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Season 4:Episode 4 - Narcissism and Burnout: The Hidden Relational Dynamics That Drain Us

Season 4 Episode 4

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In this episode of the Burnout to Brilliance Podcast by Balanceology, I’m joined by psychotherapist Kathleen Saxton to explore a topic that often sits quietly beneath the surface of burnout, narcissistic relational dynamics. Together, we unpack how these patterns can shape our sense of self, our capacity, and our decision-making in ways that are not always immediately visible, yet can have a profound cumulative impact over time.

This conversation moves beyond the more visible aspects of burnout and into the relational environments that can subtly erode confidence, clarity and self-trust. We explore how individuals can find themselves working harder and harder within dynamics that never quite feel steady or secure, often without fully realising why it feels so difficult to sustain.

What emerges is a deeper understanding of how burnout is not always about workload alone, but about the ongoing internal effort required to navigate inconsistency, manage expectations, and make sense of shifting relational ground.

What we explore in this episode

In this conversation, we explore:

  • how narcissistic relational dynamics can show up in both personal and professional contexts 
  • the “drip, drip, drip” impact of subtle inconsistency and shifting expectations 
  • why individuals may increase effort even when something doesn’t feel right 
  • how self-trust can become eroded over time 
  • the connection between relational dynamics and burnout development 
  • early signs that something may be unsustainable 

Why this matters for burnout

Burnout often develops gradually, shaped by patterns that are difficult to name at first. When relational dynamics require ongoing vigilance, adaptation or over-effort, this can place sustained pressure on the nervous system.

Over time, what begins as coping can become significant depletion.

Bringing awareness to these patterns can open up new pathways for recovery, ones that are rooted not in pushing harder, but in understanding more deeply what our system has really been responding to.

About the guest

Kathleen Saxton is a psychotherapist, corporate mediator and media advisor, as well as a bestselling author and regular contributor to ITV’s This Morning and Stylist. She is the author of My Parent the Peacock, a compassionate and practical guide to understanding, recovering from and healing the impact of narcissistic parenting and early relational wounds.

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Resources & links

🌐 Kathleen Saxton: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathleensaxton/
📘 Kathleen’s Book: https://tinyurl.com/3xww949m

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