HAPPINESS AND ENTREPRENEURSHIP PT 3: BOMB PROOFING YOUR HAPPINESS

Are you happy? Truly happy? Do you find happiness from your work or ambitions only to lack it in other areas of life or do you feel fulfilled in all aspects of life? Does your self worth and happiness fluctuate with your endeavors? Is your relationship often hindered by your work? Are you healthy enough in all aspects to enjoy what you are working so hard to attain? And mostly, ARE YOU HAPPY THROUGHOUT THE PROCESS NOW?

LIFE HAPPINESS is actually essential for succeeding in business and goals!



In this four part series Coach Britt interviews Henrik Nordenstedt. Henrik has spent the last decade helping tens of thousands of driven men, women and teens set up their emotional world to generate exponential results. He does not teach theory. True to his engineering background he only has interest in what works.

He is an international speaker, coach and trainer who has trained with masters in the field of personal development, NLP, international business and personal transformation for more than 15 years. Including some 6000+ hours in a LIVE room with Tony Robbins...

He is the founder of 'The Exponential Life' that help people set up the environment that will automate REAL WORLD results for real people with real challenges.

When he is not training at international events, he can usually be found traveling the world, playing beachvolley, coaching high-performing people to not only get bigger results but feel more alive.

To connect with Henrik or apply for a personal mapping session, apply directly: https://www.instagram.com/henriknordenstedt/

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

What if every experience, every hardship, every obstacle was given to you, not to break you, but to mold you and strengthen you? What if the center of your suffering was actually the key to ultimate health? And what if your own pain was meant to be the catalyst for your greatest purpose? Welcome to Buddha Belly Life, empowering purpose, mind to microbiome. That brings me to this great question. So here's something that I... And I think about it a lot. And I... I think most all of us have struggled with this. But our identity, our identity, our self esteem, our value, all that stuff, being tied to what we do for a living to the success, especially if you've tasted success, like, it's one thing to start something out, you know, I think a lot of new entrepreneurs, like our new coaches and stuff, they like, you know, they don't have the confidence yet, you know, some of them do, but they're, they haven't done it yet. They haven't and like hit their first gold nugget. But once you do, like once you sell the first thing you ever sell or you, you know, the first hit you ever, the first dollar you ever make. Yeah, it's the best. Oh, it's cool.

SPEAKER_01 1:18

It's all working and now I'm free. I

SPEAKER_00 1:21

know. And it's, yeah, it's like hard and fast because it makes it reality instead of like believing it could happen and trying to believe. Now all of a sudden you've tasted it and you're like, there's There's no doubt for that now. So it's like, it's so explosive. And so it's hard. I know for myself, I said for a long time, I was like, man, my days in my life will ride this roller coaster that is my business. And I can't do that. I can't just spike all the time because what I do is like very spiky. Like I do real big, intense stuff or I'm kind of laying low and working with family and things like that. But I can't, you know, and my like having babies and stuff, like when I had babies and I think a lot of moms go through this, but that identity piece of like, what am I doing? Or if I'm not able to put into my business or do my stuff as much, or same with men, like your business starts going, you know, downhill or something. It's like how much I've seen people and myself included, their self-esteem, their value, their identity, so much of their life starts going in the dumpster because of what their business is doing.

UNKNOWN 2:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 2:33

And

SPEAKER_00 2:33

like dangerous, right?

SPEAKER_01 2:36

Yeah. Well, it's, you know, like in my world, I just, I call it like my background is in risk management. So the terminology I would use is like, it's very vulnerable. Like if it's, you know, and it's so prevalent, I think that everybody has it to some extent. Like they start a business, it's their baby. If their baby is doing well, they're happy. If their baby is not doing well, they're not happy. But where it gets a little bit vulnerable is that if your happiness is dependent on what the politicians are doing or the economy is doing or whether someone signed up, like signed a big contract or not, then your life is basically not in your hands anymore. It gets to be this everlasting rollercoaster. I call it the entrepreneurial rat race, which is like you go to work, you work your ass off. And even though you do that, you can't tell which days are going to be good and which days are not. And one of the questions that I ask sometimes that is a little bit pointy, it's a little bit gnarly sometimes to ask people. I need to have a little bit of rapport to ask it. But if I took away your business overnight, who are you? And people get really stressed. Like that's my vocation. That's my interest. That's my time. That's, you know, but like I would be asking some questions, be like, you know, like what would be left there? Like, are you a great dad? Are you healthy? Are you a great friend? Are you happy? Are you a happy soul? Do you inspire that? Yeah, are you happy? And the more things I say, I see people just like...

