to go back and catch up with those episodes if you have not listened to them . Now , everybody here has played with , had sex with and has experience with small penises and even micro penises , and we will be defining very quickly what those are . So please stay to the end , because this is going to be comprehensive . I have gotten a lot of questions from all of you . I know you're waiting for the answers and we are going to do the best job we can to really address all of your concerns , questions , curiosities about small dicks and what women and people with vulvas think about them . So , guys , we are in Portland , in the middle of all , of us live in Portland , and we are in the middle of an ice storm , and we are all located all over the city . Right now I'm at a friend's place , so my setup is different than usual , so we are virtually all having different drinks together Coffee and waters . Does anyone have booze here ?
Speaker 4Me , I have booze Tito's , it's afternoon .
Speaker 1I know I'm disappointed in myself .
Speaker 4I was doing dry January , but hey , it's locker room , talk and shots .
Speaker 1That's right , all right , everybody Cheers . Let's talk about small penises .
Speaker 2Cheers .
Speaker 1All right , guys . The way I want to kick this off is by defining what a small penises , and I know , deanna , you have some information over there . Let's start with what is considered a small penis , what size and how are we measuring it ?
Speaker 2So my resource is the Cleveland Clinic , which they do a lot of work . They're really good , reliable medical source . So what is a micro penis ? So healthcare providers have determined micro penis size by the stretched penile length . The proper way to establish is to gently stretch the penis , hold it close to the body and measure it from the tip to the base of the penis . So , with that said , an average stretch penile length for adult males is 5.25 inches .
Speaker 4That's average .
Speaker 2That's average . If it is 3.67 inches or less , that indicates an adult micro penis .
Speaker 1What about small ? What would a small penis be Meaning ? It's not micro , but do they give specific lengths ? We know what average is .
Speaker 2They just give average . And what defines the micro penis ? Because this is their page on micro penis . So because it is a medical condition that has treatments and stuff . If you want to go that route , I would assume small would be between 3.67 and 5.25 inches .
Speaker 1Yeah , somewhere in there . There you go , and honestly , I would like to hear everyone's opinion on this . We'll go around our little circle here . I mean , it's not like we are not stretching penises and figuring out exactly how long they are . So for me , the actual measurements , I don't give a fuck . I assume that people with penises probably are more concerned about the actual length than what constitutes what . But does anyone here at Liberty , do you , care about the actual measurements of the dick ?
Speaker 3Nope , don't care , I've never I won't say I've never measured one . I think we all probably have done that out of curiosity . But no , no , it's not something . It's like do we get out a ruler and measure the length of our tit ?
Speaker 1No , Deanna , do you care about the actual length of ACOC ?
Speaker 2No , I don't .
Speaker 4Kate , no , me neither Don't care . All of my important parts are right inside the opening and I've been with a lot of cocks and it doesn't matter to me the size at all , even my girl , I've been with my girl .
Speaker 1I mean , I think so . Another thing for all of the listeners , especially the penis owners who are eager to hear our opinion , I want to make it clear there is not one person in this panel that hasn't been with a decent number of cocks , meaning like none of us have only been with one or two cocks . Most of us , is it fair to say , most of us are at least in the double digits somewhere , right ? Okay , so we have sampled , Time's done . We have sampled a variety of penises out there . I want you to , in your mind , ladies , take a moment to conjure your standout experience with a smaller penis and what your thoughts are about it . Just pick one and then we'll go into kind of a general conversation . I mean , for me , upon reflecting on this topic , I would say by and large , most of the penises I've been with are medium to smaller . By and large , I mean , I've definitely been with a couple of monster cocks , but as far as long term partners go and ongoing relationships , I've been at average or below most of the time . And one of the things that I thought of when this topic came up that I thought was interesting and I want to share . And this is the experience I'm going to share because I'll talk about the small penises a little bit later , but I feel like this is something that's profound
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Speaker 1When I was younger , I was in college I remember I was on a drive with a girlfriend and we were talking about sex with our boyfriends and this was when I still really wasn't very able to have internal pleasure Like for me . Any listener who's been listening for a while knows my G-spot , my A-spot . Those spots have just really woken up in the last couple of years . But I remember saying to her I'm like it's kind of weird when he comes and he starts shrinking and he's still trying to go because he hasn't made me come , because that's what I think younger guys used to do . They came early and they knew you hadn't , so they kept trying to like hump away at you . I told her it's weird because when they start to shrink and get small , that's when it starts to feel good to me Now . And she was like , yeah , me too .
