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Sixty percent of people have fantasized about being filled two ways at once — and almost nobody says it out loud. This week, I'm changing that.
This is your complete, no-shame beginner's guide to double penetration. I'm breaking down what it actually is, the real anatomy behind why it feels so intense (there's a reason it hits differently than anything else), and why it's just as good for the giving partner as the one receiving. Then I walk you through the whole staircase — how to explore it safely by yourself first, how to bring it into partnered play with one toy, and how to build up to a third person the right way.
And I'm finally saying the quiet part out loud: why women are afraid to admit they want this, why men are afraid to bring it up, and why there's absolutely nothing shameful about wanting to feel that full.
In this episode:
What double penetration is and the anatomy that makes it so intense
Why the giving partner often loves it as much as the receiver
The safety rules that make or break it — lube, pacing, and the non-negotiables
How to try it solo first, then with a partner, then with a third person
The shame nobody names — and why this is one of the most common fantasies there is
This is exactly the kind of guide I can finally give you completely now that I'm off YouTube — uncensored, in plain language, no decoding required.
I'm Annette Benedetti, host of the podcast formerly known as Locker Room Talk and Shots. The show has a new name, Talk Sex with Annette. But at its core, this is still your locker room. It's where we strip away shame, get curious, and speak the unspoken about sex, pink dating, pleasure, and desire. Around here, nothing's off limits. These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chat, our most trusted friends, and of course, the women's locker room. Think raw, honest, and sometimes unapologetically raunchy. Welcome to my podcast where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power. Let's talk about sex. Cheers.
Today's talk Sex with a Net Topic is Double Penetration, the beginner's guide to full intense DP. Here's a number that might surprise you. In one of the largest surveys of American sexual fantasies ever done, 60% of people said they'd fantasized about double penetration, being filled two ways at once. And 22% said they fantasized about it often. So if this is something that's been quietly living in your head, you're in extremely good company. Most people have just never said it out loud. And there's a reason so many people crave it, which we're going to get into because it's not just more is more. There's real anatomy and real psychology behind why being penetrated two ways at once produces some of the most intense, full-body, brain-emptying orgasms a person
can have. Now for some real talk for a second. YouTube recently took down my channel and I'm still working to get it back up. If you'd like to help, I'm linking my short episode on how you can do that below. But here's the good news, and honestly, it's a gift. You can now watch the full video version of this on my website at talkswithanet.com and on my Substack. And being off YouTube means I'm finally going to give you all of it. I can show you the actual toys, the actual techniques, the real visuals that make a guide like this genuinely useful. And I can tell you the truth in plain words, instead of making you decode everything through censored language, no more talking in code. So you can subscribe to receive the video episodes and guides when you scroll down and click the links in the notes section below. That's where the uncensored, fully visual, helpful version of all of this lives now. And of course, you can also find my demos on OnlyFans at TalkSex within it. All right, let's talk about how to make your body feel more than it
ever has. So let's get into why people crave double penetration. Let's start with what double penetration actually is and why it does what it does. DP just means two points being penetrated and stimulated at the same time, most commonly the vagina and the anus together, which is what we're focusing on today. So here's the anatomy that makes it so intense. The vaginal canal and the anal canal sit right next to each other, separated by a thin, flexible wall of tissue called the rectovaginal septum. Because that wall is so thin, pressure in one canal pushes directly against the other. And right between them sits something most people have never heard of: the perennial sponge, a cushion of erectile tissue packed with blood vessels and nerve endings. During double penetration, that sponge gets gently compressed from both sides at once. And squeezing it sends a rush of blood and sensation through the whole area. Here's the part that really matters, especially for anyone with a vagina. The internal clitoris, the part that you can't see, wraps around the front and sides of the vaginal canal. And the G spot is actually thought to be part of that internal clitoral structure. If you're on my audio podcast, check out my video episode where I'm now showing the anatomy. When there's something filling the anus, it takes up space in the pelvis and pushes the vaginal canal forward, which presses whatever's in the vagina harder against the G-spot and internal clitoris, more than a single penetration ever could. So DP isn't just two things at once. It physically sandwiches the most sensitive internal structures and stimulates them more firmly. That's the fullness people describe, not double the sensation, but a completely different one, deeper and more awe-consuming. But the fullness is only half of why people crave it. The other half is what it does to your head. Being that full, that's surrounded, that's stimulated from every direction at once floods your nervous system so completely that there's no bandwidth left for the mental noise, the self-consciousness, that how do I look? Am I taking too long? The running commentary that keeps so many of us from ever fully letting go. DP doesn't ask you to quiet your mind, it overwhelms it into silence, forces you out of your head and into your body. And that total surrender is exactly where the biggest orgasms of your life
live. And can we talk for a second about why nobody says any of this out loud? Because the shame around double penetration hits from two different directions. And I want to name both. For women, the fear is almost always about being judged, that wanting to be that full, that taken means something bad about you. That a partner will hear it and think you are too much, too wild, too far from the good girl trope you're supposed to be. So women bury one of the most common fantasies there is and never breathe a word of it sometimes for their entire lives. And for men, there's a different, quieter shame because a lot of the time giving her this means bringing another person in, often another man. And that brings up a whole storm for guys. Does wanting to watch that make me less of a man? Will I get jealous? Does being turned on by it mean something about me? So instead of untangling any of it, most men just bury the curiosity and never say a word, even when it's something they genuinely want. So here's the truth for both of you: 60% of ordinary people fantasize about this. It is one of the most common desires there is. There's nothing weird or deviant, nothing shameful about wanting to feel that full or that taken. The only reason it feels taboo is that it's been framed as extreme or dirty or something only performers do, and nobody has been allowed to talk about it like it's the normal human desire it is. That's exactly what I'm here to change.
Let's talk about why it's as good for the giving partner as it is for the receiver. Now, everyone assumes that double penetration is all about the person on the receiving end. But some of the reason couples fall in love with this is what it does for the giving partner. And that part almost never gets talked about. If you're the one or one of the ones providing the stimulation, this is intensely intimate and intensely hot. And not just because of the mechanics. You're being trusted with something genuinely vulnerable. You're paying close, coordinated, total attention to another person's body and every reaction it gives you. And watching someone completely come undone, watching them lose control because of what you're doing together is one of the most powerful turn-ons there is. There's a real teamwork to this, a constant reading of each other. And that coordination is exactly why couples who explore this so often describe it as one of the most bonding experiences that they have, not one of the most transactional. In fact, surveys on couples who explore this kind of play consistently find they report deeper trust and closeness, not just a bigger throw. So this was never a one-sided thing done to a passive body. At its best, double penetration is one of the most collaborative, connected, trust-building things two or three people can do together.
All right, before you start, here are the rules that make this good. Because the anus is involved, there are a few rules that are completely non-negotiable, and they're the entire difference between the best night of your life and one that ends early and badly. If you've never done comfortable anal play at all, this is not where you begin. You build up to it first. And I've got a whole beginner anal training guide that walks you up the staircase step by step. DP is the deep end. You gotta learn to swim first. So there are three foundations. First, lube, and far more of it than you think. The anus does not self-lubricate ever. So you need a thick water-based gel that actually stays put and cushions. The one I use and swear by is Love Honey's Discover Gel. It's water-based, so it's safe with every silicone toy you'll be using and it rinses clean. And because it's a gel, it is thick enough to actually cushion and stay where you put it. With double penetration, you're managing two points at once. So you're gonna go through more than you're used to. So keep it right next to you and reapply the second you feel any drag every time. I have it linked below with my discount on net 15. Because let's be real, guys, at this point, my listeners should never be paying full price for lube. And on the buildup to it first note, this is the perfect place to start if the anal side is new to you or new to the person receiving. You want to work up gradually with a graduated set of plugs, starting tiny, like this little yellow one I'm holding in my hand, and only sizing up once each one feels genuinely easy, never rushed. The set I'm recommending is the Firefly Glow in the Dark Trainer Kit by Love Honey, which gives you three sizes. If you are checking out my video right now, you're gonna see them. This is the biggest one in the kit. When it's fully inserted, it is about four and a half inches. And it is also your entry point for DP itself. Once this one feels completely comfortable on its own, that's your green light that the back door is ready to become one of your two points. I walked through the whole graduated lineup with reviews and links in my full guide, which is going to be linked below and also on my website. Second, this is a one-direction deal only. Nothing that's been in the back door goes anywhere near the front without being washed or swapped out first. This is how you avoid real infections like UTIs and bacterial vaginosis. Anal toys stay anal. If you are switching anything, clean it or grab a fresh one. There are no exceptions to this rule. Third, and this is possibly the most important, is arousal and patient man. You never start at double penetration. You warm the receiver all the way at first. You get the anal side relaxed and comfortable and gradually opened before the second point of penetration ever enters the picture. A relaxed, aroused body opens on its own. A rushed one clamps down, and that's where pain comes from. And underneath all of it, constant communication and anyone can stop anything any second. No explanation is owed. Knowing you can stop instantly is the exact thing that lets your body relax enough to
love this. Let's move on to level one, starting by yourself. Here's the advice most people don't expect. The smartest place to try double penetration for the very first time is completely alone. No partner, no third person, no pressure to perform, no worrying about anyone else's experience. Just you learning what your own body actually likes in total control every second of the pace. If you've done the anal buildup I've mentioned, the largest Firefly plug you're comfortable with is your perfect starting point here. It's a simple, comfortable, stay-put plug. And its whole job in this moment is just to fill the back door and hold that fullness while you work on the front. So you settle in, breathe, and let your body relax around it until the fullness feels easy and normal. Now you're gonna add the second point, the vaginal penetration. And here's the key for the first time: keep it simple and keep it static. You're not trying to thrust two things at once and juggle a third. You're just gonna slide a dildo into the vagina and let it sit there, filling you while the plug fills the back. Use one like this. It's soft, it's spongy and flexible instead of rigid and hard. Now you add the second point, the vaginal penetration. And here's the key for the first time: keep it simple and keep it static. You're not trying to thrust two things in once and juggle a third. You're gonna slide a dildo into the vagina and just let it sit there, filling you while the plug fills the back. Use one like this. It's soft, it's spongy and flexible instead of rigid and hard. What you wanna fill first is simply how different your body feels when both are in at once. That sandwiched, compressed, completely full sensation we talked about with the vaginal toy pressed harder against your G spot because the plug is taking up the space behind it. If you're on my video, you can see how I'm holding the positioning of the two of these. Then you're gonna add your clitoris. So a toy like the Next Liberty or your hand out front, and now you've got all three points going. Everything is static, and you just get to feel it and let it build. That's your first double penetration experience. And it's honestly plenty. Once that feels good and you want more, you level up one variable at a time. Option one is swap the plug for the Wee Vibe Ditto Plus, which is the same easy to put and plug, but it vibrates. And that vibration wakes up the whole dense ring of nerve endings in the back and radiates forward through that thin shared wall. So it intensifies everything. Option two is make the front do more work with less effort by using a dual toy like the Womanizer Duo, which fills the vagina and stimulates the clitoris at the same time, or the blend. And you can see I've got them back here behind me. You can see how they're shaped for double penetration, the suction tip being for the outside clitoris. And then you've got this little uh vibrating arm right here. So that can be both your internal penetration for the double penetration plus the clitoral stimulation. So you're staying aroused while keeping the plug in back, of course. And look, you are doing very little work here. You're just being here in your body and feeling everything. That is really your main job. Either upgrade is going to free you from concentrating on technique. So all your attention stays on the sensation. And that's really what you need to be doing at this point. The solo session is drawing your own map. So when you bring someone else in, you already know exactly what your body wants. Of course, all of these tools with their full reviews are linked below.
Now we're at level two. This is where you bring a partner in. So this is where most couples actually live with double penetration. And it's the natural next step once you know your own body. One partner provides one point of penetration, and a toy provides the other. And this works for every couple in every configuration. A partner penetrating the vagina, will a plug handles the back, or a partner penetrating the back, will a toy works the front. The order of operations is everything. And it's the same principle as solo, just with the two of you. You do not start with both. You warm the receiver all of the way up, you get the back door comfortable first, blue, blue, blue, ease the plug-in. And this is exactly where the We Vibe Ditto Plus earns its place in partnered play because it stays seated on its own. So nobody has to hold it. And it comes with a remote and app control. That means you hand the partner the control and let them drive the vibration and back while they're penetrating from the front. Fun fact they're gonna feel that vibration while they're inside of you. So it is an upgrade for both of you. It is genuinely a hot dynamic. One partner controlling the buzz and back with the remote while providing the vaginal penetration. So the receiver is getting both points managed at once, and the giving partner gets to feel like they're conducting the whole thing. Once the back is settled and the receiver is fully relaxed around the plug, the partner adds the second point of penetration slowly, checking in the whole way. The beauty of the toy plus partner version is that the toy does its one job perfectly and consistently while the two of you pour all of your attention into each other and the connection. And remember, keep the clitoris in play the entire time. The fullness of DP plus clitoral stimulation is what produces those enormous rolling blended orgasms. Remember, always let the receiver steer the pace. They should always be the one deciding how fast this builds. Now we're to level three, three
people. This is the advanced version. You've got two partners providing both points of penetration. And it can be absolutely extraordinary, but it lives or dies entirely on communication and setup. So this is not where you start. Be completely comfortable with solo and partnered versions first. So what makes a three-person DP actually work? First, the conversation, all of it before anyone's clothes come off. Boundaries, what's on and off the table, who's doing what, safe words and protection because you're now managing more bodies and more fluids. Second, the receiver runs the entire show with two people delivering sensation. A receiver can get overwhelmed fast. So they set the pace and everyone else follows their signals. Full stop, no exceptions. Third, we've got to talk about the logistics. Nobody tells you. The two giving partners have to coordinate their rhythm instead of both going full speed on their own, which is chaotic and can hurt. Usually one person anchors a slow, steady rhythm while the other moves with it. And angle matter enormously here, which is honestly its own future episode. And the emotional side is real. A third person changes the whole dynamic. So check in with everyone afterward. Real aftercare matters more here than anywhere. Done with communication, patience, and the right buildup. This is a genuine peak experience. Done carelessly is how people get hurt or feelings get bruised. The entire difference is the preparation.
So that's your intro to double penetration. You know why 60% of people crave that full, overwhelming, surrendering feeling. You know it's just as good for the giving partner as the receiving one. And you've got the whole staircase. Build up the anal side gradually first. Start solo to learn your body, climb to a partner and toy, and only reach for three people once you're ready and you've had the conversation to back it up. This is just the foundation. And because I'm currently not on YouTube and not holding anything back, we get to go so much deeper than this. The positions, the advanced play, all of it in episodes ahead. Everything I mentioned today, the toy, every step, and my discount code is in the full guide and the video version on my website and my sub stack. And don't forget my demos on OnlyFans. That's where I live now. Uncensored. So go subscribe, start having better, shame free sex tonight. Until next time, I'll see y'all in the locker room. Cheers.
