Discussing step two in a group of Christians with varied traits and problems requires a basic understanding of the commonalities frequently encountered in those afflicted with addictions, codependency and trauma. All people have the potential to experience a preoccupation with self and their problems. When a preoccupation occurs, the decision-making process can be hindered by elevated levels of fear, shame, anger and resentment.
The decisions frequently made by people who are under stress could be characterized as insane at times.
What leads us to making insane choices?
Isolation
· A prideful person will fail to ask for help because they will not be able to admit they need help. If someone comes along to help, a prideful person will quickly push the other person away by making them feel unwanted. Pride isolates us from fellowship.
· "For if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself" (Galatians 6:3, ESV)
· On the opposite end of the spectrum is when we experience spiritual, emotional or psychological bankruptcy. This may result in a false humility or self-hatred. These two conditions prevent us from pursuing fellowship or asking for help because we do not feel worthy.
Disillusionment
· If you put confidence in yourself, you will eventually be let down. There will come a time when your body, mind, and money will fail you.
· Remember that pride is too much belief in you. If you put too much belief in anything or anyone other than Christ, it will only lead to disappointment and ultimately disillusionment.
· Insane choices or actions happen when we are disillusioned or skewed in our thinking. If we step back into unhealthy or dangerous relationships with family or friends because we are looking towards these individuals for validation of our self-worth, we are disillusioned. The fact is our self-worth comes from who we are in Christ. This step encourages us to identify our behaviors and actions that are insane because of unmet needs or unresolved issues.
· Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; (Proverbs 3:5, NIV)
Lack of Growth
· Pride prevents growth and gives us a sense of feeling that we have arrived. We close ourselves off from learning and from opening ourselves to new ways of thinking.
· A tendency to rest on prior achievements replaces a thirst and eagerness to grow into the likeness of Christ.
· We must not forsake the 12-step program of unselfish and constructive action for comfort and familiarity.