Speaker 1And what I realized now was happening was , as it was shrinking and they were still pounding away at me , it was starting to hit my sweet spot . So it was starting to hit that G-spot , Whereas when it was fully hard . It was like they were just bypassing that and like nailing the shit out of my cervix . So when they would start to shrink up , then they'd start to hit that G-spot and then I felt like , oh , it's weird , why is it more pleasurable when it's smaller and limp , more limp . So I just want to share that for people who are listening about and curious about . Well , how could a small cock be pleasurable ? Well , the G-spot for most of us is located just right inside . For me , mine is like just inside my vaginal opening and , yeah , when it would get smaller and softer , it would just , oh god , it would rub it , but then it would go completely limp and fall out and then I was like , damn it . So , Liberty , will you share one of your experiences and your thought ?
Speaker 3Yeah , yeah . The one experience I was just thinking about sharing was not long ago . It was a small penis and I would say it was not . I'm not sure if it was micro it might have been . Now that I know the measurements I would say probably in the getting close to micro category . But he and I think we're all going to agree on this it's not really about the size of your penis , it's about what you do with everything else and how you are as a human . And he was just so eager to please and so good at all the other stuff , particularly fingering and you know and so excited about making me like squirt all over the place that it just that overshadowed the rest of it .
Speaker 3I think , like you just said , the thing about smaller penises or micro penises is that they can hit that G spot or the A spot . I think I just discovered the A spot , like literally like since we did the orgasm podcast that's one I was just on I've had all kinds of new experiences since we did that podcast . It was a wonderful experience , loved it . It's also about his confidence . When you're confident , when you're not feeling , you know you have , you do I don't want to say overconfident , but you know , just like I don't know , being present , being in the moment , being attentive to your partner , it is , it can be an amazing experience .
Speaker 1When he pulled out his penis and it was small did you have an initial reaction to that in your mind , your body , or was it I ?
Speaker 3think I was a little surprised , you know , I mean , you just never know , right , you don't know by looking at a person I was maybe a little surprised but it quickly , you know , diminished because everything else , the kissing was good , you know , the overall , like foreplay was good . I mean , giving a blowjob to a small penis is pretty easy .
Speaker 1It is .
Speaker 3It's like , yeah , it's in , and I think that's very empowering for both people . You know , I know it's sort of fetishizes . I don't know Some people like deep throating , whatever like it . But yeah , you can do that with a small penis , no problem . Despite the initial sort of a little surprised didn't even really think about it after that .
Speaker 2And didn't .
Speaker 3I mean honestly didn't think about it till we got till we started talking about this podcast . Doing it I was trying to remember . It wasn't something that was like the forefront of my mind from that experience at all .
Speaker 1Not at all Right . So did you want to go , but did you revisit that penis more than once ?
Speaker 3No , but that was just because I decided to be monogamous again . Yeah . So it wasn't because of the penis , it was nothing to do with , and it would have been great to do it again , but yeah , we just couldn't do that .
Speaker 1All right , all right . Yeah , deanna , tell me about small dicks .
Speaker 2One thing that really popped out was like my very first experience , and I really couldn't tell you how big his penis was . I just know it was not very , and so this was when it was , when I was a youthful and full of vigor , but I had always I was really dumb about penis size and the variety . Now that I look back , most of my male partners up to that point had been at the top of average or more , and so there always was like pain and discomfort with me . I don't have a very deep hole , so I mean it literally was like my cervix got a bruise . When I first was with this individual , I was like wait a second , this doesn't hurt this . Unfortunately , they were a typical 17 year old male , so they really didn't know what to do except for pump , pump , pump . So it wasn't all bags .
Speaker 2I had a realization that there are penises out there that won't bruise your cervix and that have potential to be more enjoyable , and so it's like you . You could have a two and a half inch dick and be an amazing person and a tenful lover and very selfless and giving and give that partner the most amazing sex they've ever had . You also can have a two and a half inch dick and be an arrogant prick and make it all about you and it'd be the worst sex . So , and then over time , I have experienced smaller penises that I had great sex with because I think they were aware and they weren't ashamed . You know , it's like okay , I have a bad right knee , so I'm gonna compensate and when I do things I'm gonna adjust . And that's kind of what I think a good lover does adjust for things , and so you can be the most amazing lover anyone's gonna have and have a small penis .
Speaker 1Right , I would like to point out , like you . So you equated small penis to bad right knee . But it could also be like your penis is so big , it's a handicap and so you have to learn how to compensate for that and not hurt your partner right . Or if you have a penis that has like a hard curve in it . I've been with some penises where I'm like , oh my God , it's like a horseshoe and so you've got to kind of . It's true , I did , I did have that experience .
Speaker 1Whatever you're working with , but I mean as someone myself , like you , deanna , I have a very shallow vagina . I have to learn how to compensate for that when I'm in sexual situations . So it's comfortable for me and , for you know , enjoyable for my partner . Whatever you're working with , when you bring two bodies together and different preferences and needs you're going to compensate for . Whatever it is that maybe you don't have or you have too much of , that affects the connection potentially negatively , right ? Two things so far , and then we're going to get to Kate that I think stand out to me are A that Liberty brought up the oral sex bit about it , which we are going to .