SPEAKER_00 4:16

It's

SPEAKER_01 4:18

basically like they're successful in business, but they realize that without the business... Let's just be clear. I'm not saying this to have people get down on themselves and feel bad, but to realize that there's... sides to their life than just their business that really matters to them. And it's really like you're not a bad person for one to succeed in business and putting a lot of the eggs in that basket. But it's a different game, I feel, when you can be sort of happy no matter what happens with the business. And then the business is an incredibly fun game to play that you excel at, that you're good at.

UNKNOWN 5:02

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 5:02

But you're still coming home to your family, which more often than not are smiling, right? And sometimes there's a gremlin there. But if there's a gremlin there, you can handle it because you have that capacity. Like the energy is there. So sometimes you'll be, you know, shit and your wife will carry you, right? And sometimes you will be a gremlin and then you get to take the helm a little bit. And that way you can help each other.

UNKNOWN 5:30

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01 5:30

But when you have the platform like that and you've designed a happy life, which really what most entrepreneurs, the reason they started out their business was for freedom and happiness and choice. I just want the entrepreneurs to feel the freedom, the happiness, and the choice that comes from designing your own life.

SPEAKER_00 5:52

Do you have a desire for fulfillment? Does helping people tap into their own health mentally, emotionally, and physically fire you up? Do you believe in the impact of the gut micro And what you're doing is you're actually, you're not just helping people with their life happiness. What you're doing is you're bomb-proofing them, helping them bomb-proof themselves for entrepreneurship. Because business is a game. I remember, so Henrik and I, I didn't mention this part, but we met at a Tony Robbins event. So he was there working, doing all his cool stuff. And I was like awestruck because I made this dream of mine happen as a single mom. I always talk about that. I mean, it was like, it was a bucket list moment in my life. It was the coolest. Yeah, I remember

SPEAKER_01 6:45

that.

SPEAKER_00 6:46

Five days of, yeah, it was just like amazing. Traveled by myself, you know, got someone to watch my kids. It was just huge. So happy to be

SPEAKER_01 6:54

highlighting your life, Britt.

SPEAKER_00 6:55

Yes, exactly. I was lost when I got there, actually, like literally lost. And I didn't know where I was going. And apparently it was obvious because he's like, can I help you? I was just like, oh my gosh, it's amazing. But one of the things he talked about was he said, what was it? He said something really poignant about the life and the foundation stuff, you know, because we attach so much to our businesses and everything, then everything else falls apart. And what you're helping people do is you're helping them really understand bomb-proof business because he says it's not, I think he was referring to when you get sued or getting sued. He said it's not if you get sued, it's when you get sued. Yeah, of course. It's like the term, it takes hundreds to make thousands and thousands to make millions and millions to, or you lose hundreds to make thousands. You lose thousands to make, you know, to make millions. You lose millions to make billions. It's a game. And what you're saying is that if, and what I agree with you, if our identity and stuff and too much of our happy Yeah. Yeah. Instead of realizing, no, this is an anticipated and necessary event and it's going to happen many, many, many more times.

SPEAKER_01 8:33

Yeah, but isn't that true? Like when there's a situation, are you in a place where you can act or are you like freezing up or in denial or something else? Like there's, yeah, it's such a game changer for sure.

SPEAKER_00 8:47

And if you're dependent on it being good, then you don't have the resiliency, like you say, for when it's not. So how can you perform? Perform the best and do what you got to do and stay clear headed in business. If you're so tied, you know, your self-esteem is riding that roller coaster that's inevitably going to happen.

SPEAKER_01 9:06

Yeah. So you bring up a really important point. And this is like some of the deeper work we do in terms of business. Like now we're leaving happiness just a little bit. But when your identity is tied in with your business and your feelings of happiness is tied to the business, sometimes you don't want to see the flaws in the business because that will make you feel bad yeah that would mean that you're not so successful or that you didn't do it right or something else yet for the business that's a big freaking hole like you need to be aware of the flaws so you can fix them right and what i'm saying again where i'm coming from i just want to figure out something that really works with people right i don't care for the right or the wrong but what i'm what i'm seeing sometimes when people invest a lot of their happiness in their business is is that when people point out some of the mistakes, they're not as open to hear it because that would mean they didn't, like, they're not good enough, basically,

SPEAKER_00 10:08

right? It's personal. Isn't that such a common thing? I see it in a lot of people, too. You have to be able to separate your own value and worth from what you're looking at. And look at it like a chess game, like a game, like strategy. and be able to admit where you're strong and where you're weak. Like for me, writing and using words is a strength. I spell like a toddler with, like other toddlers will spell better than me. And I just know that. I can't be embarrassed by it. I mean, I try and get better. Your toddler

SPEAKER_01 10:42

friends?

