Reflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne Hartnell

Living Together Apart - Who Am I When I'm Still Living With Who I Was?

Sallyanne Hartnell

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Living Together Apart — The Identity Episode


Living Together Apart is one of the hardest configurations of separation  and one of the least talked about when it comes to the inner experience.

The logistics? We've covered those. But the identity disorientation? The strange grief of proximity? The quiet way you starts to come back to yourself even in the in-between limbo that is living together apart. That's what this episode is about.

If you're thinking about it, or in this right now - still under the same roof, still surrounded by the life you're in the process of leaving - this one's for you.

We cover:

  • Why LTA is so psychologically disorienting (and why nobody talks about it)
  • The roles that don't drop away just because the relationship has ended
  • The specific grief of mourning someone who's still in the next room
  • The first flickers of coming home to yourself: the remembering and the becoming
  • Practical ways to hold your identity intact while you're still in the thick of it


Listen to past episodes about LTA
here and here

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