Speaker 1I want to talk about oral sex with small penises , which wasn't even something that I had thought about . But there are fucking big pros , in my opinion , to smaller dick size and sucking dick . So that was a great point , liberty . And then also the lack of pain with smaller dicks , like I don't know . Some women I know really enjoy having their cervix pounded and stuff like that . For me I've mentioned in the past it makes me want to kill a person , so it's super painful , super not sexy , and so someone who does have a small penis isn't going to cause that pain To me .
Speaker 1Also , another thing I want to know it was glossed over , but you mentioned , Liberty the A spot . We all know the G spot is just right inside the vagina ,
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Speaker 1but the A spot is only two inches really deeper than that in your body . You do not need a giant cock to hit that spot and I think people don't realize that . You know a two inch penis , a two and a half inch penis , can hit some of your deepest pleasure spots . You just have to know where they are and how to angle your dick to get there . That is it . So that was a really good point as well . Kate , I would love to hear your experience and perspective .
Speaker 4I was the one who you said double digits and I said times 10 . So I've had quite a few cocks in my day and I also have a shallow vagina and hitting the cervix is incredibly painful . It was to the point I kept one of those little bumper toys just in case somebody had a giant cock , because it would help with their pleasure and not go so deep inside . I've found that men who feel like they are on the smaller side tend to make up for it in other ways , and that's always nice . But I have orgasms vaginally . I can have multiple orgasms vaginally and all of my goodie parts are right inside .
Speaker 4And I had an experience once with somebody with a macropenis and I was really kind of excited because there's something about the head , the edge of the head , rubbing against the G-spot right there , and that happens really well when you have a small penis and I was really excited about that . I'm like yay , not only is this guy going to be enthusiastically taking care of other things to make up for potential what he might think is a misgiving , which I think is wonderful , and then of course there's the heads right there . That's gonna rub all the good spots and I was really excited and he wasn't any good . I was really disappointing , but it had nothing to do with his penis size . I was actually really excited to play with that .
Speaker 4I definitely don't like pain . I don't have orgasms when I'm in pain and I love to orgasm , and head was wonderful . I know we're gonna get to that . I did give him a blow job and I was able to put his balls in my mouth at the same time and lick down in places with his cock in my throat and well in my mouth and lick places that I couldn't normally get to , and I thought it was great , other than he didn't know what he was doing .
Speaker 1Can we talk about that . Can we rewind ? Because you said you're really excited to have the opportunity to play with a micro penis because you knew the possibility of it hitting your G-spot . But then you're like , but he wasn't any good . But when you say that , what does that mean ? And did it have to do with his dick size or something else ?
Speaker 4I don't think he went down on me , I don't think he touched me , I don't think he just sucked . It wasn't a good experience that way , and this penis size had absolutely nothing to do with it . I was kind of hoping that , just you know it being there and the head being where it was located , that I would , just you know it would still feel good . But it didn't take very long and nothing else was turned on . There was no motor run in . It was really disappointing , but it was definitely not because of his penis .
Speaker 1And Liberty .
Speaker 3I just wanted to bring up . We haven't talked about it yet , but I mean , can we say that having a smaller penis for anal sex is awesome ? Yeah , holy shit , definitely . Like anything , it's the best . I mean , I 100% want that over a monster cock in my butt and I love anal sex . So I've had quite a few on the less below average size . That was just absolutely amazing where , honestly , I'd prefer to have anal sex with with some of those people than vaginal sex any day , just because it's like the perfect size . So that's one experience I don't know about you guys If you've had that experience as well that you want to talk about .
Speaker 3I also was going to bring up how , if you're out there wondering guests who are listening , well , what can I do ? Like , what do I need to do ? We've talked about being attentive and , I think , just expanding on that , like what does that mean ? That means , like being open to toys , being open to more foreplay , fingering , like what , and toys can be really effective . If you're you know , maybe you struggle with erectile dysfunction or something like that as well , then you can bring in toys and that can be so much fun as well . Yeah , be afraid .
Speaker 1And also if you feel like , or your partner is like , I want to feel really full . Like in the case , there are times when I'm in the mood and I'm like , oh , I want to . I want to feel really full . For me , that doesn't require it being a cock that can be using multiple fingers , that can be using a toy . That's where toys come into play . I feel like . You know we have the myth . It's not a myth .
