What Women Really Think About Your Balls — Men Take Note!

Nobody told us what to do with them. Sex ed skipped them entirely. And somewhere along the way, women just... stopped thinking about them. Until now.

Three women sit down and go fully, honestly, hilariously there — what we actually find attractive, what we've been getting wrong, and the moves that will genuinely change what happens in your bedroom tonight.

We're getting into:

• Why so many women are low-key intimidated by them (and how to fix that)
• The grooming conversation nobody's having — including the Nair tip
• How to know he's close without asking a single question
• The cupping trick that speeds everything up
• What we actually want to call them (drop it in the comments👇)

This is the conversation your sex ed skipped. Men — take notes. Women — you're welcome.

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Transcript

Welcome To Talk Sex With Annette

SPEAKER_00 0:41

Do the sex. I'm Annette Benedetti, host of the podcast formerly known as Locker Room Talk and Shots. The show has a new name, Talk Sex with Annette. But at its core, this is still your locker room. It's where we strip away shame, get curious, and speak the unspoken about sex, kink dating, pleasure, and desire. Around here, nothing's off limits. These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chat, our most trusted friends, and of course, the women's locker room. Think raw, honest, and sometimes unapologetically raunchy. Welcome to my podcast where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power. Let's talk about sex. Cheers. Today's talk sex with a net topic is the truth about balls. Three women weigh in. Nobody talks about balls. We talk around them, pass them occasionally at them, but rarely about them with any real honesty. Are they attractive to us? Are we actually doing right by them? Are we missing something? Today we're fixing that. I've got two of my favorite lady friends here. And we are going all in. We are going to be talking about how we feel about them, what we might be getting wrong, what we hope we're doing right, what we could be doing better. And before we're done, we're going to leave you with real specific things you can do tonight with your partner to get your balls in play if that's what you want, or keep them out of play if that's what you would prefer. This is the conversation your sex ed class never dipped its toes into. But before we dive in, and I am going to introduce you to my guests, Miranda and Sloane. You've met them before. I believe we talked about it, it was a follow-up on the truth about dick size, what we really thought it was a follow-up episode. But I'm going to reintroduce you to them in a moment and give them a moment to introduce themselves. But of course, first I'm going to remind you that you can find me over on OnlyFans, and there I'm sharing my sex and intimacy how-tos demos, audio guided self-pleasure, meditations, and so much more. You can find me over on Substack doing a whole lot of the same, minus the demos. And you can find me in both places with my handle at TalkSex withinet. You can also find me everywhere you want to find me and join me by scrolling down to the notes below. And I have all the links for you there. But for now, I'm going to start with Miranda. Can you reintroduce yourself to my listeners?

SPEAKER_01 3:24

Yeah, absolutely. So my name's Miranda. I am 30 years old. I spent a majority of my 20s into serious long-term relationships. From 28 till now, I've just been exploring sexually and seeing what I like, what I don't like. Yeah, I'm very excited to talk about balls. So I'm looking forward to it. Uh and Sloan, can you reintroduce yourself to Sloan here? And let's see, I started my sex positive journey about eight years ago. And very much like Miranda, just been figuring out what I like, what I don't like. The possibilities are endless with all the fun there is to be explored, especially as I discovered kink and practiced ethical non-monogamy. So also excited to talk about balls.

First Impressions And Turn Ons

SPEAKER_00 4:16

There you go, guys. You got three ladies excited about talking about balls. This is the best day of your whole fucking life. So we are gonna dive in. I don't think there's much more to say except you should stay for the whole conversation because it's going to be a fun conversation. But by the end, hopefully you'll have more insight to our perspective on balls, how we feel about them, or what we know, what we don't know, what we wish we knew, and what to do next time you are in bed with a woman and have specific wants or needs around your testicles, if you will. So, you guys, let's dive in. I'm ready to talk about balls. Cheers. I'm just gonna start. This isn't going to be a bit of a popcorn conversation, if you will. Uh, I'm gonna start by asking each of you to just give a quick snippet, if you will, of how you feel about balls in general when it comes to how they show up in the bedroom. Miranda, let's start with you.

SPEAKER_01 5:19

I think that they are fun to play with, first of all, regardless of size, there's pros and cons to both, right? But yeah, I just I they seem really sensitive. And so there's a sense of power, I think, that comes with playing with them because you can stimulate in different ways, whereas when you don't interact with them whatsoever. So yeah, I like you said, pros and cons to both. Do you think they're cute? I wouldn't say cute, but I would say I have seen attractive looking balls for sure.

SPEAKER_00 5:59

What made them attractive? When you say I've seen attractive balls, what came to mind? What were you, what did you envision, if you will?

SPEAKER_01 6:09

There's a certain type that will really scream masculine to me, and I find that really attractive in the bedroom. Granted, I play the more submissive side of things. So I think that kind of helps is oh, this is a really manly man. And sometimes the balls can help create that dynamic, if that makes sense.

