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The Leader in You
The Leader in You podcast is brought to you by EmC Leaders, helping companies to master the art of relationships so they can spend less time on people issues and more time accomplishing their most important goals.
We combine the science of attachment and emotional connection with insight from the last 20 years to overcome workplace conflict issues, build strong team relationships, and create a connected culture.
Your host, Dr. Lola Gershfeld.
Episodes
63 episodes
63. L-TEMPO Turning Conflict into Connection at Work and Beyond
In this episode of The Leader in You Podcast, Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina explore a powerful new framework for understanding conflict and restoring balance - L-TEMPO. Just like dancing, relationships move to a rhythm, and...
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Episode 63
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24:42
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62. Pac-Man at Work-Breaking the Pursuer-Withdrawer Cycle with Niamh Hannan
In this episode, Dr. Lola Gershfeld and psychologist Niamh Hannan unpack what happens when workplace dynamics feel like a game of Pac-Man—one person chasing, the other running away. They explore how this destructive pattern shows up in m...
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Episode 62
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35:37
61. CHARLIE KIRK's ASSASSINATION and what we have to say about it
In this episode of The Leader in You Podcast, Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina Marian respond to the shocking news of Charlie Kirk’s assassination — not with politics or speculation, but with a focus on what truly matters: how l...
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Episode 61
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32:34
60. Thinking Like a Researcher - Dr. Alaina Szlachta on Data, Mindset, and Measuring What Matters
In this engaging episode of The Leader in You Podcast, we sit down with Dr. Alaina Szlachta, author of Measurement and Evaluation on a...
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Episode 60
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57:34
59. The Secret to Healthy Team Relationships
In this episode of The Leader in You Podcast, Dr. Lola Gershfeld reveals the secret to creating and sustaining healthy team relationships. Drawing from attachment science and the Emotional Connection (EmC) process, she shares ho...
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Episode 59
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41:47
58. When Teams Miss Each Other - Breaking Free from Emotional Disconnect at Work
In this week’s episode of The Leader in You Podcast, Dr. Lola Gershfeld takes on some of the most common — and challenging — questions about team dynamics and workplace relationships.What happens when one teammate thrives on emo...
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Episode 58
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32:51
57. Team Is Not Fine - How to Spot Disconnection and Repair It Before It’s Too Late
When a team feels “off,” the damage goes deeper than missed deadlines—it erodes trust, safety, and connection. In this solo episode, Dr. Lola Gershfeld reveals how to spot the subtle signs of disconnection, shift the “emotional music” that driv...
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Episode 57
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19:02
56. Cheaters at the Coldplay Concert
In this riveting and emotionally charged episode, dive into a viral workplace scandal that rocked social media—the infamous kiss-cam moment at a Coldplay concert featuring the CEO and Chief People Officer of Astronomer, both of whom resigned.
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Episode 56
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41:47
55. Holding Two Truths - The Hidden Superpower of Emotionally Attuned Leaders
In this insightful episode of The Leader in You, Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina dive into the transformative power of holding two truths—a leadership practice rooted in emotional attunement and attachment science. When workplac...
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Episode 55
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22:26
54. Becoming Better - Healing, Mindsets & the Inner Work of Leadership with Ryan Gottfredson
In this powerful episode of The Leader in You, Dr. Lola and Polina sit down with bestselling author and leadership expert Ryan Gottfredson to explore what it really takes to become a better leader—and a better human.Drawi...
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Episode 54
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45:53
53. The Seven Coaching Styles Every Leader Needs - A Conversation with OwlHub's David Morelli and Alexandria Scobee
What if your leadership challenges are hidden in the coaching styles you don’t use? In this engaging and insightful episode, we’re joined by David Morelli and Alexandria Scobee from OwlHub to explore their groundbreaking Respect Coachi...
