The Leader in You
The Leader in You podcast is brought to you by EmC Leaders, helping companies to master the art of relationships so they can spend less time on people issues and more time accomplishing their most important goals.
We combine the science of attachment and emotional connection with insight from the last 20 years to overcome workplace conflict issues, build strong team relationships, and create a connected culture.
Your hosts, Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina Marian.
The Leader in You
95. Why You Hate Making Decisions at Work - The VERSE Model
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At the ATD Conference, we noticed a common theme: many leaders and learning professionals were excited about innovation and AI, yet hesitant when it came to navigating emotions, vulnerability, and human connection in the workplace. That tension inspired this conversation on emotional ambivalence—the experience of feeling pulled in two directions at the same time.
In this episode, Lola and Polina explore why people often struggle to make decisions, speak up, take risks, or embrace change. Together, they unpack the fears that drive emotional ambivalence, including the fear of making the wrong choice, being judged, appearing incompetent, experiencing rejection, or exposing vulnerability.
You’ll learn:
- What emotional ambivalence is and why it shows up in leadership, teamwork, and everyday life
- How psychological safety and secure relationships influence confidence and decision-making
- Why vulnerability is often the pathway to growth rather than a sign of weakness
- How shame, fear, and disconnection keep people stuck
- Why suppressing difficult emotions also limits positive emotions, engagement, and connection
- A practical framework called VERSE for helping leaders and teams navigate emotional uncertainty with greater clarity and confidence
Whether you're a leader, manager, coach, HR professional, or simply someone facing a difficult decision, this episode offers a powerful perspective on how emotional safety helps people move from fear and hesitation to confidence, connection, and action.
Because sometimes the problem isn't that we don't know what to do—it’s that we don’t feel safe enough to do it.
The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where teams can thrive.
Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team.
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Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team dynamics, and wo...