SPEAKER_00 6:35

What does masculine testicle look like?

SPEAKER_01 6:38

Okay, so to me, when there's like a big set of balls, they can it just screams, and this isn't scientifically accurate, I'm sure, but it just screams like I have a lot of testosterone and a lot of juices flowing. Does that kind of make sense?

SPEAKER_00 6:57

Yeah, no, I'm just very curious about your perspective. I don't expect it to be scientific, but it's really it is with us the aesthetic of things, it's more of the feeling it gives you than anything else. Sloane, how do you feel about balls?

SPEAKER_01 7:13

Okay, it is a relationship. I am it's been a relationship and a journey with balls. Like when I first got married was the first time I really was interacting with them. And I remember my husband at the time was so sensitive. He did not want them touched, he would get nauseated. And so I so that was one of my first experiences with them. And I was like, oh, okay, they're sensitive. Don't mess with them. And it wasn't until I had been with another partner for, I don't know, it was many months where we'd already been having sex. And I remember one time he was just almost frustratedly grabbed my hand and put him on his balls and was like, what you do, cop that was such as so he was right, and then I was like, Oh, I still feel reluctant and hesitant around them, but I in the partners I've had for the last two years, I've been more exploratory. I think I tend to be hesitant because I'm these partners were not the kind who wanted pain, and I don't want to cause that kind of pain. What a mood breaker to mood killer to cause that kind of pain. But I'm I think I'm starting to get the hang of it. I'm using my tongue and using my hairs, and uh I'm having a great time, like a little playground.

SPEAKER_00 8:34

I feel pretty neutral about balls, except for when I forget about them, obviously, sometimes because I feel like there isn't a lot of focus on them. But then I'll have in the last year or two, I've had a partner that's been like, Don't forget the balls. I was very thankful too, because he said it in a kind of a playful way like that. But then during intimacy, he was like, Don't forget the balls. And and I was grateful for that because then I'm like, oh, I really do forget the balls, right? Sometimes you want to have some tricks out there to make things good, better, faster, whatever the situation might be. But I know that sometimes I've gotten really into them when I get into power dynamic plays. An old boyfriend of mine, we played with cock rings and cock cages, and there are perennium stimulating cock rings where you pull the cock and the balls through. Womanizer has a great one. I wish I had it here with me called The Verge or Verge. And so you pull it through, and then I had the little app on my phone, and I could at any time I want to while we were hanging out, turn it on, and it would stimulate his balls and perennium, which was I kind of like that. I like pulling him through the cock ring and just seeing him there under my control. It is interesting because I do think there's this part of us that's aware of how tender this area is and how much power we hold when we have them in our hands, if you will. I think when I was younger, I thought they were, I was not into them. I was like a little icked out by them. But as I deconstruct my feelings, negative feelings around semen and different body parts, I start to embrace the sexiness of all things. One of my early episodes was about facials. And in it's one of my favorite episodes to date, because in that I talked about how I really was grossed out by men's cum. I loved it when they came, but I would run to the shower right right afterwards and be like, get it off. And I did a lot of work around that. Like, why do I feel that way? I would be insulted if my partners felt that way about my cum and or women get pissed when guys are so weirded out about our period blood. And so I did a lot of work around that, which it then led me to go, oh, balls. Maybe I shouldn't judge them so harshly. Do you think that starting out when you're new to sex for women? Because nobody talks about the balls to us, our sex ed is all around getting pregnant, right? It's like penis, vagina, put penis and vagina, ejaculation, pregnancy. Right. But no one's and the balls.

SPEAKER_01 11:37

In general, I feel like we don't learn about pleasure when it comes to sex. It's more just like the dynamic about getting pregnant and like how it works, you know what I mean, opposed to what you can do that feels good, what might not feel good. And then I don't know if it is the same with you guys, but when I was younger, boys would always be like, Oh, my balls, or don't hit me in the balls. It was always no one's saying, Don't hit me in the dick. It's all, you know what I mean? It's always protect the balls, like that kind of thing. So I feel like that can make women really intimidated when it gets to the point in time where you are having sex and you're exploring in that way because we've heard so much about how sensitive they are and don't hit them, don't do this. So it can kind of give like a skewed perception of that.

SPEAKER_00 12:35

And like I've even heard it to the extent of like how sometimes you can just tap balls wrong and it can drop a guy to the ground. So you're right. I think it creates this like I'm not supposed to touch them, and then they just become these bags of skin under the dick that are hanging there, right? Yes. Nobody ever mentioned it's another zone.

SPEAKER_01 12:57

No, yeah, absolutely. But I got a sex ed in Texas, so that that says a lot there. Oh, that's unfortunate. I have a sex ed Oregon, and it was the same for me too. Fair enough.