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Episode 53
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41:29
52. Slice It Thinner & Catch the Bullet - Two Techniques to Create a Bonding Moment
In this powerful episode, Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina Marian introduce two transformative techniques—“Slice It Thinner” and “Catch the Bullet”—designed to help leaders and teams foster emotional safety and connection in the work...
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Episode 52
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22:05
51. The Shift From Team Player to People Leader
Making the leap from doing the work to leading the people—it’s one of the toughest transitions in any career.In this eye-opening episode of The Leader in You, Polina and Dr. Lola talk with Matt Gjersten, founder of Better Everyd...
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Episode 51
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44:49
50. We Resolved the Conflict Between Elon Musk and President Trump
In this powerful episode of The Leader in You, we unpack the explosive conflict between Elon Musk and President Trump—and more importantly, what it reveals about leadership, emotions, and disconnection at the highest levels.Join...
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Episode 50
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26:26
49. What’s Breaking Your Company Culture And How to Fix It
Breakups don’t just happen in romantic relationships—they happen in companies, too. In this episode, Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina expose the top cause of a culture “breakup”: surprise and emotional disconnection between leaders and their teams...
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Episode 49
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38:19
48. It Was Just a Question-Until It Wasn’t
In this eye-opening episode, Dr. Lola and Polina unpack a real-life workplace conflict that began with a simple question — and rippled into a breakdown of emotional safety across an entire team. What seems like a harmless inquiry during a team ...
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Episode 48
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38:00
47. Day 4 - 5 Quick Wins to Better Manage Team Conflict
We're here for our last day at the ATD conference and excited to share the recap of our Authors Chat session this morning on the 5 Quick Wins to Better Manage Team Conflict! Make sure to listen to the end for the opportunity to get the link for...
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Episode 47
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17:30
46. Day 3 ATD Recap - Therapy is Like Skin Care
Day 3 ATD Recap Takeaways: Our perspective and experience on day 3, sharing our favorite takeaways from these speakers, and our participation in a podcast with Matt Gjersten from Leadership LaunchpadSimone Biles Matt G...
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Episode 46
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17:19
45. Day 2: Ahhh!! We can't believe this happened!!
When we thought we were fully prepared, it turned out we were in the wrong room. Mistakes happen all the time, luckily, we had the process to work with our difficult feelings and keep going anyway!
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Episode 45
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6:10
44. ATD Conference Day 1: Six Steps to Resolving Conflicts
Day 1 at the ATD Conference: Special 4 Series Mini Podcast during our stay in Washington DC and our attendance at the ATD conference!!
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Episode 44
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12:39
43. When Family Becomes Business: Tragedy to Triumph
What happens when unresolved childhood wounds resurface at work? In this heartfelt episode, Dr. Lola and Polina explore the emotional complexity of family-run businesses, the myth of “leaving emotions at the door,” and how emotional connection ...
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Episode 43
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35:06
42. Undercover EmC: Investigating Team Disconnection
In this high-energy, insight-packed episode of The Leader in You, Polina and Dr. Lola Gershfeld dive deep into how emotional disconnection acts like a virus in organizations—hijacking collaboration, clarity, and trust. Disc...
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Episode 42
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30:02
41. Calming the Storm: Navigating and De-escalating Customer Aggression
In this episode of The Leader in You Podcast, Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina dive deep into an insightful real-world scenario of dealing with an aggressive customer interaction. Polina shares a personal experience in a retail environmen...
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Episode 41
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32:40
40. The Ripple Effects of Incivility: Why You Hate Your Job
Why do we lose motivation, dread team meetings, or feel exhausted just walking into work? In this powerful episode of The Leader in You podcast, co-hosts Paulina and Dr. Lola Gershfeld unpack the true cost of workplace incivility—and i...
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Episode 40
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31:46
39. Is Lying Getting You Where You Want to Be at Work?
This episode of The Leader in You Podcast discusses the vital role of trust in workplace relationships.Dr. Lola Gershfeld, Polina Marian, and Chip Simmons dive deep into how trust is not just about behavior but about auth...
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Episode 39
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41:52