Speaker 1There are quote size queens out there who are looking for giant cocks . They'll say that I , oftentimes I want to . I need to interview a size queen . If there are size queens out there , please message me , because sometimes I wonder . I do not understand the perspective of a size queen . I do understand wanting to feel full sometimes , but that for me does not indicate it has to be a penis Right and in fact , for me , being stuck with someone with a very large penis is going to limit some of the pleasure I can experience because , unless they know how to really use it , because they are going to be like big and filling me up all of the time , whereas someone with a average or smaller penis , like you know , I'm not . I'm not trying to keep from being in pain constantly . Kate .
Speaker 4I was going to say that that size queens may not have that kind of pain that we have , or they like that pain . Some people enjoy it and I personally don't . But you know , to each their own , not going to stink anyone's kink , but maybe they don't have the pain that we have . Good point .
Speaker 3Yeah , I've been . I've been really interested by the three of you saying you have shallow vaginas . I didn't even know that was a thing . I don't have , that Apparently I have a very curved , like a tilted uterus that makes , I guess , like the mouth of my womb , sort of heard from a doctor at the mouth of my womb it's hard to see , so apparently it must hit me in a different spot and it's only during , you know , certain time of the month when the cervix is low that I might have some pain . But it's not a common thing for me to have pain .
Speaker 4Good , I have a tipped uterus as well and it puts the cervix on the side and for me it would hit the side of the cervix and smash it towards the back . For me , my favorite size is between five and six inches and it goes . It fills all the way up without hounding that that cervix area there .
Speaker 1Who here would prefer to have five to six inches over , like eight inches ? Oh yeah , Absolutely Okay . So here's , and be honest , be honest , who here would prefer to have a technically a small penis over what would be considered large , like whatever seven , eight and ? I would take a small one over a large one , for sure , absolutely .
Speaker 4Yes , I take two or that . There you go .
Speaker 1Not to be greedy , but if you could bring me to , do you think , do you guys think that that's more in our conversations with other women ? Again , we know there are size queens out there , but do you think that's more of the common response from women ?
Speaker 4I hear more about painful cervix pounding than I do about size queen , I think . I think there's this perception that women may think that they need to want a big cock and then men think that women want big cocks and then they feel inadequate when it's like you may actually be bigger than I need . It's really unfortunate that we have these perceptions instead of really focusing on what feels good for us .
Speaker 3I will say I mean , I've been with quite a few smaller than average and sometimes I can't really feel it and that that's not very fun . Usually , that's if I'm on top . I just it's like it's not hitting . It's not hitting the G spot , it's not hitting any spot , it's sort of just it makes me feel like I have some like gaping Right .
Speaker 2I feel like I'm a little bit of a lovern of China and so sometimes I feel like the problem is me , not , not who I'm with , but for all other positions the smaller over larger , for sure , Definitely . Yeah , I was just going to say I'm going to tell myself here I would say recently because to me recent is , and the last like eight to five years that I realized what I thought were larger cocks were actually on the high average size , but they felt , they felt big to me . I just think it's also perception as a thing , because just like dicks come in all shapes and sizes , Our bodies are the same . Right , you know , here I have a very shallow small opening to deal with . So someone that may just be on the high average and feels big to me , I guess I've always appreciated small penises without realizing they were technically small penises .
Speaker 1Right . I do want to point out that I actually , as I'm reflecting , I do know that there are . I have some friends who are women , who have volvas , who definitely do yearn on occasion for a nice girthy , eight-inch cock . After they've had sex with someone who has one , they'll say it was exciting to see to experience that . But typically also in that conversation there's a matter of like . I was kind of worried it would hurt , but they knew how to use it .
Speaker 1While going back to the oral sex conversation , I think most of us can agree I enjoy giving blowjobs when I'm excited about someone . I don't like to give them for a long time because it causes jaw pain and a headache real quick , and when there's someone with a really big cock it's like I can't do it very long at all and enjoy it . I would have to be a performative act for me to continue giving head to someone with a big cock , and somebody with a big cock needs to absolutely not try and deep throat me , shove my head down . It also limits positions for oral sex , right , like having someone over you .
Speaker 3I don't know if you guys ever do that .
Speaker 1We were under them and they're like fucking basically your mouth . That would feel terrifying to me . I've been in situations where I feel like I'm being smothered and choked and I can't get out from under it . That is not fun with a big cock . So I personally don't want to give head to big penises .
Speaker 1I have definitely had sex with one person in particular my cub . I did on the podcast with Cougars and Cubs . My
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Speaker 1cub had a larger penis and he was really good at knowing how to use it and I really enjoyed sex . He didn't hurt me .
Speaker 1So there's that reality , but I would say , by and large , my experience with people who have big penises . First of all , they know it and it gives them this level of confidence . Maybe they shouldn't have , I think , just because I've got a big cock , I'm good in bed , and then the way they wield it is annoying for me . It's like you're choking me . I can't put it in my ass . Good point , good , good point .
