High Level Wife Podcast with Chelsey Holm

When My Behavior Looked Right… But My Heart Was Wrong

Chelsey Holm Season 2 Episode 57

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Heart Posture Mini Series, Ep 4

You can be doing all the “right things” in your marriage… and still have the wrong heart posture.

In Episode 4 of The Heart Posture Series, Chelsey shares a personal story about a season in her marriage when her behavior looked obedient on the outside—but internally her heart was still trying to control the outcome.

Through this honest reflection, you’ll see how subtle pride, frustration, and control can hide behind spiritual language and “good behavior.”

Real transformation didn’t begin when the behavior changed.

It began when the heart posture shifted.

In this episode you’ll learn:

  • How behavior can appear righteous while the heart remains misaligned
  • Why trying to fix your husband creates deeper tension in marriage
  • The difference between surrendering to God and trying to manage the outcome
  • How God uses marriage to refine and humble our hearts
  • Why true peace begins when you release control and trust God with the process

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I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God’s design in marriage, motherhood, and life."

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If this episode stirred something deeper and you’re ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

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2x certified Coach (John Maxwell Leadership, Kristen Boss SSLS)
10+ years coaching experience
NASM-certified in Personal Training and Nutrition
Mom of 5, Army wife 16 years

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