SPEAKER_00 13:12

Have either of you had an experience with balls that stands out? Either a guy did something with his balls in front of you, on you, to you, to himself, or you did something and it had an impact on the situation. Brandon? Miranda.

Grooming Hair And Sensory Icks

SPEAKER_01 13:34

So my first serious boyfriend, he never wanted his playbook, similar to Sloan. You know, that same just don't touch him, I get nauseous, all that kind of thing. And then when I started exploring in my single years, I found someone who really liked them cupped and grabbed and tugged on and just really manipulated. And I feel like that's what got me excited about them. That got me, oh, there is pleasure here, and I can stimulate them just as I can a penis, and there it can be added pleasure, and that kind of helps me not be so fearful of it. Granted, men are all over the scale when it comes to how they feel about it, and because I have experienced after that where it's like, no, just don't touch them. So I don't know. The one the experience I'm thinking about is they were like I said originally, they were really big. And I love a pair of shaved balls. I don't know what it is, but if they're just clean and smooth, it's that's ideal for me. But they were so big that one would just completely fill my mouth. And there's also back to you saying if they're cute, there's a visual, like a proportion, right, that is visually pleasing. So this gentleman was larger, more well-endowed, but then have a massive set of balls. And so there's something, it was just so much to play with. And I can cup them if I'm giving oral thing. You can hold them and essentially pull the penis towards you. You know how it naturally just lays back on the man's stomach. You can manipulate it like that.

SPEAKER_00 15:32

Pull it by the balls, yes, yeah, exactly. I knew immediately what you were saying. I want to put you on pause because Sloane reacted to you saying that there was something that you really liked about smooth balls. Sloan.

SPEAKER_01 15:49

Oh, god, yes, smooth balls. I love it. And also I can appreciate that because like they're gonna be in my mouth at one point, and it's it's just it's not a sexy moment trying to take yes pubic hair out of my mouth. Well, it just feels sexier when I don't have to do that.

SPEAKER_00 16:09

It's called me crazy. It's so funny. I have kind of two reactions to this conversation. So we're at grooming, which is something that was going to be an inevitable part of this conversation, right? Because balls are an interesting skin texture, texture that changes. There is hair, oftentimes sparse random hair that grows out of them. It doesn't seem to make a it's not like they're covered in hair. Sometimes they're like, I'm like, are you balding? What's happening down here? And sometimes they're what? Ball ding. Ball ding. Exactly. Balding down there. And sometimes they I've actually had partners who just didn't have hair growing out of them and they were very just naturally smooth. It's smooth and sticky. I think when they get so smooth, they get sticky. That's how they are in my mind, smooth and sticky. And that again, I think I have a sensory thing. So I'm like, oh, let's powder them or something. But what I've noticed, lots of men are very thoughtful about it and they try to shave them and have them have shit under control. But it feels like a, they're probably hard to shave because that skin crinkles up. So you get these wiry one-offs here and there. Y'all know what I'm talking about. And or they don't keep up on it, and then these pokey, then they become these little porky pines, do little porky pines nestled next to each other. And if you are having sex with them, you get poked by the little pokey hairs on the ball, and which can give you a road rash on your precious pussy. Is this resonating with everybody there? Or you go down and you've got these brillo pads scratching your face. So I'm all for if you want a manscape down there for us, but we gotta stay on top of it.

SPEAKER_01 18:53

Yeah, I wanna give the space so they don't seem easy to shave or take care of. So shout out to all the men who put the upper din. We see you and we appreciate from somebody who appreciates some bald balls.

SPEAKER_00 19:10

Yes, but to be fair, we shave our pussies, and those are super complex, going around corners and downsides and in between soft spots. So you can do little work too, right? Absolutely, yes. I like it when balls get excited and they kind of crinkle up and get tough. You know what I'm talking about? Bunches up and it gets it feels like it's almost thick. That's where they're excited, I think.

SPEAKER_01 19:39

Yeah, speaking of grooming, I wonder because we're not supposed to put Nair down there, right? Because it can get inside you and all that. But I bet balls would be the perfect place to use Nair because it can't really go in you, and you don't have to accidentally cut yourself or anything like that. So I don't like to give men a hard time, obviously, about shaving, because if they give me a hard time, then chaves is a must hooking up or slip to none. But I don't like to be like hypocritical like that. But yeah, there's something that's a lot more pleasurable about smooth ones. And so if you're a man who doesn't shave, I'd love for you to try Nair and report back and see how that works.