Speaker 1Big cocks and anal sex that takes like . I mean it can happen , but you've got to really , really work up to it . Right . And certainly oral . For me , oral sex just isn't super fun . With someone who has a giant cock , this is a good place to talk about things , that small penises are particularly well suited for Anal sex being the obvious . I think another thing and I have not been with a micro penis , I've seen one or two , but obviously I like fucking women and scissoring takes place with women and I'm like like the bonus of someone with a micro penis is you can do the grinding and the same thing you would do with a woman and scissoring , but then you also get some penetration that should hit your G spot right .
Speaker 4Well , like I said before , it's , you know , the ridge of the head of the penis , right there . Rubbing on the G spot is amazing . You can do that with any size penis , but you can have him all the way in and still be getting that feeling , and I think that's great . And , of course , blowjobs are great , and if it's a giant one , you got to do two hands , two hands and mouth on the tip and that helps Lots of flu .
Speaker 1Does anyone here love sucking a giant cock ?
Speaker 3I like it a lot , yeah , but I have really , really bad TMJ and so I have to be careful . Because of that , my jaws are just constantly clicking and clacking and locking up and but you still enjoy , like it turns you on . I still enjoy . Yes , yeah , I still it's kind of empowering yeah .
Speaker 4I have TMJ too , so I get that , but I also don't have a gag reflex , so they can go in a little bit deeper .
Speaker 1So you also enjoy sucking a larger cock .
Speaker 4Okay , I enjoy it . I enjoy giving head just to anyone . Sounds interesting . But I mean , any size is fine , I am happy to do it . There's just different , different things that you can do with different sizes , for sure .
Speaker 3So I had the experience of going back and being with two different people that I slept with in college , both of which I had like really good memories of and thought was amazing . One had a monster cock and one had a less than average cock and my memory of both of them was that it was fantastic . With both of them Monster cock , no , terrible , absolutely One of the worst experiences of my life . Going back to like really bad , like he doesn't know how to use it really hard , like just not no consent , like apparently he didn't like emotionally mature after college . But the other one uh , sorry about that , but the other one was absolutely amazing and just as I remembered it , because he can hit my G spot and I think probably that experience in college I don't even think I knew that was my G spot , I just knew he hit something that was not like other places . And then going back to it later , 20 plus years later , I was like , oh yeah , it's still like you hit me in just the right spot , it's so perfect .
Speaker 1When I was younger . I remember because several of my boyfriends when I was younger were average to small . I never told them that . So if y'all are listening right now , I'm sorry , you know , because , yeah , let's talk about this . Almost every partner I've been with who has a penis , regardless of size , has at some point had .
Speaker 1We continued seeing each other brought up their dick size and asked in a roundabout way like is my dick small , is my dick average ? What do you think of my dick size ? Like always , it always comes up at some point and I want to say this to men and penis owners of all size there's nothing that is more of a turn off to me than that conversation . I don't know . I don't know , I would . I would highly doubt . It's the same with vulva owners .
Speaker 1I don't know a lot of women that are asking their partners with penises about their vagina size . I have never once asked a partner about my vagina size . I've had to inform them like my vagina is not deep , do not pound me , but I never am . Like do you like the size of my vagina ? For me that's like . It's such an uncomfortable question and it also I think it exudes an insecurity which is fair to have , but that makes things unattractive and uncomfortable . That goes back to the confidence being a part of the turn on , and if you're just proud of whatever it is you're bringing the table to get someone off , then that's hot Kate .
Speaker 4I was just going to say that I haven't had to ask that question . I listened to my partner and kind of see how they're responding to me and if they're not into it , I know that there's a reason and I don't want to know it , you know , but maybe they're just not disconnected from their ex or whatever . There's just something going on in their head and it may have nothing to do with me . But if I stop and listen and see how they're responding to me , then I know that what I'm doing feels good , regardless of size or whatever is going on .
Speaker 1So Right , I think that's a really good point . I also , if I'm with someone and I can tell that I'm just not doing it for them , you know , obviously we'll have a conversation how do you like it ? What's it like ? You know what can make you feel good ? I also don't really if someone doesn't like something about me physical and physically and it's turning them off , like I don't need to hear their opinion on my body part . I don't need , because just because they aren't into a body part of mine doesn't mean there's anything wrong with that body part . Right , exactly . And I feel like that's maybe a bit of an attitude that would be good for any person with a penis who's feeling concerned .
Speaker 1Like the question is is my cock big enough ? Is my cock good enough ? The answer is always yes , it is good enough for the person who's the right match for you . Right , absolutely . And I would say and I'm curious if anyone has a different opinion I would say , when I get the question and I get this a lot from my listeners in DMs or in comments on YouTube over on YouTube , you go to YouTube . You can see who all of us are .
