Regarding step one, there is a commonality between Addiction, Codependency and Trauma, and it resides in our inability to control people, places and things which to some degree cause powerlessness and unmanageability in all of us.
· One aspect of the insanity with addiction/codependency and trauma is the need for control.
· We attempt to control our feelings with substances, relationships and activities.
· We try to control other people or organizations by threatening or manipulating.
· How have you seen this urge to control show up in your life?
Part of recovering from addictions/codependency and trauma is becoming a servant for God instead of assuming the position of God.
· What do you do when it looks like the situation is out of control?
· Do you do anything to keep a disaster from happening?
· Do you feel like you are the only one who can keep everything from falling apart?
· What triggers you into becoming a controlling person?
· Have you seen times when a total disaster turned out to be a good thing?
· How has God helped you to trust Him? How can you tell when you’re taking charge of a situation in a healthy way, a way that trusts that God is in charge?
Join us in this examination of the start of our journey from addiction to recovery, from chaos to peace, from death to life.