Sweat Smell And Basic Hygiene

SPEAKER_00 20:27

Patch test that shit ahead of time. Don't just go all over your balls. We're gonna do a little patch test first to make sure you don't react toward it or abuse. That would be tragic for you. So, all in all, we're all pro some smooth balls as long as you keep up on the regrowth. Because then I'm like, when they don't, I'm like, just don't bother because then I can't even cuddle you because then you get close to each other and the pokey ball hair makes me itch and stuff like that. And look, I understand that uh gals also have to do our grooming and so on and so forth. Although I I just feel like there's an expectation that that we're gonna groom everything. And I think it's newer for am I wrong for guys to lead manscaping? Or the expectation. Maybe, yeah, or at least we're talking about it more. Yeah. So as long as we are on the topic of grooming, I think there's something else that we need to talk about. And this is gonna be a difficult conversation, guys. It's sensitive, it's very specific, it's very private. But your balls are in a place where there are a lot of skin folds. It can get hot out, it can get moist. You need to tend to that because sweat can get caught there, it can get a little yeasty down there. You have freshly showered powdered balls. You gotta keep up on your little folds down there, guys. You gotta, you gotta take care of that. It's so funny because the one in the last couple of years, really stunning encounter. I had just had this conversation with this guy about how it was an internet thing where some guys were like having this negative reaction to women talking openly about yeast infections and BB, and you know how sometimes the odor will change before the signs and symptoms, and how it's nice to have a partner who knows how to tell you when hey, I think something's heading in a direction. And this man said to me, he was like, Oh, if I ever went to go down on a woman and she smelled off, I would never go down again. And not an hour later, we were getting intimate, and I went to go down. It was hot, it was a hot summer, it was a hot, sweaty summer. He'd clearly powdered his balls at some point, but he had run into shower and everything, and we went to be intimate, and he had not done a good enough job. And I wanted to be like, Sir, you better make sure if you're going to judge a woman that harshly, if her odor's off a little bit, that you are squeaky fucking clean and don't smell like anything but soap and some sort of man. And I had to come right back up. So take care of your junk too. And then give people grace. We're all human. Things get messy. Things get stinky sometimes.

SPEAKER_01 23:32

Right? Yeah, it's like our crotch. It's that's really small area of like where your legs and thighs and your torso are all leaving. So I feel like it's natural to get sweaty, especially when it's hot out. Even in the cold, if you're like being active and which just it's bound to happen. But it does feel like a respectful thing to take care of that before becoming intimate or going to the bedroom, because most likely we're gonna be down there the same word as us. We're not gonna generally, at least I wouldn't, come straight from the gym and be like, all right, I would love some hen, honey, and I would shower first.

SPEAKER_00 24:21

Okay. I have had men request that though. I've really partners request they're like, when you get done. I oh I used to run a lot, and one of my partners was like, I want you to come back and not shower at all. And I want to go down with you. And I was like, I don't think I can. I love that you want to do that, but I you would not be allowed to kiss me afterwards. I can't. I'm not that kind of girly. I'm like, I like things nice. I wish I was. I but I'm not. Yeah, I've definitely had that request, but not my thing. And I don't think you should ever assume that unless someone asks for it. Assume that they prefer that you've cleaned yourself. But I think again, there's that let's give each other grace, right? Once when we first start dating each other, we're gonna make sure we're I hope we're gonna make sure our shit's dialed in before we're like getting in each other's junk. But as we're in a relationship, sometimes we don't always show up at our best. And it's uh we shouldn't be able to have our partner say, Hey, how about we go take a shower together? Or you need to hit the shower before I do this, right?

Ball Science And Fun Facts

SPEAKER_01 25:29

Yeah, I think it's normal for you to kind of let things slide a little bit more when you're in a long-term relationship. It's like the more comfortable you get, you're like, Do I need to? I rocked a bush for both of my relationships, full blown, never shaved, because I didn't like razor burn. And so it was also I'm a redhead, I'm a natural redhead. So I kind of thought it was cute, but yeah, I yeah, giving each other grace and then just keeping it in check a little bit, right?

SPEAKER_00 26:56

Right. I want to move into some fun facts about balls. Oh, wait, and see how many of these you guys already know about and get your thoughts on them because I was surprised by some of these fun facts. Fact number one is about the engineering. Testicles hang outside the body because sperm production requires a temperature of about four degrees cooler than core body temperature. The scrotum is a climate control system, it physically contracts, that's when they get all firm, like I like them, in cold temperatures and relaxes in warmth. That's where they get all soft and sticky feeling to me. Smooth, that's my guess. So they do that all day long without anyone asking it to. So based on temperature, they're kind of like getting loosey, goosey, and then tightening up over and over again to keep those sperm alive. Did you guys know that? I heard something to that extent, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 27:59

All right, yeah. I've known when it gets cold, they get really close to the body to stay warm. I didn't really think about the warmer aspect of it, but I've been with guys who would joke if we were cold plunging or on the snow, they'd be like, My balls are literally in my body right now. And I'm like, what does that mean?

SPEAKER_00 28:19

They try to, yeah, they try to go inside. Back to the size situation. Average testicle size is roughly four by three by two centimeters. I don't know how they're measuring it, but about the size of a date or a small plum, they weigh about 20 grams each. And the normal range spans from something like a large grape to a small chicken egg. One is almost slightly larger than the other, and one almost always hangs lower. I think I also read a fact somewhere that the left one usually hangs lower. I'm not gonna swear by that, but that's something I think I read. That's interesting. Does it sound accurate to what you've seen?