Speaker 1I have gotten several questions about can my cock is X inches , can I satisfy a woman ? The answer is yes , regardless of the size . If you have a monster cock , if you have an average cock , if you have a tiny cock , if you have a micro penis or just a small cock , you can all satisfy a woman . It goes . And the only way you're going to do it any of you , regardless of the size , regardless of size is to go beyond your penis . Make sex not about your penis , right , because it's going to be hard for you to satisfy us if it's all about you thinking about your cock and what's going on with your cock . That's my opinion .
Speaker 3Absolutely . Yeah , absolutely , as far as like complimenting body parts , I mean , or I think I mean I think it's great to build people up , if it , you know . But yeah , it should become naturally .
Speaker 4Right , yeah , I do like hearing . Oh , that feels , so good .
Speaker 1Or I love your pussy . It's so pretty , or I love your cock .
Speaker 4Yeah , feels good yeah .
Speaker 1Yeah , I think , offering up . I think so for my female listeners out there , my listeners with vulvas . I love to compliment my partner's body parts Like I love . If I'm with someone who has a cock that I love , then I . But what has happened
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Speaker 1? Oftentimes too , because I think men get so caught up in their penis size like I'll be , like I love your cock , like it's so hot , and then I'll get it . Oh , are you sure it's not too small . And then it's like , oh , wah , wah .
Speaker 3That just kills it . It kills the woman . Yeah , it's like I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it , right .
Speaker 1No , I know .
Speaker 3I love my current partner's penis like so much . Oh my gosh , it's just the most perfect ever for me . Like it's perfect .
Speaker 1Yep , you know , and one thing we haven't even talked about , which is kind of funny in this conversation we've really focused on the G spot , which I think is fun and interesting because I feel like and I just did a masturbation Monday on the click gets a lot of attention when it comes to women's pleasure . And , yes , and when I am talking about the click , I'm talking about the bean that sticks out . Yes , the clitoris is a big structure that goes deep inside a woman's body , but in sexual empowerment in particular and in women's pleasure in particular , and in the conversation about the orgasm gap , there's a lot of focus on the clip and how a lot of women can't have an orgasm without clitoral stimulation . I think this is a very important conversation obviously to be had , because so many women weren't having any orgasms at all . But what my concern was , as I presented it in that masturbation Monday podcast , was that there's so much focus on the bean that people aren't even addressing . How do we wake up the other pleasure spots in a woman's body and we act ?
Speaker 1like well , only a special few get to enjoy that pleasure , which I don't believe is true .
Speaker 1And so then , when we're talking about sex with people with penises , we're only talking to them about really the clitoris , which it doesn't matter what size your cock is .
Speaker 1When it comes to the external clitoris , the bean flick in the bean right , Because clitoral stimulation comes from like be good at oral sex , be good at using your fingers , be willing to get a vibrator and vibrate , or a clit sucker and stick that motherfucker right on the clit and play with a clit . That has nothing to do with dick size , and people of all penis sizes need to get familiar with a clit the bean . But I think part of the problem is because we don't focus on the G spot and the A spot and how shallow they are and how to hit them . It's part of the place where all the confidence around having a big cock comes from . I feel like if we had really educated people on the G spot and the A spot , big cocks would not be the gold standard for what men should want from their body , right ? I feel like smaller cocks would be a little bit more feel better about themselves .
Speaker 3I feel like this is a good time to interject this , after we've had the orgasm podcast . I don't even know how this happened or what happened , but my partner and I tried something new or he just did something new and I think this would work great . With a small penis or micro penis , is while penetrating me . Now I can't even do it with my hands . He uses his fingers around the base like this and rubs just the outside the late .
Speaker 1I guess it's the labia , the skin around the edges For people who are listening to the audio version of this podcast . You are going to need to go to YouTube and that's my YouTube and you can see Liberty moving two fingers up and down .
Speaker 3Imagine he's behind me . His hands are wrapped around the front of my thighs , with his fingers rubbing the skin of my labia . I had , seriously the most full body orgasm I can't even describe it like nothing I've ever had in my entire life .
Speaker 1So let me try to grasp how you're describing this , because I'm trying to grasp it and for listeners who aren't viewers , liberty had two pointer fingers pointing down to illustrate that they were each finger on a different side of the vulva .
Speaker 3Yeah , and of his penis while he's penetrating .
Speaker 1And you're saying so . Those fingers are on either side of the vaginal opening where the cock is inserted .
Speaker 3Yes , and he's rubbing this area while penetrating .
Speaker 4And I'm wondering if there's like some nerve endings there that you were getting hit on .
Speaker 3Definitely some nerve endings that had never been aroused before and it just caused a whole internal orgasm that went all the way to my toes like full body , like can't , yeah , collapsing kind of orgasm .
