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Unmasking: What We Lose by Pretending and How to Get It Back

The Autistic Woman™

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Unmasking is an ongoing process of noticing when we’re performing, deciding what serves us, and making gradual adjustments, according to Essy Knopf therapist and author of “Unmasking: What We Lose by Pretending and How to Get It Back”. Essy shares his autism diagnosis at 25 and later recognition of ADHD, highlighting how masking and non-stereotypical presentations delayed identification. In this conversation Essy shares about:

  • Internalized ableism 
  • Conditional self-worth 
  • Burnout, and 
  • The difficulty of forming authentic connections while performing for acceptance. 

This episode offers a grounded discussion of identity, self-advocacy, and living more intentionally as a neurodivergent adult.

Book: Unmasking: What We Lose by Pretending and How to Get It Back 

Website: https://essyknopf.com

Check out Essy's YouTube channel 

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