SPEAKER_00 10:43

Yes, like my kids. Like they're coming home with spelling tests and I'm like, oh dang, like I would have gotten a worse grade on that than they did. And yet I can write these books and I, you know, but like I just know. The kids'

SPEAKER_01 10:54

teachers are like, oh, like, did your kids write this? You'd be like,

SPEAKER_00 10:57

no. Yeah. I'm like, oh, they're like, we know that you, you, uh, you faked the sick note from your mom because clearly the spelling is so bad. I'll be like, uh, I'll talk to them about that. But yeah, it's like, I have to know where I'm weak and I've learned over time that it's cool to be able to do that because, um, I bring in the people or seek out the resources to make those areas strong. And then my business machine or what whatever I'm creating is better for it. It's better because I could humble myself down and analyze as opposed to internalize.

SPEAKER_01 11:33

Right. But that also means because you're, again, you're playing the game. If you have the same thing of like, oh, my business is a flaw, that means that I'm flawed. That feeling starts off fun, right? But I think it's a huge strength. And I think it's, I don't want to go into like impossible land. It's not a word I use a lot. But if you created a business and there's something wrong with it, like, Like, yeah, you care. Obviously you care, right? There's some connection there. But the tag question sometimes is be like, oh, that sucks. And be like, but is it true? It's like,

SPEAKER_00 12:04

yes.

SPEAKER_01 12:05

Yes, it is, right? And then now you can act. And also once you have a perspective where that is okay, meaning that right now, it's not that I made a mistake and I suck. It's like right now I figured out something important and I'm fixing it or I'm making it better or I'm creating this amazing structure that's going to stand for, you know, eternity or whatever then that could be a really good thing the act of finding holes in your ship so to speak can be carry with it some really great feelings

SPEAKER_00 12:39

rewarding yeah it's like we want to feel accomplished you know sometimes you feel accomplished because we we can see some things and we dig into something and we get you know we grow from something it proves to ourselves that we are stronger we are you know we're stronger or we're more confident than we thought we were because we were able to do that kind of like saying sorry right like it can sometimes it can be so hard to say sorry I it's hard for me like I don't I don't get tested with it very much it's hard for me in my intimate relationships you know and things and I'm such an analyzer and it can be so hard and but when you do practice it a little bit as uncomfortable as it is you're kind of you're proud you want to be the person that can say sorry you don't want to be a person that can't say sorry. You don't want to be the person that can't look and make the flaws in your business so therefore you never achieve the level of success you could have because you were too darn caught up in you know making it personal.

SPEAKER_01 13:39

Yeah. That's one of the like things I love the most about like what I get to do which is really I get to bring out the best sides in people and make them better and take out some of the sides like the bad sides in someone is usually not them. You know it's something like learned behaviors and other stuff that had a function once upon a time. It's just been carrying for a long time. And I get to work with people like this. And I mentioned one tip for the ladies earlier with relationships. I'll mention one for men. And I think for entrepreneurs out there, they maybe even have a higher frequency of this. So here it goes. So this is for the men out there. Sometimes for a man, you really don't want say you're sorry, like men are very tied into what's right and them being right sometimes and they're proud and stubborn and all these sort of things. Now, ladies, I don't know. I know you don't believe this about men, but sometimes men are stubborn and they're proud. Okay. And so what can happen sometimes is that men believe that if they say they're sorry, that means that they have done something wrong. And if you're a woman, you're not going to be like, yeah, that's because he does. Just listen here. Women, sometimes, is it important for you, for him to feel bad about having done it wrong? Or is it more important for him to say that he's sorry and I'm sorry that he hurts you or that he, you know, didn't listen. Like a lot of times men think that it's important to like, you know, fix the situation where a lot of time for women, it's not important at all.

SPEAKER_00 15:24

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