346 ~ Listen If Your Heart Is Hurting

Hello Magical Human & welcome back to Madison Mindset the Podcast 🧚🏼

Join me for a gentle shift of perspective to soothe a sad heart. Together, we will evolve the space in between ourselves and everything else in your life. Welcoming more peace, ease and clarity. 
overview:
• breathing into the heart as a cleansing practice
• understanding the heart as a guidance system
• redefining relationships as the space in between
• practicing with objects to build emotional skill
• healing without contact or closure
• shifting from blame to gratitude and forgiveness
• moving from anxiety to abundance in daily life

If you are looking to go deeper or if this work feels aligned with your heart, go down below and book a free 30 minute coaching call with me - it's time to move from anxious to ABUNDANT 🪬🪞

You are safe

Love,

Madison Mindset x

Chapters

• 0:20 Welcome And Purpose
• 2:26 A Love Note For Hurting Hearts
• 3:01 Intentional Listening And Heart Breathing
• 4:56 The Heart As Guidance System
• 6:12 Relationships As The Space Between
• 9:09 Window, Plants, And Partner Examples
• 12:02 Nourishing The Space Without Blame
• 15:24 Healing Without Contact Or Closure
• 17:29 From Pain To Gratitude And Forgiveness

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:20

Hello, magical human, and welcome to Madison Mindset the podcast. My name is Madison. I'm a yoga teacher, a mindset and spirituality coach, and a complete earth fairy. I see a world that is peaceful and easy to live in. Humans that are awakened and enlightened towards who they are and what life truly is and why we are here. I understand life can be really hard. I've had a huge journey with anxiety myself. I understand what it's like to feel overwhelmed, overworked, stressed, and frustrated within this earth. It is this journey that led me to begin my own growth journey. And it's only through those struggles that I was able to birth this podcast so that you can have the tools and techniques and knowledge to help you step forward and be a being of light. A magical earthly being. You are that being. I am here to walk you there. You will find many different kinds of episodes through this podcast. All are created in the moment and with love for you. Find the one you need for this moment and enjoy. Take a moment for yourself, sit down with your journal and tune in. Welcome. Let's begin. Hello, magical human, and welcome back to Madison Mindset the podcast. This episode is going to be a love note from my heart to yours. If your heart is hurting, this episode is for you. And I encourage you to send this to someone you love, someone you know who's going through a hard time, someone who's focusing on healing their heart, their emotional body right now, because this will support them as well as you. So spread the love from my heart to yours. If you do have a moment to sit and listen with intention, it would be wonderful if you could find a seated position or a lying down position and just place your hands over your heart in a way that feels good for you. If you are moving or driving or doing something about your day, that's fine. Try and be here with intention as well. But obviously keep the hands off the heart and keep yourself safe. Let's begin with a deep breath together. Inhale into the heart space. Exhale from the heart space. Inhale from the heart space. Inhale. Exhale. Inhale. Exhale. With each in breath, I want you to imagine your breathing in love. And with each exhale, imagine yourself letting go of anything that may feel stuck or heavy in the heart space. So the whole breath is a cleansing practice. We're inhaling that love and compassion. We're exhaling any tension, any pain, any frustration. Try and stay with this as you listen to the episode. The heart is a sensitive place. It is a place that feels, that thinks. It is part of your guidance system in this world. The heart feels like it has its own brain. But instead of going off thoughts and logic, it goes off feeling and emotion. So the heart, of course, is a sensitive soul. No matter what happens in your life, you are bound to run into heartbreak of some sort. It may be the traditional sense of heartbreak or losing a partner. Or it may be in other ways, in friendship, in your relationship with your body, your relationship with life. But really the heart is always about you and something else, you and your connection, your relationship with something or someone. As I mentioned, it's not always romantic relationships, but of course that is a part of it. But it's your relationship between you and everything in your life. Everything from the material things, your money, your body, your family, your friends, your children, your partner, your work, your colleagues, even you and the weather, you and the sky, you and the trees, you and the past, you and the future, you and your mind, you and your physical body. You and everything. Whatever you're able to look at right now, whether it's another person or something material, an object of some sort, or an animal or a plant, there is a relationship between you. The space in between you. So even just pick something in your environment right now. For example, I'm looking at a window. There's space between myself and the window. The space in between myself and the window is the relationship. Me and the window. We have a relationship. What does that space in between feel like? That's where the heart comes in. The heart interprets the space in between whatever you're looking at, you and the person or the place, and that is when a feeling about it is generated. So between myself and the window, it's quite harmonious. I haven't had a bad experience with this window. I have a good relationship with it. There may have been one point in time I tried to clean the window, it didn't go exactly as planned. Turns out that's harder than you may think, not to leave streaks and marks. So there's a little bit of humor or frustration. But the space in between us is quite clear. If I now move my attention to the beautiful plants in this space, and I look at the space in between us, there's a lot of love there. And I know that we have something really special, a really beautiful connection. They are friends, they are part family. Whereas when I look at the space between myself and a drink bottle, again, there's a relationship there. It feels good, but it's not as deep or as emotional as between me and the plants. If