This is a true story about a big moment in my life where I had to make a tough decision. It's about how we sometimes hold back when we're right on the edge of something we really want, and how we wrestle with ourselves about what to do, like whether to get baptized again.
I'm here as someone who helps people through life's challenges, and I want to tell you my story to inspire you. I want you to pay attention to those feelings deep down inside you that tell you what you really want, and I want to encourage you to go for it without doubting yourself.
This talk is especially for women who feel like they're at a turning point in their lives. I want you to imagine a life where you're not held back by doubts, but instead, you're full of happiness, courage, and lots of joy. Whether you've been following along with us for a while or you're new here, I want to encourage you to have faith in yourself, go after what you want, and be brave enough to take the opportunities life gives you.
Come join us as we celebrate what can happen when we trust ourselves and embrace everything life has to offer.
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This is a true story about a big moment in my life where I had to make a tough decision. It's about how we sometimes hold back when we're right on the edge of something we really want, and how we wrestle with ourselves about what to do, like whether to get baptized again.
I'm here as someone who helps people through life's challenges, and I want to tell you my story to inspire you. I want you to pay attention to those feelings deep down inside you that tell you what you really want, and I want to encourage you to go for it without doubting yourself.
This talk is especially for women who feel like they're at a turning point in their lives. I want you to imagine a life where you're not held back by doubts, but instead, you're full of happiness, courage, and lots of joy. Whether you've been following along with us for a while or you're new here, I want to encourage you to have faith in yourself, go after what you want, and be brave enough to take the opportunities life gives you.
Come join us as we celebrate what can happen when we trust ourselves and embrace everything life has to offer.
Email me @ Kristi@kristifalanycoaching.com
Website Kristi Falany Coaching.com
Connect:
Facebook
LinkedIn
Instagram
Thanks for listening. Follow me in Facebook and Instagram.
Hi, I am Kristy Ballard Fellini. I am a certified life coach who found herself at 42, freshly divorced kids off to college and having never dated in my adult life, I was starting in the middle. If you haven't yet hit, start on your middle time in life, let's do it together. Let the journey begin. Hello, hello, my friends, I hope that you're having an awesome day today and I just want to tell you thank you so much for tuning into the podcast this week. I really think that the topic for this week really does go hand in hand with last week and it really doesn't matter which order you listen to them in. So if you are just now finding this podcast and this is the first time that you are connecting with me don't feel like you have to go back and listen to last week's podcast to get what you want, to get what you need to out of this episode, but I do encourage you to go back and listen to it. So, again, there's not any specific order that you need to encounter either of these topics and if this is the first time that we are meeting, let me introduce myself. My name is Kristi Fellini and I am a certified life coach. It is my mission to help every woman over 50 stop just existing in her life, stop just taking things at face value, stop just doing a same old, same old and stop not creating the things that they want, the things that they desire in their life. It seems like we get to a certain point in our life when we stop realizing that, yes, we can still have desires, we can still create new things for ourselves. And so this week, the question that I want to pose to you is what might it look like if you never hesitated, like, I mean, if you heard a little nudge or a little tingling, a feeling in your body, a desire, if you will come up and you didn't second guess it, you didn't question it, you just obeyed? What would it look like if you didn't hesitate? Would you be more fulfilled? Would you be braver? Would life feel more full of joy in abundance? The reason that I'm asking you this question is because I think that it would Okay. So hesitation, what is hesitation? Hesitation means that we pause, that we stop, that something pops into our head, a desire, an idea of something that we want to do, something that we want to create, and we hesitate. So let me share with you a story A couple of weeks ago, when I was in church on a Sunday morning, it was the time for the altar call.
Speaker 1:Okay, you know the call at the. At that time at the end of service, when you feel like, okay, service is almost ending and they do an altar call, they open up the altar for people who want prayer, for people who need some additional guidance At our specific church, people who want to be baptized. And so when the altar call happened and the pastor mentioned again the idea, the possibility of is there anyone out there who needs to be baptized, I immediately felt a nudge in my stomach. I felt a pulling in my stomach of the desire to be baptized. Now I'm going to tell you that I had all kinds of stories around being re-baptized. You see, I was first baptized back in my 20s, when I was going through some changes in my life, when I was going through some desires of how I wanted to create my life in a different way through my relationship with Christ. And so I took the next step and I was baptized. Okay, and again, if you've been following me for any number of years, any time, you probably know that I am in my 50s, I'm 51. I turned 51 back in October, so I'm in my 50s, all right.
