Advanced Oral Skills Everyone Should Know

Want to take your oral intimacy skills from “pretty good” to absolutely unforgettable? In this episode, I’m breaking down the advanced rhythm, pacing, and attunement techniques that cause full-body reactions, deeper connection, and those moments where she completely loses control.

This isn’t about flashy moves or performance pressure.
 This is about understanding the science of her arousal, her nervous system, her breath, and the rhythm patterns that help her body relax, build intensity, and let go.

You’ll learn:
 ✨ Why steady rhythm creates stronger pleasure responses
 ✨ How to read her breath, tension, and micro-movements
 ✨ The psychology behind anticipation and sensory focus
 ✨ What not to do if you want to keep her in the moment
✨ How to hold a rhythm long enough for her body to take over

If you want to feel more confident, more attuned, and more skilled in creating intimacy that stays with her long after it’s over, this episode is for you.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome And New Show Name
• 3:06 Advanced Oral: Goal And Science
• 4:45 Why Rhythm Beats Tricks
• 6:06 The Advanced Oral Method
• 9:02 What Not To Do
• 11:19 Presence And Micro Adjustments
• 12:53 Tonight’s Challenge And Resources

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 1:29

Do the sex. I'm Annette Benedetti, host of the podcast formerly known as Locker Room Talk and Shots. The show has a new name, Talk Sex with Annette. But at its core, this is still your locker room. It's where we strip away shame, get curious, and speak the unspoken about sex, kink, dating, pleasure, and desire. Around here, nothing's off limits. These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chats, our most trusted friends, and of course, the women's locker room. Think raw, honest, and sometimes unapologetically raunchy. If you've been here from the beginning, thank you. And if you're new, welcome to my podcast where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power. Now, let's talk about sex. Cheers. Today on Talk Sex with the Nut, we are talking about oral intimacy at the advanced level. The kind that doesn't just make her feel good, it makes her lose control of her rhythm, her breath, and yeah, she might have that grab your hair like she means it moment. This isn't beginner stuff. This isn't go down there and hope for the best. This is the science of rhythm pressure, anticipation, and nervous system activation. The thing that turns she likes oral into she completely forgot where she is right now. If you want to take Oral from something she enjoys to something her body reacts to, this episode is your new secret weapon. But before we dive in, I want to remind you that if you want step-by-step detailed guides, I am doing that over on OnlyFans, where I'm sharing my demos and my how-to's with what to do with anatomy on anatomy there. You are also going to find audio guided self-pleasure meditations and the opportunity for some one-on-one coaching on my OnlyFans. You can find me there by my handle at Talk Sex withinet. You can also find me over on Substack doing a whole lot of the same. And I'm there with my handle at Talk Sex with the Net. You can, of course, scroll down to the show notes below, and you're gonna find everywhere you wanna find me there. And I can't wait to see you. For now, let's dive into these advanced oral techniques. Cheers. So let's start with why these advanced oral techniques work. Here's the truth most people never learn. Women's arousal is rhythm dependent. Studies have found that women reach peak pleasure more consistently when stimulation follows a predictable, steady rhythmic pattern, not random, not fast, not constantly changing. Why? Because her nervous system responds to pattern recognition, not novelty. Her body needs consistency, progressive intensity, stable pressure, and predictable pacing so she can climb into deeper waves of arousal. And there's more. Neuroscience shows that consistent rhythm can put her into a sensory trance. This trance-like state causes involuntary hip movements, breath pattern shifts, total loss of composure. And yes, the grab the hair moment you all are waiting for. Not because you're doing more, but because you're doing the same thing with precision, attention, and presence. This is what most people are getting wrong. They think that oral is about flashy moves, but science says different. Pleasure isn't created by tricks, it's created by rhythm plus repetition plus rising intensity. And that's what separates unforgettable lovers from everyone else. Okay, now that we've got why it works out of the way, let's dive into the advanced oral rhythm technique. We're gonna talk about the actual method now. Step one is you're going to start with sensory mapping. For the first 10 to 15 seconds, don't rush, don't aim, don't perform. You are learning. You're learning how she breathes when something feels good, the micro movements of her hips, when you hit that right spot, and how her body softens when she's opening to sensation. This primes her nervous system and tells her, I'm not rushing your pleasure. I'm attuned to it. This alone creates instant melt. So many women are worried about taking too long and making you work too hard. Once she knows