SPEAKER_01 29:01

Like the one hanging lower than the other.

SPEAKER_00 29:03

And the size, and the size, size, I feel like not too much.

SPEAKER_01 29:07

I have seen that. Yeah, I feel like, yeah, in most partners, I feel like I've noticed that. Yeah, I've definitely had or felt ones that were closer to great size. And then chicken egg feels large to me, but I could see close to a chicken egg, but I've also not been with every man in the world. So there's I totally get that there's a range.

SPEAKER_00 29:31

So this is about what happens during arousal, which I found this is gonna be helpful information. During arousal, testicles can increase up to double their resting size. I love that. As blood vessels fill, they also rise closer to the body as orgasm approaches. So now you're gonna know it's an involuntary muscle reflex. If you're paying attention now there, you can actually feel and see both of these things happening in real time. So if you're wondering if he's getting close, check out his balls. I'm like clearly on top writing them like his balls. Yeah. So they get they start getting up there and getting close when he's close.

SPEAKER_01 30:12

Yeah, I've I felt that before. If I'm giving oral, typically I'm like holding them as well, whether I'm like rubbing them, pulling them, they're like in my other hand, and I can feel them pull towards the body.

SPEAKER_00 30:26

And I think that's when the skin gets scrunchy. I call it scrunchy skin. It feels tough to me. Yeah. And I like that. All right. So here is useful information as well. Scrotal skin is among the most nerve-dense skin on the human body, comparable to the lips, to lips and fingertips. And 87% of men surveyed reported enjoying some form of testicular stimulation. So that to me was pretty fascinating. I didn't know it was that nerve-rich. And it is that really was a wake-up moment for me because I'm like, oh, there should be a lot more pleasure education around testicles then if they are so right. There's a lot of pleasure, pain, but also pleasure to be had there if they're that nerve-rich.

SPEAKER_01 31:16

I've heard that they're the same type of skin as lick skin, which I always thought was really interesting. But yeah, I've heard that before.

SPEAKER_00 31:24

It's interesting to me. I thought this was pretty funny. The word testes comes from the Latin word for witness, as in the testicles witness, male virility. Also, the word avocado comes from the Aztec word ahucate, which means testicle. They named the fruit after balls because of how they hang in pairs on the tree. Now, when I read that, I was also, oh, like the skin on the avocado. I like it when balls get all scrunchy and feel like an avocado skin. I feel like that's a good comparison.

SPEAKER_01 31:58

Okay. Yeah. Yeah. I think earlier you were asking something we really liked about balls or like to do with them or experience with them. And I do, I see what you're saying. The toughness and the scrunchiness of it. If I'm trying, I love to try and get a ball in my mouth. And that was something I loved, is I had a partner who would try and push his balls into my mouth. And I was like, oh God, that feels really hot. And he can only ever get maybe one and a half in. So like this feels great. But like when you're stroking the shaft and you're trying to get the balls in your mouth, and you can feel them pool away as they're getting closer and that skin gets tougher, and you're trying to lick them.

SPEAKER_00 32:39

What an experience. Right. I have definitely had male partners request trying to put. Actually, that's not true. The first time I tried putting balls in my mouth, it was a couple of years ago. And it was because I was with my ex, who was a male at the time, and I did a podcast on ball busting. We'll get to talking about that. But one of the things that had been brought up was how men like it when women try to fit the balls in their mouth. And I was like, what? What? Can you even do that? And so my partner and I decided, oh, let's give it a try. Which was it was funny at the time. It wasn't like it was done very sexily. But I have had requests since then from partners who really thought that was hot. But I've also heard someone trying to do it, do that. Yeah.

unknown 33:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 33:35

Yeah. You can't force it.

Teabagging Rough Play And Consent

SPEAKER_01 33:38

And I noticed some experiences with partners who they don't like their balls on, and some do, and some want them licked, and some don't. So it's a lot of different conversations, communication around what she liked and what she don't like.

SPEAKER_00 33:53

One of my favorite stories, I was watching TikToks, and I want to say, I want to give her credit. I really love there's a sex worker, and I want to say that her name is. I'm gonna look her up, so I'm careful about it. Lucy Huxley, is that? All right, yes. Lucy Huxley, she is a sex worker who educates people on what it's like. And she was talking about this experience she had. So I'm curious if you guys have ever experienced this where she was taking pictures with a client. She had a client, and that's what he wanted, and taking pictures in all these positions. And out of the blue, he just positioned himself over her and he put his balls on her head, just plupped his balls on her head. That's called teabagging, right? Isn't that what teabagging is?

SPEAKER_01 34:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 34:42

Have you guys ever had someone who wanted to teabag you? And can we talk about teabagging for a second?