Speaker 1:So it's been several years since I got baptized, and so all this time I've just been telling myself, you know, anytime there has been an altar or a nudging, an idea of being re-baptized, my thought was we've already been baptized, okay, do I need to do it again? Well, this particular day, there was a nudging inside me, a pulling, calling me to be baptized, and so all of the reasons why I didn't need to, or I shouldn't want to, started to pop up into my brain. The first one was are people going to think that I'm not baptized? Okay, so already I'm fearing judgment of others. The other thing was well, but you aren't prepared. You didn't bring a change of clothes. You can do it next week, right? So I'm trying to negotiate with myself as to why I didn't need to be baptized that day. But the pulling, the nudging, was still there, right? That persistence inside your body telling you, calling you to go, was still there, and so I finally said okay, let's do it. And so I stepped out into the aisle and hesitation pulled me back to my seat, like for real. I had my feet out in the aisle, and I had that second guessing, I had that hesitation, so I came back to my seat, okay, and then again all of the different thoughts started to come up, and the last one, the last thought, was what if you just obey? And at that point that, what if you just obey had my feet moving, pushed me forward, had me out in the aisle, but not only out in the aisle but also up to the altar, and from there all of the motions went into place and I was rebaptized.
Speaker 1:And so I wanna talk to you today about why we hesitate. You know, when we have an idea pop up and something comes to mind that we wanna create something that we desire for ourselves, why do we hesitate? I know, for me, often it looks like fear, and when I am operating out of fear, I'm thinking fearful thoughts, like fear of making a mistake, fear that I don't have all of the information, fear that I'm not equipped, fear of what others might think. So fear, I believe, is the number one reason as to why we hesitate, why we have that stutter step before we move all in. And so what do you do to try to alleviate fear? Here are some of the things that we do that we think are gonna be helpful.
Speaker 1:Okay, when we're trying to eliminate fear, some of the things that we do that we think are going to be helpful, let me just think about it. Yeah, that sentence, let me just think about it. But what we're actually doing when we just think about it is that we are prolonging the pain. Because you know what it feels like when you have that nudge of something. You have that persistence in your body, right, and you choose not to act on it in the moment, you choose to hesitate. It shows up as a little bit of pain, right. And when we say, let me just think about it, we are actually prolonging the pain.
Speaker 1:Because I guarantee you, if I had just walked out of that church and I had not honored that nudging, I would have created additional pain for myself. I would have walked out and I would have been second guessing as to why I didn't follow through. I would be second guessing as to what is it that I'm missing out on by not following through. I would be missing out on what it was that in the moment I was actually desiring for myself, which was the desire for recommitment and the desire for more connection In my relationship with Christ. I would have thought about it the entire way home. It would have started to build up some anguish in myself, for not just trusting and following through my mind would have created all of this mental drama, and all of that mental drama would have taken me further and further away from what I truly wanted to feel in that moment, which was excitement, which was possibility, which was anticipation and joy.
Speaker 1:And so I ask you, where in your life are you hesitating Like? What ideas are you putting on hold until you have better answers or more information? What circumstances in your life are you overthinking to death and not just moving forward in the knowledge that you truly have all of the answers inside of you? If you would just listen to your inner intuition, to your inner wisdom, to those inner nudgings that are actually there because you know you want more out of your life. That's why those nudges pop up, because we know we want more, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting more from your life. And so I encourage you, when you feel yourself hesitating, get more curious as to why it is that you're hesitating. Ask yourself why am I second guessing on what it is that I truly desire? Ask yourself why do I need more information when I know to my core that this is something that I want for myself?
Speaker 1:So if this is something that you struggle with, if you find yourself continuously hesitating on creating what it is that you want in your life, my biggest suggestion is to find accountability, and this is exactly what I offer my clients inside my coaching program. Inside my coaching program, we talk about the desires that we want for our lives. We talk about how we want to create more joy, more abundance in our lives, and we talk about the things that are holding us back, including hesitation. I help my clients to see things from a different lens, to create new perspective around the hesitations that are keeping the things that they truly want for themselves at arm's length. And I want to do this for you, too, because if there are ideas that are popping up in your head that could be creating more joy, more abundance, more fulfillment for your life, I want to help you to find that and actually give you the tools that you need to stop seeing it as that's not for me and making it absolutely possible for your life. So I encourage you.
Speaker 1:I have a free rediscover me call. It's all about discovering who it is that you were meant to be during this time in your life. You've gone through your 20s of discovering who you were supposed to be at that point You've done all of the things that you thought you were supposed to to get you to happiness at this point in your life and maybe there's some hesitation. I want to help you break through that hesitation and truly create the life that you want to live. So reach out to me at christyfulanicoachingcom. You can also email me at christy at christyfulanicoachingcom. Comment with rediscover me and I will send you my calendar link. Again, this call is of no obligation. It is an eye-opening experience for you to see what is possible.
Speaker 1:Again, it's christiefilaneycoachingcom and you guys, do not let hesitation become your default. Do not let hesitation keep you from becoming who you were meant to be at this point in your life. Y'all, if this episode resonates with you, I would love to have that one-on-one connection with you. Also, if you see hesitation holding someone else back in their lives and you think that this message would benefit them, please share this message out with your girlfriends who need an encouraging word. Share this message out with anyone who you think is hesitating on the joy, on the abundance on the fulfillment that they could actually be experiencing in their lives. Also, please do me a favor and go back to the show notes and leave me a five-star rating. Getting this information out to as many women as possible can only happen through that five-star rating. I hope that you have an amazing week planned ahead of you, and I hope that you are not allowing hesitation to hold you back from the life that you want. So have a great week and I look forward to connecting to you soon.