Speaker 4Kate , well , maybe similar to gosh there's a name for it , but I can't think of it . It's where penis is inserted . Usually it's in missionary , and they grind their hips on there . That's fucking phenomenal . Yeah , and it might be that because their pubic bone is then rubbing , on the outside it's not really like clit , but it's kind of off to the sides . Yeah , that's . Yes , that's phenomenal . Everyone needs to do that . There's a name for it , but I can't remember .
Speaker 3Yeah , it could be accomplished just with hands .
Speaker 1To Deanna , you have something to say .
Speaker 2So listening to this and thinking about the grinding thing so I think I've mentioned on the podcast before , but I am able to orgasm just like . One of my favorite things to do is like dry a hump like the leg of my partner and I'm wondering if that's why I'm able to orgasm that way is because of , because it's kind of the same thing as that , that rubbing of outside the area .
Speaker 1I think that the point is there are so many areas on a woman's vulva , in a woman's vagina , that and they're all being ignored by sex ed even women's empowerment sex ed because we are so focused on the clit and the G spot . The G spot even sits second . It's kind of like I call it , I'd say , clit is queen when it comes to women's pleasure , and I believe that's true and I think it's super . It's been super important to talk about . But I think we need to start talking about more . There's more to our pleasure centers the vagina , the vulva and around the labia . There are so many pleasure areas that can give us .
Speaker 1I , the clit orgasm alone and by itself isn't super exciting to me anymore , because now I know what it's like to have a blended orgasm with both the clit and the G spot or the A spot , the G spot and the clit and the G spot . You know what I mean . And then finding new areas . The U spot for me , which is right under the clit , is a hot spot . Liberty and I talked about it . She hates it , and why this applies to this podcast is because it's not . It doesn't take a big cock to make any of this happen . And when people are asking if their dick size means they're capable of pleasuring and satisfying a woman , they're missing the motherfucking point .
Speaker 4Yeah , yeah , if they have to ask , it's probably no .
Speaker 1Yeah , and it's not . It doesn't have anything to do with your cock size . It has to do with the fact that you don't understand what it takes to pleasure someone with a vulva Right .
Speaker 4And it's so unfortunate that people are missing out on this , this pleasure , and I think that they they've for so long that women's orgasms weren't important , that they were like well , at least we can give them the clitoral orgasm and at least they'll have some fun . And it's really unfortunate that we've stopped there instead of encouraging people to find all of their erogenous zones . And they don't even have to be near the vulva or the vagina or the clit . Or people can orgasm from touching arms or nipples , it really just depends . Nipple stimulation , Just kissing someone's neck ? There's just so many different things and it's really sad that people don't have this experience of pleasure in all of these places .
Speaker 1I feel like we've hit on a lot of different things . I think we've not only talked about how small penis is , regardless of how small can be incredibly pleasurable . When we're just talking about penitration , I think it's . There could be an argument made that , when it actually comes to providing internal orgasms , smaller penises may have an advantage over a larger penises for many women Not all , but many women , right ? I think it's also something else that we pointed out that I think is super important is that when it comes to things like anal sex , small penises may , for many , many butt owners , have an advantage over large penises , although , again , there are people who are going to just be into giant cocks . It could be as a fetish , it could be as just the way their body is set up and what it enjoys taking Some people may prefer that and , I think , also bringing up with oral sex . There are some people that I thought it was great that Liberty pointed out like , yeah , you're sucking a giant cock and you get like you have this moment of like . I am taking this giant cock and that is a feeling you get and it feels good and it's empowering . Kate points out sucking a smaller cock . It's like , oh , I can do so much more and I could fit both the cock and balls in my mouth , which made me feel like super sexy and hot . Same feeling , different way of getting there to it right . It's very individualized . So what I want to wrap this up with for someone , for our listeners who have small penises also , they have the advantage of like they could get into some serious small penis humiliation king play . If that's what you're into , I have a podcast on that . Go back and listen to it .
Speaker 1Not that not that all people with small , smaller penises are into that . It may actually be harmful to you if you , if you , are deeply insecure about it . But I would like to just leave them . I want to go around our little virtual table here and leave them with what are some things that they can do if they find themselves feeling concerned about satisfying a woman due to their size , even though I feel like we've argued for why that doesn't have to be a concern , but let's say you're still concerned . I want us each to take time to give advice to people who have smaller penises and say , hey , here's where you can really step up and outshine anyone with a cock . Here's our advice to you , ways to quote . If you feel like you need to make up for your lack of size , here are some tips . Let's offer up what our perspective is , and I'm going to start with Liberty .
Speaker 3I'm going to say communicate with your partner , find out what they like . You know what they're open to work up to it . So make sure there's lots of kissing , touching , foreplay , earplay . You know , whatever it is , you always want to get the well going first . I say , you know , get the well nice and going and then you can move from there and just be confident that you're capable of satisfying another person . Yep .