you are locked in and you are tuned in and you're not rushing her, she's gonna let go and she's gonna get into the moment and let her body be fully present for you. So, number two, when she reacts, don't change anything. This is the advanced part. Her body will show you there's going to be maybe a sharp exhale, a softening of her hips, a slight rise or tilt, a pause in the breath. When this happens, you just found the rhythm her body wants. Most partners ruin this moment by switching techniques or speeding up. Advanced lovers know when her body reacts, you lock in. This is where her pleasure starts to snowball. All right, the third part of this method, you're gonna match your rhythm to her tempo. This is where things get primal. Women have a natural pelvic tempo, and when your rhythm matches that, something called rhythm entrainment kicks in. Rhythm entrainment is a real phenomenon where two rhythmic patterns sink, amplifying each other. It happens when people slow dance, it happens when kissing feels hypnotic, and it definitely happens in oral intimacy. When your rhythm syncs with her body, she doesn't just enjoy it, she loses control. This is where the hair grabbing, hip shifting, thigh shaking all begins. You know that thing we all want to have happen. So, number four, you're gonna use breath to build intensity. Your breath is an underrated tool. Slow, deep breathing from you signals emotional safety and intensifies sensation. It taps into her parasympathetic nervous system, the part responsible for relaxation, openness, and allowing pleasure to rise. When your breath deepens, her body feels grounded, held, safe, and free to feel more. Remember, when stress increases in her body, cortisol kicks in and that libido dies down. That's not what you want. That's why this alone can amplify her response significantly. Number five, you are gonna stay steady when she gets close. This is where most people panic. They hear a gasp, a deeper breath, and think, oh, time to add more. No, her body is reaching threshold and needs your consistency to cross it. Stay steady, stay rhythmic, stay attuned. This is the moment she can't stay still. This is the moment she grabs you because she's not thinking anymore. Her body is doing the talking. Okay, so that's the method. Here's what not to do. Advanced addition. Here's the mistakes almost everyone makes at the advanced level. You're not going to do these things. Do not chase her reactions. If she pulls away or stiffens, it's often overwhelm, not discomfort. Stay calm and stay consistent. Do not speed up when her breathing gets heavier. That breathing is a sign that she's climbing, not a request for intensity. Do not switch techniques because you're bored or insecure. If she likes something once, she's gonna like it 30 seconds later. More, not less. Do not misinterpret quietness. Many, many, many women get quieter the closer they get. Silence is not a stop sign, it is concentration. And do not respond to every movement with more pressure. Sometimes her movements mean yes, stay right there, not more, more, more. Don't let your breath get shallow. Your tension becomes her tension. And don't make climax the goal. Pressure kills pleasure. Presence ignites it. Here's what to do instead. And this is what actually makes you an unforgettable lover. Tune your attention, not your technique. Women feel when you're present versus performing. Watch her breath more than her sounds. Breath reveals everything. Match her attention with presence, not pressure. If she tightens, you ground. If she rises, you stabilize. Use micro adjustments. Tiny shifts in the angle or pace outperform big changes every time. Let her body lead the rhythm. Her hips know what to do. Follow. Do not force. Also, slow down your internal energy. If your vibe is frantic, she can't relax. Anchor yourself because stability equals safety. Safety equals surrender. Surrender oftentimes leads to orgasm. And then make sure to stay steady through the threshold. That's when she crosses from I feels good to I can't think. And finally, focus on the experience, not the outcome. She feels everything you feel about the moment. So here's your challenge for tonight. When you're giving oral, I want you to find her rhythm and hold it. Don't rush, don't switch every few seconds. Don't try to impress her with variety. Find the pace her body responds to it long enough for her to completely unravel. That's the difference between that was good and oh my God, what just happened to me. If you want deeper sensual training, advanced techniques, or guided demonstrations, you can find me on OnlyFans and Substack under at TalkSexWithanet. Remember, those links are below. And if you're looking for a wingwoman, some support in your own intimate life, my books are open. My sex and intimacy coaching books are open. You can find out more about that on my website, talksexwithinet.com. Also, if you try this, I want to know how it works out. So make sure to drop a comment below the video if you're on my YouTube channel at talk sex withinet, or you can email me at Annette at TalkSexwithanet. Shoot me a voice note. You can go down to the notes section below and you're gonna find a speak pipe. I love hearing your voices. So until next time, I'll see y'all in the locker room. Cheers.