Overcoming Burnout and Mastering the Art of Manifestation

Can you imagine overcoming a soul-shattering burnout and emerging with a new zest for life? Connie Stark returns to our podcast to share her transformative journey of healing and personal growth, recounting how she conquered the burnout that once seemed debilitating. As we wrap up 2024, we both reflect on the year’s milestones—Connie in her newfound self-awareness and myself in a year filled with hard work and achievements. Together, we set intentions for 2025, focusing on bringing more fun and balance into our lives. Join us as we explore the art of manifestation, highlighting effective techniques rooted in aligning desires with authenticity and clarity.

Venture into the fascinating world of manifestation with us as we discuss the power of emotional detachment in realizing dreams. Whether it’s through unexpected paths like training in Theta healing or effortlessly finding a dream house, the key lies in maintaining a light, non-attached mindset while genuinely celebrating others' successes. We also tackle the ethical dimensions of manifesting specific people, underscoring the importance of respecting others' life paths. By focusing on authenticity and openness, we aim to guide you towards manifesting a future that resonates with your true self.

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Chapters

• 2:30 Manifesting and Reflecting on 2024
• 17:20 Manifestation Methods and Emotional Detachment

Transcript

Speaker 1: 2:30

so welcome everybody to a another episode of barn to the soul, and today I'm joined by connie stark, who is been on the podcast before. So welcome back, connie. Thank you for joining me on new year's eve thank you for having me.

Speaker 2: 2:48

Thank you so really excited, yeah.

Speaker 1: 2:52

So we thought we would just wish everybody a happy new year and talk about what everybody talks about new year's eve and going into a new year, about how we're going to manifest, how we're going to change things. But before we do that, how was your 2024, connie? When you look back on it, what will 2024 mean to you?

Speaker 2: 3:20

okay. If I had to use one word, I would say breakthrough excellent. I think 2024 for me is an unforgettable year, good reason I had so many breakthroughs and people who know me, including yourself. I had burnout in 2019. And it wasn't just burnout, it was soul shattering. And it wasn't just burnout, it was soul shattering. So my soul basically just fell into a million pieces, spiritually speaking. The soul kind of left my body really, and there was just the body and hanging on to a very, very thread, right, yeah so. And then my journey started. But you know the ego is very strong and, um, to let go of the old.

Speaker 2: 4:28

But it wasn't just a matter of letting go, it was a matter of understanding it all yeah and it took me quite a few years to understand everything, and in 2024 I was able to put the pieces back together, but in the right places this time yeah, yeah. So I'm very happy and very grateful for this journey. It was a very deep journey and through that I discovered I am a very deep person myself, so anything fleeting is not for me.

Speaker 1: 5:09

No, so really a very healing year for you.

Speaker 1: 5:12

Very, very healing year for you, very, very healing and a full circle, really coming to a full circle of healing yeah, yeah yeah, I think for me, 2024, um, I did accomplish a lot, but I do think for me it was quite a hard slog. I think that's how I think that's how I will remember 2024. It was hard, you know, just working very hard to the point that when I had my first break in July, I was literally exhausted. So it was quite a. I think it's been quite. It's been a tough year, um, there's been highs, of course my book and the podcast, but it has been.

Speaker 1: 6:02

I think I will think of 2024 as quite hard work. That's for me. So one of my intentions setting 2025 is a bit more fun in 2025. I'm all for working hard, but you can't to the point of exhaustion. You've got to, um, you've got to have a. You've got to have a bit of fun as well, haven't you? So I think 2025 for me, it's going to be a bit more sociable, bit more fun, interspersed into that working hard, yeah, I get you, I get you fully.

Speaker 2: 6:42

And when it comes to fun, yeah, I mean I said earlier, nothing fleeting is really for me. Well, of course you know there is fun, and, yes, that is for me too. Of course you know that is fun, and, yes, that is for me too. Of course you know it doesn't have to be meaningful, but it depends on the area of life we're talking about.

Speaker 1: 7:18

So there are certain fun activities we can probably think of well, that's just fleeting and fleeting it's. So we've got to be very specific when we're asking for fun.

Speaker 2: 7:25

Maybe I need to like be a bit more specific about yes yes, because I'm talking about yeah, because it could be misconstrued, unfortunately but that we're also going to talk about, aren't?

