You’re Not Broken—You’re Becoming: What to Expect This Season

You're Not Broken - You're Becoming (Season 5 Trailer)

Welcome to a brand-new season of Coaching Your Family Relationships! In this kickoff episode, Tina shares a vulnerable personal story about spiraling after a difficult conversation with a loved one—and what it taught her about emotional resilience, identity, and the power of curiosity. You’ll learn what to expect this season, including expert guests and real conversations that go deeper than relationship “tips” and tackle the true root of family conflict: how you see yourself. 

If you’ve ever felt stuck in a pattern with your family… if you’ve been trying to “fix” the relationship without feeling any better… or if you’re exhausted from trying harder and getting nowhere—this season will meet you right where you are. 

In this episode, you'll hear: 

• A true story about spiraling after a tough family moment—and what helped Tina come out of it
• Why relationship change doesn’t start with the other person—it starts with you
• The most common stories your brain tells you in conflict (and how wrong they usually are)
• What’s coming this season: guests, topics, and transformational insights
• Why identity—not strategy—is the secret to healing your hardest relationships
• How to get support through Tina’s free 2-day event

Coming Soon!  Free 2-Day Event:

"End Family Disconnection and Rebuild Relationships That Last"
This live, immersive experience will give you tools, clarity, and hope to transform how you show up in your family—starting with YOU.
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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Transcript