I now think of the space between me and my partner, the space in between us, there is so much love there. There is friendship, there is joy. And I can feel that. Whereas you may turn your attention to someone you're having trouble with right now, whether it's a family member or a colleague, you have them in your mind. Don't think about them, don't think about you. Think about the space in between you. How does that space feel? Now, of course, in a relationship, of any relationship, the space in between you and something or someone, it's not necessarily about either of you. So we can let go of I did this wrong, you did this wrong, you let me down, whatever it is, we can let go of that. And we can just focus on nourishing the space in between us. So if the space in between myself and the window feels mostly good, but there's a little bit of frustration from a past experience when I tried to clean it and it didn't go well and took a lot of time and it was a little bit annoying. It's not the window's fault. It's not my fault. But it has altered the space in between us. So now I can look at that space and go, how can I improve my relationship, my connection between myself and that window? I can throw love into it, kindness to the window. Instead of giving up on the window, I can try again. I can try another way. I can do a tester and see how the window responds to a new cleaning method I may come up with. And eventually I will be able to completely mend that distrust or frustration between myself and the window. Now that's a very simple example of myself and a window. The heart feels everything, though. That's why I'm using these simple examples because the heart always has a space in between. There is always the space in between you. And working on these relationships with things that seem not important, such as the window or the drink bottle, allows us to become better at handling bigger relationships between you and an animal, you and another living thing, you and your partner. It actually lays the foreground. If you can't have a good relationship with objects in your life, how are you going to go with people? So when you are looking at helping the heart, especially if you're thinking, well, I just lost this friend and they were really mean, I'm never getting them back, so there's nothing I can do to improve that relationship, or whether it's partner or family, whatever it is. As I mentioned, the space between myself and the window, it wasn't about fixing the window or making the window understand what I was trying to do. It's not about blaming the window, it's not about blaming myself, it's about the space in between us. So I don't even need to talk to the window. I don't need to make the window understand or make it get on my team with trying to improve our relationship. I don't need to do that because it's not about the window. It's the space in between us. So whether it's someone who would never talk to you again or someone who you really feel let you down and no longer in your life, you can still improve the space in between you even without a conversation. You simply sit. Especially if your heart is hurting. Something about the space in between you and that person, you and that place, your heart is hurting about it. Identify how the heart feels. Why does it feel that way? Look at the space in between you. Again, don't go into blame. Yeah, because they did this or because they did that. No, don't go there. We have to assume that people are doing the best they can, even if you think that's a lousy effort. You need to assume they're doing the best they can. In this moment, they're doing the best they can, so you can do the best you can. So you focus on the space in between you. Perhaps there's distrust. Perhaps there's hurt, perhaps there's heartbreak. Can you turn that space in between you into something that you can be grateful for? That you can look back on with fondness? Can you turn it into forgiveness and a relationship for self-growth that has helped you evolve and to learn what kind of people you want to surround yourself with? Even just as you sit with your hands on your heart and focus on that space in between you. Visualize it in your mind's eye and pour love into it. Poor gratitude, poor forgiveness. You don't necessarily need to understand the other side. You just simply need to mend the space in between you. When you change that energy, that space in between you into something that is perhaps in the past, but still exists in a sense of memory. When that turns into a place of peace, contentment, forgiveness, learning, then it's no longer such a big heartbreak for us. Because there's nothing that needs to be fixed, there's nothing that had to be done differently. Things happen. We hurt each other. It's very normal in our life. Our heart is just reflecting the importance of a relationship. If your heart is hurting, there is a relationship, the space between you and someone or something else that needs your attention. Even if you're never going to see that person again, you don't need to. You don't even need to talk to them again. But you can mend the space in between you. Mend that space so your heart can relax and it can let go with more peace. If you are curious about this kind of work, I do a lot of this work with clients. And in my new coaching program, Anxious to Abundant, that's a big part of what I'll be taking clients through, especially for those of us who are struggling to let go of certain people or different relationships. So if this feels relevant to you and it feels like something you'd like to learn more about, you can book a free 30-minute coaching call with me. You can chat to me about anything that's going on, anything you're struggling with. I'll be more than happy to offer any quick support or guidance that I can. And if we align, I may offer you a spot in Anxious to Abundant, which is a seven-month coaching program. You and me, one-on-one, where we get to really dive into what's going on in the mind and letting go of all the things of the past, of all the worries of the future, and really stepping into a state of abundance in our relationships, financially, in the joy in our life, everything. Really step into the energy of abundance. So if you're curious about that, go down below, book your free 30-minute coaching call with me. I would love to meet you. I wish you a wonderful rest of your day. Thank you for being here. Let's step forward with love.