Speaker 1: 7:39

we are what we have found most effective for us when manifesting, not what we're gonna, not particularly about what we're going to try and manifest for 20 or what we are going to manifest for 2025, but some of the techniques, and one of them I think we've just touched on there that you have to be quite specific about what you're asking for, because if you're vague, then the universe puts its own spin on it. Maybe, yeah, perhaps not what you were thinking, and absolutely but what they have taken your request to mean.

Speaker 1: 8:18

So you have to be very specific.

Speaker 2: 8:21

I think, yes, you have to be, you have to be specific, and I always say I don't talk about my own manifestations because subconsciously you don't know what other people's energies will do to that. Yeah, um, so they might say, oh, that's great, and I hope you get it. And there we have it already. I hope, yeah. Now the minute you say I hope it stays in the hope. Yeah, because if you imagine the words like a binary code, when we send messages from computer to computer, so those messages get translated into a binary code which is just full of zeros and ones and any kind of combination then translates the word. So when you have, I hope, that code, which is a frequency, because words are frequencies right, yeah, that gets sent out to the universe and the universe said oh, hope, okay, I'll give you more hope, right, yeah? So what I say when I manifest? I say I fancy. I fancy because when you fancy something, your heart is involved in it. Yeah, Right.

Speaker 2: 9:49

Yeah, and that's most important, that you feel it in your heart. Yeah, the universe does not deliver anything to what you want. It delivers to who you are. Yeah, so if there is a frequency of doubt attached to your manifestation, well, you might as well forget about it. You've got to be absolutely clear. You've got to feel it in your heart, yeah, and you have to make it your reality. Yes, so this is in line with the law of assumption. Now you've got to be very clear and on what you would like to manifest and also, uh, for me it's also.

Speaker 2: 11:46

I give a reason because I fancy, because all right, and then I close my eyes and I feel it in my heart. But the minute you say I fancy, you feel it in your heart anyway, because otherwise you wouldn't fancy it just kind of making sure it gets cemented in, so to speak. That then becomes my reality, and then I can let go because it's my reality already. So it is not where I constantly say well, is it then? Where is it then? Where is it then? No, no, so it's like placing an order. No, no. So it's like placing an order, and because it becomes a new reality, your body will automatically follow. So the universe will give you opportunities, will guide you to certain people. Certain people might turn up in your life. Certain opportunities will turn up in your life. Certain opportunities will turn up in your life, but it is also then reading the signs with it, you know.

Speaker 1: 13:08

And taking action when that happens. Yes, yes, it's no good if they turn up and you ignore them, and well, I'm not doing that, then you know you're making it more difficult for yourself.

Speaker 2: 13:21

And this is where, then, also, your intuition comes in, and I'm very good with my intuition. I had training on that over the last few years and you just know when something is for you and when something isn't for you. Yeah, and this goes back to being authentic. If something is not authentic, if something is misaligned with you, then it's not for you.

Speaker 1: 13:53

You can and you feel that, don't you yeah?

Speaker 2: 13:55

yeah, yeah. Now most people want to manifest money. Right, and they say where is it then? What is it then? What is it then? And I say well, if you don't feel worthy without your achievements internally, it will take a very long time, or it can take a very long time to manifest money.

Speaker 1: 14:20

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 14:21

If you feel worthy without achievements and you say this money is not so, I feel worthy, the money is for enhancing my worthiness. Yeah, it's completely different. It's a completely different mindset.

Speaker 1: 14:51

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 14:53

You know, because, also, when you think about it, particularly in our profession, we help other people. Our profession, we help other people. So that means that we are manifesting certain situations because we want to help people. It's not about us, it's about the people yeah to accelerate the process, because we all know that transformation can take quite a while because of old beliefs need to be shed, they need to be explored, they need to be understood and then you can deal with it, but it takes other people to help you with that.

Speaker 1: 15:44

Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2: 15:47

Interesting. So this is how I manifest, so I make it my reality and I do not doubt.

Speaker 1: 15:56

Yes.

Speaker 2: 15:57

But then at the same time, you let go.

Speaker 1: 15:59

Yeah. Well, there are three things there that I think is not quite in the same way, but I think is reflected in a lot of practices. So one is you know, like the gratitude practice, where you have to, you know you connect your heart and your gratitude. So people say, if you can be grateful about something, so what they're talking about is what you're talking about, feeling it in your heart, basically yeah, yeah. And then also a lot of people talk about affirmations. You say I am, so you've already got it. Yep, something else you touched on. And then the third one is one that I found the most powerful for me and that's letting go, just letting it go. So the most successful manifestations, or ones that I've realized when they've come into my life. I asked for that specifically and it's arrived. Both of them took 18 months and they arrived Both of them. I thought I really want that and then forgot about it, completely forgot about it, and then it was for one of them. I'll talk about one of them. So one of them was I was. I don't know where we'd been.