SPEAKER_01 34:48

I had not had that experience, so I do want to talk about it. All right. Yeah, I've never had that experience either. My only experience is guys doing it to each other. You know what I mean? Like, yes, that's what I will do. Not in a sexual way, but they're like, Oh, I'm gonna teabag you, like in as a kid, not a kid, but like an older teenager who was sexual. Um, I was like, What do you what's the point of this? What are you trying to do? But no, I in my sexual exploration, I've never had a man want to do that.

SPEAKER_00 35:25

That is interesting because now I'm looking it up and according to Wikipedia and actually according to porn and women's help, teabagging is the act of putting your of the dipping the balls in the mouth of the other person. I thought it was like for some reason on the forehead. I guess like but it's dipping like dipping the teabags like in the cup, which is your mouth.

SPEAKER_01 35:53

Okay, they're so similar. I feel like it could fall under the same term, but I can see that because yeah, it is like a teabag in water.

SPEAKER_00 36:03

It certainly is. I think I think sometimes guys just want to put their manly parts. What they see is their manly parts anywhere on you that they can, right? I have had partners who really wanted who enjoyed scratching balls, wanted me to be rough with the skin, scratching and using my teeth, scraping it with my teeth, which I like, except then I really want to bite down. I'm kind of like one of those toddlers who, if you put something in my mouth, I just went, oh. But what I what we should all know is you don't do anything to someone's balls without asking in advance. Right? This is balls are a consent-based thing. Ball busting is a big thing. I have a whole podcast on it, folks. I will link it below. There are people who literally love to be kicked in the balls, have their balls uh slapped around, bitten, abused, basically. First of all, that's something that you would never do without consent. And I would also suggest some sort of training and self-educating on what that line is because you could really damage someone, right?

SPEAKER_01 37:05

Absolutely. Yeah, I'm not trying to ruin someone's fertility or a part of their genitalia because I can't. You know what I mean? I don't know. I've never done it, like anything rough with balls. If I were to, I would definitely like work my way up slowly and make sure that they're providing me feedback and making sure everyone's comfortable and feel safe. Because yeah, teeth in your mouth is you could do some damage if you were careful.

Practical Ball Play Tips That Work

SPEAKER_00 37:36

Yeah. So all everyone here is comfortable with balls. I think that we we, of course, the three of us are definitely probably more sex positive than a lot of people, maybe more educated in this way. I I think there are a lot of women out there who don't know what the hell to do with balls in the sexual arena, who feel, I don't know if it intimidated or may have a negative reaction to them because they aren't at all highlighted in a sexy way in the sexual world. I think it's really important when you have a partner never to shame any part of their body, especially any sexual part of their body. We all have areas of our body that are a mystery to us and can seem icky or creepy because unfortunately, as a society, that's what we do to we we call sexual parts of the body gross or weird or shame them because of our puritanical society. I think if can we can we give some advice to some of the women listening or the men who have partners who have never even touched their balls? What would you say to them about getting to know that area, getting to know their partner's balls and or trying to get your your female partner to pay attention to them? Do you have advice, Sloan?

SPEAKER_01 39:02

Okay, I think I always blindfolding my partner so they can more focus on the sensation. So blindfolding my partner and going slow and seeing how they react to different touches by tongue or sucking or touching or tugging or twisting or bopping.

SPEAKER_00 39:23

What can say no? I'm starting to what is wow. Ladies, don't start with bopping or twists.

SPEAKER_01 39:31

So I think, man, I think that's a great place to start because if they're blindfolded, they can get to be in the moment and get you get more of a genuine reaction, I think. And if you're blindfolding your partner, there's a sense of you don't have to hide your facial expressions, right? Like, so if you're a woman and you're new to playing with balls, or if you don't really like them, but then your partner is interested in you entertaining them a bit more, you might not want to because you're worried, okay, what is my face gonna say? If I'm mentally open to it, but I don't want to be like just have this really concentrated look or this grossed out look. So yeah, I think blindfolding would help that too and get you or allow a female partner to be more comfortable with it if you don't have that experience already. In my two long-term relationships, because I don't shower with just anybody, but I would love taking soap and cleaning their penis and cleaning their balls because it's so smooth and slippery and getting it all in the cracks and pulling them, and that was like one of my favorite things to do. So, again, if you're grossed out by him, maybe that could help ease that tension, right?

