Come with me, Kristi Ballard Falany, and let's talk about how taking care of yourself and growing as a person can make a big difference. This is especially important if you're a woman going through an important time in your life. We'll look at the things that keep us stuck and just getting by, and I'll share ways to break free and do well. I'll teach you about the "be, do, have" idea so you can start moving towards the life you really want, finding happiness from inside yourself instead of relying on the world.
During our time together, we'll also talk about how to take care of your inner self and the bravery it takes to let go of relationships that make you feel bad. I'll help you understand the value of spending time alone and how discovering more about yourself can lead to a happy and abundant life. For those who are spiritual, I'll mention the comfort of feeling the Holy Spirit with you. And don't forget to check out the quiz on my website – it's made just for you to help you find the amazing woman you were always meant to be. Come join me for a session that's all about respecting who you really are and stepping into a life of being true to yourself and feeling really happy.
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Kristi:
Hi, I am Kristy Ballard Fellini. I am a certified life coach who found herself at 42, freshly divorced kids off to college and having never dated in my adult life. I was starting in the middle. If you haven't yet hit, start on your middle time in life, let's do it together. Let the journey begin.
Speaker 2:
Hello, hello, my friends, hey, if I sound a bit raspy right now, it's because it's five in the morning and I've actually been awake since three. And here's what happens is that I get these ideas that pop into my head and they nag at me and nag at me until I do something about it. And so that is exactly how this amazing podcast is coming to you today, because I have been seeing some patterns within my clients, and I want to share with you some of those patterns, because I would be willing to bet that they are also very similar to patterns that you exist by. So, if we have not been properly introduced, I am Kristy Fellini and I am a certified life coach and I help women stop just existing in their lives. I help women who feel stuck in a season in their lives and I help them to believe new things about themselves, to help them get unstuck, to help them move towards the future that they want for themselves. All right, so I'm going to start this episode with some tough love, okay, but, like I said, it is said out of love. And, again, this podcast episode is based off of patterns that I have been seeing lately within the clients that I am serving.
Speaker 2:
And so, ladies, I want to tell you that you have got to start taking responsibility for the care for yourself. I mean, we, as women, have got to start taking responsibility for our inner being, for our inner peace, for how we want to feel about the person that we are in the world. Now, I know that this is going to sound a bit dramatic, but when we are not taking care of our inner being, I almost want to equate it as like a slow death inside, because this is exactly what causes us to feel stuck, to feel like we are just existing in our lives, to feel like we are just every day going through the motions of the day and just making it through the day and laying our heads on the pillow, feeling like, okay, I made it through another day. And so my call to action for you is to start taking care of your own inner peace and actually becoming the person that you were truly meant to be at this point, because you are not meant to be someone who is just existing. And so part of that is when we stop making other people's decisions mean something about us, when we stop making what other people do and how other people show up in their lives mean something about us, mean that we are not likeable, mean that our feelings don't matter, mean that we are not worthy, that we are less than and I know that sometimes it feels hard to not make other people's actions mean something about us, especially when our own identity is based on who we believe that we are either to them or for them and moms, you will identify with this. When our kids don't show up the way that we would like for them to do, or when our kids don't treat us the way that we would like for them to, we make it mean something about us when truly, it is actually all about them.
Speaker 2:
And part of the reason that I had you shift your thinking in the leveling up 2024 workshop is because I want you to start believing things that are possible for you. I want you to start believing new things about who you were meant to be during this season of your life, and this is exactly why it is so important to start taking care of your own inner needs Now. The biggest patterns that I have been seeing lately from the women that I am coaching is the desire to be needed, the desire to be free from shame and guilt of the past, of how we showed up in our past, the desire to be free from relationships that are no longer working for us, the desire to demand more joy out of life versus the heaviness that constant fear of the future creates within our bodies. So all of these things have been weighing heavily on us for some time, and what's actually happening is that it is robbing us of our health and it is robbing us of our own inner spirit for the life that we want to lead, and so you've got to be the one who actually fulfills your own needs, you see, because God and your faith should be the catalyst for how we are showing up during this season of our lives, and the thing about it is that he already believes in you. He has equipped you with all that you need to be whole. You just have to be the one to believe what it is that he says about you.
Speaker 2:
Now, I know we have all been through the human condition of what has happened to us and what we were modeled and taught as we were growing up, and I just want you to remember that the things that we were modeled and taught were based off of human experiences, and one of the biggest patterns that I see in women is that we want to please other people. We have been so consumed with what other people think about us that it fogs what we think about ourselves, and the truth of the matter is that when we were being brought up, this is the exact thing that we were modeled from our own parents, when that everything needed to look good from the outside, when no one was really privy to what was going in on the inside, and this is the exact behavior that has taught us how to hide and how to not feel safe in fully sharing who we are, even though those stories are no longer what our life truly is, even though we are no longer living in that manner, and so I want to encourage you today to take small steps towards who it is that you want to be. In my level up twenty twenty four workshop, I talked briefly on the be do have principle, and so my message today is that I want you to be someone who believes that she is a wonderfully kind, loving person, that it's okay when someone disappoints you because you have your back. It's not about you, it is all about them. So take the pressure off of yourself and making it mean something about you. Be someone who protects her own inner peace versus someone who says yes to things when it is actually not protecting her inner peace.
Speaker 2:
Out of feelings of obligation, okay, and this is going to mean that you may have to shed some relationships. Okay, you may have to let go of some people along the way. You may have to start letting them Figure themselves out, and you may have to start letting them figure things out for themselves. Protecting your own inner peace, main, look like allowing the other people to step up to the plate and be the person that they were meant to be. You have got to get comfortable with being by yourself. You have to get comfortable with creating a relationship with yourself. You have to get comfortable with creating new ideas, new things for yourself, in order to be able to create a life of joy and abundance.
Speaker 2:
Right, and again, if you are a believer, then believing in the truth that, with the Holy Spirit, you truly never are alone. So, y'all, now is the time to start taking care of yourself and creating a life for yourself that fills, fulfilled and rich in abundance. Otherwise, you are going to just continue to exist in your life. You're never going to break free of the pattern of looking to others to validate you, to validate your worth, you're never going to know what it feels like to truly be you and all that God has intended for you to be on the inside. So I hope that this podcast gets you fired up about wanting more for your life. I hope it's an affirmation that taking care of your inner well-being is so, so important and it is not at all selfish. I hope that it sparks the realization that it's never too late to rediscover the woman that you were meant to be during this season of your life.
Speaker 2:
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Kristi:
Who is your life coach? I would love the opportunity to work with you as you are rediscovering the woman you were meant to be. Visit christiebalardfulaneycom for more information on how we can work together to ignite that passionate, enthusiastic woman who may have been tucked away for some time. Let's start in the middle together.