Speaker 1: 17:20

I was out with my mother it was a number of years ago now and we were in London and we were sitting on a train coming home and I was reading about a new healing modality fetal healing and I remember saying to my mum, oh, I'd love to do that. And then that was it, and I got home and I Googled it and all the courses were in India. And then that was it, and I got home and I Googled it and all the courses were in India and you know, I had three kids and that just wasn't going to happen and I just let it go. I forgot all about it and then, by a really weird sort of sequence of events, meeting a friend of a friend who then introduced me to somebody in London who trained in Vita healing. 18 months later, I realized that I was then trained in two levels basic and advanced Vita healing and I thought I actually manifested that. Yeah, I didn't go looking for it.

Speaker 1: 18:21

Yes, I didn't hold on to it. I didn't get really sort of oh I've got to, I've got to yeah yeah, I just thought it's not going to happen, let it go, forgot all about it. And then this really weird random sequence of events happened, to the point that you think I would never have even thought that up to try and achieve that. And and it happened. And another, another occasion I did exactly the same. I was lying in bed, I had a thought, forgot all about it. 18 months later it came true yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1: 18:55

I only had very hard to let it go. If it's something you want, just forget about it. You know it's like saying to somebody don't think about an elephant, and you think about it.

Speaker 2: 19:06

Yeah, but I think that's the hardest bit but, but it's the emotional attachment to it and you have to learn, and you learn this when you practice emotional intelligence, um, you, you learn to detach from it emotionally. Yeah, so I had a manifestation the other day actually, something bizarre happened. I thought of an ex-student right. I thought, you know, I wonder what he's up to these days. And I thought of him and then let go of it, right, three days later, no word of a lie, I was walking up the road to go to a little shop and who came towards me? That student right, and we walked past one another actually, and he turned around and said I know you, I know you, you are the teacher, aren't? You Was so, yeah, it was so, yeah, but I manifested the other technique I use and I wasn't aware of it until I learned about, uh, manifestation of the law of attraction. I actually manifested my house. I had, and it was when I moved to the UK.

Speaker 2: 20:44

My partner and I we lived in a masonette and from the kitchen window you could watch. You could see an estate to your left. You couldn't see the estate fully, but you could see some houses and I would look across and I thought, oh, those houses are really nice, but not at any point did I think I would like one of those. I was just pleased to see those nice houses and being happy for other people and I think this is probably my biggest secret I have. It's not a secret anymore. Uh, I am genuinely happy for other people. When they have something, achieve something, I am happy for them. Anyway, two years later, I bought a house on that estate. Yeah, and I had no idea that that was going to happen because, also, I was not attached to it. I was not emotionally attached to it, but at that point I was emotionally charged about the happiness I felt for other people.

Speaker 1: 22:04

Yes, yeah, and it's such a light thought, isn't it? Yes, yes, it is. That's the only way I can explain it. It's a really light thought and then it's gone.

Speaker 2: 22:18

Yeah that's right, that's gone. Yeah, that's right, that's right. The other thing was I fancied two £50 notes. Now, it's very difficult to get £50 notes in the UK. Anyway, I went to a cash machine and I drew out some money and you won't believe what I got £250 notes, yes, out of a cash machine. Yeah, I mean, that was insane. Yeah, and that happened within a few days. And again, I forgot about it. I just said I fancy right. I just said I fancy right, and sometimes, at the end of my manifestation, I give a big sigh, you know, or I use a laughter like you know, something like this, and it's almost like my way of saying thank you, it's done done, done, forget about it, it's gone, done, and then you do forget about it, you know yeah, that's it, but it

Speaker 1: 23:32

is the the emotional detachment yeah, you've got to let it go. You can't hold on to it. You can't be thinking about it over and, over and over again. You just have to let it go excellent.

Speaker 2: 23:46

can I mention something else which is very close and dear to my heart? Some people want to manifest a specific person. I personally, I am against it, but that's me personally. Why? Because that, to me, is a manipulation of their own soul journey. If they are meant to be back into your life, they will be back.

Speaker 1: 24:23

Right, so you're talking about manifesting someone back, yeah.

Speaker 2: 24:27

Either manifesting someone back or when you use specific names. If you want to manifest a person who is authentic to you, then write it down, but I do not recommend using specific names.