SPEAKER_00 40:56

And also if you're ever grossed out by a partner's body part, I think it's really important to get to the root of it. Like, why? Why do you think his cock is sexy, but you think his balls are grossed, right? And also, I think women, we do that to our own bodies. Uh, when I hear women talk about their own vaginas and their own pussies, I oftentimes hear them say how revolted they are by their own vulva and their own genitalia. And I know skin sets do that. We're all we're all like it's so this isn't just, I think men might feel really insulted at the idea that women would be grossed out by their testicles. But trust me, guys, just as many women are at odds with their own genitals and their own vulva and won't look at it and won't explore it. Some won't even touch it. And this is all because we live in a very shame-based puritanical society, right? And it takes some work to sit with. Like, why do I feel that way? This is my lover's body. If you're desiring this person, why wouldn't you want to explore every inch of them? Uh and I think also it was a good point with the soap and the cleaning of the balls, soaping up the balls. If even if you aren't in the shower, as far as playing with them, using lube, using lube to play with them and make it more comfortable for them. They're also super sensitive. Temperature play is a fun way to interact with them, but just start by patting them.

SPEAKER_01 42:43

Just being really gentle. See what your partner has to say. And I feel like they'll give you feedback pretty easily. They'll either like it or they won't.

SPEAKER_00 42:52

And this is a conversation you should have before you get into bed, by the way.

SPEAKER_01 42:55

Oh, yeah.

Perineum Tricks And Orgasm Timing

SPEAKER_00 42:56

Don't start this in the middle of sex. These are conversations that you should have before you get to bed. Hey, do you like your balls played with? When I give you head, do you want me to touch you anywhere else? And something we haven't mentioned, which we should have by now, is right behind the balls, is the perennium, which is a very sensitive area as well. So why would you skip around the balls? Because I think most of us play with a perennium at some point, right? On our partner to get to the perennium. It's all hooked together and it's all nerve-rich. And this is a way to really wow your partner if you want to, which I assume we all do. If we're in bed with someone, we want to blow their mind, right? Oh, yeah. Yeah, absolutely.

unknown 43:42

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 43:44

All of it's soft, but there's a little spot that if you push on, it can be more pleasurable for the man. At least that's what my understanding is. I don't do it often, so I'm not gonna say that I'm even a semi-expert, but yeah, I think that there's a sense of spot right behind it.

SPEAKER_00 44:02

Saloon, I've seen you play with some balls. Uh I think the spot that she's talking about, you do this thing. I've seen you do this. I've seen you do this thing where you gently cup the balls and then you, I don't know. What do you do? Let's talk about your little trick. Guys, women out there or men who like to play with balls, get your notepads out because this has been a brilliant thing for me to get to watch.

SPEAKER_01 44:29

Okay, yeah. It was cupping the balls with one hand and using my thumb to stroke that perennium area. So I feel like I've had a lot of success with that. I guess it depends on how, again, having the conversation with your partner, because some people are really sensitive that you're getting close to the back door, and they get more and more uncomfortable the closer you get. So, again, a conversation of would you be comfortable if I tried this? But when they're okay with it, it sits.

SPEAKER_00 44:58

Now, what's interesting is, and it's I've seen her, she cradles in one hand like a little baby bird, the balls, and then she uses her finger and her thumb very gently to stroke the perennium. It's as though as is this delicate move she has. Interestingly enough, when I was looking up fun facts, something that came up is that as the person gets closer to orgasm, there the balls, as we mentioned before, move closer to the body. If you want to delay the orgasm, you can lift it away from the body and it can delay the orgasm. Now, I've never tried this myself, so I cannot guarantee this move. But maybe, guys, if you are like wanting in the middle, maybe she's down and you're about to blow and you don't want to, you can just grab your balls and pull them away from the body. Not yet, boys. Not now. Or you're I've had a man do that before.

SPEAKER_01 46:02

Yeah. He was I've had a man do that before. He's nope, I'm not ready. And he would pull out and stop, and then I would see him pulling them away. And I'm like, what's going on here? Is that Desensitizing you, or what do you but now that you say that that makes a lot of sense. That's what he was doing.

SPEAKER_00 46:20

That's what he was doing.

SPEAKER_01 46:21

Wow.

SPEAKER_00 46:22

So let's do a little round table here. Let's sum it up with your last thoughts on balls, maybe last tip if you have one. Something you feel like you want to make sure men, women, everybody knows about balls. And I'm going to start with Miranda.

SPEAKER_01 46:41

No, no, I think it would just be if you from the female perspective, if you're not comfortable with it, to truly don't be afraid and have that conversation with your partner. And then also if you're in the mindset of no, it's gross, just take a little bit of self-reflection and how would you feel if they were looking at our lips, right? And thought that those were gross. So it's, you know what I mean? Back to what you were saying previously. You really shouldn't be judging people's bodies and giving a lot of grace is a good thing. And then yeah, have that conversation with your partner and don't be afraid of them because also if I'm giving oral, I can't go for super long because it starts to hurt my jaw. And I've noticed that playing with balls can speed up that process.

SPEAKER_00 47:35

Possible you should have given at the beginning. Why are you dropping that now?

SPEAKER_01 47:40

It can, yeah, it just it helps, it can help them come more or come faster. So it's like even if you're giving oral and then you switch to a hand and you put the balls in your mouth and then use your hand for 30 seconds a minute or whatever, it one gives your job a break, and two keeps them being stimulated. So we're not just full on taking a break. And then yeah, I don't know, just don't be afraid of them.