Speaker 1Deanna , deanna .
Speaker 2First and foremost , the biggest piece of advice I would give is to remember and this has been a theme that you've heard in this podcast
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Speaker 2is it's not about the penis . So that right there should just kind of help you lift that pressure . You have a concern you have about your penis size , because it has nothing to do with your penis size . What really matters to that person you're getting intimate with is that you were there for them and that their pleasure is important to you . So , through communication , through touch , just being in that mindset and being in the moment when a penis owner makes it about the penis , they are not in that moment . Well , they're in their own head . So really just be in the moment and know that it's not about the penis , it's about the connection and the intimacy and the chemistry .
Speaker 4Kate , stop watching porn . Don't compare yourself to other people . Be the best lover you can be with what you have . We all have different parts , and that doesn't make us inadequate . And again , I love small cocks , so I think they're great .
Speaker 1Yeah , I love that . So work with , work with what you've got and also know the benefits what you have brings to the table , because every cock , every body part has something to offer someone when it comes to pleasure . I'm going to be a little bit more concrete in the sense of something we haven't mentioned . For people who , let's say , you do have a partner who you have a micro penis or a small penis and you do have a partner who's like I'd really like to occasionally have like a big cock and your monogamous , or you're not open to like bringing someone else in for their body part , there are actually penis extenders that you get , toys that you can put over your dick . There are strap ons that you can use to fuck your partner with a Volvo , with something bigger , which could be really sexy and hot . I mean , it's nothing to be ashamed of . Women do it all the time because we don't have penises . So there are things like that that you can do , being open to getting a big dildo or a big vibrator that can be inserted internally . I would suggest you go to the thrustercom . I have one of the thruster primes which is like basically a giant machine of a penis that you can even suction cup to the wall and it like thrusts away and you can sit and watch your partner get nailed by this giant thrusting cock . You can be part of that . Like being watched doing that . What a fucking turn on . So there are . If you really feel like you want to give a partner the experience of something large inside of them , there are just a lot of options for that . I mean . Similarly , someone with a big penis should be open to using smaller toys for the pleasure of their Volvo owning friends .
Speaker 1But I think just kind of you guys summed up everything really well . Not not focusing on the size , especially not putting the weight of your confidence about your cock size on your partner , is really important . At least it is for me . I don't want to constantly be concerned about your inadequacy around your cock . I'm all about building up my partners . When I'm with them , I'm all about telling them how much I love .
Speaker 1And when you're really into someone and with them like you're into their fucking cock period , like can we all agree ? Like when you're really into a partner , like what they have is just like . Even though you might have been like , oh , I never thought I'd be into that , suddenly You're like , but it's amazing . So I feel like we have really clarified our position . For women who've been with many cocks , especially all put up put us all together , it's a lot of cocks I feel like we've really clarified our position . Does anyone have anything they want to say before we go ? Just to like we're tying up the small penis topic I'm open to coming back to it If I get sent questions , but I really want to like feel like we addressed it honestly , authentically and gave you a lot of tools and ideas . Anyone have something they want to add before we go ?
Speaker 3Have fun , and you know , if you give your partner pleasure , you'll have a lot of pleasure too . I wanted to dismiss your pleasure out there . I mean , yeah , we want you to have pleasure too . Yeah .
Speaker 1Yeah , also . Yeah , we want the penises to have pleasure . I mean , we're all over here talking about our pleasure and whatever . Women can be selfish about their pleasure a little bit .
Speaker 3A little bit .
Speaker 1Anything else , anybody .
Speaker 3Having us , it was fun .
Speaker 1Yeah , this was . This was a fun topic . I've really enjoyed talking about it . I want to thank you , ladies , for joining in and really being open to like diving into this topic . I think it's going to be very helpful to listeners and listeners . Thank you so much for providing me with feedback and being bold enough to send me your questions and to vote , vocalize your concerns over on my YouTube channel , and that's been a daddy . I've got lots of viewers over there , listeners over there who are sending great messages , asking vulnerable , honest questions , and I want to get you the answers . We all trust me , all of these sexually empowered ladies out here . We want to give you answers that improve all of our sex lives . We want you to know what we really think , and I've always noticed the first people to chime in when coxsyes come up . It's always guys who think they know what we think . Don't listen to
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Speaker 1other men about this . Listen to us .
Speaker 4The ones getting pounded .
Speaker 1Thank you , we're the ones getting pounded . What was nice talking to you listeners . Send me your questions and that been it . Oh no , a net at she explores lifecom , or leave me a voicemail . So until next time , I'll see y'all in the locker room .
Speaker 3Cheers , cheers .
Speaker 2Ring loop .