Speaker 1: 24:55

I have to say I agree with you. I've never been the person who writes down all the characteristics of somebody that you want, Because I think actually maybe I'm not the one who knows exactly what I want, Maybe I'm just following a type and maybe that's not what I need in my next partner. So I always feel that am I restricting my choice of know?

Speaker 2: 25:21

maybe I need to just let everything that's gone before, all my wants and needs and and just manifest somebody for my highest will and good, who's who's perfect for me at this point in my journey yeah, I always, when it comes to relationships, I say, um, someone where you can be equaled, where you are in a partnership, um, who who you can connect with authentically, uh, and not just on one value. Uh, a few more, because one value is not enough. No, I mean, when you have your values, they don't have to match all of them, because then you might as well stay by yourself, you know, because you do need a little bit of the opposite as well.

Speaker 1: 26:15

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 26:16

Within a relationship right, yeah. So I wouldn't want the exact match to me, right? But certain values, yes.

Speaker 1: 26:28

For example, if someone hasn't got any humor, well, I'm sorry, that's not for me yeah yeah, because then it becomes hard work yeah, so you could say main points, but not how tall color of eyes, color of hair, you know. Yeah, because you know I've seen that writer list be really, really specific and I think, well, actually you're restricting yourself there.

Speaker 2: 26:52

I agree with that. I agree with that. So I'm. If people ask me about manifesting that specific person, I say no, I can't help you with that Because I will not. I don't agree with it. And if I don't agree with it, then I can't do it.

Speaker 1: 27:13

No, no. I think what the listeners will have to do is just try for themselves. There are so many techniques out there, aren't there? There are so many things and you know. You just have to try and what feels right for you and what brings what you want.

Speaker 2: 27:31

basically, when I did the Law of Attraction Practitioner certification course, I remember it was all about beliefs and there are certain techniques. Of course, you can also use the act as if. So if you want to manifest a specific car, let's say you've got to feel it in your heart and it's got to be your reality. You know, you might want to go to a garage and and take a test drive in one of your cars you fancy you know, um, but it doesn't mean that you go out and spend the money just to say, well, I can now have this car.

Speaker 2: 28:21

No, it will. It will come in different ways.

Speaker 1: 28:24

Yes, yeah yeah excellent.

Speaker 2: 28:27

So what?

Speaker 1: 28:28

what really works as well is um a vision board yes, vision board spray or um, like a manifesting space or altar that people talk about where you know maybe you're wanting a partner, so you put lots of depictions of couples together and love hearts and then you leave it and you see it and you know it maybe crosses your mind briefly, but you ignore it after a while, don't you?

Speaker 2: 28:59

Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1: 29:00

But that can work as well.

Speaker 2: 29:03

Visualization is a very powerful tool, but, again, you have to let go of the emotions. You can visualize it time and time again, so it does become your reality, because imagination is far more powerful than knowledge, yes, and, but you've got to let go, uh, energetically, emotionally yeah so you can visualize it, enjoy the moment and then boom, let it go leave it.

Speaker 1: 29:38

Yeah, it's that letting go that I think people struggle with, but it is the letting go.

Speaker 2: 29:42

Yes, yes, you see for me when, when people say let go, that the way I explain letting go is accept yeah, that it's going to come to you and and that's that's done.

Speaker 1: 29:55

That's finished, exactly, except that it's done yeah, except that it's done.

Speaker 2: 30:02

It's like placing an order, an online order you place it and you know it's going to to come to you yeah, you know, you sometimes forget yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I only recently ordered something and I completely forgot about it and I thought, oh, it's here already. Wow.

Speaker 1: 30:29

Well, let us hope that that is what we're thinking for what we want to manifest in 2025. So hopefully, that'll be a few tips for people looking to manifest what they want for the new year. Um, so all we are left to do, connie, is to wish everybody a happy new year and, um, let's hope no, let's not hope. We know it's going to be, um, an amazing year with a bit more for me, sociable sociability is that a word? And fun? But I'll be very serious about that one.

Speaker 2: 31:07

Yes, right, well, thank you, thank you so much thank you thank you and happy, yeah, happy new year to Happy New Year to everyone, absolutely. And may it be a wealthy, healthy, prosperous and glorious and victorious 2025.

Speaker 1: 31:30

Absolutely, and if you've enjoyed listening to me and Connie, please like and share, and I look forward to talking to you all soon.