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Hey there and welcome to a brand new season of coaching your family relationships. Now, I have to tell you, I am way excited about this season, so excited than I have been for any other season, not because it's, you know, glossier or flashier. This season is different because it's real, it's raw, and it's going to meet you in places that actually matter. The longer I do this podcast, and the longer I work with my private clients, the more I tune into what you need to hear. And so each season you probably notice that. You're probably noticing just more targeted episodes. So this season, some of the things that we're going to talk about are the hardest parts of being in a family, things like feeling like it's selfish if you're taking care of yourself or sitting down and resting, or if you're doing anything for yourself, how to handle family tension around LGBTQ plus and identity, the lies that your brain tells you to keep you stuck repeating ineffective relationship strategies. We're going to talk about grief and how it shows up in our relationships in very unexpected ways. And you know what we're going all the way through the holidays with this season, because you're going to see that we're going to do some holiday dynamics at the end, when we get into that later fall time frame, we're going to do some holiday dynamics that are leaving you feeling maybe anxious, maybe frustrated and maybe invisible, but we're going to do so much more than that. That's just a little teaser, but first I want to tell you a story. And so just a few weeks ago, I found myself in a conversation with someone that I really, really love. I mean, I dearly love this person, and this person shared something with me that was really, really hard for me to hear. It wasn't about me, it was about them. It was really hard for me to hear that. And even though I wanted to show up with compassion and curiosity and I wanted to push my own pause button, my brain did what human brains do. So that one short conversation sent me into a thought and emotion spiral that lasted for a few days. I could not find my own pause button. I jumped to conclusions. I heard a few facts, and my brain filled in the gaps between those facts with a story that I assumed was true. And after a couple days, I finally was able to slow down enough to realize what was happening. And I realized I didn't ask questions, I did not listen, I was not curious, so I went back and I revisited that conversation, and this time I listened, I asked questions and I listened, and you know, what I found out was that I was so completely wrong about so many things like I said, I had a handful of facts my brain had just filled them in and written what was there in between those facts and created a story and told me that that story was true and it was not true. Now here's what that experience reminded me of that I want to share with you. Number one, I am working on the same things that I teach you, and I always will be, because I'm human, and this is just what human brains do. I have a human brain that wants to keep me safe by making assumptions and jumping to conclusions. And so do you? You also have a human brain. Number two, when I spiraled, I did not just go to anybody to talk about it. I reached out to someone who I knew could help me stop the spiral, not feed the spiral. Now, most people, when you're in that type of situation, most people do not know how to help you stop the spiral. I needed someone who had the tools and that could hold the space without making it worse for me, most people do not have the tools and they don't know how to hold the space. They're going to dismiss you. They're going to judge you. They're going to leave you feeling more confused, or like push you further down that spiral. And maybe that's you right now. Maybe you're spiraling, or you have a recent spiral. Maybe you've talked, tried to talk to people who have met well, but they just ended up making you feel all those things you know, dismissed, judged and even more confused. So if that's happening to you, you. Are not alone. That's why having a coach who can walk with you that is on the outside of your life and not on the inside, can walk with you without judgment that is in valuable and that's what I do for my clients. So this season, I'm going to be joined by some amazing guests who are going to help you navigate through tough family dynamics with a lot more clarity and peace and self trust. How rare is self trust? Come on, we get into difficult situations and we try to make a decision, and we'd go and we pull the world right. We can't, we don't trust ourselves to make a good decision. But I want you to hear this. You know this podcast is not just about how to handle your relationships better, because you can Google that, and even now, you can ask chat GPT. I saw on the chat GPT page the other day that there's a therapy or a coach button that you can ask them and that you can have them be your therapist or your coach. You can do that now. You could also go talk to your best friend. But what I help people do, and what we're doing here in this podcast, is different, because a real change does not come from AI. It doesn't come from a list of strategies. It comes from true transformation. It comes from stepping into a new identity. So I want you to think about this. Your identity is who you think you are and who you think you are determines how you see things and how you interpret the things around you, and how you see yourself and talk to yourself, and then what you do from that your identity is everything, and you think it's fixed, but it's not all your identity is is a set of beliefs that you think are true about you, and you're probably wrong about a lot of them, especially if you don't see what an amazing, good, kind hearted person that you are, and if you're not seeing how wounded you also are at the same time. In my ninth grade English class, I walked in one day and I saw this written on the board, wherever you go, there you are. You carry yourself everywhere. You cannot escape your own thoughts and feelings. You can try to numb them. You can try to push them away. You can pretend like you don't have them, but they are still running the show that you call your life, and they're waving a big flag in every relationship that you have. So this show is about transformation, and this season is for you, if you are ready to become someone who knows your eternal, unshakable worth, not in your head, but in your body, deep down, in your body, and you no longer need other people to give it to you. You can become someone who can listen to your body and your emotions and knows when to step back and take care of yourself. You can become a person who responds with maturity instead of reacting from your anxious primitive brain, because that primitive brain is not mature. It is a very young and It's concerned with your survival, not your thriving. So we don't want to act from our anxious primitive brain if you're ready to become someone who builds strong, strong relationships from the ground up, because you know who you are and what you value, and a person who's willing to stay in the relationship, even when you don't see that change right away, because you're not chasing quick fixes, you're in it for the long haul, for the real healing. That's the kind of transformation that changes generations, and that's what this podcast is about. So if this is what you want, then make sure you're following this show. Set your app to download new episodes automatically, because you do not want to miss what's coming. And if you're ready, really ready to dive in, I'm going to be hosting a free two day event. It's a virtual it's later this later in July, and it's called end family disconnection and rebuild relationships that last this is not a surface level workshop. It is immersive. It's going to be an experience where I teach you some of the same tools and frameworks that I use with my clients. You'll walk away knowing how to stay grounded and connected to yourself even in the middle of some family conflict, you're going to know why your reactions are making perfect sense, and how you can start to shift them, and how to move from survival mode to connection mode, and why you can be the one to create change even if no one else is changing, you can you. You can hold on to yourself, and you can be the one that keeps there, keeps on going. So registration is not open yet. You can't register for this yet, but it's going to be open very soon. So stay tuned. You're not going to want to miss this event. Seats are very limited, and I would love to have you there. So this season is going to be full of truth, laughter, depth, healing. And I want you to know you're not behind. You're not broken. You are just becoming and I'm so glad to be here with you through all of it.