The Mirror of Self-Knowing

In this episode, I dive into the magic of really knowing yourself, sharing how watching your own reactions—like a river finding its flow—can help you discover who you truly are, with stories from my own life and John Muir’s adventures in Yosemite. I offer simple tips like journaling, mindfulness, and facing your fears to help you embrace all parts of yourself and live more authentically.

SHOW NOTES

Quotes: 

“The first thing you have to know is yourself. A man who knows himself can step outside himself and watch his own reactions like an observer.” - Adam Smith 

“The mountains are calling, and I must go.” - John Muir

“Fear points you to what’s important.” - C. JoyBell C.

Transcript

The 18th century Scottish philosopher Adam Smith said, 

“The first thing you have to know is yourself. A man who knows himself can step outside himself and watch his own reactions like an observer.”
Welcome to The Soul Podcast. I’m Stacey Wheeler.
Today, I want to talk about the quiet power of knowing yourself—not just who you are, but how you move through the world, like a river learning its own currents. This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt they're swimming against the current of their life -or wondered why they react the way they do. This episode will help you live more fully as yourself. 

One spring afternoon, walking a river trail I felt a spark of joy chatting with a stranger about the the beauty of nature, but soon after, I craved the quiet of a sandy shore by a stream. Sitting there, I wondered: Was I outgoing to connect, or to be seen? Watching my heart’s tug between sociability and solitude, I saw a glimpse of my true self—not one or the other, but both, dancing together. Have you ever paused to ask, Why do I do what I do?
Self-knowing is like standing on a hill, watching the dance of your own heart. It’s learning whether you’re an introvert who cherishes solitude or an extrovert who thrives in connection—and whether those traits come from peace or from fear. In 1871, a wanderer named John Muir sat alone in California’s Yosemite Valley, a notebook in his lap, the granite cliffs towering above him. At 33, he was a misfit—a Scottish immigrant who’d left factory work and societal expectations to follow a wild calling. In the silence of the Sierra, he journaled his awe and doubts, asking himself why the mountains stirred his soul. He wrote, ‘The mountains are calling, and I must go.’ That act of listening to his deepest self—not the world’s demands—led him to champion wilderness, founding the Sierra Club and preserving millions of acres of American lands. More than a hundred years later I would hike the trails of the Yosemite back country at about the same age Muir was when he wrote those words. I would feel the same love for the wilderness and ponder the same questions -in a place saved by a man I'll never be able to thank. 

Muir’s self-knowing, blending quiet reflection with bold advocacy, inspired nations to protect their wild places. He wasn’t just saving forests; he was living his truth. Muir had self-knowing.
We all carry dualities. Are you an extrovert who lights up a room to mask a fear of being unseen, or one who connects because it feeds your spirit? Are you an introvert who hides from judgment, or one who finds peace in your own company? A 2020 study in Personality and Social Psychology Review found that self-awareness—observing your thoughts and reactions—strengthens emotional resilience and reduces anxiety. Knowing yourself is like tuning an instrument to play your true note. But how do you get there if you don't think you know yourself already? To know yourself, start small. Pause when you feel a rush of emotion—anger, joy, fear—and ask, What’s driving this? Is your extroversion a mask for insecurity, or a celebration of connection? Is your introversion a shield, or a sanctuary?
Here’s how to begin. 

First, create a space to reflect—a quiet corner, a journal, a walk where you can listen to yourself. I keep a notebook near where I usually meditate, scribbling thoughts when the world feels too loud. 

Second, practice mindfulness: sit for five minutes, notice your breath, and watch your mind without judgment. Apps like Insight Timer and Calm can guide you. 

Third, explore your fears, as C. JoyBell C. wrote: “Fear points you to what’s important.” 

If you avoid crowds, is it social anxiety or a love for solitude? Know yourself. If you seek them, is it joy or a need for approval? Know yourself. 

Finally, be patient. Self-knowing isn’t a destination; it’s a path. I’ve had moments when I felt like a stranger to myself, only to realize those moments were teaching me who I am. Perhaps it was a disconnect created by work turmoil, relationship questions, unresolved internal struggles. It can be anything. But knowing yourself allows you to recognize when things are off. It gives you the power to reset, shake off the funk, and get back to yourself.
Let’s pause together. Take a slow breath and picture a mirror, not of glass, but of light, reflecting the truth of you. What do you see? A heart that craves connection, or one that blooms in stillness? You don’t need to change who you are—just see it clearly. John Muir, scribbling under Yosemite’s stars, didn’t bend to the world’s expectations for him; he followed his own. Becoming a 'Naturalist' wasn't a career choice. It wasn't a job he chose to take; it was a path he chose to walk. It was a walk driven by self-knowing. And in that beautiful walk, he gave us wilderness that breathes still.
We all wonder, don’t we? Who are we beneath our habits, our fears, our masks? What if knowing yourself isn’t about finding answers, but about asking better questions? The beauty of this journey is that every glance inward lights a spark. Light a candle, take a breath, and look. The mirror of your soul is waiting, and its truth is yours to claim.