293 ~ To The Human Who is Trying To Do Everything...

Hello Magical Human & welcome back to Madison Mindset the Podcast 🧚🏼

This is a love note to you from one human being struggling with letting go, to another...

We've been conditioned from childhood to try doing everything at once, creating impossible expectations and daily stress. This pressure follows us from our early years and into adulthood.. we are exhausted, unfulfilled, and constantly chasing unattainable standards of success... this has to stop now. 🪬

episode overview:
• society trains us to be "jacks of all trades" from childhood onward
• success actually comes from mastering fewer things rather than being mediocre at many
• true fulfillment requires focusing on just one or two priorities
• collectively we can accomplish everything, but individually we must set boundaries
• remember you're a human being, not a human doing

You can rest now

Love,

Madison Mindset x

Chapters

• 0:09 Welcome to Madison Mindset
• 0:50 Childhood Pressure & Expectations
• 2:17 The Adult Burden of Doing It All
• 5:16 The Contradiction of Modern Living
• 7:24 Finding Peace in Doing Less
• 8:57 Embracing Human Limitations

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:09

Hello, magical Human and welcome back to Madison Mindset, the podcast. So you've been trying to do so much. I know you have, because I have too. We live in this world where you're expected to do and succeed at so much. It's constant, and I wish I could say it was constant from when you were an adult, but really since you were a child you went to what we would call a quote normal school. You're expected to do so much.

Speaker 1: 0:55

The first time I thought I had to do so much was when I was very, very young, when I was only four or five and I was expected to do a variety of things clean my room, sort myself out, do my stuff you know, as you do all the common four to five year old jobs and I wasn't allowed to do the things I wanted to do until I had done that. I remember feeling stressed then, perhaps for the first time, feeling like I'd run out of daylight, like there wasn't enough time. Feeling like I'd run out of daylight, like there wasn't enough time, like in order for me to do the things I wanted to do, I had to waste all the daylight doing the things I don't want to do. That I didn't see as worth my time. And then I remember trying to make decisions in between staying over at a friend's house or being with my family, knowing that after they tell me that they'd miss me if I wasn't there, making decisions, do I let my friend down or do I let my family down? Do I do what I want or do I do what I'm supposed to want? Do I do what I feel I would really like to do or what is expected of me? I felt this so young.

Speaker 1: 2:03

Even in school, primary school, high school you're expected to study over six subjects at a time. Assignments are always due at the exact same time in each Exams are coming up all at the exact same time. You're expected to be a jack of all trades, and yet you master none. Because we're not supposed to live like that, because we're not supposed to live like that, we're not supposed to learn like that, we're not supposed to go through life that way. So, from the time you were very young to all the way through your childhood, your teenage years, you're expected to be good at so much you know. Not only were you supposed to be good at all the subjects at school, you're also expected to have extracurricular. You're supposed to be good at a sport or dance or an instrument or two instruments. You were supposed to have a social life. You were supposed to have a plan for the future and be applying to places and figuring out what you're going to do. You're supposed to have a part-time job and perhaps even be learning in that part-time job and take up all the hours you can possibly get, even when you don't have the energy to do one more thing.

Speaker 1: 3:16

Even kids these days don't have a day off and when you do have a day off, you're bombarded with the internet, social media. Kids have got Xboxes and phones and bings and bongs and alerts and emails and all the things. So young I don't even know how kids these days are going to do it. I mean, I'm 27, and I already struggle so much with just doing one thing at a time. I've been trying to have a circus act of a life. When I look back and I look at my to-do lists and my previous dreams and goals and weekly routines that I've written down in old journals, when I go back I can see I look at that and I go. No wonder why you couldn't check all those things off. It's impossible.

Speaker 1: 4:13

I'm not saying you can't do a lot, but I am saying you can't do everything and the burden that's on you to do everything as an adult. Perhaps you're studying, perhaps you're a mother or a father, perhaps you're a business owner or an employee, or perhaps both, in this world where you need to try and find more money. Perhaps you have a sport that you do or an art form that you want to do, or a goal or a dream that you'd like to find time for, something you'd like to study, but you just can't find even five minutes of study time. Perhaps you're sleep deprived and you're eating poorly because you just can't find enough time in the day to make enough food for yourself. Perhaps you're struggling and then everyone tells you to have time for self-care.

Speaker 1: 5:06

In this world of madness, we are expected to do everything, be good at everything and have it all. You're also supposed to relax, take it easy, have some self-care. It's ridiculous really. It's a contradiction. The whole thing is a huge contradiction and an illusion. You were trained this way from so young. And why? Because a jack-of-all-trades is a master of none. You'll be kind of good at a bunch of things in your life, which really serves the community, but doesn't it all serve you? I wouldn't even really say it serves the community. It serves people in power To have you not be a master, a go-to, an expert better off to keep you mediocre in the middle. So they tell you to have everything, to do everything. You ever want. To have all the money and all the success in the world, all you need to do is be good at everything. And yet when you look at people who are really successful and happy in this life, why is it that they seem to be the people who are doing the least?

Speaker 1: 6:19

You've been trying to do everything and I hear you Because I've been trying to do everything as well but I've made a decision that I'm no longer going to do everything Because I can't. I'd love to say that I'm capable of doing 20 different things in one day and doing them all well, but after all, I'm a human being and when I try and do 20 things in a row in one day, of course my self-care and time for myself and for living my life gets put on the back burner. There's no time, and you know what? Considering I could die tomorrow. I've had enough of doing that shit. It's garbage. I won't do it anymore. I'm going to stick with the things I love, the things that I need to do, some responsibilities. I'm going to save all the time in the world for enjoying the day, for holding my loved ones and for enjoying this beautiful blessing of a life.

Speaker 1: 7:27

You deserve so much more than chasing your tail from the moment you're born, the moment you're old enough to walk to the end. You deserve more than that. It's completely understandable that you've been trying to do it all, but I'm here to tell you and remind you, because you already know that you can't possibly do it all, but if you pick just one or two things and do them well and invest your time, they will give you all that. You need things and do them well and invest your time, they will give you all that you need. You'll become a master. You'll have everything you need.

Speaker 1: 8:14

The key to success and winning isn't doing everything. It's really putting your time and dedicating your energy and efforts into a couple of things. Slow down, you're a couple of things. Slow down. You're a human, after all, and you only have two hands, two feet and one brain. You don't have to do everything. Just do a couple of things that you can fit in your own hands and let the other humans take on their couple of things. Before you know it, we've all got it all together. Together, we can really do it all, but for you, rest, relax, enjoy your life, because it won't last. It's all just a moment in time. So stop trying to do it all and just do what you were born to do Be, simply be a human being. Love.