SPEAKER_00 48:09

Don't be afraid of the balls. That that's the tip. I like it. And if you need to get that blow job over with, I love that. All right, Sloan.

SPEAKER_01 48:20

Gosh, it would be so much of the same. The communication and so many things to work with the balls. Sensation plate, I talked about, like all the things that are immediately available on our body. Use our hands or our tongues or scratch your nails over them. Think about all the other the pinwheel toys, or if people are into that, over that kind of skin or feathers, or again, like you were saying, using lube or being in the shower and using soap and using that to explore. Be an explorer. And also, oh my gosh, I would love to know. I've tried to have sexy conversations, and then I want to talk about balls, but I don't know. Balls doesn't hit me as a sexy word, and then the only other option is testicles or nuts.

SPEAKER_00 49:05

So I would love to hear people's preferences too. What do you want us to call your balls? Drop it in the comments below this episode. Just drop the word. That's all I need to know. What do you want us to call your balls that's that that feels sexy? How do we refer to them, if you will? That's what I want out of this episode. That's what we want to know. This is an episode where we're just we're spitballing, which some people like, right? Some people want their balls spat upon. I've seen it in porn, so it must be real. I've never spat upon a ball. Anyone here done that? Anyone spat on balls? Not yet. Not not yet. We might be doing it. Yeah, I think that really this conversation for me has just brought up we're when we are in bed with a partner. One of the sexiest things I've ever had done by partners is just when I feel like they're w worshiping my pussy, right? When they're like down there and they're inspecting and they're touching and they're looking and they're exploring everything about it. And and they want to be down there for a while and figure out what feels good, because of course it helps me figure out what feels good. And doing that in return to your partner and exercising some cock worship, if you will, and including the balls in that. I think I like the concept of cock and pussy worship with your partner, just taking time where it's not about you at all, and you're just touching, feeling, smell, smelling, arousing, satisfying them. And I think exchanging that with your partner. So both people feel acknowledged, that's a great time to bring the balls into play. They are part of the whole game. And ask your partner ahead of time do you like to have your balls touched or played with? Have there been things that have worked in the past? Because I'd like to explore that with you. But bring them into the discourse. Even in my own podcast, they've really only come up once. I've only had one other, I believe, episode in six years. I think I'm on six years where we've really talked about them. And that's strange to me. It's crazy. They're right there. So take time to explore. You got three women here, big balls, like big balls, smooth balls, rough balls. They are there is pleasure to be had. And for the men listening, feel proud of your balls and ask for what you want with them. Educate us. Start talking about your balls more. You talk about your dicks a lot, a lot. You worry about your dick size a lot. Let's talk about your balls.

SPEAKER_01 52:00

I just want to add one thing for men who might be scared to talk about them with their partner or someone they're seeing casually, whatever it is. You have to remember that we don't have this anatomy. So it's if you like something, if you don't like something, if you want to try it out, if you're scared to ask, truly don't be. And from the female side of things, you should take that vulnerability that they're providing you right now. And don't be judgmental, be open-minded. Because again, that is anatomy we just we don't have that much experience with. Even if you have sex, a lot of sex and have had a lot of experience with it, we don't know what that feeling truly is. And so don't be afraid to ask your girl to suck on them a little bit or pull them or whatever you're interested in. It's like it's not something I feel like people should be or feel ashamed about or embarrassed about.

SPEAKER_00 53:02

Now I'm gonna end this with two pieces of advice that I always give and I stand 10 toes down on them. Number one, you should not be having sex with someone you cannot talk about sex with. You shouldn't be doing it. Number two, you should not be having sex with someone who shames any part of your body, calls it gross or makes you feel bad about it. You should be walking away from that person immediately. That's a very unhealthy situation to be in. Especially if it's the only person you're intimate with. That's a terrible messaging to be very damaging to someone. So, likewise, as partners, we should always approach body parts, desires, needs, or requests with curiosity. If you have an immediate, icky reaction to it, sit with that quietly by yourself. You know what I mean? It's okay to have that reaction. I've definitely had it, but do not share that with your partner because that's about you. That's not about them. Yeah. Right. Thank you guys for joining for this conversation. When I put a call out to my girlfriends, I'm like, who's gonna talk about balls with me? Two Star Wars world things. Uh, this was a great conversation, and it was a curious one for me because I haven't talked about balls a lot and I feel a little bit bad about it. I will be talking about balls more, guys. Bring your balls into my comments section below if you are on my YouTube channel. Tell us what you want me to call them. Tell us what you want women to call them, not just me. Uh, tell us what you like. Done with them. Do you have an episode that has to do with balls? Something specific that I should be addressing. I would love to talk about your balls more. All right. Until next time, thank you, Sloane and Miranda, for joining me and to my listeners. Until next time, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers.