The Leader in You

41. Calming the Storm: Navigating and De-escalating Customer Aggression

Season 3 Episode 41

In this episode of The Leader in You Podcast, Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina dive deep into an insightful real-world scenario of dealing with an aggressive customer interaction. Polina shares a personal experience in a retail environment, where her skills in emotional awareness, self-regulation, and empathy allowed her to effectively defuse a tense situation. This engaging discussion reveals practical insights on recognizing emotional triggers, managing conflicts constructively, and fostering a psychologically safe workplace environment. Join us to discover actionable steps and emotional tools to transform difficult customer interactions into meaningful connections.

Topics Covered (with timestamps):

  • Introduction & Context (0:00)
    Welcoming listeners, Earth Day reflections, and connecting emotional safety with improving the world.
  • Incident Overview & Conflict Escalation (2:56)
    Polina’s real-life example of an aggressive customer and a manager's triggering response.
  • Recognizing Emotional Triggers & De-escalation Techniques (8:31)
    Steps Polina took to recognize stress, maintain empathy, and validate feelings during the customer conflict.
  • Why Managers Struggle with Emotional Regulation (10:07)
    The importance of self-awareness, understanding personal triggers, and secure attachment in leadership roles.
  • The Power of Holding Emotional Fear (12:36)
    Managing shame and fear through self-awareness, emotional growth, and recognizing personal patterns.
  • Repairing Workplace Relationships Post-Conflict (23:28)
    Importance of reconnecting with team members, addressing embarrassment, and acknowledging efforts to rebuild emotional safety.
  • Consequences of Emotional Disconnection & Workplace Incivility (26:51)
    How emotional neglect from leadership negatively affects employee motivation, performance, and retention.
  • Culture Defined by Conflict Management (29:49)
    How conflict-handling defines organizational culture and the role of emotional intelligence in creating a thriving environment.
  • Conclusion & Takeaway (30:32)
    Final insights and practical tips for cultivating emotional safety, conflict resolution skills, and transforming company culture.

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Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team ...